Wolves Vs Dogs

Classy Wolf

“Liberty for wolves is death to the lambs.” – Isaiah Berlin

This post is an inspired response to Rollo Tomassi’s thought provoking tweet from 1/13/2018:

“The “beta uprising” will be nothing more than betas doubling down on empathizing with women. Whether directly by supporting and increasingly tight laws they hope will crack down on alphas being alphas, or indirectly by sorting themselves voluntarily out of the dating pool.”

I gave a quick reply on twitter:

“I think that is how It will start, but I think they will hit a point of nothing to lose, as they have given everything away and will start to push back.”

While this reply was based on my initial thoughts, the tweet stuck with me in my thoughts which lead to me to the post that I have for today. While do think that in the end, the Beat Awakening will result in some push back on the pendulum, Rollo’s words gave rise to a thought where I can’t help but see the parallel between wolves and domesticated dogs, and how the situation came to be.

Dogs started out as feral, untamed pack hunters that early humans feared and respected. At some point thousands of ears ago, there was a divergence, where dogs that where less aggressive and more naturally tame,where taken in by humans, while the wild ones where hunted, killed, or driven away. These time dogs become domesticated, and as time has passed, have become dependent upon humans for their survival. As we all know, domesticated dogs for the most part are nothing like their wild counter parts in modern times. And these domestic dogs will defend to the death their human masters and can even be sent on hunts to track down other wild dogs.

Relating this to Rollo’s tweet, the same can be applied to Beta men vs Alpha men. The Beta’s are in a sense domesticated pets, ready and willing to do their master’s bidding. They will even defend and attack the Alpha’s to protect their masters from them. Despite sharing a common ancestry, the Alpha’s and Betas are on different sides of the fence. So Rollo’s point of  “doubling down” I can see being the first step in a “Beta Awakening”. The first step will always be to defend what is known. But even domesticated dogs can become feral and wild should they suffer too much abuse from their masters. I think that will be the second part of the “Awakening” will happen when Betas are forced in kennels and denied the comforts of what they need to function.

In the meantime, the Alpha seems like an endangered species, in that as Open Hypergamy expands, the Alpha’s habitat is under serious threat. Though much like feral and cunning wolves, the Alphas have managed to adapt and find solace in numbers allowing them to thrive. As many have stated in before, learning game and evolving it is more critical than ever before. It is no longer a luxury, it is a survival requirement.

I do agree with Rollo’s thought that the “Beta Awakening” will see the doubling down of the domesticated Betas to protect their masters to their own detriment. I also feel that that will be the first part, and that the second, true “awakening” will happen after a breaking point is reached. Only time will tell where all of this goes and how it will play out. But one thing I do know is that much like wolves who have roamed the earth for thousands of years and have found ways to survive in all type of conditions, those that can actualize their Alpha selves and keep a strong Red Pill understanding will find a way to thrive. And when spotted in the wild, there will be a sense of awe and a reminder of how the natural world really works to the beholder.

Howling Wolf


The Time Of Kings

Spartan King

“A King needs a Kingdom to to King, not a Queen. Remember that.” – Unknown

As western society becomes more and more feminized, there is a unintended advantage born from this paradigm. Now has never been a easier time to establish yourself from the heard of boys as a man, and not just any man; a king.

“A King needs a Kingdom to to King, not a Queen. Remember that.”

This quote rings so true I’m posting it twice. This is a core Red Pill idea that most men will not embrace but will run from because of the burden it represents: We are responsible for our own  lives and what we get out of them. A woman does not define you and you need no other external validation to define yourself either. You are a king, the time is now to master your kingdom.

But what is my kingdom and how do I master it, you ask? Take a look:

Your Body Is Your Kingdom – Master it, exercise it, sculpt and shape it. Excercise and stay healthy. Many a man was stunted his potential by allowing his body to be soft and his health to be poor.

Your Mind Is Your Kingdom – Take care what you put into it and who you allow to have influence in it. Put positive things that will inspire and help you grow into it, and only allow people who add positive value to have influence on it. You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Choose them wisely.

Your Relationships Are Your Kingdom – You are the one in the driver’s seat of your relationships, so manage and led them wisely. If a relationship is a negative or counter productive to you, it s your job to remove it. Failure to do so can cost you time, sanity, and much, much more. All relationships, from family to business to romantic relationships are under the domain of your kingdom, especially the romantic ones. Take the lead and remember, you are the king, the queen does not define your kingdom or the status of your kingship.

Your Time Is Your Kingdom – Manage it relentlessly and guard it jealous. Of all the commodities in this world, it it the one thing you can never get back. Make it count.

