Going The Distance: Strategy For Dating At A Long(ish) Distance

“Whoever coined the term “absence makes a heart grow fonder,” was an idiot. Absence makes a bitch grow crazy.” – Toni Aleo

I’m not a fan or real believer in long distance relationships. For an LTR, it creates a lot of unnecessary problems and stress. However, if you’re casually dating or have a hook up buddy situation, than the long distance can be a huge plus. For this post, I’ll be touching on a helpful strategy to foster and manage dating from a long(ish) distance.

To start, I will say that for purposes of this strategy, long(ish) distance is anyone that lives 30 or more miles away from you, or usually lives about an hour and half of travel time from you. In the dating scene, distance plays a factor. Usually a good 5-20 mile radius is ideal because that makes logistics much simpler with shorter travel times and convenience of venues located close to your house or their’s. When you get beyond that, you start getting into issues of logistics and time that usually force your hand to find a place that is either in your neighborhood or in hers. So what is a good way to manage this?

For a first date / hang session, I almost always find a venue in her neighborhood and will go pick her up. This allows me to maintain Frame as I am responsible for transportation as well as putting within close proximity to her place if things go very well. Also, unless a girl is making it really clear that she is super into you, it’s much easier to go to her side of town for the first encounter because she’s putting less investment in initially by you coming to her (when a girls lives relatively close to me, I usually do the inverse in that I almost always have them come to me on the first encounter). But this is your chance to show off how awesome you are and to get her to enticed into your Frame. You’re giving her a strong reason to come to your side of town for the next date / hangout. Remember, girls live in a time where they have more access to men than they know what to do with, so you need to give her a worthwhile reason to drive and hour or more in traffic to come see you when she could easily swipe right on a guy that lives 3 blocks away on her phone. Be the man worth the effort and you’ll be surprised by what girls will do to be with you. I once went out with a girl that did not have a car (this was the pre-Uber days) and lived on the other side of town from me and for our second date she took 3 buses and train, in LA, which is not known for it’s efficient public transportation to get to me, she was that into me. I’ve also had another girl that lived an hour away from me have car trouble so she borrowed her aunt’s car to drive to me rather than me driving to her. Be a man worth the effort.

After you’ve shown that you’re a man of value and are worth going the distance for, the second encounter you should have her meet at your place and then you take her out from there. This allows you to bring her into your world and show off your home court advantage with local venues that you know of. Also, you’ll have to end up back at your place, which makes it more convenient for her to spend the night. I’ve dated a lot of girls that lived 30 – 70 miles away from me and this formula works extremely well, especially as once the Frame has been established, usually 8 out 10 dates involve them coming to my side of town in exchange for me going to their side of town 1 or 2 out of 10 times. This is especially effective with girls that are living with roommates or that are living with family. Your world can be an exciting escape from their reality for them.

Another benefit of this arrangement is that if you’re seeing multiple people, it’s easier to schedule them to come see you and you can also schedule multiple dates in the same day with people who live in the same direction. Once I did a “double day” by seeing a girl in Oceanside, which is easily an hour and half outside of Los Angeles in the afternoon and then saw another girl that I hooked up with that night down in San Diego. The logistics worked at very well and made the 120 mile drive down to San Diego very worth while as I was able to make a stop en route for a date in Oceanside, which is 35 miles north of San Diego. Killing 2 birds with 1 stone as they say. Another perk is that you have a drastically reduced chance of bumping into one of your longer distance prospects while out with a local girl, and it helps keep your plates that you’re spinning separate.

I will stress that all of this works based on the fact that you have your Frame in check. If you don’t then you’ll come off as that Beta guy that’s really “nice.” Only having that Alpha swag will make her desire to make the trip. The real question you have to ask is how much effort are you willing to put in. If you don’t want to bother, not to worry, go out and meet more people that are closer to you. But if you have a warm lead and the only thing standing in the way is distance, then this might be a solid option to consider. I have found with long(ish) distance dating, by putting in a little bit more effort upfront I can then have an easier situation that requires an extremely small amount of work to maintain. I do enjoy making the effort on the first encounter, as I usually get to know and scout a new area out for future reference (you never know when it will come in handy). So if you meet someone that you’re into and are trying to figure out out how logistics can work, try this formula out for yourself. It’s especially useful for you guys in towns that are small and far from a lot of action, so you most likely are making a bit of a trek to go beyond the local watering holes anyways. See if your prospects can go the distance.

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Predatory Efficiency

Fierce Tiger

“He was a killer, a thing that preyed, living on the things that lived, unaided, alone, by virtue of his own strength and prowess, surviving triumphantly in a hostile environment where only the strong survive.” ― The Call of the Wild,  Jack London

I don’t watch any TV as I plain and simply don’t have the time for it, but every now and again I might watch a few episodes of something educational or inspiring. Recently, I watched a fantastic series call The Hunt, which you can stream on Netflix. Aside from being beautifully shot with an Oscar-worthy soundtrack, this series takes a harsh look at being a predator in the wild and how harsh the natural world can be.

What I also gleamed from this series where a lot of parallels between predators in the wild and what we as men must face in the world of Game. Below are some observational parallels inspired by this series, since as men, when it comes to dating we are the hunters:

4. Failure is an essential part of the Game. One of the biggest themes in this series is failure and how there is no getting around it, it’s a part of life. Predators in the wild have an extremely high failure rate, with stats around 1 in 7 to 1 in 10 hunts actually being successful. This is true with Game as well.

Game is not about never failing or or getting rejected, it’s actually about going out there and facing that rejection. A season player will actually get rejected more than a timid one, and that’s fine because he’s creating more opportunities for success by doing more approaches. Life is a contact sport, the more people you contact, the better you’ll do. So play the numbers. If your success rate is 1 in 10, and you only ever make 10 approaches, then you’re only ever going to be successful once. But if you make 100 approaches, then your success rate may stay the same but you will have 10 success under you belt because you did more work. It’s a learning process, so the more you get out there and get experience, the more you learn what works for you and more your success rate will improve. No one will ever be at 100%, but if you can go from 10% successful to 15%, that’s a big improvement. And eventually you can build on that to get your success rate even higher. This leads to observation number 2…

3. Persistence is key to success and survival. In the wild, predators fail much more than they succeed, yet they persist on. Why? If they don’t they will die. Their very survival depends on it. Predators are the most persistent group of animals because they have to continually push themselves in order to be successful. It doesn’t matter if they haven’t eaten in weeks, if they are facing prey that is bigger than them or that half the things they hunt could injure or kill them. They have to be fearless, bold, and persistent to be successful and survive.

