3 More Sex Tips To Up Your Sex Game

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“If a man can possess a woman sexually -really possess- he won’t need to control her ideas, her opinions, her clothes, her friends, even her other lovers.”― Toni Bentley

Since my first post on the subject was such a large hit and led to many request for a follow up, in this post I’ll be detailing some more tips for the bedroom that you can use to take your sex game to the next level. As always, I’m talking about sex between consenting adults, which is the only type of sexual activity I condone.

3. The Power Lift. This move is a personal favorite of mine but also requires you to be in a decent to good physical shape (it’s always important to be in shape because you never know when you’ll need it). Essentially, it’s a move of pure passion as when you’re having sex with a girl, usually with her on top (it’s the easiest potion to do this from), you sit up, put your arms under her legs and ass , and stand up while picking her up. This move then allows you to continue having sex with her while you hold her in the air, and you can then move her to a counter top or against a door or wall for some intense sex.

The beauty of this move is it display’s your raw physical strength as well as it a pure dominance play; you can physically lift her and fuck her any which way you please. It’s a great way to turn the passion dial up to 11 and get you and her further lost in the moment. A word of advise, you’re going to need stamina to hold her up for a long period of time and also take care not to strain yourself (or her) when picking her up.

2. The Towel Stack. This move is actually a foreplay move that’s a psychological nuclear bomb. When you bring a girl to your bedroom, have a stack of 5-8 towels on the end of your bed or somewhere easily visible. What this does is it gets her hamster going into overdrive and get her excited, curious, and intrigued but what you have in store. A great way to add to fuel to the flames is when she asks about the towel stack to reply with something like “You’ll see” or “I’m always prepared.”

A word to the wise, this move is best used on a girl you’ve already had sex with or you’ve hung out with before and it’s clear you’re going to have sex. Using this with a girl you just met or that is coming over to your house for the first time can be misread as creepy. But for hooking up for the 2nd time, a fuck buddy, Netflix & chill situation or a girl you’ve been seeing for a while, this little tactic can work wonders.

1. G-Spot + Kiss Combo. This move requires some hand-eye coordination (more like finger-mouth coordination) but it revolves around utilizing the female sexual cheat code: the G-Spot. If you don’t know what the G-Spot is, Google it, do some reading and thank me later. For those of you in the know, what you’re going to want to do is when you’re finger a girl (either before, during or after sex) you’re going to want to find her G-Spot (which you should be doing anyways). Once you’ve located said spot, you going to want to pull your fingers up (gently to start, depending on how she responds) in order to stimulate it. Now, while you’re doing this, you are going to want to kiss her deeply at the same time as you finger move up, and then back you fingers down and pull back from the kiss. So imagine your head and fingers are on a see-saw; when your fingers move up, your head move in for the kiss, and when your fingers move back, so does your head. Repeat these strokes in a slow and rhythmic fashion and you can add intensity depending on how she responds.

What this move does is it allows you to add an element of sensual dominance to your sex game and it combine the sensation of G-Spot stimulation with the sensation of kissing, which acts as an enhancer for both. Now instead of her body receiving pleasure input from one part f her body, she’s receiving it from 2 and her body will bridge the sensations throughout it’s entirety. This move is great for warming up and escalating foreplay, as a way to change the pace during sex, or as an orgasmic wind-down exercise as you get a bit of recovery from fucking her against your favorite wall with the Power Lift.

And again, for the record; please remember to be safe. Sex is a fun and amazing experience, but you can take things to far and you can physically injure yourself or other person. Keep it consensual and use your judgement. Try one or all of these out and see how they fit into your sex game. There’s no point in getting your pickup and dating game to it’s peak if your dick game is trash. Go out there and rock her world. Be that sex god that she raves to her friends about.

Cheers.

Sexy Girl on bed

 

Appreciation Vs Value

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“Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.” –  Albert Einstein

One of the fundamental differences between the Alpha and Beta men that blue Pill men have a hard time differentiating is that one is appreciated, while the other is valued. For the Blue Pill man, appreciation = value, when this is not the case.

Appreciation

Appreciation is a nice thing to have on the surface, because it means people have noticed your efforts and are expressing recognition of it. The problem with appreciation is that the ball pretty stops at acknowledgement, but it seldom leads to action. This is why Blue Pill men are susceptible to the false sense of validation from appreciation, because they see that their investment and actions have been recognized so they feel that corresponding action is just around the corner.

