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“Life is available only in the present moment. If you abandon the present moment you cannot live the moments of your daily life deeply.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

I just recently finished up a trip to a conference out in Texas, and I must say, conferences and trade shows are a great place for networking, meeting interesting people, and to game. You have people from all over the place working for a multitude of companies and it makes for a very conducive environment for the adventurous. I may have to do a post/podcast episode exclusively on the subject, but for this post, I’ll be detailing what transpired this past trip.

I get to the trade show floor so I can hop to my booth and get things ready to go. The show opens, and people start pouring in to checkout different booths, network and grab a lot of free swag. I alwyas make sure I have a free hour or so to stroll the floor myself; there’s always a chance to learn something new and it’s an excellent way to meet some very attractive girls working their booths. Before I took my break, I noticed that at the booth directly across from mine was being manned by 3 people. One young guy who was fairly tall, another older woman, and another woman looked to be a few years younger than me. She was petite, with a very pretty face, deep green eyes, reddish-brown hair down to her shoulders and she was wearing these tight white jeans that highlighted her great legs and fantastic ass. After taking notice of her, I had a very practical and brief thought: “I should have sex with this girl,” I thought to myself.

I then took my break and made my rounds, chatting it up with several people at various booths, includding to stunning brunnetes that were working a booth together at the far end of the conference. One was married and the other appeared single, so I made mental note of it before making my way back to my booth. Since things in my section were slow, I caught the perky girl in the white jeans looking in the direction of my booth, so I waved at her and motioned for her to come over.

“Hi booth neighbor, I’m Alpha J,” I said as I introduced myself and shook her hand.

“Hello neighbor!,” she enthusiastically replied. “My name is Tori.” I then asked her about what her company does and she proceeded to tell me all about it. I found out that she was from the Midwest and this was her first time at a trade show. I told her as a trade show pro that she should make sure she visits as many booths as possible, especially the ones manned by 1 bored person that’s starved for human interaction. She giggled at the thought and then a customer of mine stopped by so I excused myself from the conversation and tended to my client.

The show continued for another hour and then ended, and most people at the trade show went to opening night after party…and by party essentially it was people rushing to the bar set for drinks and raiding the food stands. Thanks to a colleague i was able to sneak into the “party” with having to way over pay to get in, and proceeded to chat with a few other industry folks I knew. I then took a moment to scan the room and then I  noticed Tori across the room at a table with her coworkers and she was looking in my direction, then I realized she was looking at me. I gave her a head nod which she returned, then I went back to the bar to grab a beverage and wound up talking with a prospective client in the process. Once that conversation was over, I made my way to Tori’s table where she was sitting with her coworkers.

“What trouble are you kids causing?” I asked. “We’re not sure,” one of her coworkers replied. I then let them know that since I was in a new city I’d be on a mission to do some exploring and that they all were welcome to join me up. They all nodded and thought that might be a fun idea, and since I was out of cards I wrote my number down and gave it to Tori and told her to text me her info so I could keep them all in the loop. As a side bar, when in a professional setting and you’re trying to Game, it’s best to do the business card exchange so you have some plausible deniability as well as you don’t want to the girl to feel like she’s acting slutty in front of her colleagues. Hence why I gave her my number as I had a strong feeling she’d hit me up when the coworkers were not around. Know the difference between personal time and work time.

I then made my way to another group of people I knew and then left the party after about another 30 minutes. It was about 8 pm so I went to dinner with a colleague and got a text from an unknown number. “Is this Alpha J?” The text asked. “The 1 and only” I replied. “Hi! This is Torie.” I received back. She then followed that up with “Are you going out tonight?” Perfect, I thought to myself. “Absolutely, wrapping up dinner I’ll let you know where I head out.” I then proceeded to have dinner and then on the way back to my hotel at 9 I sent a text “Done with dinner going to find some local adventure.” I got back to the hotel, got a good shower, and then scoped out a few places. It was now 9:45 and I hadn’t heard back, so I found a chill looking spot on Yelp and headed there. I also Yelped another cool looking spot that would be a good place to potentially meet some local talent or have Tori meet me at if I heard from her.

