What Time Is It? It’s Cockblock O’Clock

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“We shouldn’t be cock-blocking McLovin, we should be guiding his cock.” – Officer Michaels, Superbad

No matter how solid your game is or experienced you become, you’re going to run into cockblocks. Sometimes they are in the form of a well-meaning friend, a hostile person, or a specific scenario. This story I’m going to share with you is one about a situational cockblock, how to play it and what the takeaways are.

The Situation

I was at a local hot spot that my good friend and me frequent a lot. The place has great food, great drinks, and plenty of talent to boot. I know all of the staff at the venue, from the general manager to the bouncers, the bartenders to the hostesses. My friend and I get in, do some flirting with the hostesses and then get settled. We actually have a few other friends there, much to our delightful surprise. We grab some beverages and are involved in a conversation around Burning Man (my one friend just came back from it that day), when I see this older woman (about 45+) sitting at the bar close by where I am by herself. Though she’s older, she looks really good, you couldn’t tell that she was older from afar, only by getting closer could I tell. I sit in the seat next to her as she’s looking over the drink menu and I tell her if she needs a suggestion I have a few go-to recommendations. She responds pleasantly with nice southern accent and we hit it off.

We start talking and I find out she’s visiting from New Orleans  for the weekend. We flirt playfully back and forth and from our conversation she drops hints that she’s been a bit of a wild child back in her day. My other friends that where close by saw the situation was looking prime and was giving me nods of approval. With a this situation looking like I’ll be leaving the venue shortly, I’m feeling great and excited to see just what comes of it.

After about 15 minutes of conversation and heavy flirting, I finally ask why she’s visiting this particular place. She responds with a bit of a bombshell:

“My daughter works here.”

Time seemed to freeze for a quick second, because I am very tight with the staff, they are like my night life family, so I quickly processed the implications of my present situation. While that was happening over the course of 5 milliseconds, her saying that phrase must have put something out in the universe because sure enough, 1 minute later 2 of the hostesses come over (one was the daughter, who is very hot herself). The daughter greats her mom and says she wanted to check in on her to make sure she was good. This is one of those situations where I played it super cool on the outside, but on the inside I was laughing at myself and also thinking about how both of them would be fun to experience, but the internal laughter was far greater.

The daughter and other hostess leave and then 2 minutes later one of the bouncers comes over to “check in on mom.” At this point I knew getting the lay would not be worth the complications it would cause for me at the venue, which has provided for me many times, and these “check ins” continued from the staff over the next 10 minutes. Seeing that I was dealing with a situational cockblock, I switched my mindset from flirt mode into friend mode, and brought in with my larger group of friends.

We had a fun time exchanging crazy stories and discussing the best kinds of drinks. At midnight, the daughter’s shift ended and so she left with her mom, though the mom made it very clear she was “very glad to meet me” and my friends where asking me why I was not leaving with her. I gave them the full story and we all had a great laugh, to which my one friend commented that “I don’t come here that often so I’d be more than happy to play daddy. We had another great laugh and then this brunette girl caught and her friend caught my attention. I went over to them and struck up a quick conversation, which lead to them leaving with my friend and me to hang at an after hours cafe.

Takeaways

4. It’s not you, it’s the situation. The key is realizing that the situation is a cockblock, as in this example. See the situation for what it is and that will inform your next move…

3. Just because you can get it, doesn’t mean you always should. While it was clear that with a little work, I could overcome the situational cockblock and get the notch, what wold be the true cost of that notch? I get the royal treatment at this venue night after night, and so getting this notch could cause a bit of a disruption in that. It’s not worth it, especially considering the next takeaway…

2. Always keep the abundance mentality. Yes, there was a slam dunk in front of me, but by keeping the abundance mentality and not seeing this 1 girl as my only shot for sex that night, I was able to have a great time, keep things sold with the venue staff and then meet two other girls shortly after.

1. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Situational cockblocks suck, but they are certainly learning experiences that you can look back and laugh on, sometimes laugh at in the moment. It’s all in good fun.

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Two Quick Text Game Tips

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“Today’s kids aren’t taking up arms against their parents; they’re too busy texting them.” – Nancy Gibbs

For this post I wanted to give you guys a few quick and actionable tips for boosting your meetup rates via text. Ever met a girl and everything was clicking, then you get her number, exchanged a few texts and then suddenly it seems like things have cooled off? Here’s a few tips to keep the energy up as well to avoid common ways you accidentally cock block yourself via text.