What they fail to see is that appreciation is essentially a few nice words and a pat on the back, and that’s it. Hence why they tend to be orbiters of women that appreciate them for who they are but won’t have sex with them. They falsely assume that because these women appreciate them being different from other guys that eventually these women will come to act on that appreciation. But appreciation is an expression of gratitude, not an action of gratitude.

During my Blue Pill days I easily fell into that trap, as I had many female friends I was interested in dating. Doing the typical Blue Pill things I often received the “compliments” of “You’re a great guy, someone will be lucky to have you” or “I appreciate you as a person, don’t ever change.” In the beginning it was easy to keep on the same path because if people saw how different I was, eventually someone would act on it, right? But eventually the wool was pulled from my eyes as I noticed that what what people said the appreciated didn’t give me any success, and when I did a few things to break that mold, my success rate started improve dramatically. I suddenly realized that “appreciation” was a passive sentiment, not an actionable one.

Value

When a man is valued, he is a person worth going the extra mile and competing for. People will go out of their way to ensure that a man who is valued is happy, content and appeased. A man of value will enjoy the fullest of what people really have to offer, not just their gratitude. People will also make sacrifices for the sake of value as well. Value is an actionable state and you will want to take people at their actions and never their words.

I vividly remember when I had to breakup with my last ex girlfriend. She was a great person and actually was an excellent girlfriend, however, there where two major issues. First, what we wanted out of life was very different at the time, mainly she wanted to have kids very soon and I didn’t. Secondly, I am mildly allergic to dogs and she owned 3 of them, so there was always a bit of a hurdle. I knew calling it off was the right thing to do for the both of us, though it wasn’t an easy decision to make. During our conversation while I outlined those reasons, and I distinctly remember my ex offering to give up her pets for adoption. Now take a moment to think on that. She was willing to sacrifice her pets, which as many of you know how much women love their pets, which she’d also owned for years before even dating me in order to continue to our relationship. That’s an example of being valued. If she didn’t value you, she would have told me “see you later” and shown me the door. But she was willing to do whatever it took to keep me, and that’s a lesson I will not forget anytime soon.

That’s what makes the Red Pill a very empowering tool, is that one gets a much better sense of the how people actually operate. It helps you see appreciation for what it is, a carrot on the stick to keep you moving in one direction instead allowing you to see the entire carrot patch behind you.

To sum it all up

Be a person of value. If you find yourself being “appreciated,” then you’ve got some more work to do. This applies not only to your dating life but your professional life as well. How many employees are “appreciated” and then kick to the curb once their usefulness in done. A truly valued employee is someone that companies will try to poach and compete for and they will make large accommodations to keep them in the organization and happy. Entrepreneurship is the true way to go if you want to get ahead, but that’s another topic entirely and the point remains that if you presently have a job, you should test the waters to see if your company appreciates or values you. You should also do the same in all of your relationships, be them romantic, family or friends. Actions speak louder than words it’s always good to know who appreciates you will just stand back with a smile vs who values you and will take action on it. Know the difference.

Cheers.

Female Friends

The Butterfly Effect

Sexy Wet

“Small shifts in your thinking, and small changes in your energy, can lead to massive alterations of your end result.” ― Kevin Michel

We are the end results of the choices we have made in life, and more often than not, those choices our influenced by our way of thinking.

Years ago, when I was making my initial transition from Blue Pill to Red Pill, my roommate at the time had a female friend of his from the east coast coming to visit LA and hang. I was down for some adventure, so all met up at a local Japanese bar to take full advantage of happy hour. My roommate’s friend, who we’ll call Lauren, was a cute, bubbly Jewish girl with very good boobs and a high energy level. Me and her hit it off pretty much instantly, and we all put the word “happy” in happy hour.

After the Japanese bar we went back to our house to continue hanging. We put on a movie and Lauren and I got cozy on the coach, and the once the movie was over my roommate stated that he was tired and was headed to bed. I took Lauren in my room to hang, and then we proceeded to hook up.