Your Life Is Your Kingdom – You only have one go at it and only you can live your life. So live your life on your own terms. Life the life you want and dream about. Live your life as if your life depends on it. It does.

There’s your pep-talk for the day. Go out and conquer your kingdom.

Battle Charge

Name Your Game

Rat Pack

“Your life is not a simulation; it’s the real game. Play wisely.” ― Richelle E. Goodrich

As you develop your Game skills and understanding, you realize that there are many different type of Game styles that can utilize. Usually one style is the most effective for you, but you can utilize more than one at different times or concurrently to improve your success rate. For this post, I’ll be detailing below 4 different Game styles and the personality types these are very effective for, with 4 real-world examples of each.

4. Great Gatsby Game


Style: This game style is not so much named because of who the fictional character Jay Gatsby was, since he was extremely Beta; but more so about what he represented. Gatsby was known for hosting and throwing large, grand and very elaborate parties that made him the talk of the town. Gatsby was about viewing life as a grand adventure and being larger than life. This made him so charming and appealing because he had a sense of optimistic innocence to his world view that made it easy for people to get swept up in; it was pure.

This style will draw shit testing from women’s pragmatic side or the people trying to pull you out of “fantasy play land” and back to “the real world.” This is countered by adopting the old Playstation mantra: “Live in your world; play in ours.” Great Gatsby Game is about bringing people into your Frame and you maintaining it. Your world is one of fun, celebration and adventure. The trick is to not let the guests in your world change it back into their world.

Personality Type: This Game style is best suited for guys that are social, especially those with “larger than life” personalities. Typically these guys have no problems approaching and opening an individual or a group of people and within 5 minutes they are are charmed by their spell. This Game style utilizes social proof and bravado and results in you very overtly owning the room. I make the most use of this style personally, as it suits my personality and passion for adventure in life.

Examples: Walt Disney, John Wayne, James Dean, Elon Musk

3. James Bond Game


Style: This Game style is defined as being sleek, subtle, and follows a more Classic Alpha archetype. Unlike the Great Gatsby Game, James Bond Game is much more poised. Everything seems calculated and strategic, there are “no accidents” when employing this game. There is always an sense of “I know a juicy secret about the world and I won’t tell anyone” that draws an entices people in; it’s the sense of mystery generated by the great confidence and poise. This Game style also gets a lot of shit tests thrown at it, which are then deflected with the greatest of ease by a smirk and quick comment. There is always an air of classy superiority that is present, regardless if there is social proof or not. This style runs on 100% rock-solid Frame.

This style is loathed by Beta orbiters because there is no clearly visible reason why this style is so intriguing to women, and so they will shit test, run interference and try to “protect” women from this unknown danger that represents a threat to their misguided investment in women. This style will use that to your advantage to show how confidently Alpha you are and will draw women in more powerfully while getting the Betas to push themselves away further.

Personality Type: This Game style is best suited for guys that would rather approach indirectly or by proximity, rather than go out of their way to make a direct approach. Guys that are great at the concept of Amused Mastery and are good at using teasing and sarcasm.

Examples: Frank Sinatra, Clint Eastwood, Sean Connery, George Clooney

2. Jeff Goldblum Game (aka The Eccentric Genius Game)


Style: This unconventional style of Game owns that fact all the way while highlighting how many different Red Pill concepts can be executed brilliantly in very diverse ways. On the outside these might seem like head-scratching outliers, but for those who know how to read the Red Pill tells, it makes perfect sense. This style is based on embracing one’s social uniqueness and holding total Frame control while doing so. What this Frame hold does is it makes the rest of the world seem like it’s off and the one projecting the Frame is the standard. Rather than conform to the world this style is about getting the world to conform to you.

This style can be an acquired taste in certain situations, but once’s it’s honed, it’s charm is almost irresistible, because it creates instant social proof by getting everyone to conform. Jeff Goldblum, who I have had the pleasure of meeting and is the reason why this style is named after him, is a prime example of this. When you’re in his presence you feel like you’re caught in a mental conversation he’s having with himself, but his sense of charm and inquisitive curiosity makes the experience uniquely fun and very memorable. It’s a different version of Great Gatsby Game in sense that you’re bringing others into your own reality, however this reality is not larger than life, this reality is one simple thing: You.

Personality Type: This works very well for people who are introverted, a little socially awkward or who have a more unique view of the world but would not be defined as classically Alpha. Book-smart and nerdy guys excel at this style of Game.