2. Setup logistics ASAP

One problem most guys get into is that they fall into the “text trap” of idle, irrelevant conversation via text. They ask how her day is going, what she thinks about a certain subject and basically everything but what’s important: finding a time to meetup. Save the small talk for when you’re in person, that way you have things to actually talk about. For initial texting you’ll want to acknowledge that you have her number saved and that you guys should meet up asap (be it later that night, tomorrow or next week) depending on the situation. This leads to the next point…

1. Be decisive and specific when setting up logistics.

A lot of guys typically give vague, general time frames that create no sense of urgency. Usually they’ll say “lets hang some time” or “we can go grab drinks next week.” That’s fine and dandy if you want to have average results. If you want to up your Game to the next level, be a man of decisive action. “Let’s hang this Thursday at bar X” or “We’ll grab drinks tomorrow at 8” are quick, decisive and specific statements that will help improve your conversion rate. Having a specific and time day does a few things:

1) Implies that your availability is limited, which gets the hamster spinning.

2) It’s easier for the girl to adjust her plans as opposed to “sometime next week”…if she’s just met you, unless she’s really, really into you she’s got other stuff going on and isn’t going to keep an entire week free hoping on the off chance you’ll hit her up.

3) It shows you’re a decisive individual that makes quick decisions and reinforces your Frame.

4. You’re not asking, you’re subtly commanding. Instead of saying “sometime next week” which is more of an ask, you’re telling her “it’s this day, be there.” It subtly makes you the prize and as I said before, reinforces your Frame.

I could write an entire dissertation on texting game, but for today I wanted to give a few quick and easy tips to help you right now. If I can help a few of you out then that’s what I’m in it for.

Go out and get it!

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Have Your Cake And Eat It Too

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“But of course you can have your cake and eat it, too – if you decide to to bake a second cake. And you may well find that baking two cakes does not take twice the work of baking one.” – Robert Kuttner 

It has been said that you can’t have your cake and eat it to, so for this post I thought I’d share a story of mine that’s related very much to the topic and the Red Pill takeaways from it. Spoiler alert – I did have my cake, I did eat it too and it was delicious.

Two years ago I had met this girl while out partying one random night near the beach. That night was pretty crazy, I wound up somehow partying with NBA player Deandre Jordan from the Clippers at his VIP table setup in the middle of this club. That part is neither here nor there, because I met this girl as I was heading out from the venue. I had popped to the outside patio with a buddy of mine, who had just shown up, and we had a third friend that wanted to meet up at a place across the street. I was game to change venues, the night was winding down, I had grabbed a few phone numbers, and since I was at the table of an NBA player, every girl there was ready to jump his bones. There are nights when you’re the top dog of the venue, and then there are other nights when a bigger fish comes into the pond. It’s just the ebb and flow of going out, and tonight was one of those nights.

As we were making our way out, this cute brunette caught my eye and she had a blonde friend that was with her. The brunette was half white half Latina mixed, had nice deep brown eyes and a nice petite figure. I struck up a quick conversation with the brunette, while my friend talked with the blonde. After about 5 minutes, I told the brunette that we were heading out, but they should join us for an after hours hangout, to which she responded that she would see, since her and her friend were with a larger group that was celebrating a birthday. I gave her a hug goodbye and she leaned in and kissed me, then said “I’m a tease,” with a wink and me and my friend left.

That night she told me her and the birthday group were calling it around 2am, which was fine since my friends and I were having a pretty serious conversation that night. I told her we would link up in the near future to which she replied she’d like that, and I left the conversation at that. Fast forward two weeks later, I hit her up and we wind up going out on a Friday night. I arrive a her place and meet her by the front door, and then we head over to a dance club that’s a 3 minute drive from her house.

We get inside the dance club and the atmosphere is pretty good. The tunes are solid, there’s a decent crowd out and the line at the bar is short. We grab a few beverages and chit chat about a few random items. At this point my sense is that she’s interested with a little hesitation, but also it’s early in the night. After about a half hour of dancing I pull her over to a booth so we can have a little more of an intimate conversation. We start the “people watching game” and we notice a group of people with balloons there celebrating a birthday. I mentioned how it was my birthday last week, to which she asked “What kind of cake did you have?”