It’s now 11 pm and I am hanging at this cool spot that has a bar, a few locals and has a chill vibe. It was cool, but I figured I’ll head to the other place I looked up in about 10 minutes. Suddenly I get a text from Tori, “Are you still out?” I reply “I’m heading to this call spot call The Bar, you guys should come join.” She replied with “My colleagues are being lame and calling it early.” I respond back with “don’t be lame like them. come hang.” She then replies with the very dangerous “Hmmm…” “To which I respond with “Come check it out and have 1 drink. Then you can pull a Cinderella at midnight and vanish.” A minute passed and then she said “Ok, I’ll be there in 7 minutes.”

3 minutes later I arrive at The Bar, and it’s a pretty cool spot. they have a live band playing some good jazz in the front, and then in the back they have a full bar with bartenders rocking slacks, vests, and rolled up selves, giving the place a 1920’s vibe. They also have chalk walls with a list of specialty drinks written on them, giving the place a cool vibe. Well done to the venue. I order a cocktail and the bartender says “Right away sir, but just to let you know that’s one of our pricier cocktails…it’s $9.” I love how much cheaper it is to drink just about everyone else but LA, so I chuckled and said “I’m sure it’s worth the premium.” I scanned the bar and noticed this group of 3 girls close by, and one of them took immediate notice of me. “How is your night going?” she asked me. She was cute, a brunette with a full figure, not fat, but a had nice curves. “It’s off to an adventurous start” I replied. I then told her I was visiting from out of town and was having fun exploring the city. She told me she was out celebrating her cousin’s birthday and some how we got on the topic of meeting people. She then asked me if I was married and said “with my luck, you are because everyone I meet is.” I said “As your luck would not have it, I am not married.” This caught her attention and I could see the ye fucking starting to happen. Her cousin and other friend then went to the front to get a closer seat to the band and then she said “We’ll be around for a bit,” and headed off to join them.

About a minute later Tori walked in and greeted me at the bar. We exchanged a little small talk and pointed to the walls where the specialty drinks were listed. I gave her a suggestion and then got her drink ordered, and then we talked a bit about our backgrounds. After a little bit, we noticed this crazy looking cocktail being made and ordered one, then I said “let’s see this music up close” and lead her to a booth in the front next to the band. We listened to some songs and then made out in the booth. At about 12:30 Tori noticed the time, and I said “Uh oh Cinderella, looks like you’re out past curfew. I’ll walk you back to your hotel to make sure you get ok.”

We then walked and continued talking about random thing and then made it back to her hotel and at the lobby bar lounge was a loud but fun group of guys. Apparently Tori had hung out with them earlier and it turns out they are the producers of the trade show. She then asked me if I wanted to hang with them to which I replied “I’m down.” No let’s pause a minute here, as some of you may wonder why I opted for that. The “do you want to hang” is a bit of a shit test in disguise, as it’s bit of LMR. By being flexible and down to hang, what I was saying is that I’m interested in having fun and a good time with cool people ad am not just looking to get laid. I am not outcome dependent and am able to go with the flow. So we went and joined the producers, who turned out to be a very hilarious group of guys.

After some great conversation, at 2 am when the hotel bar closed, one of the guys suggested we head to the pool to keep handing, and I said “the adventure continues”. We made our way to the pool and hopped the very short gate to it, as it was closed, and sat for a few minutes. Surely enough, security came and nicely asked us to leave, and at that point I told the guys my adventure time was done. I looked at Tori and said “We’ll I promised to ensure you get back to your room safely so I’ll walk you back and then bounce back to my hotel.” She agreed and then I walked her back up to her room. We got inside the room and she thanked me for a fantastic evening, to which I replied “That’s my specialty.” She then gave me a very long good bye hug, and then we strarted making out. About 5 minutes later, she was naked, i was just in my socks, but I was holding her up and having passionate sex with her against the wall, and then on the bed. We had a very long and passionate sex session, and one thing I will say is that girl can fuck. I’m talking about the 100 % pure passion, hot sweaty fucking that taps into your most primal instincts and makes you feel alive type of fucking. We had about 3 or so rounds before semi-passing out, exhausted and drenched in sweat and scent of sex. What a delightful place to be.

