The Lesbian

Girls

“I’m in lesbians with you” – Scott Pilgrim, Scott Pilgrim Vs. The World

When you have many experiences with women, you will get some interesting situations and have some interesting conversations. You’ll also get shit tested in some interesting and unique ways and this story is about one of the most interesting shit tests I have ever received.

I was at an alumni event at my old college when I had met this 23 year old Latina. She’s a very cute, petite girl with a great figure and sexy eyes. I had given her my business card when we met since the setting was more professional at the event. She texted me later that night saying it was great to meet me. A week later I hit her up about hanging out, to which she responded with:

“Wait, are you asking me out? I’m pretty dense about that kinda of stuff”

My response was “I didn’t realize “hangout” was such a loaded term.”

I can already get a sense that this girl might be the the type to shit test a lot, so I decided to play it very casual and ambiguous to see where this would go. After a few other texts, we setup a time to meet up for hang out a few days later. Now since this was a first encounter and based on the texting there seemed like a lot of shit testing was going to be involved, I decided it would be best to meet on the early side, around 7 pm so that way I could go over for a Netflix and chill session after with other girl I’ve hooked up with before that lives in the area around 9:30.

I told the Latina to met up at a lounge I like and I get there about 2 minutes before her. We get seated at a table in a good spot in the lounge, which lets us see out onto the street and makes for great people watching. We exchange a little small talk about how her week went and then about 3 minutes into the conversation I get hit with a shit test that’s way out of left field. She perks up, looks me directly in the eye and says:

“Just so know, I’m a lesbian.”

Straight out of left field. No warning, just right into it. I knew this was a pivotal shit test moment, where right off the bat I was being thrown towards the fire to see if I would flinch. In my head I laughed a bit because based on all the back and forth that led to this meeting, I wasn’t buying it at all. I also had not been hit with this exact shit test out of the blue before either, which was part entertaining and part exciting as it represented a new challenge. Without skipping a beat I casually replied:

“That’s awesome.”

She looked a bit surprised at my response. I delivered my response while maintaining my relaxed yet commanding posture, and the tone of my voice was casual. Then I followed up with “I love me some lesbians.”

She paused for a minute, as her hamster tried to process my responses. She then went on a little bit about her family and how she’s never had a boyfriend. The conversation continued with her doing 90% of the conversation, and I could tell based on how I handled the shit test, she was now trying to qualify herself to me. We where talking for another 10 or so minutes when she asked me a question:

“What are you doing after this?”

I believe honesty is the best armor you can have, it keeps you free and also can be a great way to show off an IDGAF attitude when used strategically. Since I had been hit with big shit test out of left field, I decided to throw out one of my own, to see how she reacted to it:

“I’m going to see another girl.”

She had this completely shocked look on her face and instantly asked “What do you mean?”

I replied, “It’ll probably be a Netflix and chill situation. We have a thing that when I see her I’m with her, but when I don’t, I’m not.” I could see the hamster going into over drive in her head as she was contemplating this news I had relayed. I just sat comfortably while holding eye contact and smirking. My posture was saying “This is the deal, are you with it or not?” She then asked me a few questions about my past relationships, to which I replied that I like to keep things very open so I can experience as many people as possible. She continued on about her thoughts on relationships as we finished our drinks.

About 20 minutes later we wrapped up at the lounge and I took for for a stroll around the down town area. Part of the stroll included a stop at an adult shop. While we were in there she asked me if I had a “Christian Grey Room,” to which I replied “Every room I enter is a Christian Grey room.” I could see a little twinkle in her eye as her hamster began spinning on the implications of what I had said.

After the sex shop I took her to the outside patio of a cigar lounge and we sat there for a bit, discussing random things. We began making out for a bit and then I checked the time. It was 9:15 so it was time to go see my Netflix and chill girl. We said our good buys and and she said that we should hang again, which I causally agreed would be cool. That was the start of a very fun situation, in which a week later I’d discover she was a squirter in the back of my car, as well as how to utilize Frame to keep things as casual hook ups for the past 7 months now.

Takeaways:

1. Women will shit test you all the time and in ways you’ll never expect. Always be on your top game and always be ready. You never know exactly how these test will come, but they are coming. Usually the more insecure the girl, the more shit tests you will face. Know who you’re dealing with so you have can anticipate what you’ll have to deal with.