Examples: Jeff Goldblum, Woody Allen, John Malkovich, Howard Hughes

1. Tortured Genius Game


Style: This style of Game is a variant of the Alpha Bad Boy archetype and is one of the most powerful and effective types of Game there is. This type of Game is “No fucks given” to the highest degree. Abundance mentality rules as many may come and go, one thing remains, the driving goal or passion in life. This passion, be it art, music, acquiring wealth or any other obsession will always be the top priority. Lil Wayne stated it best: “I’m married to the Game and I love my wifey.” For girls, this means that they will always be in direct competition with that driving passion and that they will always come in 2nd place to it, effectively making them a gloried mistress. Usually paired with a knack for creativity, this game creates that irresistible combo to women of strong Alpha traits paired with a “beautiful soul,” as only their uniquely feminine charms can see into it and witness the raw creative talent. A common phrase heard is “He chose me,” which reflects that this Alpha has a multitude of options available to him and he is in fact, the prize worth competing for.

There is a downside with type of Game, as these type seems much more prone to relationships based on a volatile nature and extreme degrees of pendulum swings. One day all is perfect, the next day, the entire world is burning down and there is no escape. Keeping one’s emotional Frame is in check is essential to ensuring that what makes this style so successful doesn’t wind up destroying you, making this style a very sharp double-edged sword.

Personality Type: This type of game is seen a lot in the creative fields, especially with musicians, actors and artists (and bartenders, for whatever reason). The creative drive and vision for the world is a very sexy trait, though I’ve noticed that guys that naturally utilize this style are very prone to self-destructive tendencies (excessive drinking and drug abuse, dangerous activities, etc.). Also given to the volatile nature of this dynamic, more aggressive and passionate personalities tend to utilize this game and they enjoy a much larger threshold of forgiveness and tolerance than any of the other Game styles. Guys that are good with words or expressing and conveying ideas become the masters of tapping into women’s hamsters and getting them to spin in overdrive. Paired with truly not giving a fuck, it’s game over.

Examples: Jim Morrison, Prince, Kurt Cobian, Kanye West

If these apply to you you should explore and experiment with mastering your style. If they don’t you can consider utilizing these styles to see if any work well in your favor. I’d be willing to bet that at least 1 of them does.

Rat Pack at Carnegie Hall


5 Sex Tips To Up Your Sex Game

Sex Tips

“Is sex dirty? Only when it’s being done right.” ― Woody Allen

For this post I wanted to share a few tips that can help take your intimacy and sex game to the next level. A large part of sex is mental, and many of these tips are rooted in stimulating the mental game to make your physical game that much more powerful.

Let me get this out of the way and say that I am talking about activities between consenting adults. I know for most of you that have some sense this is apparent, but for those of you that might misinterpret my meaning, I only advocate consensual activities between adults. Now that that’s out of the way, on to the juicy content of this post.

5. The “Tantric Pause.” One idea from the Tantra is the concept of delayed gratification. The reasoning is that by delaying the gratification, the reward will be much more intense and pleasurable once received. Taking this idea, one thing I have found that makes make out sessions and sex much more intense is during heavy kissing or sex, to go in as if I am going to kiss the girl, but then stopping frozen when my nose is just about to touch hers. This creates a break in the action as well as a tease scenario, and by being able to hold still while looking directly in her eyes, it builds excitement, connection and anticipation. The best part is that it usually takes about 5 second before the girl becomes so overwhelmed with excitement and tension that she passionately will grab me and kiss me, allowing us to resume the activities with the passion amplified. She lost control and I didn’t; which not only shows the power of her desire for me; but also keeps the balance of Frame in my favor.

This is also a great display of discipline, as you will be demonstrating that even while having passionate, bed-breaking sex, you are still master of your domain and have absolute self control to be able to pause sex at will, just because you can. It shows you possess dominance, not only over her pleasure but also over your own, and that is a man that truly is Alpha and worth competing for.

4. Getting “lost” in a kiss. This is a passionate tease tactic that is the inverse of the Tantric Pause. This is something I usually do when saying goodbye, and is very useful when the relationship hasn’t been consummated yet. What this involves is during a goodbye make out session, I begin by being firm yet gentle with my kissing. Then, after a few moments, a sudden flash of hot and heavy gets introduced as I firmly squeeze her body into mine while giving her a long, hard, passionate kiss. I then immediately pull back with a smile while looking in her eyes.

What this does is give her a brief flash of raw, unfiltered passion which leaves her wanting to see how she can extract more of it from you. Also, it allows you to create the Frame of “being caught up in the moment” and allows her to get sucked deeper into the moment as well. The key is to be firm but gentle, passionate, but in control. The illusion is that you’ve temporarily lost control, but by pulling back it creates a bit of doubt as you “catch yourself.” This is a great note to end an encounter on and as they say in show business; “always leave them wanting more.”