The same is especially true with Game. If you only make a few approaches a month, get rejected and stop approaching, guess what? You’re not to going to find any success or change your situation. With Game you have to be persistent in order to be successful. Lie a tiger in the jungle, the fate of your night is up to you. Will you go out and find a girl to have sex with? Will you have a fun time regardless? Or will you skulk at home because it’s “too hard?” The choice is yours. Choose wisely.

2. Predators are efficient. A Cheetah does not sprint at max speed every chance it gets, not does it waste energy running and leaping for no reason. Predators conserve their energy at all costs, because once it’s spent, there’s no guarantee of success so they may be successful and in turn be able to recoup that energy quickly. Hence why predator spend most of their hunting time utilize stealth so they can get withing striking distance. Once there, they unleash their full might in a high risk high reward explosion of force that gives them the absolute best chance of success.

When out in the field Gaming, you must become efficient as well. If you’re a clever smooth talker, make that work for you instead of trying to be the loud, over the top comedian. If you’re the loud, over the top comedian, than play that to your advantage and don’t waste your energy trying to be the technical philosopher. Now don’t be afraid to experiment with different styles depending on the situation, but ultimately you know what works best for you and what doesn’t work best.

Also, be efficient with your resources. Your money, energy, attention, and especially your time. If you’re catching a hint that a girl is wasting or eating up too much of any of these, then NEXT her and move on, it’s not efficient for your success rate to waste needlessly. It’s better to spend more of those or much stronger leads than trying to play the “if I can convince her game,” which is always a losing game since if you even do manage to “win,” you’ve dumped more resources than you know you should have so you still don’t come out ahead.

1. Predators have rock-solid focus. When predator are in stealth mode and getting withing striking distance, pay very close attention to their entire bodies. I love how the way every last inch of a predator locks into an aggressive, spring-loaded stance as they prepare to unleash murderous force up their prey. It starts from their head and eyes and all other parts of their bodies shift to channel all their energy to that single focal point, like a sniper locking a round into the chamber and focusing the scope on the rifle. And once a predator makes the leap into the kill zone, as prey dodges and changes directions, predators heads and eyes remain locked entirely on their prey, never losing sight or focus of their target, while their body makes automated adjustments to keep the predator on track.

Tiger Stalking

This is a critical takeaway for Game, as once you get in that “kill zone” state where you can escalate things sexually (in a consensual way, of course), you have to utilize that focus to enhance your presence and maximize the moment. When you keep your focus, it’s amazing how your body language and Frame will subconsciously lock into place to work for you and not against you. This will help you conquer shit tests, deal with cock blocks and increase the vibe that you’re a man on a mission.

That does it for this post, but I hope some of these takeaways help you in the field. Happy hunting.

Hawk

 

Who’s Turn Is It Anyway?

Line

“No winter lasts forever; no spring skips its turn.” –  Hal Borland

For this post I wanted to give a bit of a quick pep talk addressing on of the core Red Pill truth’s. When it comes to any woman you’re involved with romantically, always remember that she is not your’s, it’s just your turn. Now, this turn might last for 1 night or 50 years, but if you understand this concept this will help you in regulation your Frame and emotions. It’s an important concept because it puts the abundance mentality first and helps you see relationships for what hey are, not for what society conditions use to believe, which is that they are one-shot chances at happiness.

Now perhaps event more importantly to remember is the inverse act is true: She doesn’t own you and it’s her turn with you. Many times this fact is forgotten because too much focus is put externally on the other party in the relationship. But this is a true fact that reinforces the you are the prize mentality. So I’ll say it again, when you’re involved with any woman romantically remember that it’s her turn to be with you, and that turn can be ended at your discretion.

That’s it for today, sort and sweet. Now go make the most of those turns.

Cheers.

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First Wheel

3rd Wheel

“Why go out and be a third wheel when you can stay home and be a unicycle?” – Unknown

In this post I wanted to share a field report of a most adventurous night and a few of the takeaways from it. Grab some popcorn and get cozy, this one is a bit of a ride.

I was hanging a hot spot rooftop bar in LA with a good friend of mine. I had chosen the spot because I like it and frequent it a lot, and throw in the fact that a lot of very attractive women frequent this place, it was a good venue to discuss some business before causing trouble.

As we where hanging out talking, I noticed this girl walking a few feet behind us. She was about 5’8″, had a nice athletic figure, had dark blonde hair and certain presence she carried herself with that made her intriguing. As she walked by I saw her glance over quickly and give the signature “up and down” look-over to my friend and I. This alerted my radar that a hot target was is close proximity. She then continued over to her friend very attractive brunette friend that was about 10 feet away from us.

As my friend and I wrapped up official business conversation, I had noticed that the blonde and brunette had managed to be standing within a few feet of us. I then asked my friend about what airline is the best and told him we need to get some outside opinions to weigh in, so I walked over to the blonde and ask “excuse me, we’re crowd sourcing opinions, which airline is the best?” They both responded with “Virgin Airlines” to which I responded “That’s the correct answer!” (because it is) and then I introduced myself and my friend. The blonde girl introduced herself as “Tess” and the brunette introduced herself as “Lily.”

1 minute into our conversation I was picking up some serious vibes from Tess. Suddenly, I had the thought of “I bet i could just make out with this girl right now.” So another two minutes later, I very gently place my hands on her hips, pulled her in close, and then just started kissing her. She was really into it, and then I pulled back to see her giving me one of the most innocently dirty smiles I’ve ever come across. It was that smile where she telepathically was saying “I want you to rail me until I’m a writhing pile of orgasmic sensation” and the thought I was projecting back was “It’s not a matter if, it’s only a matter of when.” Just then Lily got a text from a colleague of theirs, which signaled that they had to leave to meet with the rest of their colleagues. I proceeded to get Tess’ number and then told her “I’ll be seeing you later,” with a smirk and a wink. And indeed, I would see her later in an epic saga that resulted in one of my favorite sexual encounters to date.

