Blame The Victim

Blame The Victim

“Sympathy is only meted out if you follow all of
society’s rules for how a victim is supposed to behave.” ― Nenia Campbell

For this post, I was inspired by Rollo Tomassi’s excellent post Divorce Incorporated. While he highlights the finical and social dynamics that have lead to a broken and heavily biased divorce system, a common theme he points out is about how the core reason for this situation is the fem-centric view that men are by default at fault:

“Anything even remotely, positively masculine or Alpha is still a ‘man being a man’ and this can always be reinterpreted as potentially aggressive or violent. In a feminine-primary social order where feminized men and women are taught that men are inherently evil and prone to anger and violence (the “culture” of masculinity) there’s an army of women and White Knight sympathizing men who want nothing more than to stick it to the ‘man’ symbolically. And when they draw a paycheck from doing so they’re all the more eager. Add to this that they feel a sense of moral justification in “making the world a better place” by burning him in an effigy of all men and you get to where we are now. We presently live in a social order that presumes any masculinity is “toxic” or “hyper” masculinity. So disassociated from anything positive has society become with regard to conventional masculinity that just the term is now masculinity is a negative connotation.” – Rollo Tomassi, Divorce Incorporated

What really stands out to me in an ironic twist of viewing things through a Red Pill lens, men are in effect the victims of a system that is stacked against them and design for them to lose and lose big time emotionally and financially; yet they are the ones to bare all the blame. This irony comes from the “Blaming the Victim” movement that was designed around helping bring light to (female) victims of rape and domestic abuse, which at it’s core, it’s a justifiable cause. However, this mantra is all but too conveniently abandoned when the shoe is on the other foot, and men have been victimized in a sense by women, or at the very least, the fem-centric world view our society has.

This is what I believe led to the rapid rise and expansion of the Red Pill. Men had been losing in a system that was designed to defeat them and since they could not find any relief, empathy or understanding from society, they turned to each other and forged their own sub-culture in direct response to it. Part of any victim relief program is the concept of “taking the power back,” and the Red Pill is a reclaiming power grab to help men take control of their lives.

As a man it’s critical to understand the fine line of the catch 22 you will be forced to face by virtue of being male: You are expected to “due you duty” to society and women, but if (and more like when) you fall short, all of the blame rests entirely with you. While this is a harsh truth that isn’t fair or right, it is a reality that men face each and every day. Arm yourself with knowledge, guide yourself with wisdom, and see the full picture so you can stand on your own 2 feet. As a society we’ve swung the pendulum from one extreme (women have no rights) to the other (women are infallible), but with movements like the Red Pill I am optimistic that the pendulum will settle back to a more centered position.


2 thoughts on “Blame The Victim

    • I remember that post when you first had it up, it’s a really insightful topic when it comes to our social presumption of abuse. It all links into the “holier-than-thou” complex we see where anything feminine is above questioning or reproach. We’re expected to accept what we’ve been told at face value and go into a supportive mindset to correct this wrong. The real danger is that the line of what is real abuse and what isn’t becomes subjectively exaggerated, where as you pointed out in your example, snatching the keys from a drunk woman to prevent her from driving home drunk is perceived as abuse. So now not nly are men supposed to be the loyal subjects of what women have to say, they can face social punishment for their transgressions (which is simply asking questions) because not taking them at their word could be construed as a form of abuse, especially since “male privilege” would be a convenient idea to blame for why men don’t see the woman as the victim based on her simply saying she is. Not only does this victimize men who are placed in a no win scenario, it also victimizes women who have legitimately been the victims of legitimate abuse, but now every guy has to treat her claims with a higher degree of skepticism because it’s not clear if it’s legitimate or a form a manipulation. Interesting times we find ourselves in.


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