2. Hold Frame. I’ve said it many times before, but Frame is absolutely critical. Without it, I would have been crucified by her shit test. But with it, I was able to work the situation to my advantage.

3. Honesty will set you free. Using strategic honesty, you can be free to be yourself while seeing if she’s down to enter your world and come along for the ride, or if she will fight you tooth and nail every step of the way. By flat out telling this Latina that I was seeing another girl after her, I was free to let her know that I have options and if she is on board with entering my world she’s welcome, if not, she can go her own way and I’ll be fine. It also gives me the freedom to see multiple people without having to feel like I’m sneaking around behind everyone’s back because I’m out in the open with what the situation is. Obviously you don’t need to blab the full truth of your family life or other things, but being honest about what you want and who you are at the right times will work in your favor far more than trying to hide it.

4. Use your own shit tests. For guys we typically call this screening, but don’t be afraid to use some shit tests of your own. This does 2 things. 1) It flips the script and makes YOU the prize, not the guy chasing after her affections. 2) This is a way to qualify how well into your Frame she’ll come into and well as give you better insight into who she is as person. Is she a chill, go with the flow type? Or she the time that has a snarky negative comment about everything? Just as girls use shit tests to expose if a guy is Alpha or not, you need to use shit tests to see if any girl you are with is the type of girl you want to be with.

5. Work the hamster. A girl’s imagination is the most powerful thing you can play with and utilize. Work it often and work it well. Let her imagination take her to a conclusion you lead her to. To many times guys are just matter-o-factly about things which leaves no room for imagination. Do you want to drive a girl wild with passion and desire? Do you want her to get wet at the thought of a spontaneous encounter of intimacy between you two? Then learn how to use innuendo, flirting, and ambiguity to get her imagination working. If you don’t, you’ll find the girls you go with will be dryer than the Sahara desert during a drought. In this example, I used these things to keep her hamster constantly going so that by the time our 2nd encounter happened, we where going at it in the back of my car in an alleyway close to her house.

If I’ve given you some good takeaways you can use while entertaining you, then my goal is complete. Go out there and conquer the world friends.

Gentleman

You’re Not Spending The Night

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“Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success.” – Napoleon Hill

For this post I wanted to share a quick story from an experience I had and some of the Red Pill takeaways. At the very least, it’s an entertaining tale that resulted in an awkward conversation with my dry cleaners the next day.

I was out in Downtown with a couple of friends for a buddies “going away” hangout session at this cool little bar/store. I put “going away” in quotes because our friend was from the east coast, but was going away for 2 months back home because he was between work contracts here on the west coast. As I get into the place, I notice two girls at the other end of the bar. One is a brunette, about 5’6″ at a glance, and her friend is a solid 6 feet. The brunette was cute, she looked white but with a hint of something mixed in. She had a petite figure and she projected a chill vibe. The blonde was thin and athletic looking. She had a very pretty face and long curly hair and very bright blue eyes. I could pick up on her energy from across the bar and it intrigued me. I think to myself “there could be some potential here, especially with the tall one.” I do love tall girls, and as a tall guy myself (I’m well over 6 feet) it’s not as common to come across them so I seize the moment when possible.

Me and my friends had been hanging for about 20 minutes, when I decide it’s time see what the deal with these others girls is. I walk over to the both of them and ask them what type of liquor is easiest to get into trouble with. The brunette says beer and the blonde’s eyes light up as she says “Tequila of course.” I give the blonde a high-five and enthusiastically state “correct answer,” and then proceed to introduce myself. I then introduce the girls to my 3 other guy friends and then proceed to engage both of them in a conversation about different types of alcohol. About 2 minutes in I notice the blonde girl has a few tattoos, one is a feather on her left arm and the other is a Hindi-inspired pattern on her chest. I ask her about the tattoo on her arm and she tells me the story of how she likes that feathers are the tool that makes flight possible and that they have a look that resonates with her. She also tells me that she’s into photography and painting, so which I say that I will have to see some of her work. I ask her what part of town she’s from and it turns out she is roommates with the brunette and lives 1 block away from the bar we’re at.