It was about 7 am and I needed to get back to my hotel to prepare for the next day of the trade show, so I got up, got my clothes on, and then sat on the side of the bed next to her fully naked body with a sheet very elegantly covering her.  She looked up at me and smiled in a way that only a genuinely feminine girl can smile. Now one thing that will level up our Game more than anything is being fully present in the moment. Enjoy the moment and relish it, because there will never be another one exactly like it and once the moment is gone, it’s gone forever. So as I sat on the side of the bed leaning over her, I looked deep into her green eyes and then spent a few seconds studying every last detail of her face. In that exact moment, she was the most beautiful woman in the world to me. She clearly picked up on this and got enveloped into the moment as she suddenly blushed and then said “What?” with a slight giggle. I just smirked, leaned in and gave her a passionate kiss. Then I stood up and said “I bid the fair well, ma lady.” I then turned towards the door and heard her say “Wait a moment.” I turned around and she said “Just one more thing before you leave.” So I walked over to the bed, figuring I’d give her another goodbye kiss, and then she quickly and very elegantly pulled my pants down, wrapped her lips around my cock, and then proceeded to passionately suck me off. Once I was finished, she looked up at me and said, “Now you’re good to go.”

I left the room and called an Uber to take my back to my hotel, and I got back to my room a little bit after 8 am. I needed a shower and so as I got ready I caught a glimpse of my back in the mirror and then noticed that is was covered in red marks from her nails, as if I had been mauled by a wolverine. I smiled to myself as I looked over the battle scars of victory, and then hoped in a refreshing and cleansing hot shower.

Takeaways

5. When traveling, the rules of Text Game are a little different. With travel text game, you need to remember that you have a time constraint and act with a sense of urgency. Don’t act thirsty, but also know that you have a limited time so you want to make he most of it. Your response window can be shortened for the sake of time and you’ll want to really focus on meetup logistics.

4. Be in the moment. So many times guys get wrapped up in getting laid that they completely overlook the present moment. How can a girl fully experience who you are and connect with you if you aren’t fully there? As the Jedi saying goes, “Be mindful of the future, but not at the expense of the present.” So take your time and enjoy the present moment. Relish it. Be fully present and involved in it, and see where it takes you. Enjoy the process of seduction, for in the process is the art and a whole lot of fun.

3. Use your energy to draw people into your Frame. Whether you are a high energy person or a more calm and reserved person, learning how to draw people in with your energy is paramount to your Game success. If you’re a high energy person, leverage that to generate momentum and excitement that makes it easy for other people to get swept up in. If you’re reserved, use your presence to slow things down and create a sense of intimacy. Whatever your forte, utilize it to extend your Frame and you’ll see wonder happen with your results. In this case, my energy was looking for adventure, and so exploring a cool place in a new city was my mission and Tori was along for that ride.

2. Be open to seeing where the adventure takes you. This leads back to being in the moment, but it’s a point that I can’t stress enough. It’s great to have an end goal in mind, but don’t railroad an encounter to get to that destination, because you’ll find more often than not that you’ll get there alone. Instead, detach yourself from the outcome and see what the situation brings you. going out to meet girls is like a conversation, you have a place where you start and you know where you want to wind up, but you never know what topics will be presented (girl’s you’ll meet) or what opportunities will arise. So be open letting opportunities present themselves and if necessary you can create your own opportunities, but do so within the flow as opposed to trying to steamroll everything to your will. In this case, going from the bar back to her hotel and then hanging with the producers and then breaking into the pool made the night a very memorable one. Was my hotel way closer? Absolutely, but by focusing on having fun in the moment it allowed my connection with Tori to build on a deeper level which culminated in an explosive sex session.