I replied with “I actually never got a cake.”

She looked surprised and said “It was your birthday, by law you need to have cake.”

I replied, “I agree. Can you bake?”

She replied, “You bet I can. I could bake you the best cake you’ve ever had if I had the ingredients.”

I took a quick moment, looked at her with a devious smirk, and said, “Let’s go get some.”

She looked a little surprised and said “Right now?”

I finished my drink, set it down, grabbed her hand and said, “Field trip time.”

I walked her back to my car and we then drove up the street to the super market. We browsed through the baking section and I let her take the charge in gathering the cake supplies. She picked out a funfetti cake mix while I grabbed a bottle of wine. We went to the checkout counter and she commented “I can’t believe we’re doing this.”

I just smirked and replied “You gotta be spontaneous.”

We then go back to her house and we cracked open the wine. She put on some music videos while putting the cake making supplies in the kitchen, and then come over to share a glass of wine. At that point I went in for a make out session, then she was topless and we wound up in her bedroom a few minutes later.

The next morning, I left her house near sunrise, and since she lived a block away from the beach I took a nice drive up the coast on the way home. We exchanged a few texts over the next couple of days and then the following weekend we setup a time to meet. I met her at her house again and we walked a few blocks to the movie theater to see Straight of Compton. After the movie we went back to her place were she said she had something for me. Low and behold, there was a fresh baked funfetti cake waiting for me on her dining table. We each had a slice, and to her credit it was really delicious. We wound up hooking up again and this time when I left her place I had a funfetti cake in hand.

Takeaways

1. Logistics are key. The dance club, the store and her house were all within 5 minute of each other which made it a breeze to bounce from one spot to another with ease and without losing any momentum. Always plan your dates/hangouts around easy logistics, especially when it’s the first through third time, after that you can do more extended trips.

2. Always have situational awareness. Beware of your surroundings, as you never know when an opportunity may present itself. Playing the people watching game is a great way to do this. By doing this, I was able to notice the other birthday group which leads me to takeaway 3…

3. Be ready to take the lead at a moments notice. You should already be taking the lead in these situations regardless, but as I mentioned about opportunities presenting themselves, you need to be ready move at a moment’s notice. When she mentioned that she was great at baking, I seized the opportunity to lead her to the store to get the supplies and then to lead her back to her house. If you’re a man worth her time and affection, then you have to be a leading man. Take the lead.

4. Be open minded. Many of the best dates/hangouts I’ve had are ones that are completely unconventional and unique. Going from a dance club to the supermarket to get cake supplies is a very random night, but it happened and it worked extremely well because it was a unique, off the wall story that I’m sure she’d never experienced before (nor had I at that point). But it only happened because I was open to seeing where the night would go.

5. Funfetti cake is delicious, especially when it’s a victory cake.

That’s all for today, thanks for reading and hopefully I’ve given you some food for thought (no pun intended…or is it?). If you enjoy my writing please subscribe or checkout my other articles or leave me a note in the comments sections.

Now go out and get all that life has to offer.

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The Lesbian

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“I’m in lesbians with you” – Scott Pilgrim, Scott Pilgrim Vs. The World

When you have many experiences with women, you will get some interesting situations and have some interesting conversations. You’ll also get shit tested in some interesting and unique ways and this story is about one of the most interesting shit tests I have ever received.

I was at an alumni event at my old college when I had met this 23 year old Latina. She’s a very cute, petite girl with a great figure and sexy eyes. I had given her my business card when we met since the setting was more professional at the event. She texted me later that night saying it was great to meet me. A week later I hit her up about hanging out, to which she responded with:

“Wait, are you asking me out? I’m pretty dense about that kinda of stuff”

My response was “I didn’t realize “hangout” was such a loaded term.”

I can already get a sense that this girl might be the the type to shit test a lot, so I decided to play it very casual and ambiguous to see where this would go. After a few other texts, we setup a time to meet up for hang out a few days later. Now since this was a first encounter and based on the texting there seemed like a lot of shit testing was going to be involved, I decided it would be best to meet on the early side, around 7 pm so that way I could go over for a Netflix and chill session after with other girl I’ve hooked up with before that lives in the area around 9:30.

