Hustling The Hustler

Bender

“The thief steals from himself. The swindler swindles himself. For the real price is knowledge and virtue, whereof wealth and credit are signs. These signs, like paper money, may be counterfeited or stolen, but that which they represent, namely, knowledge and virtue, cannot be counterfeited or stolen.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Sometimes you go out and you have fun. Other times you go out and have an experience that makes for an exceptional night. This story is one of those times. A good friend of mine and I were out at our favorite hot spot in LA. We’ve been going to this place for almost a year now because they have great food, amazing drinks, the perfect atmosphere and the staff is incredible.

We get in, grab some dinner and drinks and are having a merry time. We wanted to have a fun night to cap an already fun weekend, so our energy was high and contagious. Mixed and mingled with several groups of people, bought a few cool girls that where hanging with us drinks (we didn’t expect anything in return and they turned out to be very fun) and even wound up doing shots with the manager and one of our favorite bar tenders.

Toward 1am we go to the bar to close out our tab so we could go to another spot close by with some of the waitresses and girls we had met that night. At the end of the bar was this group of women in their 40’s that were dancing and looked like they where having a good time. As we got the bar tender to get our tab, one of the women came next to me and asked about how to get the bartender’s attention. I replied that I could get it, but that usually involved him just bringing trouble. I asked her what she planned to order as her other friend come over and she told me that she was probably going with some champagne or wine. I told her that I would suggest getting the bar’s specialty cocktail.

Her friend: “So, you buying a round of drink for us?”

Now this tipped my spidey-sense that these ladies, though older, were still trying to run girl game into getting free drinks. I had done a quick scan of their left hands and indeed, they each has large wedding rings on them. I’ll buy a drink under the right conditions, but having a married woman blatantly try to get them from me is not one of them.

Me: “I don’t know you guys that well, so I don’t think so.” I said it in a playful but firm tone. This was a test of Are you Beta? Will you let us exploit you?

The bar tender came over to take their order and the girl I was conversing with ordered 1 glass of champagne and two glasses of wine. When the bar tender asked if they needed anything else, I told them they should try the house cocktail as I closed out my tab. The girl then told the bar tender that she’d try the house cocktail. The bartender come back with 2 of them.

Woman: “We’re going to need a 3rd since there are 3 of us.” The bartender made a third one and brought it over. He then brought out a printed tab, since it had been last call.

Bartender: “Thank you ladies, that will be $50.”

The woman put on a stunned face.

Woman: “These guys should be paying for these.”

Bartender: “I heard you order these.”

She then shot me and my friend a look. At this point we had a choice: Be coerced into paying for drink we did not order, or let her deal with a situation that she created. We looked back at her firmly and unflinchingly to signal that we would not be taken advantage of. In disbelief she turned back to the bartender.

Woman: “Do you know these guys?”

Bartender: “I do. They are stand up guys. If you want I can get security and we can sort this out.”

Woman: “Get the manager.”

At this point my friend an I remained calm at the bar, standing against it relaxed and silent, waiting to see how it all was going to unfold.

Manager: “What’s the problem?”

Woman: “These guys ordered drinks for me and they are trying to get out of paying for them.”

Manager: “Well I know these guys, and they are stand up guys, so we’re going to need you to resolve this.”

She looked stunned and shocked, and seemed offended that no one was immediately taking her side.

Woman: “Well I’m not paying for these.”

Manager: “Ok, they we’ll buy them.” He then reached over and took all of the drinks back behind the bar. This infuriated the woman as she turned to my friend and me.

Woman: “You two are the most classless scoundrels I have ever encountered out of any country I have been to.”

Me: “Excellent, I was going for the record.”

My friend waved a bouncer over.

My friend: “Can you please take this away?”

The bouncer came up next to the woman.

Bouncer: “Time to go.”

He then escorted her outside and her friends joined her there.

The 3 Takeaways:

1) Hold Frame

By holding Frame and not relinquishing it, we did not allow this woman to coerce us into paying for her drinks. There have been times in the past when my friend and I would have allowed ourselves to be guilted into paying for drinks like chumps. But by holding Frame we established that we are not some random suckers that will be taken advantage of and we will not part with our hard earn money to pay for someone looking for a free ride.