1. Midwest girls are unbeatable when it comes to sexual customer service.  If you need more proof, you can discover how I became known as “The Muffin Man.”

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Cheers.

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The Sean Whalen Interview – Episode 5 Of The Alpha Jedi Podcast

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“If you wanna help the poor; don’t be poor. “ – Sean Whalen

In this highly inspiring episode of the Alpha Jedi Podcast, I had the immense honor of having renown entrepreneur, coach and thought leader Sean Whalen as a guest. He’s built multiple businesses, created the Lions Not sheep Organization, is a best-selling self-published author, has run for congress and has raced in the Baja 500, to name a few highlights.

In this not-to-be-missed 45 minute episode, we discuss, the need for personal accountability, Donald Trump, the challenges men face today, and much, much more.

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The Family Alpha Interview On Episode 3 Of The Alpha Jedi Podcast

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“Your paycheck does not earn you respect. The gifts you buy your family, that doesn’t make you a leader. What they need is you. You know, they need your presence, not presents. “ – The Family Alpha

For a very special 3rd episode dropping in time for Father’s Day, I had the great pleasure of having renown blogger, family man and writer The Family Alpha as a guest. He’s been a featured speaker at The 21 Convention, is a published author, and a proud a father of 2, to name a few highlights.

In this 45 minute episode, we discuss, the modern state of masculinity, The 21 Convention, the challenges father’s face today, the NFL and much, much more. Check it out for free:

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The Alpha Jedi Podcast – Episode 2 The Girl Game Guide

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“Just play. Have fun. Enjoy the game.” – Michael Jordan

The 2nd episode of the Alpha Jedi Podcast has dropped, and sparked by popular demand this episode is focusing on Girl Game. This topic is something with little coverage and I had put together a written guide on some of the types of women you can encounter.

In this episode, discuss some of the various strategies and types of Girl Game, what to be aware of and look for, and much, much more. Check it out for free:

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Stargirl

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“I just want to see you shine ’cause I know you are a Stargirl” – Stargirl, by The Weeknd

This post is one that I’ve alluded to in a few previous posts and I am now finally getting around to fully detailing the story. This set of field reports, or saga I suppose, is based on a girl who’s been referenced in previous posts as Tess, though my nickname for her is Stargirl. This is because the vibe of the song Stargirl by the Weekend fits her personality perfectly.

I first met Stargirl at a rooftop hot spot on a Thursday when she was in town for a conference. While I was busy afterwards that night with my First Wheel, I had planned to see Stargirl on Saturday night. The next night was a Friday, and I had over a girl that I had been hooking up with for a few month’s over. We had a great thing, in which we would Netflix and Chill while ordering in food. This particular Friday we were making our way through the end of a series and we started the last episode at 11 pm, after a fun session of sex that started at about 9 pm. The episodes of this particular series where an hour long, so my though was more sex would ensue after. At 11:30 pm I get a text from Stargirl. Her and her coworkers are at a fun club that’s about 25 min from my house and she’s love it if I came out. I let her know that I’m in the middle of something, but should be free to head over in 30. Once the episode ended around midnight, the girl l I’m presently with remarks about how much she hates having to leave. “Yeah it’s a shame,” I respond, thinking about how quickly I could take a shower. “I don’t wanna leave,” she responded, in a playfully pouty tone. Well, I thought to myself, It’s time for you to get going.

Despite some effort on my part, it wasn’t until around 12:45 am when she finally left. I hit up Stargirl to let her know that I wouldn’t make it in time, but to let me know what she’s up to the next day. She responded letting me know she’ll do that, and then I get to bed, now 0-1 in my attempts to see Stargirl.