But that story is for another post,  so back to the story at hand, my friend and I started to debrief after the girls left. 2 minutes later, this guy and two girls came into the venue. I recognized the guy as a bartender from one of my favorite lounges, and it appeared his was on a date with a girl and tag along friend. They got to the bar an ordered drinks, just as my friend who’s the GM of the present venue gave me and my friend 4 vodka sodas, compliments of the house. I thanked my buddy but now we had 2 extra drinks, so I used that as part of my opening play.  I tapped my bartender friend, let’s call him Chuck, on the shoulder and asked him what was up and how he was doing. We exchanged some quick small talk and he introduced me to his date, Mia, and her friend, Brittney.  Shortly after the drinks for Chuck and Mia where placed on the bar. Before they could react, I already had my card out, on the bar and told the working bartender the drinks ordered by Chuck and Mia where on me. (Side bar- this is Pro Tip; if you ever encounter a bartender you know outside of their work in the field, buy them a drink or two. Trust me, they will remember it fondly the next time you seem them while they are working.) Chuck thanked me, and then I picked up one of the vodka sodas and handed it to Brittney and said “vodka soda on the house from the GM, I have an extra one and you need something to cheers with.” Brittney enthusiastically took the beverage and then all of gave a cheers to the night. I then turned my attention towards Brittney and asked her what she was doing with Chuck and Mia. She looked at me and said, “I’m hanging out playing third wheel with them.” Seizing the moment, I replied in a jovial tone:

“Don’t be the third wheel with them. Come be first wheel with us.”

Her eyes lit up as she enthusiastically said “I’m in!” She came over to join me and my friend as we then proceeded to have a conversation about tech company stocks. During that conversation I kept my flirt game high since I was still feeling in the zone from my encounter 10 minutes earlier. At some point the subject of height came up, and Brittney pointed out how it must be nice to be my height, to be able to see over crowds. I told her the only way to find out was to experience it via piggyback, then took her by the hand to position her to hop on my back. She then hopped on, and I gave her a piggy back ride across the bar and back. I set her down and said “How was that test drive for you?” Brittney laughed and said it was a lot of fun and can see why I chose to be tall. We both then starting bobbing with the music that was playing, and after 30 seconds of light dancing, I felt the energy of the night take over. I then leaned towards Brittany and we started making out. I then took her to sit by the fire pit and proceeded to keep making out with her. We were hanging out there when someone offered us shots, to which I declined but she accepted.

About 5 minutes later, she began to feel a little sick. Having been to college and seen when someone’s had one-too-many plenty of times before, I knew she was done for. I had her put her phone number in my phone while I flagged Chuck over. He and Mia took Brittney to out to an uber so they could get her back to her place. I rejoined my friend and while checking my phone discovered that Brittney had added 8 digits in for her number, so I had no idea which digit was the extra one. My friend and I had a good laugh about that fact and continued to befriend random people until we closed the place down and I made my way home at 2:30 am.

Takeaways

4. In The Zone. Some nights you’re in the zone…you can do no wrong. You’re feeling the energy and channeling it through yourself. When you’re feeling it have fun with it, because the universe is about balance and there will be some nights where you’re so off you couldn’t even buy a phone number if you tried. The more you practice , refine and hone your game, the more times you’re find yourself being able to get into the zone.

3. Trust your gut. When you feel a strong vibe and your gut is telling you that a girl is on that same vibe, seize the moment and make magic happen. I could tell the Tess was interested based on her eye-rape as she did a close walk by. Then when we got to talking, I felt the vibe more intensely, almost like a magnetic force, and so withing 3 minutes of meeting her I was making out with her. The same is true with vibe I got from Brittney, and it worked out really well.

2. Create separation. What helped with both girls was the ability to create a little separation and create a personal bubble that was just the two of us. With Tess it started off physically creating it by placing my hands on her hips. With Brittney, it was when I rescued her from being trapped as a third wheel and told her to come be first wheel with my friend and I. Also, the piggyback ride certainly created a physical bubble. Working on this will help your success rate rocket up as well create stronger connections with women.

1. Your only expectation should be to have fun. If you approach the night with that mindset, then no matter what you’ll have a good time. I can look at what didn’t work that night, like the fact that Tess had to leave early and that Brittney took too many shots and got sick and I didn’t get laid that night. Or I can look at all the positives that made it fun, I had a great business discussion with my friend, I got to make out with Tess within 3 minutes and got her number, I gave Brittney a piggyback ride around the bar before making out with her, I got to make out with different girls in a 20 minute time span, all while befriend some other interesting people and coming away with a great story. If you find a way to have fun, then you’ll have it, and that’s what makes life worth living.

So the next time you find a girl that’s a 3rd wheel, rescue her and upgrade her into a 1st wheel.

Cheers with Beers

Beta Beware

Warning Sign

“Beware of those who are bitter, for they will never allow you to enjoy your fruit.” ― Suzy Kassem

In light of the recent Aziz Ansari story, I wanted to highlight a few of the Red Pill dynamics and implications from this as I feel we have a very big example of the dangers Blue Pill men face, especially when they act in a Beta manner.

3. Allegation is the new “Truth.”

In modern times, it doesn’t matter what the actual truth is anymore, all that matter is the court of public opinion which is frothing at the mouth to consume the perceived guilty. When this story broke, there has been an instant outcry for blood, despite the story being an allegation. An allegation, is an accusation of something, but that doesn’t mean it’s the truth. Our justice system was founded to be the direct inverse of the Napoleonic Code; we are to presume innocence until guilt can be proven. However, in the age of social media being the driving tool of public opinion, an allegation equals the truth without question, and many of these Hollywood stars are learning this reality the hard way. The modern witch hunt has gone into full swing. The irony of this is that in an episode of House of Cards, Keven Spacy’s (who has his own issues to deal with) character Frank Underwood called this out: “If I allege that you I had lunch yesterday, then as far as the public is concerned, you and I had lunch yesterday.”

2. Your loyalty doesn’t mean shit.

Aziz has been an outspoken male-feminist and has used his platform to produce his highly Blue Pill series Master of None as a way to sympathize with the movement. Yet once this story has broke, he’s been cast as the hypocrite and a villain in the eyes of his supposed “allies.” Christian McQueen stated it best in an email on the topic when he stated that these feminist allies “eat their own,” and that’s exactly what we’re seeing here. (Side plug, if you’re not on his daily email list you should be). All of his years of feminist siding and being “the good boy” for the cause means absolutely nothing. And like many Blue Pill men, there comes a horror when the realization hits that all their personal investment in that relationship doesn’t mean anything. He was one of the big allies of the feminist movement and yet they turned on him in a split second.