2) Building venue equity is just as important

From the bartender to the manager to the doorman the message was the same: These are stand up guys (men we respect and value at our establishment) and we know who they are. This claim that she was presenting was out of character for us and as such, the entire venue had our backs. This is a powerful thing, but it’s something you have to earn. We’d been investing and building venue equity in that place for months now and it was awesome to see that good credit in full action.

3) Always approach the night with a fun attitude

I’m sorry (that I’m not sorry) that we ruined this woman’s night, but she certainly wasn’t ruining ours. We went out with the attitude that we’re going to have fun no matter what, and despite this incident, we had a great time and got an entertaining story out of it.

Now go out and have some fun you fellow scoundrels.

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Sibling Rivalry

sibling rivalry

“We must love one another, yes, yes, that’s all true enough, but nothing says we have to like each other. It may be the very recognition of all men as our brothers that accounts for the sibling rivalry, and even enmity, we have toward so many of them.” – Peter De Vries

For this post I wanted to explore a topic that I have not seen much on and that I’ve been dwelling on for a while. I wanted to touch on the Red Pill mindset and how that affects family relationships, specifically between siblings. For those of you that are only children, this topic may not necessarily echo any sentiment from personal experience, but it can potentially give some insights into your close friendships or give you some perspective into your friends that do have siblings. Being Red Pill is something that has a ripple effect in your life, and within the family dynamic it’s seen on a magnified scale.

Between Brothers

As young boys, siblings provide your first experience and foray into manhood. It’s a training ground for the battle you’ll face later on in life, as well as a learning experience to teach about strong bonds, loyalty and social interaction. In the ideal scenario this would be fostered and guided along by the parents, though this is not always the case. Having come from a very Blue Pill background most of my experiences I would consider fairly normal and typical. My siblings and I would scuffle, go on adventures and shared many interests together growing up. Our dad was well meaning but very Blue Pill, which would come to haunt him and us as we got older, but that’s an entirely different topic. For now I’m focusing on the relationship between brothers.

One by product of the Blue Pill mindset is that it gives you the idea that you always need to make others happy, even at your own expense, and this comes into play very largely with siblings. There have been times where I have suppressed frustration, canceled dates, and even given entire paychecks to my siblings, out of a sense of family duty. Now I’m not saying that you shouldn’t help out your family when they need it, but under the Blue Pill guise I was missing a critical piece: Family is a two-way street, and sacrifice and loyalty has to be earned, not just taken for granted. This lesson is a hard one to see, especially in a “family first” environment, with a few Red Pill tweaks that lesson would have been realized much sooner.

Once I became Red Pill aware, not only did my perspective on the world change with women, it changed with my family relationships as well. One of the more shocking correlations I discovered from the Red Pill was that I was in fact in a BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) type of relationship with one of my brothers and that I needed to keep my personal Frame in check in order to get out of it. I also discovered that by focusing more on developing myself, the less stress of others I carried with me, especially in my family life. As we’ve gotten older my siblings and I have gotten more distant, which is unfortunate. Part of it is due to life transitions and being busier with our own lives. Other parts of it are due to seeing the Red Pill but not being able to express the ideas without a Blue Pill centered rejection response. The Red Pill is liberating and frustrating at the same time. If you think being Red Pill aware can be isolating and frustrating with your friends, imagine how it is with siblings that you’ve grown up with. This creates an unspoken tension between brothers, as the clash of Blue Pill and Red Pill plays out on a much more intimate scale. Things are never the same, and in many regards there’s that feeling of loss of innocence. The Red Pill is already a very tough pill to swallow, and having family involved can make it even tougher as now blood brothers suddenly become more like spies and saboteurs.

For any fathers that read this, I relay this experience as someone who’s seen it from the ground up. Fostering a healthy Red Pill awareness in young siblings is critical, not only for their development as men, but for how they will relate to each other as they grow older. The search for brotherhood is something ingrained in men, we seek it as we grow and ideally if we have biological brothers we could get it there. But one way or another, we seek it, even if that means going outside the blood family that we have.

Also, it’s pivotal that you keep your Frame in check, because you are the male example in which your sons will mold themselves upon. Any strength you have they will imitate, any habits you have they will pick up on and absorb. If your presence is not fully there, it will show and manifest later on in life. You are shaping young lives, so always look at the example that you set.