3. The “out of the blue” ass-smack. This one has been discussed elsewhere plenty of times, but I love employing it so much that I had to share my thoughts. I only use this with women that I have had sex with. Mostly because after sex it feels way more natural, but also I feel that once you’ve had sex, this maneuver is best suited the present dynamic of the relationship. Essentially, this is giving a girl a firm, playful smack right on the ass, usually followed with a smirk and a wink, and can be done after sex or just hanging out, usually around the house.

This action reinforces the playful dynamic of the relationship as well as shows you’re not afraid to display some dominance every now and again. It’s like a subtle reminder of “that ass belongs to you” which is a playful way to play the conqueror. Hence why I only do this after I have had sex with a girl. To me, doing so before hand is not authentic in that the terrain hasn’t been conquered yet.

2. The “Villain’s Choke Hold.” This move is a next-level power move that if done right will show your dominance, raw physical strength and can drive a girl wild with passionate lust for you. The Villain’s Choke Hold is pretty much what it sounds like. While having passionate sex; and not hum drum “love making” because this maneuver will be way out of place; it’s best to do this with girl on top as it makes logistics easier. It can be done from missionary or if you’re fingering her to make her squirt, but for the sake of explaining this I will use the example of the girl being on top, in the cowgirl position. So, while having passionate sex with the girl on top facing me, I will suddenly sit fully up and place my hand around her throat. I will then firmly, but gently (remember, control is everything) squeeze to lightly choke her while I pull her face about an inch from mine and I stare intensely into her eyes, much like many villains do in movies where’ they are choking out some poor soul. After a few seconds I’ll continue to passionately have sex, usually pulling her in for a deep kiss first.

This move is a total show of raw dominance that works on several levels. First, on a primal level, it shows that your physical strength is literally capable of crushing her. She will be able to physically feel your power in way she hasn’t experience it before. That danger factor makes things more exciting and intense, and also shows that you have the physical capability to exert more force and could use this same force to defend her. Secondly, it’s a very overt showing your dominance and is a reminder that you can be an untamed wild man at times. This fierceness works as it shows your are the conqueror, not the conquered. Lastly, most men don’t have the balls to pull a move like this because they “don’t want to be even slightly rough with their delicate flower.” This move show’s you’re a man that takes what he wants, when he wants and is beholden only to his Frame and knows better than to put her on a pedestal and treat her like an equal sexual being.

Usually after doing this move the girl I am having sex with get a lot wetter and even more turned on, and in a few cases this move brought them to the edge of an orgasm and it only took a few strokes after to finish the job.

1. The “Jedi Breath Trick.” I call this one the “Jedi Breathe Trick” because it involves the girl having her eyes closed and having to rely on her sense of touch to feel you, much like a Jedi closing their eyes in order to “feel the force.” In order to do this, I will either use a sleeping eye cover or a tie (anything that can act as a blindfold will do) and cover the girl’s eyes. Then, while she is laying on her back naked, I will bring my face about an inch away from her body, and then I will exhale a hot, deep breath over her body. I usually start around the neck or stomach, and then I move my face all over her body as I exhale. I never do it in her face as that is not sexy, but what I usually do is run my breath over her body, starting around her breasts and then making my way down to her vagina. From there I will get between her legs, and then continue to run my breath between her inner things and vagina, before focusing my breather on her vagina, and eventually finishing with some licking or kissing that leads into eating her out.

What’s great about this technique is that it puts you in a dominate role as you are in full control of what happens next. And since her eyes are closed, she has no idea what you’re going to do next. By using your breath, you can let her “feel you” without physically touching her, as your warmth from your breath makes a soothing sound and the movement of your head moves the warmth to various parts of her body. Her not being able to see increases her anticipation as well as intensifies her sense touch, so she can experience a heighten sense of awareness.

Another great thing about this technique is that is can be combined with other things, such as she can be tied up to the bed as well or you can finger her while you breath over her breasts or do as I do and transition it into oral sex. A word of caution, sometimes a girl will be ticklish or a little overwhelmed by this, so she may squirm and writhe around uncontrollably and unexpectedly. I’d suggest starting around the neck or breasts and making your way south slowly, just to see how her body reacts. But the girls I have been with and myself have had a lot of fun with this, and several of them got so turned on they actually had orgasms when I moved my breath across their bodies down to their vaginas and focused my breath on their vaginas for a minute.

Final Thought

Please remember to excise control and be safe. Sex is a fun and amazing experience, but you can take things to far and you can physically injure yourself or other person. Also remember that sex is about consent, so if you try any of these and the person doesn’t respond positively to them, then you know this particular thing doesn’t do it for them. Keep it consensual and use your judgement. Try one or all of these out and see how they fit into your style and can impact your sex game.