We were laying in bed and she asked me “When did you know you wanted to hook up with me?” I replied with “I pretty much knew after a few minutes…When was the moment you knew?” She responded with something seemingly arbitrary, but it would have a profound impact on my thinking and Game:

“Pretty much right away. I mean you where this tall, hot guy that was a lot of fun from the start.”

Now, as much as I enjoy the compliment, the phrase “hot guy” caused a drastic shift in my mindset. As mentioned before, I was at the beginning stages of my Red Pill journey, but that phrase “hot guy” ran in my head. I’ve had some minor success with women before hand, but never had I ever thought of myself as a “hot guy.” To me, a “hot guy” was always some other guy, some shirtless and shredded Chad like Brad Pitt in fight club. But for this girl, I was that “hot guy” which led to us hooking up. From then on, that mental shift would have a butterfly effect of me realizing my value as well as farthing my trek into Red Pill conversion. I’m grateful that a positive moment helped me transition further into the Red Pill rather than a traumatic one. I’ve now incorporated the mindset of “I’m a hot guy” in my Game and it’s yielded big results, as it’s help to solidify my confidence which led to many successful interactions with women in the future.

I share this story as an anecdote for you, in that perhaps there is a limiting belief you have or you never tried thinking of yourself in a certain way. A small mental shift, like “why would she go out with me?” to “why wouldn’t she want to go out with me?” can have a large impact on your success rate as well as the choices you make. If you were like me and never thought of yourself as “a hot guy,” imagine yourself that way and see types of results it can produce. Small changes, be it changes in your thinking, your style, or physique can have a cascading butterfly effect in your Game. Now is the time to experiment with small tweaks and see what results they produce, and then build upon positive results. If you’re a well seasoned vet, then you already know the power of small change and you’re continuously implementing them to keep your Game at it’s peak.

Go out there and conquer your goals. Cheers.

Woman rain

Dirty Laundry

Dirty Laundry

“The secret of the creative life is how to feel at ease with your own embarrassment. We’re all in the dirty laundry business and we’re being paid to take risks and look silly. Race car drivers get paid to risk their lives in a more concrete way; we get paid to risk our lives in an emotional way.” – Paul Schrader

One of the most challenging things to deal with in life, especially in the dating game is with your past. Specifically things that embarrass you or may not put you in the best light. We all have these skeletons, be it a picture taken while drunk and passed out or that time you got caught having sex with the neighbor’s daughter in her car. So how do you deal with your personal dirty laundry?

3. Prevention is the best cure. First things first, is making wise decisions. If you find yourself at a party with people acting crazy and committing arson, then it might not be the wisest idea to be on video in your friend’s snap story yelling “burn it!” at the top of your lungs. A side effect of the internet age is that once things are out there, the are out there. So be smart with how you conduct yourself. I’m not saying don’t go out and have a good time, but just be conscious of the day and age we’re in. One thing you do could wind up all over the web.

2. Own it. What’s past has past, you can’t take it back. So the only thing you can do is own it and move on. When you attempt to bury it, lie about it, or run away from it, somehow it always manages to catch up with you. I’m not saying you should highlight it or lead off with it, but if it does come up, the way to handle it is to take ownership of it.

Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armour yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you. – Tyrion Lannister

1. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. Building on the second point of owning your past, you have to own it but that doesn’t mean that you have owe every a long, heartfelt sob story on how you where young and dumb.  You can be honest about your past in the sense of “yes that happened,” and you can leave it at that. Frankly most people don’t care and also trying to explain the past gives them ammo to be used against you in the future. I have plenty of things from my past that I have to own, like being very Blue Pill, being in debt and being homeless. Your past refines you, not defines you. So use it as fuel to drive your life in a positive direction. So should you find yourself confronted by the dirty laundry of your past, take ownership of it and let it be known that while you’re not proud of it, it is a par of your story and you’ve grown as a person and moved on from it.

Cheers.

Ass

Protecting Your Ass(ets): A Lesson In Rock-Solid Frame From John Cena

John Cena

“I have certain things that I stand for, certain things that I believe in, and if you don’t like it and you tell me to go to hell, I think that’s your God-given right as a fan. It’s one of those deals where I’m that one guy who is outside of that realm of good guy, bad guy. I’m just me, and it elicits a response both positive and negative.” – John Cena

As a man in this world, building an empire is hard and burdensome work, but highly rewarding. And while building an empire is hard enough, protecting it can be 3 times as hard. For this post, I wanted to showcase and breakdown a real world example of it being done right, by pro wrestler John Cena.