About 10 minutes later I’ve gotten my group and the two girls to close out their tabs and I tell the blonde that I really need to see her artwork. She agrees that we all can come over for and hang for a bit. As we walk over to her place I take the opportunity to grab her hand. She gives me the “I know what you’re doing look” and proceed to lead us to her house. My friends and her roommate fall behind, so when we get in front of her door with a few free minutes, I pull her in for a deep, passionate kiss. She then gives me the “the look,” that look that says “I really like you but now I need to justify hooking up with you to myself” to she says to me “You can hang, but you’re not spending the night.” I channel my inner Han solo and with a smirk reply “I know.” Suddenly my friends and her roommate get to the front door and we all go up to the girl’s loft.

Inside we all get cozy in the loft, they have a large lounge sofa aka daybed and a few stool chairs in their main room. The girls proceed to get us some wine and my friends keep talking with the brunette and I continue to converse with the tall blonde. At some point she mentions that she’s a yoga teacher and capoeira instructor, and that sometimes she does performances. I forget how, but somehow that led to her getting a small vile of glittery gold body paint and opening it to bad a bit on my wrist. She accidentally spills a bit on my arm and suit jacket, to which I just chuckle that “My dry cleaners are going to want some serious explaining for this one.”

Over the next 20 minutes my friends take off one by as it’s now 2:15 in the morning. So now it’s just me and the two the girls. The brunette makes her way to her room and says she’s getting ready for bed. Once she’s gone me and the blonde start making out passionately. After a minute, she pulls back to look me in the eyes. She says “I’m serious, you can’t spend the night.” I keep eye contact with her and with a playful smirk I reply “Works for me.” I then lead her over to the daybed and proceed to get intimately familiar with the tattoo in the middle of her chest. It was a fun and passionate time we had, she was enthusiastically energetic and very, very flexible. She was one of the naturally wettest girls I have ever encountered and her vagina tasted exquisite, I am not sure what her diet was, but whatever she did eat, bless her for it, because her flavor was delicious.

Sadly I had to cut the activities short at 2:50am because the garage with my car closed at 3am and I had no idea when it reopened or where they would tow my car. As I was getting dressed and departing, I caught her slipping her business card into my jacket packet so I would have her number, to which I said to her “This needs to happen again. Let me get your number and I’ll call you.” I wound up seeing her a few times after that for some fun and adventurous nights (and yes I did actually call her…strange concept today but it can help you standout) and she still holds my current record for fastest from into-to-hooking-up at 1 hour.

Takeaways:

1. Approach. If a girl(s) catch your eye, always go up and approach. The approach is a victory in of itself and you never know what might result from it. If you don’t approach, nothing will happen, so be a man of action and make something happen.

2. Logistics. Logistics are your best friend or can be your biggest cock block. Fortune smiled upon me that night as she literally was 1 block away, but then they became my enemy as I had to cut the first night short due to my car potentially being locked in and towed from the garage. Always be mindful of the logistics.

3. The Rule of 2. Girls out in pairs tend to be more open to meeting, flirting and tend to be more DTF. Always look for pairs.

4. Stay Persistent and Hold Frame. We only made it to her house because I suggested we look at her art. She also shit tested me multiple times with the same line of “you’re not spending the night.” But by holding Frame and not getting side tracked by this, I was able to close the deal. And no, I didn’t spend the night either so it all worked out.

Use the takeaways from this story as a reminder for yourself or as a new idea for your own Game arsenal. Go out and live it up.

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The Man In Black

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“You know why you exist, Teddy? The world out there – the one you’ll never see – was one of plenty. A fat soft teat people cling to their entire life. Every need taken care of except one. Purpose. Meaning. So they come here. They can be a little scared, a little thrilled, enjoy some sweetly affirmative bullshit and then they take a fucking picture and they go back home. But I think there’s a deeper meaning hiding under all that. Something the person who created it wanted to express. Something true.” – The Man In Black, Westworld

I just recently finished a re-watching of the HBO series West World. I don’t watch any TV, except for a series every now and again, but this series is a very thought provoking one. You can check it out or read all abut it, as this post isn’t about the series. This post is actually about the character that I find the most fascinating on the show (hence the post title) and the Red Pill context of the character’s actions and persona. I will say this, if you haven’t seen the show, then you may want to come back to this post later because there are going to be a host of major spoilers, so don’t say I didn’t warn you.

As a quick character summary, we’re introduced to the Man in Black as a mysterious, cold-hearted man with a clear agenda of his own and taste of extreme actions. He is later revealed to have started out as a much more timid and apprehensive person, as we are shown that the mild-mannered William, is in fact, a young version of the Man In Black. What we have here is a great – and rare, I might add – example of a self-forged Alpha with a Blue Pill mindset (despite that fact that the show merges it’s strongest character with it’s weakest).

