“I believe that if life gives you lemons, you should make lemonade… And try to find somebody whose life has given them vodka, and have a party.” – Ron White
For this topic I’ll be giving some practical advice to take your experiences out on the next level. I’ve used these before and it blows my mind that more people don’t do these things. Don’t want to be another average patron? Then it’s time to build some Equity Venue. Equity Venue is the goodwill, or value you add with a venue and can be clutch with helping your game. It’s a way of building social proof as well giving you the freedom to have more fun. So, here are some quick tips that will help you build that equity in no time:
Game Tip 1:
Ask your bartenders and servers about their day. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve asked a waitress or a bartender how their night is going, and they respond with “thank you so much for asking, no one ever asks.” If you want to stand out from the crowd, this is a very easy first step. Chat them up, ask them one of the Golden Questions to quickly build a bond. Also offering to by them a shot, especially if it’s busy is a great gesture. If they take you up, it’s a fun way to have a “little secret” with them and if they can’t you can parlay it into “I will need to buy you one later,” which makes number closing a cake walk. And as always, be sure to tip them well. They remember.
Game Tip 2:
If you like a place then ask for the manager. Tell them you like the place, you’re having a great time and that your server or favorite bar tender is awesome. It gives you some venue equity by creating good will and shows that you’re a person who has appreciation for the work they have to do. It makes you come across as genuine and authentic person and the “right” type of clientele for that establishment. Ask them if they have an official hashtag that they use so you can give them some social media love. If you have a business card (which is advised), you should give it to them and get theirs in return. It’s a great networking opportunity. It’ll make you more recognizable by the staff the next time you visit and very soon you’ll find that you might get some nice hook ups tossed your way without you even asking. Which leads to #3…
Game Tip 3:
Never ask for a hook up. At least not right off the bat. It reflects poorly on you and any actions you take in the future will have a shadow of non-genuineness cast upon them. When you talk to and compliment the manager and/or owner of an establishment, let them be the ones to say “do you want a drink?” or “drop my name at the door any time.” Not asking for anything upfront is a great way to show true appreciation, and people respect that. Also it makes people more likely to want to have you around and to hook you up out of their own goodness. People can smell when you’re only looking out for yourself from a mile away. But if you frequent a place, get to know the staff and management, as well as be generous in your tips, you’re essentially adding more value into your “venue equity account.” After a while then it’s ok to start seeing if you can withdraw a little good will for things like free drinks, getting easily past lines, or even getting in without cover. But trying to get all of those earned perks off the bat doesn’t work unless you’re already famous. Build your venue equity first and when you feel comfortable, exercise a little bit of it, but usually you won’t even need to. So be genuine, add value and build good will. Don’t be a user…it’s not a good look.
Thant’s it for today. I’ll be doing more posts on related topics, so be sure to follow my blog for more tips on Red Pill topics and taking your Game to the next level.