“The hardest thing to do is to be true to yourself, especially when everybody is watching” – Dave Chappelle
For today’s post, I want to tackle something that people in general struggle with and this topic is something particularly intense for many new Red Pill aware guys: How to be true to yourself. It sounds simple enough right? Just be you, the REAL you and everything will work itself out, right?
As I am sure many of you can attest to, trying to be yourself while Blue Pill is one of the most frustrating things imaginable. You’re constantly in a state of self-sacrifice without any tangible reward. Sure, people pat you on the back and try to stroke the ego your sense of honor has, because you’re always “doing the right thing,” but the rewards for your hard work and efforts a minimal. Everyone tells you one thing, and it doesn’t work for you, but the message is a constant “sty the course” and eventually you’ll get that reward. It’s the carrot a the end of the stick that you never seem to grasp.
For the newly Red Pill aware, this frustration gets magnified, but for different reasons. With some Red Pill awareness suddenly you find yourself able to nibble on that carrot a bit, much to the shock of those that know you. More often than not, you’re met with resistance and suspicion to the “new you.” People you know seem to be looking for chinks in your shiny new armor, they suspect this new personality is more of an act or a front you’re putting up, rather than a legitimate improvement.
That’s why it’s important to be able to not only think for yourself, but to also be willing to act for yourself. You are the only one who can live your life, and you will have to live with the consequences of the choices you make, good or bad. What kills a lot of emerging Red Pill momentum are the roadblocks put up by friends and family, or people from your Blue Pill circles. A lot of times they intentionally act as agents of the Matrix and attempt to get you to fall back into line, because after all, they know the “real you” and they want you to be true to that version of yourself. What’s hard to rectify about this scenario is that you know that they do intend well and they think they are helping. But good intentions only count for so much.
So what is one to do in the face of such a challenge? The first place to start is with YOU. You have to be your own compass as well as your own cheerleader at times. The next place is to seek a community of like-minded people for support, inspiration and guidance. Checking out blogs like this one is a great start, but don’t be afraid to seek out the help you need to better maximize yourself. I wish I had a road map that works for everyone, but no one has that. And I think that’s one of the biggest rewards of self-discovery, it’s up to you and it’s something you look back on and know that you accomplished it through your efforts.
It can certainly feel like a curse, trying to be true to yourself, especially in a world that is more increasingly connected and scrutinizing of people. But at the end of the day you have to live with the person you see looking back a you in the mirror, so ask yourself everyday if you’ve been true to them.