As we see William when he first enters the park, he seems a little unfit for the wild nature and indulgences that can be found in there. But, in true Blue Pill fashion, once William encounters the Host (artificial human) Delores, he very quickly develops a Oneitis level obsession with her, despite the fact that he knows she’s a robot. He later would spend years searching for her until one day, he made his way back to the first area of the park and he sees her again. To his dismay and heartbreak, he discovers that she has been reset, so she does not remember him or any of the “love” that they shared in their trials and travels earlier.

This troubling realization leads William on a quest of self discovery throughout the park, which forges him into the Man in Black. In the begging of his quest to find his love, he had discovered he had a liking and nack for violence as well as manipulation, which where things he used outside in the real world to become a titan of industry. In his later years, he would test the limits of his morals, by killing a robot mother and child in cold blood to see what he would feel. Once he catches wind of a mythical maze within the park, it becomes his new obsession as he seeks to find a way to enter it and find a deeper meaning within the game of the park.

What’s intriguing about this character is that when we are first introduced to who he was as young William, he is very Blue Pill Beta man that is your run of the mill AFC. He is engaged to be married and he plays second fiddle to his hedonistic brother-in-law to be Logan, both on a personal and professional level. When he encounters Delores, he is drawn to her as something about her seems different and unique. Now, for the sake of the show, she actually is the first robot to develop consciousness, but in the context of the Red Pill, he has a very idealistic view about his “one special girl.” Everything he does is never of his own mental point of origin, it’s either spurned by Logan or Delores, he never acts of his own accord. When he finally goes of on his quest to find this one girl he’s pedestalized, he does so to satisfy his Blue Pill investment he’s made into the relationship. And much like many Blue Men before him, he discovers the painfully hard way that that all his Blue Pill investment, the hardships endured, the years searching and looking, all count for nothing. Now yes, Delores is a robot and her memory was reset, but the metaphor is one that many Blue Pill men are all too familiar with. How many times has a man spent years enduring relationship stress, trying to find someway to win back the affections of his partner, only discover all those effort carried no actual value to her attraction to him?

For the sake of the show, it’s a good twist but all it really accomplishes is it merges the shows least interesting character with it’s most, so in effect it knocks a great character down a few pegs (cough cough…Darth Vader and Anakin Skywalker cough cough). But in the context of the Red Pill, it’s a very good example of a Blue Pill man who’s traumatic personal experience has pushed him from a Beta Bucks into a hardened Alpha…but an Alpha with a blue Pill mindset. We’ll see where this character goes in the next season, but hopefully the Man in Black will develop some actualized Red Pill awareness as a character.

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Blame The Victim

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“Sympathy is only meted out if you follow all of
society’s rules for how a victim is supposed to behave.” ― Nenia Campbell

For this post, I was inspired by Rollo Tomassi’s excellent post Divorce Incorporated. While he highlights the finical and social dynamics that have lead to a broken and heavily biased divorce system, a common theme he points out is about how the core reason for this situation is the fem-centric view that men are by default at fault:

“Anything even remotely, positively masculine or Alpha is still a ‘man being a man’ and this can always be reinterpreted as potentially aggressive or violent. In a feminine-primary social order where feminized men and women are taught that men are inherently evil and prone to anger and violence (the “culture” of masculinity) there’s an army of women and White Knight sympathizing men who want nothing more than to stick it to the ‘man’ symbolically. And when they draw a paycheck from doing so they’re all the more eager. Add to this that they feel a sense of moral justification in “making the world a better place” by burning him in an effigy of all men and you get to where we are now. We presently live in a social order that presumes any masculinity is “toxic” or “hyper” masculinity. So disassociated from anything positive has society become with regard to conventional masculinity that just the term is now masculinity is a negative connotation.” – Rollo Tomassi, Divorce Incorporated

What really stands out to me in an ironic twist of viewing things through a Red Pill lens, men are in effect the victims of a system that is stacked against them and design for them to lose and lose big time emotionally and financially; yet they are the ones to bare all the blame. This irony comes from the “Blaming the Victim” movement that was designed around helping bring light to (female) victims of rape and domestic abuse, which at it’s core, it’s a justifiable cause. However, this mantra is all but too conveniently abandoned when the shoe is on the other foot, and men have been victimized in a sense by women, or at the very least, the fem-centric world view our society has.