A quote that sums this up brilliantly is from the movie The Dark Knight, when the Joker and Batman are having a face to face conversion (which I am sure many of you have experienced firsthand as Red Pill aware men talking to Blue Pill conditioned men):

“Don’t talk like one of them; you’re not. Even if you’d like to be. To them you’re just a freak…like me. They need you right now…but when they don’t…they’ll cast you out. Like a leper. See their morals; their code; it’s a bad joke. Dropped at the first sign of trouble. They’re only as good as the world allows them to be. I’ll show you, when the chips are down, these uh…these “civilized” people; they’ll eat each other. You see I’m not a monster. I’m just ahead of the curve.” – The Joker

This is the trap many Blue Pill male feminist fall into. They think that by being outspoken supporters of the movement they are in fact being Batman and saving the day from the Red Pill and Alpha men of the world, aka the Jokers of the world. But what they fail to realize is that they are nothing more the disposable tools for cause. The cause does not care about them, it only uses them as a means to keep their objectives in check before discarding these men after their usefulness has been served.

1. Game is important now than ever.

Reading the account of what transpired, it’s easy to spot where Game would have saved Aziz from his present situation. Now, I take this account with a very skeptical lens, as it is in human nature for us to always tell a story that paints us in the best light possible, and girls are extremely adept at doing it. This girl is certainly doing that here as she admits to giving him a blowjob but is still somehow 100% faultless in him thinking she wanted sex. the abridged version of the story is they meet for dinner date, go back to his place, start making out, and then things escalate to make her feel pressured and uncomfortable. Even after mutual oral sex, he keeps trying to have sex with her, and she subtly tries to tell him she doesn’t want to (without ever at any point actually verbalizing or walking away and leaving).

Essentially, he is being held accountable and punished because he is not a psychic and can’t read her every thought. He just doesn’t “get it.” Based on this girl’s version of events, had he utilized Game to read the girl’s actions he could have been a better, more genuine seducer, or he would have recognized early on that this girl wasn’t fully into the moment and he would have de-escalated the situation. But in any case the message is clear: If you do not know Game so you can read women then you will be punished for it when they regret the experience later. Learn Game and master it, or you will be a Master of None.

Final Thought

I do feel for Aziz in this instance, because as a former Blue Pill Beta I can see how he could have misread the situation so badly. I sincerely hope that a reconciliation is made and that he does not choose to go the suicide route, as many Blue Pill men in his situation often do. With my Red Pill lens I can see that there is her side of the story and his side of the story and somewhere in the middle is the truth, but the public unfortunately doesn’t care about that fact, they only care about her side of the story. If he really did intentionally try to have sex with this girl in an explicitly non-consensual way, they he deserves the public lynching. But based on what’s been stated, he seems to be another casualty in the war of female primacy, and he was one of their biggest allies. Stay woke people. If you help the masters make slavery more efficient, you’re only tightening the chains around your own neck.

Shackles

 

Wolves Vs Dogs

Classy Wolf

“Liberty for wolves is death to the lambs.” – Isaiah Berlin

This post is an inspired response to Rollo Tomassi’s thought provoking tweet from 1/13/2018:

“The “beta uprising” will be nothing more than betas doubling down on empathizing with women. Whether directly by supporting and increasingly tight laws they hope will crack down on alphas being alphas, or indirectly by sorting themselves voluntarily out of the dating pool.”

I gave a quick reply on twitter:

“I think that is how It will start, but I think they will hit a point of nothing to lose, as they have given everything away and will start to push back.”

While this reply was based on my initial thoughts, the tweet stuck with me in my thoughts which lead to me to the post that I have for today. While do think that in the end, the Beat Awakening will result in some push back on the pendulum, Rollo’s words gave rise to a thought where I can’t help but see the parallel between wolves and domesticated dogs, and how the situation came to be.

Dogs started out as feral, untamed pack hunters that early humans feared and respected. At some point thousands of ears ago, there was a divergence, where dogs that where less aggressive and more naturally tame,where taken in by humans, while the wild ones where hunted, killed, or driven away. These time dogs become domesticated, and as time has passed, have become dependent upon humans for their survival. As we all know, domesticated dogs for the most part are nothing like their wild counter parts in modern times. And these domestic dogs will defend to the death their human masters and can even be sent on hunts to track down other wild dogs.

Relating this to Rollo’s tweet, the same can be applied to Beta men vs Alpha men. The Beta’s are in a sense domesticated pets, ready and willing to do their master’s bidding. They will even defend and attack the Alpha’s to protect their masters from them. Despite sharing a common ancestry, the Alpha’s and Betas are on different sides of the fence. So Rollo’s point of  “doubling down” I can see being the first step in a “Beta Awakening”. The first step will always be to defend what is known. But even domesticated dogs can become feral and wild should they suffer too much abuse from their masters. I think that will be the second part of the “Awakening” will happen when Betas are forced in kennels and denied the comforts of what they need to function.

In the meantime, the Alpha seems like an endangered species, in that as Open Hypergamy expands, the Alpha’s habitat is under serious threat. Though much like feral and cunning wolves, the Alphas have managed to adapt and find solace in numbers allowing them to thrive. As many have stated in before, learning game and evolving it is more critical than ever before. It is no longer a luxury, it is a survival requirement.

I do agree with Rollo’s thought that the “Beta Awakening” will see the doubling down of the domesticated Betas to protect their masters to their own detriment. I also feel that that will be the first part, and that the second, true “awakening” will happen after a breaking point is reached. Only time will tell where all of this goes and how it will play out. But one thing I do know is that much like wolves who have roamed the earth for thousands of years and have found ways to survive in all type of conditions, those that can actualize their Alpha selves and keep a strong Red Pill understanding will find a way to thrive. And when spotted in the wild, there will be a sense of awe and a reminder of how the natural world really works to the beholder.

Howling Wolf

The Time Of Kings

Spartan King

“A King needs a Kingdom to to King, not a Queen. Remember that.” – Unknown

As western society becomes more and more feminized, there is a unintended advantage born from this paradigm. Now has never been a easier time to establish yourself from the heard of boys as a man, and not just any man; a king.

“A King needs a Kingdom to to King, not a Queen. Remember that.”

This quote rings so true I’m posting it twice. This is a core Red Pill idea that most men will not embrace but will run from because of the burden it represents: We are responsible for our own  lives and what we get out of them. A woman does not define you and you need no other external validation to define yourself either. You are a king, the time is now to master your kingdom.

But what is my kingdom and how do I master it, you ask? Take a look:

Your Body Is Your Kingdom – Master it, exercise it, sculpt and shape it. Excercise and stay healthy. Many a man was stunted his potential by allowing his body to be soft and his health to be poor.