Saturday night came by, as I mentioned in a previous post, that night didn’t work out because I had another girl I was going to hook up with that unknowingly wanted to meet me at the same venue I was going to see Stargirl at. I wasn’t able to redirect either to a different spot, so now I was 0-2 in my attempts to see Stargirl.

Sunday, I hit up a brunch spot by the beach with some friends. I’m not sure how, but that Sunday brunch turned into an all day-rager as we wound up bringing girls to hang at our table, bouncing to a hotel party, then recruiting from that hotel to hit up a restaurant next door for snacks, then we all went to another bar up the street and befriended a fun group, and then finally wound up at a local dive close by with our new friend friends. We started brunch at 11 am and now it was 8 pm as we were at this dive bar. Stargirl texted me to let me know that her and her coworkers would be back at her hotel getting drinks at the bar at 10 pm. I let her know I’d be there, and continued to hang with my friends and our other collected peoples until about 9:30. I then left to go meetup with Stargirl and her coworkers.

I arrived at the hotel and rolled in to find Stargirl with 3 of her coworkers, one of whom I’d met with her on Thursday. Her other coworkers were women, and they were all equally hot. I was there to see Stargirl, but trying to focus got a little challenging for the first few minutes. I then grabbed a drink and we all started exchanging fun stories of shenanigans and mischief, and one by one her coworkers left to rest up for their conference in the morning. Lastly it was me and Stargirl left. “I have wine in my room” she said to which I responded “That sounds like an excellent idea.” We then went up to her room and had a glass of wine as we discussed other fun stories from our pasts.

My favorite conversations with girls are the ones you have right before you hook up for the first time; when both of you are acutely aware that sex is imminent. It’s a fun and exciting place as you both know a secret and the anticipation of how it’s going to unfold has yet to be revealed. This was very much one of those conversations. We both got through about half a glass of wine before we wound up in the bed, at which point things escalated into a vigorous sex session. Finally, after being 0-2, the 3rd night was the charm.

I left her hotel at 5:45 am to get back to my side of town, which only took 20 minutes. I stopped by McDonald’s for some victory breakfast (2 egg & bacon McMuffin’s with orange juice) which is the first time I had been to a McDonald’s in years, and then got a little sleep at my place. Later that day Stargirl texted me “You wore me out. And the night before I have to be on my feet for 7 hours.” I sent a response of “I’ll have to come finish the job since you still have your ability to stand.” She sent a few laughing emoji’s and then said “Tuesday gives me time to recover.” So that Monday we both rested, and then on Tuesday, her last night in town, we met up an a beach side bar for a drink and to hear stories from the conference, before heading back to her hotel and then continuing the sex-o-thon.

The next morning, I again left at 5:45 am and had another victory breakfast from McDonald’s (it’s close, convenient and most importantly open at that time) and again got some sleep. A month and half later I wound up taking a trip up to San Fran with a friend of mine for a weekend, and I wound up meeting up with Stargirl again, but this time the sex-o-than took place at her house.

Takeaways:

3. Persistence pays off. Since I was dealing with a time constraint, I made sure that at least 1 night was open for a meetup. Despite being thwarted 2 nights in a row, the 3rd night things worked out. Sometimes thing won’t work out the first or second time. But if you have a plan and keep at it, good things can happen.

2. If a girl’s about it, she’s about it. From the fact that when we met and began making out withing minutes to the fact that she hit me up every night she was in town, Stargirl was down. Always look at people’s actions and not their words, so if you’re getting “mixed signals,” then she’s not feeling you. As Rollo says, “the medium is the message.”

1. Egg McMuffins aren’t that bad. Cheers.

 

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The Ed Latimore Interview On The Alpha Jedi Podcast

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“I just wanna get hit real fast to make sure I’m not made out of paper” – Ed Latimore

To launch the inaugural episode of the Alpha Jedi Podcast, I had the honer of having  heavyweight boxer,  Twitter philosopher and blogging prodigy Ed Latimore. He’s a recent graduate with a degree in physics and was also recently interviewed on the Christian McQueen podcast and The Art of Manliness podcast, to name a few highlights.