Go out, live life and have fun doing it my friends.

Couple having sex on a bed at home

The Alpha Wingman

This guy

“You can be my wingman anytime” – Ice Man, Top Gun

Sometimes being an Alpha in a situation is not about using your Frame for your own benefit, but sometimes it’s about using it to help others. This post covers just such a situation that happened recently on a night out with a friend.

Field Report

I was hosting a friend of mine from out of town. He’s a young guy, in his mid twenties and is usually more of the quite and shy type at first, but opens up more once he’s comfortable in a situation. I decide to take him out for a Saturday night of fun and we go to this restaurant and lounge that I frequent in a hip and busy part of town. I like the place because it has a great atmosphere and energy, great food, great drinks, and is close to a lot of other places. It’s also frequented by many beautiful and diverse women, which makes it the prime location for a proper night out.

We get to the venue and go inside for a round of drinks. Since I frequent this place, all of the staff knows me, from the General Manager to the bar-backs, so I’m being greeted and am introducing my friend to them. After hanging out for about 30 minutes, I spot a pair of girls sitting at the end of the bar. One is blonde, with a curvy figure, and the other is a redhead with bright blue eyes and a petite figure. Both girls look to be in their mid thirties, but I know my friend has a thing for older women. I point out the redhead, which is the type of girl he usually goes for and said “I think I found someone you should go meet.” My buddy responded by saying “I’m not sure what the move is,” and so at this point I knew that I would need to take command of the situation.

“Follow my lead,” I told him, as I walked over to the girls. As I was making my way over, someone bumped me so my drink spilled a little onto my hand, so when I got up to the girls I asked if they could pass me a napkin since they where sitting next to them.

“That you for that act of bar-decency,” I said. “The bar is a lawless place and most of the time people just act insane.” Both girls laughed and then I quickly introduced myself and my friend to them. “So what brings you guys out tonight?” I inquired. “Well, we’re out to celebrate my cousin’s birthday,” said the blonde as she pointed to the redhead. “Well happiest of birthdays to you!” I said to the redhead as I gave her an enthusiastic high-five. “How did you guys know to come here?” I asked. “Where were at another bar, but there where no guys so we had heard of this place and came here.”

From there I knew we had a golden scenario. A birthday, which is a reason to celebrate. Check. They had come to this venue specially for guys. Double check. All that was left was to take the reins of the situation.

“You ladies came to the right place,” I said. “We are going to ensure that you have a proper birthday celebration.” I raised my glass and all four of us toasted to the birthday girl. We had some small talk, about what we all did and it urns out the blonde works for a Hollywood agency and the redhead is a college professor. As it turns out, they both had recently moved into the this particular area of town and they were looking to explore it more. They liked the current venue because the redhead leaved about a mile away from it. I asked them if they had been to this other lounge that is close by that I frequent, to which they replied they had hear good things but never had been. “Finish up those drinks, we’re moving out!” I said as I finished my beverage and then called for my tab.

The 2 girls, my friend and myself all made our together to the lounge I had mentioned, and I texted the General Manager there who is a buddy of min that I was en route. I got a “Fo sho playa” response back from the GM and told the ladies that they where going to like this spot a lot. This lounge is a bit of hot spot and sure enough, there was a large line out front as we arrived. I lead the group right up to the front and gave the door guy I know a solid handshake and then a hug to the girl that helps run the door as well. We then strolled right past the line and proceeded to the lounge area. As soon as we got in my buddy who is the GM greeted me and said “It’s a packed night but we have a table set aside for you. Enjoy my man.” The Assistant GM then lead us through the sea of people to a table and we got situated with myself next to the blond facing my friend and the redhead on the other side.

“What just happened?” The redhead asked. “We’re celebrating your birthday, so we are going to do it properly,” I told her. We then ordered some drinks and I made the promise that we would find birthday cake for the birthday girl to ensure the night was flawless. Our drinks arrived and my friend worked his game on the redhead as they got a little more cozy and I chatted up the blonde. After about 15 minutes, I then told the blonde that she should checkout the rest of the lounge and I took her on a tour of the space to give my friend and the redhead some 1 on 1 time.

After the tour of the of the lounge, which deliberately took 20 minutes, we rejoined the table. Once it hit 1 am, I told the group “Time for a field trip,” so we paid our tab then I took us all to a convenience store to look for some type of cake to act as a birthday cake. Since no cake could be found, we grabbed a bunch of peanut butter M&M’s, which is the birthday girl’s favorite candy. I also grabbed a bottle of wine and some matches. I paid for all of the item and then as we walked out of the store I turned to the redhead.