Your Mind Is Your Kingdom – Take care what you put into it and who you allow to have influence in it. Put positive things that will inspire and help you grow into it, and only allow people who add positive value to have influence on it. You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Choose them wisely.

Your Relationships Are Your Kingdom – You are the one in the driver’s seat of your relationships, so manage and led them wisely. If a relationship is a negative or counter productive to you, it s your job to remove it. Failure to do so can cost you time, sanity, and much, much more. All relationships, from family to business to romantic relationships are under the domain of your kingdom, especially the romantic ones. Take the lead and remember, you are the king, the queen does not define your kingdom or the status of your kingship.

Your Time Is Your Kingdom – Manage it relentlessly and guard it jealous. Of all the commodities in this world, it it the one thing you can never get back. Make it count.

Your Life Is Your Kingdom – You only have one go at it and only you can live your life. So live your life on your own terms. Life the life you want and dream about. Live your life as if your life depends on it. It does.

There’s your pep-talk for the day. Go out and conquer your kingdom.

Battle Charge

Name Your Game

Rat Pack

“Your life is not a simulation; it’s the real game. Play wisely.” ― Richelle E. Goodrich

As you develop your Game skills and understanding, you realize that there are many different type of Game styles that can utilize. Usually one style is the most effective for you, but you can utilize more than one at different times or concurrently to improve your success rate. For this post, I’ll be detailing below 4 different Game styles and the personality types these are very effective for, with 4 real-world examples of each.

4. Great Gatsby Game

Cheers

Style: This game style is not so much named because of who the fictional character Jay Gatsby was, since he was extremely Beta; but more so about what he represented. Gatsby was known for hosting and throwing large, grand and very elaborate parties that made him the talk of the town. Gatsby was about viewing life as a grand adventure and being larger than life. This made him so charming and appealing because he had a sense of optimistic innocence to his world view that made it easy for people to get swept up in; it was pure.

This style will draw shit testing from women’s pragmatic side or the people trying to pull you out of “fantasy play land” and back to “the real world.” This is countered by adopting the old Playstation mantra: “Live in your world; play in ours.” Great Gatsby Game is about bringing people into your Frame and you maintaining it. Your world is one of fun, celebration and adventure. The trick is to not let the guests in your world change it back into their world.

Personality Type: This Game style is best suited for guys that are social, especially those with “larger than life” personalities. Typically these guys have no problems approaching and opening an individual or a group of people and within 5 minutes they are are charmed by their spell. This Game style utilizes social proof and bravado and results in you very overtly owning the room. I make the most use of this style personally, as it suits my personality and passion for adventure in life.

Examples: Walt Disney, John Wayne, James Dean, Elon Musk

3. James Bond Game

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Style: This Game style is defined as being sleek, subtle, and follows a more Classic Alpha archetype. Unlike the Great Gatsby Game, James Bond Game is much more poised. Everything seems calculated and strategic, there are “no accidents” when employing this game. There is always an sense of “I know a juicy secret about the world and I won’t tell anyone” that draws an entices people in; it’s the sense of mystery generated by the great confidence and poise. This Game style also gets a lot of shit tests thrown at it, which are then deflected with the greatest of ease by a smirk and quick comment. There is always an air of classy superiority that is present, regardless if there is social proof or not. This style runs on 100% rock-solid Frame.

This style is loathed by Beta orbiters because there is no clearly visible reason why this style is so intriguing to women, and so they will shit test, run interference and try to “protect” women from this unknown danger that represents a threat to their misguided investment in women. This style will use that to your advantage to show how confidently Alpha you are and will draw women in more powerfully while getting the Betas to push themselves away further.

Personality Type: This Game style is best suited for guys that would rather approach indirectly or by proximity, rather than go out of their way to make a direct approach. Guys that are great at the concept of Amused Mastery and are good at using teasing and sarcasm.

Examples: Frank Sinatra, Clint Eastwood, Sean Connery, George Clooney

2. Jeff Goldblum Game (aka The Eccentric Genius Game)

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Style: This unconventional style of Game owns that fact all the way while highlighting how many different Red Pill concepts can be executed brilliantly in very diverse ways. On the outside these might seem like head-scratching outliers, but for those who know how to read the Red Pill tells, it makes perfect sense. This style is based on embracing one’s social uniqueness and holding total Frame control while doing so. What this Frame hold does is it makes the rest of the world seem like it’s off and the one projecting the Frame is the standard. Rather than conform to the world this style is about getting the world to conform to you.

This style can be an acquired taste in certain situations, but once’s it’s honed, it’s charm is almost irresistible, because it creates instant social proof by getting everyone to conform. Jeff Goldblum, who I have had the pleasure of meeting and is the reason why this style is named after him, is a prime example of this. When you’re in his presence you feel like you’re caught in a mental conversation he’s having with himself, but his sense of charm and inquisitive curiosity makes the experience uniquely fun and very memorable. It’s a different version of Great Gatsby Game in sense that you’re bringing others into your own reality, however this reality is not larger than life, this reality is one simple thing: You.

Personality Type: This works very well for people who are introverted, a little socially awkward or who have a more unique view of the world but would not be defined as classically Alpha. Book-smart and nerdy guys excel at this style of Game.

Examples: Jeff Goldblum, Woody Allen, John Malkovich, Howard Hughes

1. Tortured Genius Game

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Style: This style of Game is a variant of the Alpha Bad Boy archetype and is one of the most powerful and effective types of Game there is. This type of Game is “No fucks given” to the highest degree. Abundance mentality rules as many may come and go, one thing remains, the driving goal or passion in life. This passion, be it art, music, acquiring wealth or any other obsession will always be the top priority. Lil Wayne stated it best: “I’m married to the Game and I love my wifey.” For girls, this means that they will always be in direct competition with that driving passion and that they will always come in 2nd place to it, effectively making them a gloried mistress. Usually paired with a knack for creativity, this game creates that irresistible combo to women of strong Alpha traits paired with a “beautiful soul,” as only their uniquely feminine charms can see into it and witness the raw creative talent. A common phrase heard is “He chose me,” which reflects that this Alpha has a multitude of options available to him and he is in fact, the prize worth competing for.

There is a downside with type of Game, as these type seems much more prone to relationships based on a volatile nature and extreme degrees of pendulum swings. One day all is perfect, the next day, the entire world is burning down and there is no escape. Keeping one’s emotional Frame is in check is essential to ensuring that what makes this style so successful doesn’t wind up destroying you, making this style a very sharp double-edged sword.