I told the Latina to met up at a lounge I like and I get there about 2 minutes before her. We get seated at a table in a good spot in the lounge, which lets us see out onto the street and makes for great people watching. We exchange a little small talk about how her week went and then about 3 minutes into the conversation I get hit with a shit test that’s way out of left field. She perks up, looks me directly in the eye and says:

“Just so you know, I’m a lesbian.”

Straight out of left field. No warning, just right into it. I knew this was a pivotal shit test moment, where right off the bat I was being thrown towards the fire to see if I would flinch. In my head I laughed a bit because based on all the back and forth that led to this meeting, I wasn’t buying it at all. I also had not been hit with this exact shit test out of the blue before either, which was part entertaining and part exciting as it represented a new challenge. Without skipping a beat I casually replied:

“That’s awesome.”

She looked a bit surprised at my response. I delivered my response while maintaining my relaxed yet commanding posture, and the tone of my voice was casual. Then I followed up with: “I love me some lesbians.”

She paused for a minute, as her hamster tried to process my responses. She then went on a little bit about her family and how she’s never had a boyfriend. The conversation continued with her doing 90% of the conversation, and I could tell based on how I handled the shit test, she was now trying to qualify herself to me. We where talking for another 10 or so minutes when she asked me a question:

“What are you doing after this?”

I believe honesty is the best armor you can have, it keeps you free and also can be a great way to show off an IDGAF attitude when used strategically. Since I had been hit with big shit test out of left field, I decided to throw out one of my own, to see how she reacted to it:

“I’m going to see another girl.”

She had this completely shocked look on her face and instantly asked “What do you mean?”

I replied, “It’ll probably be a Netflix and chill situation. We have a thing that when I see her I’m with her, but when I don’t, I’m not.” I could see the hamster going into overdrive in her head as she was contemplating this news I had relayed. I just sat comfortably while holding eye contact and smirking. My posture was saying “This is the deal, are you with it or not?” She then asked me a few questions about my past relationships, to which I replied that I like to keep things very open so I can experience as many people as possible. She continued on about her thoughts on relationships as we finished our drinks.

About 20 minutes later we wrapped up at the lounge and I took for for a stroll around the down town area. Part of the stroll included a stop at an adult shop. While we were in there she asked me if I had a “Christian Grey Room,” to which I replied “Every room I enter is a Christian Grey room.” I could see a little twinkle in her eye as her hamster began spinning on the implications of what I had said.

After the sex shop I took her to the outside patio of a cigar lounge and we sat there for a bit, discussing random things. We began making out for a bit and then I checked the time. It was 9:15 so it was time to go see my Netflix and chill girl. We said our goodbyes and and she said that we should hang again, which I causally agreed would be cool. That was the start of a very fun situation, in which a week later I’d discover she was a squirter in the back of my car, as well as how to utilize Frame to keep things as casual hook ups for the past 7 months now.

Takeaways:

1. Women will shit test you all the time and in ways you’ll never expect. Always be on your top game and always be ready. You never know exactly how these test will come, but they are coming. Usually the more insecure the girl, the more shit tests you will face. Know who you’re dealing with so you have can anticipate what you’ll have to deal with.

2. Hold Frame. I’ve said it many times before, but Frame is absolutely critical. Without it, I would have been crucified by her shit test. But with it, I was able to work the situation to my advantage.

3. Honesty will set you free. Using strategic honesty, you can be free to be yourself while seeing if she’s down to enter your world and come along for the ride, or if she will fight you tooth and nail every step of the way. By flat out telling this Latina that I was seeing another girl after her, I was free to let her know that I have options and if she is on board with entering my world she’s welcome, if not, she can go her own way and I’ll be fine. It also gives me the freedom to see multiple people without having to feel like I’m sneaking around behind everyone’s back because I’m out in the open with what the situation is. Obviously you don’t need to blab the full truth of your family life or other things, but being honest about what you want and who you are at the right times will work in your favor far more than trying to hide it.

4. Use your own shit tests. For guys we typically call this screening, but don’t be afraid to use some shit tests of your own. This does 2 things. 1) It flips the script and makes YOU the prize, not the guy chasing after her affections. 2) This is a way to qualify how well into your Frame she’ll come into and well as give you better insight into who she is as person. Is she a chill, go with the flow type? Or she the time that has a snarky negative comment about everything? Just as girls use shit tests to expose if a guy is Alpha or not, you need to use shit tests to see if any girl you are with is the type of girl you want to be with.