This is what I believe led to the rapid rise and expansion of the Red Pill. Men had been losing in a system that was designed to defeat them and since they could not find any relief, empathy or understanding from society, they turned to each other and forged their own sub-culture in direct response to it. Part of any victim relief program is the concept of “taking the power back,” and the Red Pill is a reclaiming power grab to help men take control of their lives.

As a man it’s critical to understand the fine line of the catch 22 you will be forced to face by virtue of being male: You are expected to “due you duty” to society and women, but if (and more like when) you fall short, all of the blame rests entirely with you. While this is a harsh truth that isn’t fair or right, it is a reality that men face each and every day. Arm yourself with knowledge, guide yourself with wisdom, and see the full picture so you can stand on your own 2 feet. As a society we’ve swung the pendulum from one extreme (women have no rights) to the other (women are infallible), but with movements like the Red Pill I am optimistic that the pendulum will settle back to a more centered position.

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Hustling The Hustler

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“The thief steals from himself. The swindler swindles himself. For the real price is knowledge and virtue, whereof wealth and credit are signs. These signs, like paper money, may be counterfeited or stolen, but that which they represent, namely, knowledge and virtue, cannot be counterfeited or stolen.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Sometimes you go out and you have fun. Other times you go out and have an experience that makes for an exceptional night. This story is one of those times. A good friend of mine and I were out at our favorite hot spot in LA. We’ve been going to this place for almost a year now because they have great food, amazing drinks, the perfect atmosphere and the staff is incredible.

We get in, grab some dinner and drinks and are having a merry time. We wanted to have a fun night to cap an already fun weekend, so our energy was high and contagious. Mixed and mingled with several groups of people, bought a few cool girls that where hanging with us drinks (we didn’t expect anything in return and they turned out to be very fun) and even wound up doing shots with the manager and one of our favorite bar tenders.

Toward 1am we go to the bar to close out our tab so we could go to another spot close by with some of the waitresses and girls we had met that night. At the end of the bar was this group of women in their 40’s that were dancing and looked like they where having a good time. As we got the bar tender to get our tab, one of the women came next to me and asked about how to get the bartender’s attention. I replied that I could get it, but that usually involved him just bringing trouble. I asked her what she planned to order as her other friend come over and she told me that she was probably going with some champagne or wine. I told her that I would suggest getting the bar’s specialty cocktail.

Her friend: “So, you buying a round of drink for us?”

Now this tipped my spidey-sense that these ladies, though older, were still trying to run girl game into getting free drinks. I had done a quick scan of their left hands and indeed, they each has large wedding rings on them. I’ll buy a drink under the right conditions, but having a married woman blatantly try to get them from me is not one of them.

Me: “I don’t know you guys that well, so I don’t think so.” I said it in a playful but firm tone. This was a test of Are you Beta? Will you let us exploit you?

The bar tender came over to take their order and the girl I was conversing with ordered 1 glass of champagne and two glasses of wine. When the bar tender asked if they needed anything else, I told them they should try the house cocktail as I closed out my tab. The girl then told the bar tender that she’d try the house cocktail. The bartender come back with 2 of them.

Woman: “We’re going to need a 3rd since there are 3 of us.” The bartender made a third one and brought it over. He then brought out a printed tab, since it had been last call.

Bartender: “Thank you ladies, that will be $50.”

The woman put on a stunned face.

Woman: “These guys should be paying for these.”

Bartender: “I heard you order these.”

She then shot me and my friend a look. At this point we had a choice: Be coerced into paying for drink we did not order, or let her deal with a situation that she created. We looked back at her firmly and unflinchingly to signal that we would not be taken advantage of. In disbelief she turned back to the bartender.

Woman: “Do you know these guys?”

Bartender: “I do. They are stand up guys. If you want I can get security and we can sort this out.”

Woman: “Get the manager.”

At this point my friend an I remained calm at the bar, standing against it relaxed and silent, waiting to see how it all was going to unfold.

Manager: “What’s the problem?”

Woman: “These guys ordered drinks for me and they are trying to get out of paying for them.”

Manager: “Well I know these guys, and they are stand up guys, so we’re going to need you to resolve this.”