Personality Type: This type of game is seen a lot in the creative fields, especially with musicians, actors and artists (and bartenders, for whatever reason). The creative drive and vision for the world is a very sexy trait, though I’ve noticed that guys that naturally utilize this style are very prone to self-destructive tendencies (excessive drinking and drug abuse, dangerous activities, etc.). Also given to the volatile nature of this dynamic, more aggressive and passionate personalities tend to utilize this game and they enjoy a much larger threshold of forgiveness and tolerance than any of the other Game styles. Guys that are good with words or expressing and conveying ideas become the masters of tapping into women’s hamsters and getting them to spin in overdrive. Paired with truly not giving a fuck, it’s game over.

Examples: Jim Morrison, Prince, Kurt Cobian, Kanye West

If these apply to you you should explore and experiment with mastering your style. If they don’t you can consider utilizing these styles to see if any work well in your favor. I’d be willing to bet that at least 1 of them does.

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5 Sex Tips To Up Your Sex Game

Sex Tips

“Is sex dirty? Only when it’s being done right.” ― Woody Allen

For this post I wanted to share a few tips that can help take your intimacy and sex game to the next level. A large part of sex is mental, and many of these tips are rooted in stimulating the mental game to make your physical game that much more powerful.

Let me get this out of the way and say that I am talking about activities between consenting adults. I know for most of you that have some sense this is apparent, but for those of you that might misinterpret my meaning, I only advocate consensual activities between adults. Now that that’s out of the way, on to the juicy content of this post.

5. The “Tantric Pause.” One idea from the Tantra is the concept of delayed gratification. The reasoning is that by delaying the gratification, the reward will be much more intense and pleasurable once received. Taking this idea, one thing I have found that makes make out sessions and sex much more intense is during heavy kissing or sex, to go in as if I am going to kiss the girl, but then stopping frozen when my nose is just about to touch hers. This creates a break in the action as well as a tease scenario, and by being able to hold still while looking directly in her eyes, it builds excitement, connection and anticipation. The best part is that it usually takes about 5 second before the girl becomes so overwhelmed with excitement and tension that she passionately will grab me and kiss me, allowing us to resume the activities with the passion amplified. She lost control and I didn’t; which not only shows the power of her desire for me; but also keeps the balance of Frame in my favor.

This is also a great display of discipline, as you will be demonstrating that even while having passionate, bed-breaking sex, you are still master of your domain and have absolute self control to be able to pause sex at will, just because you can. It shows you possess dominance, not only over her pleasure but also over your own, and that is a man that truly is Alpha and worth competing for.

4. Getting “lost” in a kiss. This is a passionate tease tactic that is the inverse of the Tantric Pause. This is something I usually do when saying goodbye, and is very useful when the relationship hasn’t been consummated yet. What this involves is during a goodbye make out session, I begin by being firm yet gentle with my kissing. Then, after a few moments, a sudden flash of hot and heavy gets introduced as I firmly squeeze her body into mine while giving her a long, hard, passionate kiss. I then immediately pull back with a smile while looking in her eyes.

What this does is give her a brief flash of raw, unfiltered passion which leaves her wanting to see how she can extract more of it from you. Also, it allows you to create the Frame of “being caught up in the moment” and allows her to get sucked deeper into the moment as well. The key is to be firm but gentle, passionate, but in control. The illusion is that you’ve temporarily lost control, but by pulling back it creates a bit of doubt as you “catch yourself.” This is a great note to end an encounter on and as they say in show business; “always leave them wanting more.”

3. The “out of the blue” ass-smack. This one has been discussed elsewhere plenty of times, but I love employing it so much that I had to share my thoughts. I only use this with women that I have had sex with. Mostly because after sex it feels way more natural, but also I feel that once you’ve had sex, this maneuver is best suited the present dynamic of the relationship. Essentially, this is giving a girl a firm, playful smack right on the ass, usually followed with a smirk and a wink, and can be done after sex or just hanging out, usually around the house.

This action reinforces the playful dynamic of the relationship as well as shows you’re not afraid to display some dominance every now and again. It’s like a subtle reminder of “that ass belongs to you” which is a playful way to play the conqueror. Hence why I only do this after I have had sex with a girl. To me, doing so before hand is not authentic in that the terrain hasn’t been conquered yet.

2. The “Villain’s Choke Hold.” This move is a next-level power move that if done right will show your dominance, raw physical strength and can drive a girl wild with passionate lust for you. The Villain’s Choke Hold is pretty much what it sounds like. While having passionate sex; and not hum drum “love making” because this maneuver will be way out of place; it’s best to do this with girl on top as it makes logistics easier. It can be done from missionary or if you’re fingering her to make her squirt, but for the sake of explaining this I will use the example of the girl being on top, in the cowgirl position. So, while having passionate sex with the girl on top facing me, I will suddenly sit fully up and place my hand around her throat. I will then firmly, but gently (remember, control is everything) squeeze to lightly choke her while I pull her face about an inch from mine and I stare intensely into her eyes, much like many villains do in movies where’ they are choking out some poor soul. After a few seconds I’ll continue to passionately have sex, usually pulling her in for a deep kiss first.

This move is a total show of raw dominance that works on several levels. First, on a primal level, it shows that your physical strength is literally capable of crushing her. She will be able to physically feel your power in way she hasn’t experience it before. That danger factor makes things more exciting and intense, and also shows that you have the physical capability to exert more force and could use this same force to defend her. Secondly, it’s a very overt showing your dominance and is a reminder that you can be an untamed wild man at times. This fierceness works as it shows your are the conqueror, not the conquered. Lastly, most men don’t have the balls to pull a move like this because they “don’t want to be even slightly rough with their delicate flower.” This move show’s you’re a man that takes what he wants, when he wants and is beholden only to his Frame and knows better than to put her on a pedestal and treat her like an equal sexual being.

Usually after doing this move the girl I am having sex with get a lot wetter and even more turned on, and in a few cases this move brought them to the edge of an orgasm and it only took a few strokes after to finish the job.