“So we’re going back to your place to continue the celebrations since it’s around the corner? My place is about 20 minutes from here.” She paused for a minute and then said “Ok! I wasn’t planning to have folks over, so I will need to tidy up for a quick minute before anyone comes in.” I smiled and said “Whatever the birthday girl desires.” We made our way to her place, which only took 5 minutes, and then both girls went upstairs to her place to tidy it up. My friend then said “Man, thank you for wingmanning, this has been great!” I turned to him and said “Ok this is how it’s going to go down. We’re going to head up there, have some wine and celebrate for about 30 minutes. Then people are going to get tired, at which point I will take the blonde back to her place and you’ll be good to go.” My friend nodded his head excitedly, and after a few more minutes the girls came back down to let us know we could head in.

We all got up stairs to continue the birthday theme of the evening by finding a few leftover candles and lighting them with the matches I had picked up. We all held glasses of wine and some peanut butter M&M’s while we sang Happy Birthday to the redhead. We then paired off and got settled on the couches and began discussing random topics, from different us cities to movies. Sure enough, after about 1 glass of wine and 30 minutes, the blonde said “I’m starting to get sleepy.” I responded by saying, “Same here, it is pretty late.” I then stood up and said, “We’ll I think I am going to head off,” I then turned to the blonde. “You’re an awesome amount of fun, I’ll give you a lift back to your place so you don’t have to call an Uber.” “Are you sure?” She asked. “Not a big deal,” I replied. “Plus I live in that direction anyway and can hop the freeway back home.” “Ok,” the blonde replied. The redhead then looked at me and asked “What about him?” as she looked at my friend. “No worries,” I said, “I’ll give you to some time. I’ll come back and pick him up after I make sure your friend gets home safely.” Of course, what I was thinking was “I’ll come back and pick him up tomorrow morning,” and I proceeded to say goodbye to the redhead and was quickly followed by the blonde.

The blonde and I then left the redhead and my friend and we proceeded to drive to her place on the other side of town. We got to her street and there was no where to park, so I threw on my hazard lights and prepared to say goodbye to the blonde. The blonde then looked at me and said “I should text my cousin so she knows I got back safe.” Knowing this might cause a potential cock-block, as it might imply that I would be en route back to pick up my friend, responded by leaning in close and then making out with the blonde. After making out  and playing with her large breast for a few minutes, I pulled back and said “Sucks there is no parking.” The blonde gave me a naughty look and said, “You can come inside next time.” Sure enough, a week later I would in every sense of the phrase. But that night, she returned home and I jetted back to my pad to get some much earned sleep. The following day I texted my buddy in the morning and picked him up from the redheads place.

This story is a bit of a longer one, but it is full of some key tips and ideas for you to take away.


6. Having venues locked down is a huge plus. Nothing can kill your momentum faster than dealing with hangups at venues, be it trying to get in or trying to grab drinks and find a place to be comfortable. Having a venue that you have locked down not only makes logistics silky smooth but it also enforces your Frame as a high value individual. Like in this example, having the staff know me at the first venue gave me social proof and boosted my status. Then, moving to the next venue, that status and Frame were further reinforced by bypassing the line and then getting a table instantly in a busy place. This also had the added effect of making the transitional logistics smooth and easy, which makes the impression of status high and well as keeps the momentum building and going, rather than hitting a wall.


5. Logistics are half the battle. When I am out and am suggesting other places to checkout, I ensure that they are logistically easy and close to each other. a long travel time can kill your momentum. Doing recon before and during your night is key. Since I frequent the area, I have great knowledge of all venues and their relative proximity to each other. Also, when it came up during the conversation that the redhead lived very close to where we were, that made her place the ideal go-to stop to continue the night once the bars closed.


4. Frame is a powerful tool. In this particular night, I used Frame to be the best wingman I could be. From the initial approach to taking the group from one lounge to the other, then to a convenience store and then back to one of the girl’s houses, that was only made possible because I defined and held the Frame. I used the theme statement of “It’s your birthday, we’re going to celebrate it properly” as the base that Frame operated from and it made for an adventure that everyone else was more than happy to be a part of.