She looked stunned and shocked, and seemed offended that no one was immediately taking her side.

Woman: “Well I’m not paying for these.”

Manager: “Ok, they we’ll buy them.” He then reached over and took all of the drinks back behind the bar. This infuriated the woman as she turned to my friend and me.

Woman: “You two are the most classless scoundrels I have ever encountered out of any country I have been to.”

Me: “Excellent, I was going for the record.”

My friend waved a bouncer over.

My friend: “Can you please take this away?”

The bouncer came up next to the woman.

Bouncer: “Time to go.”

He then escorted her outside and her friends joined her there.

The 3 Takeaways:

1) Hold Frame

By holding Frame and not relinquishing it, we did not allow this woman to coerce us into paying for her drinks. There have been times in the past when my friend and I would have allowed ourselves to be guilted into paying for drinks like chumps. But by holding Frame we established that we are not some random suckers that will be taken advantage of and we will not part with our hard earn money to pay for someone looking for a free ride.

2) Building venue equity is just as important

From the bartender to the manager to the doorman the message was the same: These are stand up guys (men we respect and value at our establishment) and we know who they are. This claim that she was presenting was out of character for us and as such, the entire venue had our backs. This is a powerful thing, but it’s something you have to earn. We’d been investing and building venue equity in that place for months now and it was awesome to see that good credit in full action.

3) Always approach the night with a fun attitude

I’m sorry (that I’m not sorry) that we ruined this woman’s night, but she certainly wasn’t ruining ours. We went out with the attitude that we’re going to have fun no matter what, and despite this incident, we had a great time and got an entertaining story out of it.

Now go out and have some fun you fellow scoundrels.

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Sibling Rivalry

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“We must love one another, yes, yes, that’s all true enough, but nothing says we have to like each other. It may be the very recognition of all men as our brothers that accounts for the sibling rivalry, and even enmity, we have toward so many of them.” – Peter De Vries

For this post I wanted to explore a topic that I have not seen much on and that I’ve been dwelling on for a while. I wanted to touch on the Red Pill mindset and how that affects family relationships, specifically between siblings. For those of you that are only children, this topic may not necessarily echo any sentiment from personal experience, but it can potentially give some insights into your close friendships or give you some perspective into your friends that do have siblings. Being Red Pill is something that has a ripple effect in your life, and within the family dynamic it’s seen on a magnified scale.

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As young boys, siblings provide your first experience and foray into manhood. It’s a training ground for the battle you’ll face later on in life, as well as a learning experience to teach about strong bonds, loyalty and social interaction. In the ideal scenario this would be fostered and guided along by the parents, though this is not always the case. Having come from a very Blue Pill background most of my experiences I would consider fairly normal and typical. My siblings and I would scuffle, go on adventures and shared many interests together growing up. Our dad was well meaning but very Blue Pill, which would come to haunt him and us as we got older, but that’s an entirely different topic. For now I’m focusing on the relationship between brothers.

One by product of the Blue Pill mindset is that it gives you the idea that you always need to make others happy, even at your own expense, and this comes into play very largely with siblings. There have been times where I have suppressed frustration, canceled dates, and even given entire paychecks to my siblings, out of a sense of family duty. Now I’m not saying that you shouldn’t help out your family when they need it, but under the Blue Pill guise I was missing a critical piece: Family is a two-way street, and sacrifice and loyalty has to be earned, not just taken for granted. This lesson is a hard one to see, especially in a “family first” environment, with a few Red Pill tweaks that lesson would have been realized much sooner.

Once I became Red Pill aware, not only did my perspective on the world change with women, it changed with my family relationships as well. One of the more shocking correlations I discovered from the Red Pill was that I was in fact in a BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) type of relationship with one of my brothers and that I needed to keep my personal Frame in check in order to get out of it. I also discovered that by focusing more on developing myself, the less stress of others I carried with me, especially in my family life. As we’ve gotten older my siblings and I have gotten more distant, which is unfortunate. Part of it is due to life transitions and being busier with our own lives. Other parts of it are due to seeing the Red Pill but not being able to express the ideas without a Blue Pill centered rejection response. The Red Pill is liberating and frustrating at the same time. If you think being Red Pill aware can be isolating and frustrating with your friends, imagine how it is with siblings that you’ve grown up with. This creates an unspoken tension between brothers, as the clash of Blue Pill and Red Pill plays out on a much more intimate scale. Things are never the same, and in many regards there’s that feeling of loss of innocence. The Red Pill is already a very tough pill to swallow, and having family involved can make it even tougher as now blood brothers suddenly become more like spies and saboteurs.