For any mothers that may read this, it’s important to take a step back and let your boys be boys. Too often boys are viewed as “the problem gender” and masculinity is viewed as a defect that needs correcting. You will not fully understand the masculine experience, which is is fine, because we as men will never fully understand the feminine experience, but suffice to say trying to raise sons in the same manner as daughters handicaps them when they enter the world. Also, there’s nothing wrong with embracing your femininity. For boys growing up, your example becomes the template they have for when they go out into the world. So if as a mother you’re in a position where you’re constantly shooting the father down or pushing him around, then your sons will come to expect that for themselves in their interactions with women.

Between Brothers And Sisters

Red Pill awareness is critical for brothers and is absolutely essential for brothers with sisters. The reason for this is that sister provide a baseline impression for how boys will interact with women as they get older and go out into the world. Girls from a young age learn and adapt their skill sets for life at a rapid pace, which means that growing up, boys will be subjected to every weapon that girls have at their disposal. That means shit testing and emotional manipulation will occur. This is how boys are impressionable and it’s paramount to ask what kind of impression will be made? Will they be playing second fiddle and grow up being pushed around by the females in his life? Or will there be a healthy balance of respect and independence fostered that will allow young men to stand on their feet?

I’m grateful for the fact that I’ve had brothers and sisters so I can see how these dynamics are influenced and fostered growing up. As a brother, Red Pill awareness has helped me keep my Frame in check with my sisters while helping to make my interactions with them better. It’s a wild realization when you realize that even your own sister, and yes, your mother are just as hyergamous and will shit test you like all other women will. But being able to go in eyes open and know how to handle that makes every interaction better. Being Red Pill aware has helped make me a better brother to give a male example for my sisters, as well as help with providing better (if not very subtle) insight into their own relationships they have.

Fathers, if you have daughters, then just like with sons, the example you set will set the expectation for the men in her life. If you’re a pushover or lack a solid foundation of Frame, especially in interactions with the mother of your children, then guess what, your daughters are going to pick up on this and absorb it. We all know good and well about girls with daddy issues, and it’s never a path you want to explore first hand.Your example sets your daughter’s expectation for her future interactions with the men in her life. What kind of men will she keep company with? Strong, independent men that can take care of business? Or timid, weak willed men that will be stepping stools under her thumb? Your example will have a significant impact.

For mothers, I would again remind you that your example is what will make the impression and set the expectation. So if you set a precedent for your daughters that instills in them a sense that they need to always “be the man” in the relationship, that will have a significant impact on how they approach future relationships. There’s nothing wrong with raising strong minded, independent women who can handle them selves, in fact that’s the ideal goal as society needs more women like that. But if they are brought up that way believing that’s only achievable at the expense of men, then there’s an imbalance.

Final Thoughts

I may do another post later detailing Red Pill parenting from the perspective of growing up Blue Pill and what might be done differently, but for this post I wanted to focus more on sibling dynamics. My hope is that if you have siblings and have gone through similar experiences on your own Red Pill journey this can provide some insight or clarity. Inter-gender dynamics impact every personal relationship a person has, and more often than not, the Red Pill really hits home.

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Female Bully Complex

Nagging

“I realized that bullying never has to do with you. It’s the bully who’s insecure.” – Shay Mitchell

As most of you are very aware of, women will shit test to no end. This is one part of their nature that is a hard-coded survival skill that has been the bane of men for centuries. Now for the most part, this is a subconscious filtering process that is not usually coming from a place of ill-intent. But what happens when it turns malicious? Then you need to treat is as a bully complex…you have to take a stand.

Causes

Before we get ahead of ourselves about what to do, first we need to look into some of the root causes. Shit testing seldom starts with malicious intent, so what turns it actively against you? Usually the cause of this is a lack of strong Frame. Women will test their limits with you, especially to see if they can push you and how you react. This is all subconscious and more of a defensive mechanism, so for the most part it’s part of the nature of interacting with them. However, like a shark, once they smell blood, that can trigger a feeding frenzy. Every chink in your armor suddenly becomes a needle to be pressed into you repeatedly, every misstep a punishable offense, any sign of indecisiveness or weakness is added a bullet in the chamber for later.

Many a man has had this happen to him, when he is in a new relationship or an LTR, and things are going well, until seemingly one day out of the blue it starts to turn. Relationships do have their highs and their lows, but you have to trust your gut to sense when the situation is low vs when it’s become toxic and malicious, and that’s when you need to do an abrupt and honest assessment of your Frame in the situation.