In this 1 hour episode, we discuss social dynamics, the modern state of men and women, the mindset of fighting in the ring and much, much more. Check it out for free:

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3 More Sex Tips To Up Your Sex Game

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“If a man can possess a woman sexually -really possess- he won’t need to control her ideas, her opinions, her clothes, her friends, even her other lovers.”― Toni Bentley

Since my first post on the subject was such a large hit and led to many request for a follow up, in this post I’ll be detailing some more tips for the bedroom that you can use to take your sex game to the next level. As always, I’m talking about sex between consenting adults, which is the only type of sexual activity I condone.

3. The Power Lift. This move is a personal favorite of mine but also requires you to be in a decent to good physical shape (it’s always important to be in shape because you never know when you’ll need it). Essentially, it’s a move of pure passion as when you’re having sex with a girl, usually with her on top (it’s the easiest potion to do this from), you sit up, put your arms under her legs and ass , and stand up while picking her up. This move then allows you to continue having sex with her while you hold her in the air, and you can then move her to a counter top or against a door or wall for some intense sex.

The beauty of this move is it display’s your raw physical strength as well as it a pure dominance play; you can physically lift her and fuck her any which way you please. It’s a great way to turn the passion dial up to 11 and get you and her further lost in the moment. A word of advise, you’re going to need stamina to hold her up for a long period of time and also take care not to strain yourself (or her) when picking her up.

2. The Towel Stack. This move is actually a foreplay move that’s a psychological nuclear bomb. When you bring a girl to your bedroom, have a stack of 5-8 towels on the end of your bed or somewhere easily visible. What this does is it gets her hamster going into overdrive and get her excited, curious, and intrigued but what you have in store. A great way to add to fuel to the flames is when she asks about the towel stack to reply with something like “You’ll see” or “I’m always prepared.”

A word to the wise, this move is best used on a girl you’ve already had sex with or you’ve hung out with before and it’s clear you’re going to have sex. Using this with a girl you just met or that is coming over to your house for the first time can be misread as creepy. But for hooking up for the 2nd time, a fuck buddy, Netflix & chill situation or a girl you’ve been seeing for a while, this little tactic can work wonders.

1. G-Spot + Kiss Combo. This move requires some hand-eye coordination (more like finger-mouth coordination) but it revolves around utilizing the female sexual cheat code: the G-Spot. If you don’t know what the G-Spot is, Google it, do some reading and thank me later. For those of you in the know, what you’re going to want to do is when you’re finger a girl (either before, during or after sex) you’re going to want to find her G-Spot (which you should be doing anyways). Once you’ve located said spot, you going to want to pull your fingers up (gently to start, depending on how she responds) in order to stimulate it. Now, while you’re doing this, you are going to want to kiss her deeply at the same time as you finger move up, and then back you fingers down and pull back from the kiss. So imagine your head and fingers are on a see-saw; when your fingers move up, your head move in for the kiss, and when your fingers move back, so does your head. Repeat these strokes in a slow and rhythmic fashion and you can add intensity depending on how she responds.

What this move does is it allows you to add an element of sensual dominance to your sex game and it combine the sensation of G-Spot stimulation with the sensation of kissing, which acts as an enhancer for both. Now instead of her body receiving pleasure input from one part f her body, she’s receiving it from 2 and her body will bridge the sensations throughout it’s entirety. This move is great for warming up and escalating foreplay, as a way to change the pace during sex, or as an orgasmic wind-down exercise as you get a bit of recovery from fucking her against your favorite wall with the Power Lift.

And again, for the record; please remember to be safe. Sex is a fun and amazing experience, but you can take things to far and you can physically injure yourself or other person. Keep it consensual and use your judgement. Try one or all of these out and see how they fit into your sex game. There’s no point in getting your pickup and dating game to it’s peak if your dick game is trash. Go out there and rock her world. Be that sex god that she raves to her friends about.

Cheers.

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