3. Don’t ask. Subtly command. Part of Frame and game is learning to subtly give commands and not go about it by asking in a Beta way. What I mean by this is when I said “Finish up those drinks, we’re moving out!” I was giving the command of “finish your drinks, we are going to relocate to another venue,” rather than asking “Hey do you guys want to go see this other place?” By taking command of the situation I was able to hold Frame and steer the direction of the night. Other cases of this from that night were when I said “Time for a field trip,” and then leading the group to a convenience store, and then once we where done at the store saying to the Redhead “So we’re going back to your place to continue the celebrations since it’s around the corner?” I was dictating how the night was going to go, and then last example of that was near the end when we were hanging at the redhead’s place and I stated to the blonde “You’re an awesome amount of fun, I’ll give you a lift back to your place so you don’t have to call an Uber.” I was telling her not to call an Uber, I will be taking her home. Now there is a fine line, you don’t have to be an asshole in a commanding way, and sometimes you’ll get some push back to subtle commands. That’s fine and comes with the territory. NEVER FORCE ANYONE TO DO SOMETHING THEY DON”T WANT TO DO. I know most of you reading this already know that, but for those of you that might miss my meaning, I am not advocating forcing people into situations without their consent. Commands establish reinforce your Frame in an authentic way and is a great way to test how well people fall into it.

2. Know how to follow the lead. Nothing is more frustrating that doing a lot of setup to get the baton to the next runner and then to have them drop it half a second into you trying to pass it on. My friend did an excellent job of following my lead and playing off of me, so the combination was extremely effective. You can be Alpha and have Frame by following the lead of another person’s strong Frame. This can help establish your own Frame with a particular person or group and makes for an effective 1 – 2 punch. If you’re rolling out with a wingman and you guys can’t play off each other or follow each other’s leads as needed, you success rate is going to plummet, so make sure you both can either take the lead or follow the lead.

1. Have fun. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the outcome that we forget to take a step back and just enjoy the ride. One of the best highlights of the night for me was being able to have a fun time while helping a friend run his game on a girl he was attracted to. But all of us had a really fun time as we took the theme of “proper birthday celebrations” and ran with it. From the first venue to the second then the convenience store and then finally at the redhead’s house, the entire night was a fun time we all participated in. If you focus on having fun, then whether your get laid or not at the end of the night you’ll have a great time regardless. And as a bonus, having that attitude usually gets you laid more.

The More You Know

Survival of the Fittest


“You realize that we’re the only species that protects the weak?” – Bill Burr

For this post I’m addressing a topic that on the subject of something I find critically important: Personal Accountability. It seems as we become more an more progressive, we stay away from a core principal of life, which is survival of the fittest to “subduing the fit to ensure the weak survive.” This post is more of a pep talk, so please use it for a reminder or motivation go out and live your life to the fullest. Here’s my take on some universal truths and some motivational lines from pop culture to help relate them:

1. Life is not fair. Plan and simple, yet this truth is something we as a society continuously refuse to except and instead attempt to bring the successful down.  Everyone is dealt different cards in life and it’s all matter of how you play them. I know people with every advantage going for them and can’t seem to stay afloat, and I know people from nothing that have built sand achieved greatness. And I’ve seen people with every advantage and they use them brilliantly to expand themselves. Life isn’t fair…and it’s not fair for to everyone, which actually makes it fair.

As our society becomes more feminized, we’ve shifted our focus to protecting the feeling of everyone. Unfortunately a harsh truth is life does not care about your feeling and neither do results. Sports is one of the few places where this truth is allowed to shine, in that there is a winner and a loser, a champion and then everyone else. The idea that we all get trophies for participation sets a false expectation, because in life you may try your best and still fail or come up short. That is how life works. It’s better to fail and use the pain of it for motivation to succeed in the future than try to hide or downplay the simple truth that sometimes our best isn’t good enough. Another great line said by Sean Connery in the Rock (which he was a boss in that role)  sums up this sentiment perfectly:

“You’re best? Losers always whine about their best. Winners go home and fuck the prom queen.”

Take this to heart: Losers whine and winner get it done. Some days you will lose, and that’s ok, because the greatest teacher is failure. It’s not that you’ve failed but it’s the fact that you wallow in the failure that makes it a horrible thing. But if you fail, learn, pick yourself up and continue to push you will be successful and you will have an appreciation for those wins.

2. You are responsible for your situation. In your life, you have to accept that the 1 factor that that you have absolute control over is you. You can get caught up in headlines, what the latest new from Washington is or a million other things happening in the world. But the fact is, at the end of the day you need to decide what you have to do for you and you have to dedicate yourself to that. It doesn’t matter if you where born into a million dollars are born with 2 cents to your family name.

We presently live in the best time in human history. The world has never been safer, had more access to resources available to people and any thing you could want to know are a few keystrokes and clicks away. The only thing that gets in the way of your success is you. Own it, and watch yourself do wondrous things.

3. No one has it easy. Celebrities, billionaire or other highly successful people don’t have things easy. Everyone in this life has their hardships and issues they have to deal with. Just because you can’t see their struggle does not somehow make your own struggles somehow special. To quote the musician Guru of Gang Starr, “Actions have reactions don’t be quick to judge, you may not know the hardships people don’t speak of.”