Treatment

Prevention is always the best cause, and like when dealing with a bully, you have to set the tone that you will not be pushed around from the start. Not saying that women are consciously trying to be bullies (though some are), their inherit nature shares a few things in common with them in the sense that they will shit test and push boundaries to see how far it can go. That’s why a the repeated theme of Frame is critical. A bully on the school yard has absolute Frame (and this is a case of when Frame is used for the wrong intent). The only way to keep that Frame in check is by establishing and holding your own Frame. You can either be a victim or stand up for yourself and show that you won’t be. It’s the same idea with women, you have to keep you Frame in check and show that you won’t be pushed around or falter. You don’t have to be a jerk or asshole about it, because ill-intent breeds more ill-intent. But you do have to be a composed, otherwise you risk the relationship souring into a malicious state.

When any relationship becomes malicious, it’s time to end that relationship, plain and simple. The biggest thing that men fail to realize is that when they are in this position, their Frame has been compromised and they are in a no-win scenario. Usually they focus on protecting their ego and the ego-investments they’ve made in the relationship, but what they are doing is trying to win a battle while the war has already been lost. Like the Art of War states; “Every battle is won before it’s even fought.” In this case, the woman has all the Frame and control and every a man is doing is always in reaction to her.

Even when he “stands up for himself,” since she knows subconsciously that he’s relinquished his Frame to her before, any attempt made on his part to reclaim it and assert dominance is seen as artificial and non-genuine, so she will never take it seriously. In fact, this proposes a challenge for her to see how she can break him down again. This is the point where it is best to cut all ties and move on…The situation is a no-win scenario. At this point it’s like an arm heavily infected with gangrene that is starting to decay: The situation has become toxic and it’s time to cut off the arm to save the body. The best you can hope for is to maintain some Frame and dignity by ending the relationship swiftly and abruptly, with minimal to no explanation like “This isn’t working out for me.” That’s it.

It sounds harsh, but from what I’ve seen friends go through first hand, the alternative which is much, much harsher. Months of back-and-forth arguing, stress, lack of sex and constant worry; all for an outcome that deep down they knew was coming eventually. Staying in this situation also creates conditions that cause women to cheat on their partners. Many times a girl has cheated because she was mad at her current partner and was looking for a way to get back at him. In her mind, she will be completely justified in doing so because the cause of getting her that emotional state was you. And partially she is correct, as a man it is your job to keep your Frame in check, otherwise the situation will get away from you and run completely amok.

The way many men internalize this is that they owe it to the girl or the relationship to “give it an honest try.” And this is another trap of the Blue Pill mindset, the sense of honor or “giving it a fair shot” mentality that does not help you, but in fact imprisons you and keeps you shackled to a sinking ship that is pulling you under the depths.

Conclusion

If the scenario I mentioned above is something you’re currently going through, then I sincerely hope you head my words with caution. As I’ve said many times before, women can be amazing and dynamically wondrous experiences that can add a lot to your life. They can also be soul-draining nightmares that bring stress and misery to your existence. This post is to help you with dealing with the latter. You have to know when to cut your losses and move onto other opportunities. Check your ego at the the door and tell you pride to step aside, because those two things can become tools used to keep you in a toxic situation.

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Red Pill Misconceptions

True or False

“The misconception that a victory can be worth its price, has in the nuclear age become a total illusion.” – Alva Myrdal

One topic that I don’t think gets address enough are the misconceptions around the Red Pill terminology and what many of these things actually are. The purpose of the Red Pill is to provide a set of tools and guidelines to help you maximize your potential in life, not to be a rigid, set-in-stone mantra that defines everything in black and white. Below is a list of misconceptions seen commonly:

Alpha = Asshole

Red Pill = Alpha

Beta = Out of shape “nerd”

Blue Pill = A pathetic person

Game Aware = Pick Up Artist

Pick Up Artist = Amoral Womanizer

It’s important to remember that these terms are more abstract and not rigid. Many people can be one or more terms in many senses of the word…but that’s what makes it a powerful thing, it’s about how it all applies to you. There are plenty of naturally Alpha guys that are totally Blue Pill but are also upstanding men in there communities. There’s also many Red Pill aware men that are very Beta, where most newly aware men start out.

Self-awareness is really the core issue here, and so with Red Pill awareness you can better figure out how it applies to your life and how you can forge your own path. But if you keep thinking of these terms in a rigidly binary sense, you’ll miss the bigger picture. The Red Pill is a set of tools and how you use those tool is up to you. A lot of life isn’t just black and white, and the same goes for these terms.