You can read the full story here, but the headline sums things up nicely:

“John Cena made Nikki Bella sign a 75-page contract before she moved in with him.”

1. Rock Solid Frame. There’s Frame, and then there is Rock-Solid-Frame. In an era were most guys have to ask permission from their significant others to leave the toilet seat up, Cena has shown that his Frame is as rock-solid as it gets. Here’s a clear example of a man who knows his value, has a woman he loves, yet still know’s how exert his Frame and he isn’t afraid lose her due to holding that Frame. She had to sign a document stating she was a “guest” in his house and should they break up, she would have to vacate. That is impenetrable Frame. That is the key factor in Frame execution that separates the boys who lose it all from the men who know how to protect their empires.

2. Your Mission Come First. Cena knows first hand how hard he worked to get where is is and just how quickly it can all be taken away:

“Cena eventually convinced his then-girlfriend to sign the contract, explaining that the agreement was done to protect his finances so he can support his family members.

“You met my family. You think my mom paid for that house herself? She didn’t. My brother lives in that house, they’re expecting a child. My younger brother, he’s got medical problems. I make sure he’s okay. I always tell them, I’m a horrible brother, but I try to be the best provider that I can,” Cena said in 2016. “I just don’t want to ever be in a position where that’s in jeopardy.””

Cena has mission to provide for his family and he knows how high those stakes are. Nothing comes before that and nothing will get in the way of that. This is a prime example of Heartiste Commandment III: “You shall make your mission, not your woman, your priority.” Write this down, tattoo it in your brain and see your life improve to levels never before seen. As Cena has done here, he’s not letting a woman jeopardize his ability to take care of his family because he keeps his mission as priority number 1. Did he love her? Yes he did. But he also loves his family and being able to take care of his family’s needs. And he knows good and well that if he’s losing everything he’s worked for in a messy divorce, he will lose his ability to keep providing for his family. Know how high the stakes are and let nothing stand in the way of your mission. This takes serious discipline to achieve and Cena has shown that he’s got it.

3. Game Recognize Game. As I’ve tweeted, I’m not one for celebrity gossip but in this instance I have to give credit where credit is due. What he did takes a lot of balls and I highly respect him for it. John Cena is a G. That is all.

Cheers.

John Cena Bird

Flying The Friendly Skies

Air Traffic Controller

“Fly the friendly skies” – United Airlines

As anyone experience with Game knows, whether you’re just starting to develop your Game or you’re an experienced player, spinning plates is an essential part of the Game and great skill to master. I’ve been doing a bit of traveling recently so this post is an inspired metaphor to help you develop this skill. Spinning plates, or seeing multiple people simultaneously, is just like being an air traffic controller. You are in the command tower and it’s your job to manage the flow of air traffic. You need to keep a keen eye on managing inbound and out going flights, as well as keeping a watchful eye on weather conditions to know when to delay or cancel flights. If you don’t, you’ll be the cause of a serious disaster.

1. Keep your schedule organized. Many times guys don’t manage or keep track of their time, so they wind up with a situation where two flights are due to land on the same runway at the same time, or they schedule one flight too close to the other which puts pressure on them to keep the first flight off the runway and any delays increases the stress tenfold. You calendar is your best friend, and most of you have phones with calendar apps. Use it and give yourself a proper chunk of time to enjoy each hangout and give you time to manage logistics comfortably. Stay organized and you’ll be amazed at how easy flight management is.

2. Keep a close eye on the weather. Are the skies clear and sunny? Are there strong winds blowing in from the north east, or a large storm system approaching from the south? As air traffic controller need to know the weather, you must also know the emotional weather of your plates. Is one of them going through a rough patch at work and is prone to acting out? Is another plate feeling you’ve become distant or not giving her enough attention? Or is there another plate that’s easy going and experiencing her horny week? The most effective way to manage plates and keep everything running smooth is to pay attention to these weather patterns. All it takes is for for one category 5 hurricane to sneak up on you and then suddenly you’ll find you need to cancel all flights to deal with this situation. Keep mental notes on how things are going with your plates, that way if there’s a troubling weather pattern approaching you can delay or even cancel flights accordingly.