Now this is not to downplay the validity of your own struggles, but that doesn’t give you the right to disregard what others are going through. Some people are so poor they have no idea when they will eat again, other people are so rich they are isolated and can’t trust anyone as they have “friends” and family that are continuously trying to take from them. We all have struggles, so it’s best to focus on overcoming them and leave the jealousy of other peoples perceived easiness of life in the wind as it’s not a productive use of your energy or time.

4. “Do or do not, there is no try.” Ironic how words from a movie character (Yoda) can contain some powerful life wisdom. You either find a way to get it done or you find an excuse why you can’t. Plain and simple. If you have a goal, you need to make that your mission in life to get it done, come hell or high water. Now, you can adjust how your approach achieving that goal as go along the way, but at the end of the day it all becomes binary: Did you achieve it, or did you not achieve it?

Only you can answer that question and it’s up to you to hold yourself accountable for that. The best way to stay motivated is to never have a Plan B. Once you have a Plan B you’re subconsciously telling yourself that accepting failure to achieve that goal is an option. A personal mantra I use comes from a brilliant line delivered by John Trivolta in The Taking of Pelgham 123:

“Plan B is enforcing Plan A.”

That line is brilliant because it says he’s dead focused on a singular purpose and all of his being is working to execute it…even his “backup plan” is pushing through to execute and realize the vision of his main objective.

That’s my pep talk for today. I don’t know who you are or your story in life, but it is my sincerest hope that you live the life of your dreams and that you achieve your goals. I believe that we all can achieve greatness together and we won’t succeed by living solely to cut others down. I’ll leave you with another quote from the brilliant Felix Dennis (if you don’t know who he is you should google him), which reflects a core belief I hold:

“A swelling tide raises all boats, including yours.”

Go be the champion of your life.

In this 14 June 1998 file photo, Michael Jordan (L

Gay Club Game For Straight Guys

Night Club

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” –  Neale Donald Walsch

In my experience, a very underrated area for a single straight guy to go meet women is at a gay club. I’ve gone with my gay male friends before just hang and have a good time, and I’ve found that being a straight guy you game gets an amplified boost. With halfway decent game your efforts get an amplified effect, so I’ve broken down a few reasons why below. Now note that these observations apply to straight men and straight women.

4. You’re open minded and know how to have fun.

A lot of straight guys get hung up on the “gay” part of the gay club. Either they don’t feel comfortable, it’s not something they wish to be associated with, or there is a host of other reasons. But in any case, by virtue of you being at a gay club signals that you’re open minded and down for a good time. The message you’re translating is that you’re a man comfortable enough with his own sexuality to be in a place that would seem to put you outside of your comfort zone. Use this frame to set the tone for your night.

3. In an ocean of unattainable guys, you are a beacon of attainability.

Why do straight girls go gay clubs? So they can look at hot guys while dancing, having fun and not worrying about anyone hitting on them. They can do a little window shopping, like when people look at homes or cars they can’t afford yet. They want to get a little taste of the dream. That being said, when you have women that are looking at a bunch of attractive men that they know they have no real chance with, but then you come along to and show them that they don’t have to stick to window shopping that night. It’s not always the most shredded 6-pack abs covered in baby oil type guy that gets the girl…sometimes it’s the most attainable guy, who you know, likes girls. Which leads to point #3…

2. Your competition is minimal

This should be self explanatory but I’ll mention this point to reinforce point #3. In a sea of sharks that only want to eat other sharks, this leaves ample amounts of tuna for a shark that wants tuna to eat. Translating that to the gay club, you’ll find that other dudes trying to cockblock or AMOG you with other girls is minimal. At regular clubs you have to deal with those distractions more regularly, but at the gay club you’ll find that other dudes hitting on you will distract you more than other guys trying to compete for the girl you’re going after. The script is flipped, in which girls now have other guys competing to get you, so play with that competitive advantage a little.

1. The environment is a massive wingman

All the prior points outline the fundamental message I want to drive home: The entire place, though not intended to, actually acts as a facilitator and amplifier for your game. Another big help is that gay clubs, in typical guy fashion, are very overt and charged with sexual energy. The entire environment is a giant social Viagra that is designed to get people excited, amped up and turned on. So when you have women entering this sexually supercharged zone with no outlet for it, your job is made a whole lot easier. Do you still need to put in work? Yes, because unless you’re like Leonardo DiCaprio, chances are you can’t just show up and get swarmed by girls (and guys alike). So yes, you will need your game skills but you’ll find they have an amplified effect.

That’s all for this post, so get out there and take over the world gents.