Be open minded and forge your own path.

Paths

The Granola Bar That Saved My Life

Granola Bar

“Heroes are made by the paths they choose, not the powers they are graced with.” ― Brodi Ashton, Everneath

Sometimes heroes come in the most unlikely forms. Like that of a granola bar. The story is from earlier this year and I must admit, it’s one of my favorite ones of the year so far. Now as fun as it is, there’s also so some good nuggets of wisdom that came from this experience, so pay attention because it can come in handy for you one day.

The Background

I had met this one girl randomly at a restaurant during happy hour when I as out with a buddy. She was there waiting for a friend but once I saw her I knew I had to strike up a conversation. She’s a solid 8.5, she’s about 5’5,” dark black her, big beautiful eyes and one of the most spectacular set of DD’s I’ve ever seen. Turns out she’s 39 and has two kids but actively keeps herself in great shape and knows how to have a great time. After chatting with her, my 6th guy sense, or “Dickth Sense” tells me she’s a lot of fun and that I’ll need to act fast so I ask her what’s she’s up to later that night (it’s about 8pm). She says she has a quick PTA meeting but would be down to meetup after. So I setup an insta-date later that night and we grab a quick drink and hang another bar from 10:30pm until about midnight. The conversation was great, but it was a “school night” and she needed to get home so we parted ways.

Two weeks later I invite her out to hang with some friends of mine and she comes out and brings two friends. That night was a blast of a time, me and her wound up making out a lot in front of our combined group (including two very pissed off prospects of mine that I had also invited and my friend who is passed out…this story might be worth it’s own post later). At about 2:15am that night she hops an uber home while I help my passed out friend to his car and drive him home. Let’s call this girl Mia.

A week after that I hit up an LA hot spot with a buddy to talk some business. As we’re discussing business, I notice another girl give us the “up and down” eye-rape look which I make a mental note of as she walked by us. Me and my friend finish talking shop and are now shooting the shit about life. I notice the girl from before and her friend are standing close by, so I lean over to them and say “I have a random question; what’s the best airline?” This leads to a quick 1 minute conversation about how Virgin airlines is the best (and yes, they really are) and suddenly we’re now a group of 4. The girl that had given us “the look” is a solid 8, about 5’9″ and a half, blonde hair with a nice body and a very pretty face to match. Let’s call her Tess. Her friend (who turned out to be a former Knick’s cheerleader) was also stunning and so my friend was engaging with her.

I’m making small talk with Tess, like where she is from and why she is in LA, and it turns out her and her friend work for a high-end hotel chain and are in town for a conference. Tess lives in San Francisco but gets to travel to different cities for the hotel for various reasons. As I am talking to Tess for 2 minutes I get a very strong vibe and I think to myself “go for it,” so after having only known her for a total of 3 and half minutes, I pull her in for a kiss and we start making out. We continue chatting for another few minutes when Tess’ friend gets a text from one of their coworkers they are meeting up with at a different spot, so I grab Tess’ info so we can hangout since she is only in town for 5 more days. For the sake of the main topic of this post, I’ll end the story of this night right here. But I might need to post the full story later on because 5 minutes after she left I was giving another girl a piggy back ride across the bar and making out with her next to a fire pit while the manager was bringing me and my friend comped drinks. It was that kind of night.

The Scenario

The next day went something like this:

4pm: I ping Tess about meeting up at night and she replies that she’ll let me know where her group of coworkers plan to go.

6pm: That evening I go on a feeler date with the girl I met a week ago at the beach randomly. It was a nice and simple coffee date, but her personal story was a crazy tale of drug addition, issues with the law and family drama. I know red flags when I see them, but I still kept it friendly and we both had a good time enjoying each others company. I then dropped her back off at her place.

9pm: After the friend-date, I went to meet up with some friends in Culver City and we hit a spot we like to frequent when we are there. I get a text and it’s from Mia asking me what I am up to tonight. I tell her that I am out and about, but we should keep in touch and try to link up. It never hurts to have a back up plan for the night, in case if Tess falls through. I was really excited about Mia, but since she was local I had to bump her priority down because Tess was only in town for 5 days.

11:30pm: Tess texts me to let me know her group is at this cool spot, we’ll call it Bar X, and that she’s looking forward to me coming out. I let her know that I will head over shortly.