3. You dictate the schedule. You’re in the controller’s chair, so you need to utilize your Frame to keep everything going. Is a flight straying off course? You need to put out a call to get it to make a course correction. Is a flight from Kansas trying to land 30 minutes early? You need to ensure there are no conflicts. Has another flight popped in but doesn’t have a gate to park in? You’ll have to see if there is an available and not be afraid to let that flight sit on the tarmac if there isn’t. There’s a lot of women out there and there’s only 1 of you. So you’ll have to manage your time and your boundaries so you can get the most out of each experience with them. The biggest take away is that you are in control of your situations, and you’ll need to understand this to effectively spin plates to heart’s content.

That’s it for this post, I’ve got some flights I need to schedule myself, but I wish you good fortune and smooths flights!

Cheers.

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L’art De La Féminité (The Art of Femininity)

Jill Hennessy

“Femininity can be a powerful thing.” – Jillian Rose Banks

This post is a special one, in that it’s not discussing theory or field reports. Sometimes in the Red Pill community everyone gets so caught up in highlighting the negative or frustrating aspects of women, that all of the beauty and wonderment of them gets lost in the shuffle. This post is a shout out to femininity, to all the women who embrace it and to the women who know the art of it.

In the modern world, the art of femininity has become an increasingly rare commodity. Feminism and the betafaction of men has done a lot of damage to men with the Blue Pill, but it’s also done a lot of damage to women in their ability to express what truly is an art from. Like masculinity which is an art into itself, femininity has be chastised and turned on itself in an attempt to warp it into a perverted version of masculinity. But where there is oppression and attack, there is resistance, and prosperity.

Shout out to women who understand and embody the lost art of femininity. Women who look feminine and in their own unique way express their femininity through their actions. To the girls that know how to rock a stunning dress, know to utilize their feminine charm to create a sense of mystery and intrigue, to the women who know how to be a proper counter balance to men without trying to become men. Shout out to the women who grind right along with men in their own hustle rather than solely use them, who know how to blow our minds in the bedroom, and know how to a take care of themselves. Shout out to women who know how to cook, how to appreciate fine dining and how to make our days a bit brighter. And a big shout out to girls that are into threesomes, because that’s just awesome.

Women are a compliment to a man’s life, never the sole focus of it. But they can be a massive compliment with a very capable woman. In order to experience that as a man, you yourself must be a man that can bring it out of a woman. If she’s a Ferrari but you only know how to drive Honda Civics, then you need to get some driving school in and learn how to master that Ferrari to get the most out of it. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, women can be incredibly powerful, amazing and dynamic experiences. One of the great joys in life is coming across a truly feminine woman, who exudes and radiates it in every way. You represent the best that womankind has to offer.

Cheers.

Hannah Ferguson for Ellipse Serenity Lingerie lookbook (Summer 2013)

 

 

A Bottle of Wine, A Service Elevator & A Hot Tub

Champaign Pour

“Life is either a great adventure or nothing.” – Helen Keller

Based of the title of this post, what do these 3 things have in common? They can all be key elements of an adventure than ends in getting you laid. Allow me to give you a field report of a crazy adventure that happened down in San Diego a few years ago.

The Story

I was in San Diego for a conference, and the company I was with was in talks with another company about doing a joint-partnership. We all met up for a lunch meet and great, so we all could get to know each other’s teams. One of the girls from this other team was a very cute girl named Stacy. She had dirty blonde hair, blue eyes, a great smile and very solid body. She was older than me but had a very bubbly personality. I took mental note of this as we proceeded to have a meeting after the lunch about how our companies would work together.

The following night, there was a party being thrown by one of the major sponsors of the conference at this club and both of our companies where attending this party. Everyone on my team and the other team secured a booth for both teams and then the bottles of wine started flowing. I began talking with the members of the other team and then started talking with Stacy, who turns out is from the mid west and hasn’t been in San Diego before. Somehow the guess my age game came up and she asked me to guess her age. I responded by saying “That’s tough because you look 22 but you carry yourself with a mature presence, so I’m inclined to think you’re older.” She blushed a bit and said “So what age?” “28,” I replied. “I’m 37” she said. I responded with, “I don’t believe you, let me see your ID.” She replied “Seriously?” I then held out my hand and munitioned for an ID. She then got out her driver’s license and handed it to me. I scanned it over for a minute and then I said in a playful tone “I know a fake ID when I see one, you’re not fooling me with this.” She blushed again and took back her licence. “I’m not sure what to tell you,” she said, at which point I asked her strong her dance moves where and a group of us went to the dance floor to dance to the music played by this great cover band.