1. The “Jedi Breath Trick.” I call this one the “Jedi Breathe Trick” because it involves the girl having her eyes closed and having to rely on her sense of touch to feel you, much like a Jedi closing their eyes in order to “feel the force.” In order to do this, I will either use a sleeping eye cover or a tie (anything that can act as a blindfold will do) and cover the girl’s eyes. Then, while she is laying on her back naked, I will bring my face about an inch away from her body, and then I will exhale a hot, deep breath over her body. I usually start around the neck or stomach, and then I move my face all over her body as I exhale. I never do it in her face as that is not sexy, but what I usually do is run my breath over her body, starting around her breasts and then making my way down to her vagina. From there I will get between her legs, and then continue to run my breath between her inner things and vagina, before focusing my breather on her vagina, and eventually finishing with some licking or kissing that leads into eating her out.

What’s great about this technique is that it puts you in a dominate role as you are in full control of what happens next. And since her eyes are closed, she has no idea what you’re going to do next. By using your breath, you can let her “feel you” without physically touching her, as your warmth from your breath makes a soothing sound and the movement of your head moves the warmth to various parts of her body. Her not being able to see increases her anticipation as well as intensifies her sense touch, so she can experience a heighten sense of awareness.

Another great thing about this technique is that is can be combined with other things, such as she can be tied up to the bed as well or you can finger her while you breath over her breasts or do as I do and transition it into oral sex. A word of caution, sometimes a girl will be ticklish or a little overwhelmed by this, so she may squirm and writhe around uncontrollably and unexpectedly. I’d suggest starting around the neck or breasts and making your way south slowly, just to see how her body reacts. But the girls I have been with and myself have had a lot of fun with this, and several of them got so turned on they actually had orgasms when I moved my breath across their bodies down to their vaginas and focused my breath on their vaginas for a minute.

Final Thought

Please remember to excise control and be safe. Sex is a fun and amazing experience, but you can take things to far and you can physically injure yourself or other person. Also remember that sex is about consent, so if you try any of these and the person doesn’t respond positively to them, then you know this particular thing doesn’t do it for them. Keep it consensual and use your judgement. Try one or all of these out and see how they fit into your style and can impact your sex game.

Go out, live life and have fun doing it my friends.

Couple having sex on a bed at home

The Alpha Wingman

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“You can be my wingman anytime” – Ice Man, Top Gun

Sometimes being an Alpha in a situation is not about using your Frame for your own benefit, but sometimes it’s about using it to help others. This post covers just such a situation that happened recently on a night out with a friend.

Field Report

I was hosting a friend of mine from out of town. He’s a young guy, in his mid twenties and is usually more of the quite and shy type at first, but opens up more once he’s comfortable in a situation. I decide to take him out for a Saturday night of fun and we go to this restaurant and lounge that I frequent in a hip and busy part of town. I like the place because it has a great atmosphere and energy, great food, great drinks, and is close to a lot of other places. It’s also frequented by many beautiful and diverse women, which makes it the prime location for a proper night out.

We get to the venue and go inside for a round of drinks. Since I frequent this place, all of the staff knows me, from the General Manager to the bar-backs, so I’m being greeted and am introducing my friend to them. After hanging out for about 30 minutes, I spot a pair of girls sitting at the end of the bar. One is blonde, with a curvy figure, and the other is a redhead with bright blue eyes and a petite figure. Both girls look to be in their mid thirties, but I know my friend has a thing for older women. I point out the redhead, which is the type of girl he usually goes for and said “I think I found someone you should go meet.” My buddy responded by saying “I’m not sure what the move is,” and so at this point I knew that I would need to take command of the situation.

“Follow my lead,” I told him, as I walked over to the girls. As I was making my way over, someone bumped me so my drink spilled a little onto my hand, so when I got up to the girls I asked if they could pass me a napkin since they where sitting next to them.

“That you for that act of bar-decency,” I said. “The bar is a lawless place and most of the time people just act insane.” Both girls laughed and then I quickly introduced myself and my friend to them. “So what brings you guys out tonight?” I inquired. “Well, we’re out to celebrate my cousin’s birthday,” said the blonde as she pointed to the redhead. “Well happiest of birthdays to you!” I said to the redhead as I gave her an enthusiastic high-five. “How did you guys know to come here?” I asked. “Where were at another bar, but there where no guys so we had heard of this place and came here.”

From there I knew we had a golden scenario. A birthday, which is a reason to celebrate. Check. They had come to this venue specially for guys. Double check. All that was left was to take the reins of the situation.

“You ladies came to the right place,” I said. “We are going to ensure that you have a proper birthday celebration.” I raised my glass and all four of us toasted to the birthday girl. We had some small talk, about what we all did and it urns out the blonde works for a Hollywood agency and the redhead is a college professor. As it turns out, they both had recently moved into the this particular area of town and they were looking to explore it more. They liked the current venue because the redhead leaved about a mile away from it. I asked them if they had been to this other lounge that is close by that I frequent, to which they replied they had hear good things but never had been. “Finish up those drinks, we’re moving out!” I said as I finished my beverage and then called for my tab.

The 2 girls, my friend and myself all made our together to the lounge I had mentioned, and I texted the General Manager there who is a buddy of min that I was en route. I got a “Fo sho playa” response back from the GM and told the ladies that they where going to like this spot a lot. This lounge is a bit of hot spot and sure enough, there was a large line out front as we arrived. I lead the group right up to the front and gave the door guy I know a solid handshake and then a hug to the girl that helps run the door as well. We then strolled right past the line and proceeded to the lounge area. As soon as we got in my buddy who is the GM greeted me and said “It’s a packed night but we have a table set aside for you. Enjoy my man.” The Assistant GM then lead us through the sea of people to a table and we got situated with myself next to the blond facing my friend and the redhead on the other side.

“What just happened?” The redhead asked. “We’re celebrating your birthday, so we are going to do it properly,” I told her. We then ordered some drinks and I made the promise that we would find birthday cake for the birthday girl to ensure the night was flawless. Our drinks arrived and my friend worked his game on the redhead as they got a little more cozy and I chatted up the blonde. After about 15 minutes, I then told the blonde that she should checkout the rest of the lounge and I took her on a tour of the space to give my friend and the redhead some 1 on 1 time.

After the tour of the of the lounge, which deliberately took 20 minutes, we rejoined the table. Once it hit 1 am, I told the group “Time for a field trip,” so we paid our tab then I took us all to a convenience store to look for some type of cake to act as a birthday cake. Since no cake could be found, we grabbed a bunch of peanut butter M&M’s, which is the birthday girl’s favorite candy. I also grabbed a bottle of wine and some matches. I paid for all of the item and then as we walked out of the store I turned to the redhead.