12:00am: I drive to Bar X, but I’m crazy hungry and I need something to give me a little energy boost plus to settle my stomach. So I drive an extra block to a liquor store and buy a granola bar.

12:05am: I eat said granola bar (which was delicious by the way) and I’m feeling like a new man. I’m ready to hop back in the car and park it at Bar X, when I get a text. It’s from Mia, and it reads “Hey I am at Bar X, you should come join me.” FUCK. ME.

12:07am: I cruise up the street to another hot spot to think. The problem with Bar X is that it’s not that big, and it’s a place a where I would certainly stand out so there’s no room for privacy. Now my options are:

1) I show up and choose Tess.

2) I show up and choose Mia.

3) I show up and try to leave with both of them.

4) I don’t show up, try to recruit at this current hot spot, and reschedule with both for another day.

12:15am: A choice is made. I went with option…drum roll…

Option #4.

Why? Because based on my interactions with both of them, the relationships where very new but both where high interest. I wanted both of them and was unsure about a potential threesome situation, but I knew I could have each of them separately, guaranteed.

12:20am: I text them both (separately) that I am making sure a drunk friend gets home ok, and that we’ll need to reschedule.

12:30am: I hear back from both of them letting me know that we’ll hang in the very near future.

The Outcome

All things considered it was a huge win, I wound up getting a few numbers that night, though admittedly my mind was too preoccupied with my current scenario to have enough concentration to go into full pull mode. But I did wind up hooking up with Tess 2 nights later (that story in of itself is an odyssey, as the next night I had a completely different girl over (not Mia) but Tess hit me up at midnight) and her last night in LA as well, and then I wound up hooking up with her again when I was up in San Fran. I wound up hooking up with Mia 2 weeks later, and that was one of the top 5 smash sessions I’ve ever had.

Takeaways

1) Having multiple options gives you clarity. If I was option-less and thirsty, I would have gone to the bar to see which option would pan out and would possibly lose both in that process. But since I had already been on a date that night, I knew Tess was around for 4 more days, that Mia was around since she is local, and add in the fact I had another girl coming over the next night, I was able to keep a clear head and make the most objective choice for myself. When you fear something it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy that sabotages you. Cultivate options, keep your head clear, and the pathways to what you want will become apparent to you.

2) Never put yourself in a situation you don’t control. Yes, there are always elements you can’t control (like having Mia of her own accord go to the exact same place I was going to meet Tess). But you can control how you react. Based on my sense with each, I did not think a threesome would be possible and that my hand would be forced to choose one, which still would have been a good scenario, but by rescheduling I was able to achieve both objectives, which was a great scenario. I could have walked into that bar and rolled the dice to see how it played out, but for what I wanted, I knew the best play was to give up that one night where my Frame would face a major uphill battle, which wound up leading to a scenario were I had 3 great nights with Tess and 4 amazing nights with Mia.

3) Always be on your A game. In this case my mind was preoccupied with a scenario but had I kept my concentration up I could have made other options happen for myself that night. Things worked out fine, but by the same token, no matter how good you are, there’s always room for improvement.

4) Enjoy the process. One of the biggest things that stands out from that whole night for me was when I was at the other hot spot so I “could think” and I had just told the two girls I couldn’t make it that night, I thought to myself; “What a great problem to have.” It’s an awesome feeling to have two girls unknowingly at the same place they both want you there that night. It’s also fun to have been “saved” by a simple act of getting a granola bar.

5) Be humble. Not going to lie, I did get a little ahead of myself that night at around 10pm when I was talking with my friends. I had been on a date, was supposedly meeting another girl later, had a 3rd one interested in hanging and had a 4th one scheduled for the following night. So yes, I did brag a little, but oh how quickly did the universe pull one over me. So when I write this post don’t think I’m trying to show of how great I am or that I’m hoping to impress you. The purpose of this post is in fact to serve as a “near-miss” story with some fun lessons in there. I don’t care about impressing people, what I care about is helping them learn and I use my own experience to help facilitate that. So if you think I’m epic or that I’m lame, it doesn’t matter to me. All I care about is if you picked up a a takeaway or two from my experience that can help you should you find yourself in a similar situation.

6) Heroes come in all shapes and sizes, and many times in the most unlikely forms. My hunger and need for a midnight snack led me to delay my trip in the quest for a granola bar, and that little 5 minute delay saved me from having to risk losing what turned out to be two separate but dynamite experiences with two awesome women.