After some solid dancing we made our way back to the booth. “What’s the game plan after this?” I asked Stacy. She told me her hotel had a rooftop bar that she wanted to check out. Since it was about 1:15 am and the party was winding down, I said “that’s an excellent idea.” I then grabbed the nearly full  bottle of wine off the table, handed her a glass, and took a glass for myself. We then strolled out the back entrance and somehow found a cab on the street, that shuffled us back to her hotel. We got into the hotel and took the elevator to the floor below the rooftop bar. “I forgot we need a certain room key to get up to the roof,” she said. “Let’s explore,” I said as we walked into the hallway.  we walked for a minute or two before we came to a door that had the word “Service” written above it. The door was slightly popped out, but still closed. I pulled out my hotel’s room key card, and then slide it into the part of the door where the bolt mechanism was. After a few seconds, I was able to get the key card in and open the door. “Follow me,” I said, as we walked through to the service hallway and found the service elevator. “Bingo” I said, as we got into the service elevator and then took it up to the rooftop. Once we got out to head to the bar, we saw it was empty as the staff was closing the place down. Turns out it was 2:15  am by the time we up there, so we had missed our window.

“Time for plan B” I said, as we took the main elevator back down to ground floor. We made our way to the hot tub and dipped our legs in as we sipped wine and she proceeded to talk about her background and the places she’s traveled. after about 10 minutes a security guard came and told us the pool area closes at midnight. “Apologies, we just had to dip our toes in for a few minutes, if that’s cool with you sir,” I said to the guard. He gave us a nod and said, “If you happen to be hear on my next round, then I’ll have to boot you out.” “Understood,” I said to him as I gave him a wave.

I the focused my attentions on Stacy. I had made a few attempts to escalate the kino during conversation, however, Stacy was a very avid talker so she focused on keeping the conversation going. After 30 more minutes of conversation, it was nearing 3 am and I reached a point where I was ready for sleep. “This has been a grand adventure” I said, “I’ll walk you back to your room, but it’s late so no bed time story for you.” She laughed as we got up and we went back up to her room which was about 15 floors up. At this point I was looking forward to getting back to my hotel to get some sleep as I had a fun night and did what I could to try to get some action going. I gave her a good by hug, which then led to us making out, and that led to a crazy sex marathon in which we had sex in literally every part of the room, from the bed to the couch to the shower the following morning. She was a bit of a screamer, and hearing her scream my name for about an hour certainly made the long conversation at the hot tub worth it.

As I was leaving her room around 9 am, the couple in the room next door was also leaving at the same time. They both gave a me a funny look, and then the woman said, “Good morning…Alpha.” I smirked back and said “A good morning indeed,” as I gave them a point and head nod and proceeded to take the elevator down the lobby with them.

Takeaways

4. Persistence is key. Just when I thought my night was over, it actually was just starting. It’s always up to you to see how long you’re willing to ride things out, but you might be surprised how they turn very quickly in your favor if you stick with it. Obviously paying careful attention to signs is important. In this case this girl keep talking and conversing, but her body language never closed herself of or implied that she was uninterested. If a girl is giving you clear “no’s” then it’s time ti call it quits. But if you’re getting good signals than it’s worth exploring.

3. Take the lead. We left the one party to go checkout the bar at her hotel. When we couldn’t get to the roof, I found a way into the service entrance. When the bar on the turned out to be closed, I took her to the hot tub. Then from the hot tub I walked her back to her room.

2. Don’t be afraid to break a few rules. Taking the bottle of wine, making our way into the service elevator and staying in the hot tub after closing were all fun things that broke a few rules. Obey the law, but break the rules, as the wine was paid for, the service entrance door was not fully closed, and the guard turned out to be cool with us kicking it at the hot tub after hours. This showed that I’m a man that does what he wants, when he wants, and doesn’t follow the rules everyone else does.