For any fathers that read this, I relay this experience as someone who’s seen it from the ground up. Fostering a healthy Red Pill awareness in young siblings is critical, not only for their development as men, but for how they will relate to each other as they grow older. The search for brotherhood is something ingrained in men, we seek it as we grow and ideally if we have biological brothers we could get it there. But one way or another, we seek it, even if that means going outside the blood family that we have.

Also, it’s pivotal that you keep your Frame in check, because you are the male example in which your sons will mold themselves upon. Any strength you have they will imitate, any habits you have they will pick up on and absorb. If your presence is not fully there, it will show and manifest later on in life. You are shaping young lives, so always look at the example that you set.

For any mothers that may read this, it’s important to take a step back and let your boys be boys. Too often boys are viewed as “the problem gender” and masculinity is viewed as a defect that needs correcting. You will not fully understand the masculine experience, which is is fine, because we as men will never fully understand the feminine experience, but suffice to say trying to raise sons in the same manner as daughters handicaps them when they enter the world. Also, there’s nothing wrong with embracing your femininity. For boys growing up, your example becomes the template they have for when they go out into the world. So if as a mother you’re in a position where you’re constantly shooting the father down or pushing him around, then your sons will come to expect that for themselves in their interactions with women.

Between Brothers And Sisters

Red Pill awareness is critical for brothers and is absolutely essential for brothers with sisters. The reason for this is that sister provide a baseline impression for how boys will interact with women as they get older and go out into the world. Girls from a young age learn and adapt their skill sets for life at a rapid pace, which means that growing up, boys will be subjected to every weapon that girls have at their disposal. That means shit testing and emotional manipulation will occur. This is how boys are impressionable and it’s paramount to ask what kind of impression will be made? Will they be playing second fiddle and grow up being pushed around by the females in his life? Or will there be a healthy balance of respect and independence fostered that will allow young men to stand on their feet?

I’m grateful for the fact that I’ve had brothers and sisters so I can see how these dynamics are influenced and fostered growing up. As a brother, Red Pill awareness has helped me keep my Frame in check with my sisters while helping to make my interactions with them better. It’s a wild realization when you realize that even your own sister, and yes, your mother are just as hyergamous and will shit test you like all other women will. But being able to go in eyes open and know how to handle that makes every interaction better. Being Red Pill aware has helped make me a better brother to give a male example for my sisters, as well as help with providing better (if not very subtle) insight into their own relationships they have.

Fathers, if you have daughters, then just like with sons, the example you set will set the expectation for the men in her life. If you’re a pushover or lack a solid foundation of Frame, especially in interactions with the mother of your children, then guess what, your daughters are going to pick up on this and absorb it. We all know good and well about girls with daddy issues, and it’s never a path you want to explore first hand.Your example sets your daughter’s expectation for her future interactions with the men in her life. What kind of men will she keep company with? Strong, independent men that can take care of business? Or timid, weak willed men that will be stepping stools under her thumb? Your example will have a significant impact.

For mothers, I would again remind you that your example is what will make the impression and set the expectation. So if you set a precedent for your daughters that instills in them a sense that they need to always “be the man” in the relationship, that will have a significant impact on how they approach future relationships. There’s nothing wrong with raising strong minded, independent women who can handle them selves, in fact that’s the ideal goal as society needs more women like that. But if they are brought up that way believing that’s only achievable at the expense of men, then there’s an imbalance.

Final Thoughts

I may do another post later detailing Red Pill parenting from the perspective of growing up Blue Pill and what might be done differently, but for this post I wanted to focus more on sibling dynamics. My hope is that if you have siblings and have gone through similar experiences on your own Red Pill journey this can provide some insight or clarity. Inter-gender dynamics impact every personal relationship a person has, and more often than not, the Red Pill really hits home.

Siblings

Female Bully Complex

Nagging

“I realized that bullying never has to do with you. It’s the bully who’s insecure.” – Shay Mitchell

As most of you are very aware of, women will shit test to no end. This is one part of their nature that is a hard-coded survival skill that has been the bane of men for centuries. Now for the most part, this is a subconscious filtering process that is not usually coming from a place of ill-intent. But what happens when it turns malicious? Then you need to treat is as a bully complex…you have to take a stand.