So there you have it, a crazy night that made for a crazy tale. I hope you got some takeaways or at the very least where entertained. Thanks for reading and be sure to checkout my other posts as well. I’ve got more content to drop so feel free to follow me here or on twitter as well.

Edieu

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Alpha Jedi Code

Grey Jedi Code

“For my ally is the Force, and a powerful ally it is. Life creates it, makes it grow. Its energy surrounds us and binds us. Luminous beings are we, not this crude matter.” – Yoda

This post is a list of personal mantras I live by. It’s something I’d thought I’d share as it covers being a self-actualized man, some Red Pill principles and some practical Game tips. For some more Game specifics guides, feel free to checkout Christian McQueen’s list as well as Chateau Heartiste’s. A lot of this is common sense, but it’s shocking just how uncommon it is in the present day and age. If you’re looking for a place to start in your own journey or just want some more food for thought feel free to add these to your personal lists.

-Alpha Jedi Code-

#1. You Must Live Your Life For YOU.

Only you can live your life, so you must live with the consequences of your choices, good or bad. You are your first priority when making choices.

#2. Your Frame Is Your Life.

Frame is essential. Understand it, develop it, master it.

#3. Women Are Not The Enemy.

Many women are beautiful, amazing, powerful and dynamic experiences. However, understand their nature, for it is hypergamous, unforgiving and can make life misery. Love women, understand their natures, and you will have the keys to enriched experiences beyond imagination. Fail to see their natures for what they are and master them, then suffer the the shock and turmoil unlike any you can fathom.

#4. Just Because You Are Red Pill Does Not Make You Alpha.

Conversely, just because you are Alpha (have Game), doesn’t make you Red Pill. Red Pill is the theory and mind set, Alpha is the execution and practical application (Game). One must develop and exercise BOTH disciplines.

#5. Never Mess With Married Women.

It’s not worth it on so many levels. It’s not a moral issue (but it can be), but think of it in an altruistically self-serving manner: You are likely to draw judgement from friends and family, there’s all sorts of secrets, risk and potential blackmail, and biggest of all is you have a spouse that complicates things and is a wildcard variable. They might take legal or physical action against you and it’s just an unnecessary complication. There’s too many unattached women out there with less risk and more reward potential. Keep life simple.

#6. Take Joy In Life.

Life is an amazing and wonderful experience. Go have experiences that bring you joy and happiness. Take joy in understanding the Red Pill and seeing how those mechanisms work. Enjoy developing your Alpha side, using Game, and seduction process. Woe is the man who resides himself to theory, bitterness and resentment. If you do not take joy in your life, what’s the point?

#7. Fuck Fear.

Learn to live without fear, for fear will stagnate you, hold you back and rob you of opportunities and experiences while breeding regret and misery. Fear kills Frame faster than anything and more often than not becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

#8. Trust Your Gut.

When it speaks, listen with all your focus. It is connected to things beyond your conscious mind. Learn to understand it and let it act as a guide and warning system.

#9. Exercise Discipline

Red Pill awareness and Game are powerful tools to master, but with that mastery comes a responsibility to exercise discipline. Just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should do it.

#10. Always Be Learning

Everyone and every experience can teach you something and is an opportunity to learn. From learning we grow, and whether we learn something positive or negative, don’t let knowledge go to waste. Your future self will thank you and learning is the key to avoiding many unnecessary situations and stress in life.

#11. Always Add Value

Whether it be in business relationships, personal ones or family ones, be a person of value. If you want to get ahead in life the best way through the front door is to be a person of value. Bring value through your unique insights, skills, and personality and the doors locked to others with open for you.

#12. Value Your Time

Time is the one thing you WILL NEVER GET BACK. You can always make more money, get new friends and acquire new material things; but time is something you can never recover once spent. Invest your time wisely and guard it jealously.

#13. Be Accountable

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it. YOU are accountable for your situation and it’s up to YOU to determine where you go in life. You can always find something else to blame for everything, but at the end of the day only YOU can live your life, so make it a life that YOU want to live. Own your shit, hold yourself accountable and see just what you are fully capable of.

#14. No Regrets

Regret is the anchor that shackles you to your past and prevents you from grasping your future. Never have regret, even with bad decisions. Learn from those and move on.

#15. Do The Work

DO THE WORK. You can’t get results without doing the required work.