1. Hotel sex in the morning with a superb view of San Diego is awesome. That is all.

Bron

 

5 Reasons to Have Female Friends

Female Friends

“I think there’s something to the old saying that women use sex to get love, and men use love to get sex. And love is really just a word we use to describe a close bond, or relationship, between two people. Men have been programmed to want sex, so they do whatever is necessary to be in a relationship with a woman. And a woman is programmed to want the stability and (financial) security of a relationship, so she offers the man what he wants: sex.” ― Oliver Markus, Why Men And Women Can’t Be Friends

The topic of female friends is always an interesting debate within the Red Pill community. Some say never have them, others say it’s ok to have one or two. Personally, I find this topic to be pretty interesting and I have my own thoughts on the subject. As a Red Pill man I think it’s essential to have a core group of Red Pill (or close to it) male friends. As for female friends,  I think it’s not only possible but it’s important to have them as well. Below are my top 5 reasons why:

5. They provide first-hand validation of Red Pill truths. Once you become Red-Pill aware, you can’t unsee the truths it holds. This will be extremely evident in all of your relationships, especially those with pre-existing female friends. But, what this does allow is for you to go “go behind enemy lines” so to speak, in that you get a first hand view into confirming these truths for yourself. Suddenly, things you used to take at face value you can suddenly see the mechanisms behind the words or action, especially when your female friends discuss dating.  It’s always good to get a live reminder of how women operate so that way you can see just how Blue Pill men get used by women, but also frustrate women at the same time. You also get to see confirmations of how Alpha and Red Pill men are perceived and treated and these first hand observations confirm things in ways far more meaningfully than a forum post. So to sum it up, having female friends is a great way to get field confirmation of Red Pill truths so you can better understand them, learn about them, and then apply them for your own means.

4. They can be great bait. Female friends, especially attractive ones, are excellent bait, in the sense that they are perfect for arousing the curiosity of other females. Once you learn mastery over not being phased by a woman’s beauty and you adopt the abundance mentality, then being friends with attractive women is very easy. And an unintended perk of that is if you invite these female friends out to a fun venue, say a bar, club, event or even just the park; all other females in the vicinity will be instantly curious. I’ve been approached by many women when I am out with a female friend or several, and the first thing they want to know if “what’s your situation?” Having attractive female friends creates a rudimentary form of social proof. And when it comes to nightlife it makes the relationship very symbiotic, in that your female friends get to enjoy your presence and check out cool places, and you get to have instant social proof you can leverage to pickup other girls. Now remember your Red Pill principals, on having strong Frame will allow you to fully maximize this. If you’re that guy that’s with a bunch of female friends but you have no Frame and project a Beta vibe, then you’re going to be perceived as a girlfriend yourself. So the 2 big things to remember are keep your Frame strong and the more attractive your friends are, the better it the situation will be for you.

3. They can keep your plates in check. Another perk that female friends can provide, especially very attractive ones, is that they can keep your plates in check. We’ve all been in that situation where a plate gets a little too comfortable and starts trying up the shit test ante. Having solid Frame keeps that in check, but also doing a hangout with a plate and an attractive female friend works effectively in creating that sense of light dread. It’s a very live reminder of “I’m a man who keeps the company of attractive women, so I don’t need you as my sole source company.” Girls are very competitive, so playing that nature against itself works very effectively in your favor. And if you’re still a little Blue Pill and think that this is somehow morally manipulative, you need to understand that women are naturally far better players than men and are playing their own game. So you either need to be superior at your own game or find yourself trapped within the confines of her game.

2. They can be friends with benefits. If you have your Frame in check and are a high value man, then you’d be amazed at what situations you can create for yourself. Friends with benefits is always a great situation to have, and in order to have that situation, you need to first be friends. If you stick to your Red Pill principals and work an developing yourself and your Frame, then you’ll be able to foster these situations much more frequently at your discretion. The more experience you have the women, the better you’ll be with them, to them and for them.

1. It’s just good networking. One of my favorite quotes is “Life is a contact sport. The more people you contact, the better you’ll do. Having female friends is good networking, as with any friend it can lead to other romantic pursuits with other friends they have, experiences at at events, or even career opportunities. The key is to ensure that if you’re going to have a friendship, with anyone, they are a person of good character that adds value to your life, just like you will add value to theirs. Everything I listed above only works if you are a man of value who provides some type of value. If you’re just looking to be a leech or a taker without giving anything in return, then you need to do some seriously self evaluation and turn that ship around.