5. Work the hamster. A girl’s imagination is the most powerful thing you can play with and utilize. Work it often and work it well. Let her imagination take her to a conclusion you lead her to. To many times guys are just matter-o-factly about things which leaves no room for imagination. Do you want to drive a girl wild with passion and desire? Do you want her to get wet at the thought of a spontaneous encounter of intimacy between you two? Then learn how to use innuendo, flirting, and ambiguity to get her imagination working. If you don’t, you’ll find the girls you go with will be dryer than the Sahara desert during a drought. In this example, I used these things to keep her hamster constantly going so that by the time our 2nd encounter happened, we where going at it in the back of my car in an alleyway close to her house.

If I’ve given you some good takeaways you can use while entertaining you, then my goal is complete. Go out there and conquer the world friends.

Gentleman

You’re Not Spending The Night

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“Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success.” – Napoleon Hill

For this post I wanted to share a quick story from an experience I had and some of the Red Pill takeaways. At the very least, it’s an entertaining tale that resulted in an awkward conversation with my dry cleaners the next day.

I was out in Downtown with a couple of friends for a buddies “going away” hangout session at this cool little bar/store. I put “going away” in quotes because our friend was from the east coast, but was going away for 2 months back home because he was between work contracts here on the west coast. As I get into the place, I notice two girls at the other end of the bar. One is a brunette, about 5’6″ at a glance, and her friend is a solid 6 feet. The brunette was cute, she looked white but with a hint of something mixed in. She had a petite figure and she projected a chill vibe. The blonde was thin and athletic looking. She had a very pretty face and long curly hair and very bright blue eyes. I could pick up on her energy from across the bar and it intrigued me. I think to myself “there could be some potential here, especially with the tall one.” I do love tall girls, and as a tall guy myself (I’m well over 6 feet) it’s not as common to come across them so I seize the moment when possible.

Me and my friends had been hanging for about 20 minutes, when I decide it’s time see what the deal with these others girls is. I walk over to the both of them and ask them what type of liquor is easiest to get into trouble with. The brunette says beer and the blonde’s eyes light up as she says “Tequila of course.” I give the blonde a high-five and enthusiastically state “correct answer,” and then proceed to introduce myself. I then introduce the girls to my 3 other guy friends and then proceed to engage both of them in a conversation about different types of alcohol. About 2 minutes in I notice the blonde girl has a few tattoos, one is a feather on her left arm and the other is a Hindi-inspired pattern on her chest. I ask her about the tattoo on her arm and she tells me the story of how she likes that feathers are the tool that makes flight possible and that they have a look that resonates with her. She also tells me that she’s into photography and painting, so which I say that I will have to see some of her work. I ask her what part of town she’s from and it turns out she is roommates with the brunette and lives 1 block away from the bar we’re at.

About 10 minutes later I’ve gotten my group and the two girls to close out their tabs and I tell the blonde that I really need to see her artwork. She agrees that we all can come over for and hang for a bit. As we walk over to her place I take the opportunity to grab her hand. She gives me the “I know what you’re doing look” and proceed to lead us to her house. My friends and her roommate fall behind, so when we get in front of her door with a few free minutes, I pull her in for a deep, passionate kiss. She then gives me the “the look,” that look that says “I really like you but now I need to justify hooking up with you to myself” to she says to me “You can hang, but you’re not spending the night.” I channel my inner Han solo and with a smirk reply “I know.” Suddenly my friends and her roommate get to the front door and we all go up to the girl’s loft.

Inside we all get cozy in the loft, they have a large lounge sofa aka daybed and a few stool chairs in their main room. The girls proceed to get us some wine and my friends keep talking with the brunette and I continue to converse with the tall blonde. At some point she mentions that she’s a yoga teacher and capoeira instructor, and that sometimes she does performances. I forget how, but somehow that led to her getting a small vile of glittery gold body paint and opening it to bad a bit on my wrist. She accidentally spills a bit on my arm and suit jacket, to which I just chuckle that “My dry cleaners are going to want some serious explaining for this one.”