Lightsabers

 

 

Ergo Ego

Ego Bubble

“Check your ego at the door. The ego can be the great success inhibitor. It can kill opportunities, and it can kill success.” – Dwanye “The Rock” Johnson

In the human experience, one core issue we all deal with on a constant basis is balancing our ego in our lives. Too much ego and we can risk becoming arrogant pricks which can hinder our objectives. Too little ego and we risk being timid doormats, which enables others to walk all over us. So managing that fine line is a critical and daily issue we have to deal with in. In terms of Blue Pill and Red Pill this gets taken to a higher scale because of the implications that stem from it.

Blue Pill Ego

The ego in reference to the Blue Pill is possibly the single largest threat to freeing men from the grasp of the Blue Pill. The reason for this is that Blue Pill men make large ego investments into “not being like other guys” or being “better men” than the jerks women complain about yet hook up with, in a twisted sense of false humility. By taking the noble high road, Blue Pill men are trying to project themselves as humble and some how morally superior, yet in reality they are feeding their ego on a sense of honor which they pride themselves on. Not only is the Blue Pill man devout in his stance, but he takes pride in it. This becomes the reinforcing agent that traps him and ties his fate to all the women that have “turned a new leaf.” He may secretly slut-shame or want to avoid the low quality women, but then once a woman turns her affections towards him he will automatically absolve her of any past sins because his ego investment in his honor system keeps him bound to the idea of being “a good guy.” Plus, if she’s showing interest and affection in him, it provides a validation for his ego investment because she must be all his hard work and sacrifice, right?

This leads to a road of misfortune as the the Blue Pill ego gets met with failure, frustration and shock when his honor system he’s been living by is not respected but actually reviled by the women he seeks. Blue Pill men have the hardest times reconciling their ego’s once their investments in them have gone bust, which is the tragic outcome of being a slave to it. Depression, substance abuse and suicide are common outlets for many Blue Pill men that have had the rug pulled from under them and facing the cold fact that their ego investments where made with a worthless currency.

For the Blue Pill man, ego is an anchor that gets heavier and heavier with each investment he makes into it. The real tragedy is that he thinks he’s building a foundation for his happiness, when is reality he is laying the bricks for his own failure.

Red Pill Ego

The Red Pill ego is an ally if properly trained or a cruel slave master if undisciplined. For the those aware and versed in the Red Pill, the freedom and power that comes with it are amazing “super powers” so to speak, and many Red Pill men spend a great deal of time testing and refining these powers.  A new ego is developed and fostered from this process. Unlike the Blue Pill ego, the Red Pill ego is forged from seeing things as they are, which can be a great ally to men, especially if there is a humility from looking back on one’s Blue Pill past and seeing how much progression has been made.

The danger for the Red Pill ego is that a sense of hubris can quickly develop due to success of this new freedom. While one is certainly more successful and in a sense “better” than one’s Blue Pill self, there is a tendency to look down upon all Blue Pill men, especially since they can be a painful reminder of what one used to be like. This is where the risk of arrogance comes from for Red Pill men. This arrogance can cause Red Pill men to slip back into Blue Pill habits or find themselves in situations where they are shooting themselves in the foot by rubbing people the wrong way without any reason to.

The other side of that coin is for the Red Pill aware man who has become spiteful and bitter during his transition from Blue Pill to Red Pill. The Blue Pill ego can be powerful and lay the ground work for future sabotage in the Red Pill ego. Usually very traumatic events that leave the ego investments of the Blue Pill idealism bankrupt can form scars in man as he transitions his thinking. This impact is found on the Red Pill man who is bitter and angry. This drives his ego to be spiteful, and because this spite is sourced from a damaged ego, this new Red Pill ego is a hardened slave master that drives a man to use his Red Pill awareness to relentlessly protect his ego against any potential harm.

Reconciliation

Whether Blue Pill or Red Pill, it’s important to keep your ego in check. Any easy way to do so is seeking out people that are in a place you want to be, whether it’s professionally, financially or Game wise. By surrounding yourself with more successful people, you are able to learn but also it keeps your ego humbled and gives you access to wisdom from the life experience of others so you manage your won ego battles.

When you’re Red Pill aware it’s critically important to keep it disciplined and always keep in mind the origin point of any action you take. Are you acting in accordance of what you want, is is your ego in the driver’s seat? If your ego is, then take caution that it’s steering you in a direction conducive to your goals. Ego’s have a tricky habit of looking out for themselves instead of ourselves.

Ego