All in all having female friends can provide many perks and also helps give a balanced perspective on life. Remember, the purpose of the Red Pill isn’t to hate women or be anti women, it’s to help men better understand them so we can be the “men who other women want to fuck, and other men want to be.” If you hate women, then you’ve completely missed the point.

Thinking Man

An “Honest” Try

Trying too hard

“Above all, don’t lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.” ― Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Brothers Karamazov

For this post, I wanted to tackle an insidious phrase I hear over and over again, which at it’s core is one of the strongest Blue Pill shackles that keeps men chained to terrible situations. This phrase has all the right words and seems to express what men should be doing. But in reality, this phrase is a warped mix of self-deception that preys on a man’s sense of honor and doing the right thing. That phrase is:

“I’m giving it an honest try.”

The phrase of “I’m giving it an honest try,” or any variation of it (“We’re giving it an honest shot”, etc.) is such a sneaky phrase because on the surface it sounds like the right thing. It’s saying that a man is wanting to give a relationship a go with his full attention, desire and will power. It’s supposedly saying this man is a mature adult and is taking responsibility for himself and for his relationship. After all, men are the ones who constantly are in need of “growing up” right? What is so wrong with admitting to trying your best and giving a relationship your all?

To begin with, this phrase it built entirely on Blue Pill honor-bound logic that places the man’s internal value far below that of his partner in the relationship. “I’ve giving it an honest try” is always uttered as a justification that society and men tell themselves for sticking with a partner that they are not in a good situation with. This phrase never appears when a situation is solid, operating withing a good, healthy Frame. No one in those situations is “giving it an honest try.” That phrase always appears when there’s constant fighting, situational turmoil, and drama. Then mostly men will utter this phrase as if it’s justification of all the strife and magically makes all of the bad acceptable. It’s a phrase used as an end-all-be-all statement that supposed to be taken at face value and left be.

The next part of this phrase that’s very insidious is that no one bothers to ask the question of what does an “honest” try actually mean? As I mentioned before, this phrase is only used to attempt to overwrite a bad and dysfunctional situation. So are all the healthy situations “dishonest?” The true answer is that the “honest” part is a self-deception for the Blue Pill man. It’s a lie he tells himself over and over hoping that it’ll become true someday. “If only saying it, would make it so” (I couldn’t help but to toss a Star Wars quote in there).  The reality is that this idea of an “honest” try is completely female-centric Blue Pill conditioning that says “your duty as a man is to put up with this girl’s bullshit no matter what the cost to you is. It doesn’t matter how raw the deal is for you, you owe her an “honest” effort in the situation.” So keep on trying and sacrificing for the sake of being an “honest” man. You can see why it’s just a commonly used phrase for the Blue Pill man.

For men, this phrase is essentially the guy saying “I’m telling myself a dishonest lie. I’m abdicating my Frame to appease this girl in the vain hope that she’ll appreciate the sacrifice and find a way to respect me.” And as those who are familiar with the Red Pill know, once you give up on your Frame you will be eaten alive. Women don’t want you to cave to their temperamental storms, they want you to weather them and remain true to yourself and unshaken. If you can’t keep yourself protected from her temperament, how will you be able to protect her from the world? How will you be able to handle yourself when the tough situations in life come for you both? Women are constantly testing men because if she’s going to invest in a partner, she’s going to make damn sure her partner can handle himself and his business, regardless of what gets tossed his way. So if you’re losing your shit over a girl’s behavior, that shows to her that she can pierce your armor and therefor the world can pierce your armor as well. How can you possibly be a worthy shield if she can break you so easily?

If you find yourself saying this phrase, then I have news for you: It’s time to NEXT this girl and move on. Saying this phrase is an omission of relinquishing Frame and any chance of legitimacy has been lost. It’s far better to cut things off and move on before your soul gets ravaged and drained. Women are supposed to make your dick hard, not your life. If it’s the latter, you need to reevaluate your situation and see why your Frame isn’t in check. Then you need to be truly honest with yourself and proceed from there. The only “honest try” you need to be giving is to your mission in life and your own self improvement.

Ex