“I’ve been on so many blind dates, I should get a free dog.” – Wendy Liebman
Being in the dating industry I get a lot of questions around dating apps. My personal take on dating apps is that they are ok only if used 10% of the time to augment and compliment you Game activities. Dating apps are heavily skewed against men and the whole system is designed to give people who couldn’t “compete” so to speak on the open market place a fighting chance. Now there’s nothing wrong with meeting someone on an app, but if you’re relaying on apps to meet girls vs going out into the real world, you’re going to be in for a rough ride and will stunt you Game development. So I recently downloaded a few and played around on them to better answer the questions I hear surrounding these apps. So with that in mind, here’s a breakdown I have for each app:
The app to put dating apps on the map, Tinder is one I’m sure many of you have tried. From a Red Pill perspective this app is conducive to the abundance mentality tenant, which like real life requires you to do a lot of digging (swiping) to find potential prospects. Tinder is certainly an anything goes app, so be ready to deal with anything and everything. The quality is certainly not high, but with enough swiping or carpet bombing (just swiping right on everything and seeing who you match with) you might uncover a gem or two. Be wary of getting that “match validation high” since 80% of swipes you probably won’t match with so it makes each match seem like a bigger deal than it really is.
This apps is very hypergamic but also consistently has the highest quality (most attractive options) of all apps. Maybe every girl on Bumble knows how to take better pictures, but in any case this apps does foster abundance mentality. The girls have to send the first message, so with that restriction in mind you know that a girl is at least interested when you do get a message. There is a feature of extending matches which is Blue Pill scarcity dread tactic, so if a match is going to expire let it and move on. Extending the match means you’re already afraid of losing a girl you haven’t even met or talked to you which will put you at a disadvantage. If she matches you and is interested, she will act in her 24 hour window.
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If hypergamy was an app, this would be it. This app uses restrictions and selective matching as a way to get money from people as well as reinforce the scarcity mentality as well as to run a built-in dread game. The noticeably more attractive matches that you can “discover” but have to use beans (the app currency which you can purchase with real money) for, it’s almost like you’re dating the dating app and trying to appease it to give you access to the goods. You can even “skip the line” to put yourself in a potential matches queue faster, which is you paying the app to get yourself qualified by a girl. This is not a position you want to put yourself in psychologically, you’re already setting yourself up to have a Beta mentally. This apps prays on the Blue Pill guys so I’d suggest avoiding it all together.
After a few failed versions of the swipe model, Hinge has morphed into a traditional website style dating app, like Match.com or Plenty of Fish (both of which have apps). This apps give you recommendations so it’s another app that gives you less option and choices, thus creating a false sense of scarcity and dread.
This app takes an interesting twist on the conventional dating app: It focuses on people who’ve been to the same places as you. The issue with this app from a Red Pill perspective is that this app forces you to go through a process to get a girl’s attention by sending charms and then crushes, so it’s psychologically prepping you to go through a qualification process to get the attention of women.
Apps can be useful when going to a new city and looking to meet people and local recommendations. If you’re looking for some more in depth guides on how to get the most mileage out of apps, you can checkout this podcast. But from a Red Pill perspective it’s important to understand how each app will psychologically condition you, so use them with caution. Most of them by design will condition you to be a Beta qualifier for a girl’s affections. As always, the best thing to do is go old school: Talk to girls in real life.