Over the next 20 minutes my friends take off one by as it’s now 2:15 in the morning. So now it’s just me and the two the girls. The brunette makes her way to her room and says she’s getting ready for bed. Once she’s gone me and the blonde start making out passionately. After a minute, she pulls back to look me in the eyes. She says “I’m serious, you can’t spend the night.” I keep eye contact with her and with a playful smirk I reply “Works for me.” I then lead her over to the daybed and proceed to get intimately familiar with the tattoo in the middle of her chest. It was a fun and passionate time we had, she was enthusiastically energetic and very, very flexible. She was one of the naturally wettest girls I have ever encountered and her vagina tasted exquisite, I am not sure what her diet was, but whatever she did eat, bless her for it, because her flavor was delicious.

Sadly I had to cut the activities short at 2:50am because the garage with my car closed at 3am and I had no idea when it reopened or where they would tow my car. As I was getting dressed and departing, I caught her slipping her business card into my jacket packet so I would have her number, to which I said to her “This needs to happen again. Let me get your number and I’ll call you.” I wound up seeing her a few times after that for some fun and adventurous nights (and yes I did actually call her…strange concept today but it can help you standout) and she still holds my current record for fastest from into-to-hooking-up at 1 hour.

Takeaways:

1. Approach. If a girl(s) catch your eye, always go up and approach. The approach is a victory in of itself and you never know what might result from it. If you don’t approach, nothing will happen, so be a man of action and make something happen.

2. Logistics. Logistics are your best friend or can be your biggest cock block. Fortune smiled upon me that night as she literally was 1 block away, but then they became my enemy as I had to cut the first night short due to my car potentially being locked in and towed from the garage. Always be mindful of the logistics.

3. The Rule of 2. Girls out in pairs tend to be more open to meeting, flirting and tend to be more DTF. Always look for pairs.

4. Stay Persistent and Hold Frame. We only made it to her house because I suggested we look at her art. She also shit tested me multiple times with the same line of “you’re not spending the night.” But by holding Frame and not getting side tracked by this, I was able to close the deal. And no, I didn’t spend the night either so it all worked out.

Use the takeaways from this story as a reminder for yourself or as a new idea for your own Game arsenal. Go out and live it up.

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The Man In Black

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“You know why you exist, Teddy? The world out there – the one you’ll never see – was one of plenty. A fat soft teat people cling to their entire life. Every need taken care of except one. Purpose. Meaning. So they come here. They can be a little scared, a little thrilled, enjoy some sweetly affirmative bullshit and then they take a fucking picture and they go back home. But I think there’s a deeper meaning hiding under all that. Something the person who created it wanted to express. Something true.” – The Man In Black, Westworld

I just recently finished a re-watching of the HBO series West World. I don’t watch any TV, except for a series every now and again, but this series is a very thought provoking one. You can check it out or read all abut it, as this post isn’t about the series. This post is actually about the character that I find the most fascinating on the show (hence the post title) and the Red Pill context of the character’s actions and persona. I will say this, if you haven’t seen the show, then you may want to come back to this post later because there are going to be a host of major spoilers, so don’t say I didn’t warn you.

As a quick character summary, we’re introduced to the Man in Black as a mysterious, cold-hearted man with a clear agenda of his own and taste of extreme actions. He is later revealed to have started out as a much more timid and apprehensive person, as we are shown that the mild-mannered William, is in fact, a young version of the Man In Black. What we have here is a great – and rare, I might add – example of a self-forged Alpha with a Blue Pill mindset (despite that fact that the show merges it’s strongest character with it’s weakest).

As we see William when he first enters the park, he seems a little unfit for the wild nature and indulgences that can be found in there. But, in true Blue Pill fashion, once William encounters the Host (artificial human) Delores, he very quickly develops a Oneitis level obsession with her, despite the fact that he knows she’s a robot. He later would spend years searching for her until one day, he made his way back to the first area of the park and he sees her again. To his dismay and heartbreak, he discovers that she has been reset, so she does not remember him or any of the “love” that they shared in their trials and travels earlier.

This troubling realization leads William on a quest of self discovery throughout the park, which forges him into the Man in Black. In the begging of his quest to find his love, he had discovered he had a liking and nack for violence as well as manipulation, which where things he used outside in the real world to become a titan of industry. In his later years, he would test the limits of his morals, by killing a robot mother and child in cold blood to see what he would feel. Once he catches wind of a mythical maze within the park, it becomes his new obsession as he seeks to find a way to enter it and find a deeper meaning within the game of the park.