Causes

Before we get ahead of ourselves about what to do, first we need to look into some of the root causes. Shit testing seldom starts with malicious intent, so what turns it actively against you? Usually the cause of this is a lack of strong Frame. Women will test their limits with you, especially to see if they can push you and how you react. This is all subconscious and more of a defensive mechanism, so for the most part it’s part of the nature of interacting with them. However, like a shark, once they smell blood, that can trigger a feeding frenzy. Every chink in your armor suddenly becomes a needle to be pressed into you repeatedly, every misstep a punishable offense, any sign of indecisiveness or weakness is added a bullet in the chamber for later.

Many a man has had this happen to him, when he is in a new relationship or an LTR, and things are going well, until seemingly one day out of the blue it starts to turn. Relationships do have their highs and their lows, but you have to trust your gut to sense when the situation is low vs when it’s become toxic and malicious, and that’s when you need to do an abrupt and honest assessment of your Frame in the situation.

Treatment

Prevention is always the best cause, and like when dealing with a bully, you have to set the tone that you will not be pushed around from the start. Not saying that women are consciously trying to be bullies (though some are), their inherit nature shares a few things in common with them in the sense that they will shit test and push boundaries to see how far it can go. That’s why a the repeated theme of Frame is critical. A bully on the school yard has absolute Frame (and this is a case of when Frame is used for the wrong intent). The only way to keep that Frame in check is by establishing and holding your own Frame. You can either be a victim or stand up for yourself and show that you won’t be. It’s the same idea with women, you have to keep you Frame in check and show that you won’t be pushed around or falter. You don’t have to be a jerk or asshole about it, because ill-intent breeds more ill-intent. But you do have to be a composed, otherwise you risk the relationship souring into a malicious state.

When any relationship becomes malicious, it’s time to end that relationship, plain and simple. The biggest thing that men fail to realize is that when they are in this position, their Frame has been compromised and they are in a no-win scenario. Usually they focus on protecting their ego and the ego-investments they’ve made in the relationship, but what they are doing is trying to win a battle while the war has already been lost. Like the Art of War states; “Every battle is won before it’s even fought.” In this case, the woman has all the Frame and control and every a man is doing is always in reaction to her.

Even when he “stands up for himself,” since she knows subconsciously that he’s relinquished his Frame to her before, any attempt made on his part to reclaim it and assert dominance is seen as artificial and non-genuine, so she will never take it seriously. In fact, this proposes a challenge for her to see how she can break him down again. This is the point where it is best to cut all ties and move on…The situation is a no-win scenario. At this point it’s like an arm heavily infected with gangrene that is starting to decay: The situation has become toxic and it’s time to cut off the arm to save the body. The best you can hope for is to maintain some Frame and dignity by ending the relationship swiftly and abruptly, with minimal to no explanation like “This isn’t working out for me.” That’s it.

It sounds harsh, but from what I’ve seen friends go through first hand, the alternative which is much, much harsher. Months of back-and-forth arguing, stress, lack of sex and constant worry; all for an outcome that deep down they knew was coming eventually. Staying in this situation also creates conditions that cause women to cheat on their partners. Many times a girl has cheated because she was mad at her current partner and was looking for a way to get back at him. In her mind, she will be completely justified in doing so because the cause of getting her that emotional state was you. And partially she is correct, as a man it is your job to keep your Frame in check, otherwise the situation will get away from you and run completely amok.

The way many men internalize this is that they owe it to the girl or the relationship to “give it an honest try.” And this is another trap of the Blue Pill mindset, the sense of honor or “giving it a fair shot” mentality that does not help you, but in fact imprisons you and keeps you shackled to a sinking ship that is pulling you under the depths.

Conclusion

If the scenario I mentioned above is something you’re currently going through, then I sincerely hope you head my words with caution. As I’ve said many times before, women can be amazing and dynamically wondrous experiences that can add a lot to your life. They can also be soul-draining nightmares that bring stress and misery to your existence. This post is to help you with dealing with the latter. You have to know when to cut your losses and move onto other opportunities. Check your ego at the the door and tell you pride to step aside, because those two things can become tools used to keep you in a toxic situation.

Sinking Boat