“So we’re going back to your place to continue the celebrations since it’s around the corner? My place is about 20 minutes from here.” She paused for a minute and then said “Ok! I wasn’t planning to have folks over, so I will need to tidy up for a quick minute before anyone comes in.” I smiled and said “Whatever the birthday girl desires.” We made our way to her place, which only took 5 minutes, and then both girls went upstairs to her place to tidy it up. My friend then said “Man, thank you for wingmanning, this has been great!” I turned to him and said “Ok this is how it’s going to go down. We’re going to head up there, have some wine and celebrate for about 30 minutes. Then people are going to get tired, at which point I will take the blonde back to her place and you’ll be good to go.” My friend nodded his head excitedly, and after a few more minutes the girls came back down to let us know we could head in.

We all got up stairs to continue the birthday theme of the evening by finding a few leftover candles and lighting them with the matches I had picked up. We all held glasses of wine and some peanut butter M&M’s while we sang Happy Birthday to the redhead. We then paired off and got settled on the couches and began discussing random topics, from different us cities to movies. Sure enough, after about 1 glass of wine and 30 minutes, the blonde said “I’m starting to get sleepy.” I responded by saying, “Same here, it is pretty late.” I then stood up and said, “We’ll I think I am going to head off,” I then turned to the blonde. “You’re an awesome amount of fun, I’ll give you a lift back to your place so you don’t have to call an Uber.” “Are you sure?” She asked. “Not a big deal,” I replied. “Plus I live in that direction anyway and can hop the freeway back home.” “Ok,” the blonde replied. The redhead then looked at me and asked “What about him?” as she looked at my friend. “No worries,” I said, “I’ll give you to some time. I’ll come back and pick him up after I make sure your friend gets home safely.” Of course, what I was thinking was “I’ll come back and pick him up tomorrow morning,” and I proceeded to say goodbye to the redhead and was quickly followed by the blonde.

The blonde and I then left the redhead and my friend and we proceeded to drive to her place on the other side of town. We got to her street and there was no where to park, so I threw on my hazard lights and prepared to say goodbye to the blonde. The blonde then looked at me and said “I should text my cousin so she knows I got back safe.” Knowing this might cause a potential cock-block, as it might imply that I would be en route back to pick up my friend, responded by leaning in close and then making out with the blonde. After making out  and playing with her large breast for a few minutes, I pulled back and said “Sucks there is no parking.” The blonde gave me a naughty look and said, “You can come inside next time.” Sure enough, a week later I would in every sense of the phrase. But that night, she returned home and I jetted back to my pad to get some much earned sleep. The following day I texted my buddy in the morning and picked him up from the redheads place.

This story is a bit of a longer one, but it is full of some key tips and ideas for you to take away.

Takeaways

6. Having venues locked down is a huge plus. Nothing can kill your momentum faster than dealing with hangups at venues, be it trying to get in or trying to grab drinks and find a place to be comfortable. Having a venue that you have locked down not only makes logistics silky smooth but it also enforces your Frame as a high value individual. Like in this example, having the staff know me at the first venue gave me social proof and boosted my status. Then, moving to the next venue, that status and Frame were further reinforced by bypassing the line and then getting a table instantly in a busy place. This also had the added effect of making the transitional logistics smooth and easy, which makes the impression of status high and well as keeps the momentum building and going, rather than hitting a wall.

 

5. Logistics are half the battle. When I am out and am suggesting other places to checkout, I ensure that they are logistically easy and close to each other. a long travel time can kill your momentum. Doing recon before and during your night is key. Since I frequent the area, I have great knowledge of all venues and their relative proximity to each other. Also, when it came up during the conversation that the redhead lived very close to where we were, that made her place the ideal go-to stop to continue the night once the bars closed.

 

4. Frame is a powerful tool. In this particular night, I used Frame to be the best wingman I could be. From the initial approach to taking the group from one lounge to the other, then to a convenience store and then back to one of the girl’s houses, that was only made possible because I defined and held the Frame. I used the theme statement of “It’s your birthday, we’re going to celebrate it properly” as the base that Frame operated from and it made for an adventure that everyone else was more than happy to be a part of.

3. Don’t ask. Subtly command. Part of Frame and game is learning to subtly give commands and not go about it by asking in a Beta way. What I mean by this is when I said “Finish up those drinks, we’re moving out!” I was giving the command of “finish your drinks, we are going to relocate to another venue,” rather than asking “Hey do you guys want to go see this other place?” By taking command of the situation I was able to hold Frame and steer the direction of the night. Other cases of this from that night were when I said “Time for a field trip,” and then leading the group to a convenience store, and then once we where done at the store saying to the Redhead “So we’re going back to your place to continue the celebrations since it’s around the corner?” I was dictating how the night was going to go, and then last example of that was near the end when we were hanging at the redhead’s place and I stated to the blonde “You’re an awesome amount of fun, I’ll give you a lift back to your place so you don’t have to call an Uber.” I was telling her not to call an Uber, I will be taking her home. Now there is a fine line, you don’t have to be an asshole in a commanding way, and sometimes you’ll get some push back to subtle commands. That’s fine and comes with the territory. NEVER FORCE ANYONE TO DO SOMETHING THEY DON”T WANT TO DO. I know most of you reading this already know that, but for those of you that might miss my meaning, I am not advocating forcing people into situations without their consent. Commands establish reinforce your Frame in an authentic way and is a great way to test how well people fall into it.

2. Know how to follow the lead. Nothing is more frustrating that doing a lot of setup to get the baton to the next runner and then to have them drop it half a second into you trying to pass it on. My friend did an excellent job of following my lead and playing off of me, so the combination was extremely effective. You can be Alpha and have Frame by following the lead of another person’s strong Frame. This can help establish your own Frame with a particular person or group and makes for an effective 1 – 2 punch. If you’re rolling out with a wingman and you guys can’t play off each other or follow each other’s leads as needed, you success rate is going to plummet, so make sure you both can either take the lead or follow the lead.

1. Have fun. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the outcome that we forget to take a step back and just enjoy the ride. One of the best highlights of the night for me was being able to have a fun time while helping a friend run his game on a girl he was attracted to. But all of us had a really fun time as we took the theme of “proper birthday celebrations” and ran with it. From the first venue to the second then the convenience store and then finally at the redhead’s house, the entire night was a fun time we all participated in. If you focus on having fun, then whether your get laid or not at the end of the night you’ll have a great time regardless. And as a bonus, having that attitude usually gets you laid more.

The More You Know