What’s intriguing about this character is that when we are first introduced to who he was as young William, he is very Blue Pill Beta man that is your run of the mill AFC. He is engaged to be married and he plays second fiddle to his hedonistic brother-in-law to be Logan, both on a personal and professional level. When he encounters Delores, he is drawn to her as something about her seems different and unique. Now, for the sake of the show, she actually is the first robot to develop consciousness, but in the context of the Red Pill, he has a very idealistic view about his “one special girl.” Everything he does is never of his own mental point of origin, it’s either spurned by Logan or Delores, he never acts of his own accord. When he finally goes of on his quest to find this one girl he’s pedestalized, he does so to satisfy his Blue Pill investment he’s made into the relationship. And much like many Blue Men before him, he discovers the painfully hard way that that all his Blue Pill investment, the hardships endured, the years searching and looking, all count for nothing. Now yes, Delores is a robot and her memory was reset, but the metaphor is one that many Blue Pill men are all too familiar with. How many times has a man spent years enduring relationship stress, trying to find someway to win back the affections of his partner, only discover all those effort carried no actual value to her attraction to him?

For the sake of the show, it’s a good twist but all it really accomplishes is it merges the shows least interesting character with it’s most, so in effect it knocks a great character down a few pegs (cough cough…Darth Vader and Anakin Skywalker cough cough). But in the context of the Red Pill, it’s a very good example of a Blue Pill man who’s traumatic personal experience has pushed him from a Beta Bucks into a hardened Alpha…but an Alpha with a blue Pill mindset. We’ll see where this character goes in the next season, but hopefully the Man in Black will develop some actualized Red Pill awareness as a character.

The Man in Black Horse

Blame The Victim

Blame The Victim

“Sympathy is only meted out if you follow all of
society’s rules for how a victim is supposed to behave.” ― Nenia Campbell

For this post, I was inspired by Rollo Tomassi’s excellent post Divorce Incorporated. While he highlights the finical and social dynamics that have lead to a broken and heavily biased divorce system, a common theme he points out is about how the core reason for this situation is the fem-centric view that men are by default at fault:

“Anything even remotely, positively masculine or Alpha is still a ‘man being a man’ and this can always be reinterpreted as potentially aggressive or violent. In a feminine-primary social order where feminized men and women are taught that men are inherently evil and prone to anger and violence (the “culture” of masculinity) there’s an army of women and White Knight sympathizing men who want nothing more than to stick it to the ‘man’ symbolically. And when they draw a paycheck from doing so they’re all the more eager. Add to this that they feel a sense of moral justification in “making the world a better place” by burning him in an effigy of all men and you get to where we are now. We presently live in a social order that presumes any masculinity is “toxic” or “hyper” masculinity. So disassociated from anything positive has society become with regard to conventional masculinity that just the term is now masculinity is a negative connotation.” – Rollo Tomassi, Divorce Incorporated

What really stands out to me in an ironic twist of viewing things through a Red Pill lens, men are in effect the victims of a system that is stacked against them and design for them to lose and lose big time emotionally and financially; yet they are the ones to bare all the blame. This irony comes from the “Blaming the Victim” movement that was designed around helping bring light to (female) victims of rape and domestic abuse, which at it’s core, it’s a justifiable cause. However, this mantra is all but too conveniently abandoned when the shoe is on the other foot, and men have been victimized in a sense by women, or at the very least, the fem-centric world view our society has.

This is what I believe led to the rapid rise and expansion of the Red Pill. Men had been losing in a system that was designed to defeat them and since they could not find any relief, empathy or understanding from society, they turned to each other and forged their own sub-culture in direct response to it. Part of any victim relief program is the concept of “taking the power back,” and the Red Pill is a reclaiming power grab to help men take control of their lives.

As a man it’s critical to understand the fine line of the catch 22 you will be forced to face by virtue of being male: You are expected to “due you duty” to society and women, but if (and more like when) you fall short, all of the blame rests entirely with you. While this is a harsh truth that isn’t fair or right, it is a reality that men face each and every day. Arm yourself with knowledge, guide yourself with wisdom, and see the full picture so you can stand on your own 2 feet. As a society we’ve swung the pendulum from one extreme (women have no rights) to the other (women are infallible), but with movements like the Red Pill I am optimistic that the pendulum will settle back to a more centered position.

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