3 More Sex Tips To Up Your Sex Game

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“If a man can possess a woman sexually -really possess- he won’t need to control her ideas, her opinions, her clothes, her friends, even her other lovers.”― Toni Bentley

Since my first post on the subject was such a large hit and led to many request for a follow up, in this post I’ll be detailing some more tips for the bedroom that you can use to take your sex game to the next level. As always, I’m talking about sex between consenting adults, which is the only type of sexual activity I condone.

3. The Power Lift. This move is a personal favorite of mine but also requires you to be in a decent to good physical shape (it’s always important to be in shape because you never know when you’ll need it). Essentially, it’s a move of pure passion as when you’re having sex with a girl, usually with her on top (it’s the easiest potion to do this from), you sit up, put your arms under her legs and ass , and stand up while picking her up. This move then allows you to continue having sex with her while you hold her in the air, and you can then move her to a counter top or against a door or wall for some intense sex.

The beauty of this move is it display’s your raw physical strength as well as it a pure dominance play; you can physically lift her and fuck her any which way you please. It’s a great way to turn the passion dial up to 11 and get you and her further lost in the moment. A word of advise, you’re going to need stamina to hold her up for a long period of time and also take care not to strain yourself (or her) when picking her up.

2. The Towel Stack. This move is actually a foreplay move that’s a psychological nuclear bomb. When you bring a girl to your bedroom, have a stack of 5-8 towels on the end of your bed or somewhere easily visible. What this does is it gets her hamster going into overdrive and get her excited, curious, and intrigued but what you have in store. A great way to add to fuel to the flames is when she asks about the towel stack to reply with something like “You’ll see” or “I’m always prepared.”

A word to the wise, this move is best used on a girl you’ve already had sex with or you’ve hung out with before and it’s clear you’re going to have sex. Using this with a girl you just met or that is coming over to your house for the first time can be misread as creepy. But for hooking up for the 2nd time, a fuck buddy, Netflix & chill situation or a girl you’ve been seeing for a while, this little tactic can work wonders.

1. G-Spot + Kiss Combo. This move requires some hand-eye coordination (more like finger-mouth coordination) but it revolves around utilizing the female sexual cheat code: the G-Spot. If you don’t know what the G-Spot is, Google it, do some reading and thank me later. For those of you in the know, what you’re going to want to do is when you’re finger a girl (either before, during or after sex) you’re going to want to find her G-Spot (which you should be doing anyways). Once you’ve located said spot, you going to want to pull your fingers up (gently to start, depending on how she responds) in order to stimulate it. Now, while you’re doing this, you are going to want to kiss her deeply at the same time as you finger move up, and then back you fingers down and pull back from the kiss. So imagine your head and fingers are on a see-saw; when your fingers move up, your head move in for the kiss, and when your fingers move back, so does your head. Repeat these strokes in a slow and rhythmic fashion and you can add intensity depending on how she responds.

What this move does is it allows you to add an element of sensual dominance to your sex game and it combine the sensation of G-Spot stimulation with the sensation of kissing, which acts as an enhancer for both. Now instead of her body receiving pleasure input from one part f her body, she’s receiving it from 2 and her body will bridge the sensations throughout it’s entirety. This move is great for warming up and escalating foreplay, as a way to change the pace during sex, or as an orgasmic wind-down exercise as you get a bit of recovery from fucking her against your favorite wall with the Power Lift.

And again, for the record; please remember to be safe. Sex is a fun and amazing experience, but you can take things to far and you can physically injure yourself or other person. Keep it consensual and use your judgement. Try one or all of these out and see how they fit into your sex game. There’s no point in getting your pickup and dating game to it’s peak if your dick game is trash. Go out there and rock her world. Be that sex god that she raves to her friends about.

Cheers.

Sexy Girl on bed

 

Appreciation Vs Value

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“Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.” –  Albert Einstein

One of the fundamental differences between the Alpha and Beta men that blue Pill men have a hard time differentiating is that one is appreciated, while the other is valued. For the Blue Pill man, appreciation = value, when this is not the case.

Appreciation

Appreciation is a nice thing to have on the surface, because it means people have noticed your efforts and are expressing recognition of it. The problem with appreciation is that the ball pretty stops at acknowledgement, but it seldom leads to action. This is why Blue Pill men are susceptible to the false sense of validation from appreciation, because they see that their investment and actions have been recognized so they feel that corresponding action is just around the corner.

What they fail to see is that appreciation is essentially a few nice words and a pat on the back, and that’s it. Hence why they tend to be orbiters of women that appreciate them for who they are but won’t have sex with them. They falsely assume that because these women appreciate them being different from other guys that eventually these women will come to act on that appreciation. But appreciation is an expression of gratitude, not an action of gratitude.

During my Blue Pill days I easily fell into that trap, as I had many female friends I was interested in dating. Doing the typical Blue Pill things I often received the “compliments” of “You’re a great guy, someone will be lucky to have you” or “I appreciate you as a person, don’t ever change.” In the beginning it was easy to keep on the same path because if people saw how different I was, eventually someone would act on it, right? But eventually the wool was pulled from my eyes as I noticed that what what people said the appreciated didn’t give me any success, and when I did a few things to break that mold, my success rate started improve dramatically. I suddenly realized that “appreciation” was a passive sentiment, not an actionable one.

Value

When a man is valued, he is a person worth going the extra mile and competing for. People will go out of their way to ensure that a man who is valued is happy, content and appeased. A man of value will enjoy the fullest of what people really have to offer, not just their gratitude. People will also make sacrifices for the sake of value as well. Value is an actionable state and you will want to take people at their actions and never their words.

I vividly remember when I had to breakup with my last ex girlfriend. She was a great person and actually was an excellent girlfriend, however, there where two major issues. First, what we wanted out of life was very different at the time, mainly she wanted to have kids very soon and I didn’t. Secondly, I am mildly allergic to dogs and she owned 3 of them, so there was always a bit of a hurdle. I knew calling it off was the right thing to do for the both of us, though it wasn’t an easy decision to make. During our conversation while I outlined those reasons, and I distinctly remember my ex offering to give up her pets for adoption. Now take a moment to think on that. She was willing to sacrifice her pets, which as many of you know how much women love their pets, which she’d also owned for years before even dating me in order to continue to our relationship. That’s an example of being valued. If she didn’t value you, she would have told me “see you later” and shown me the door. But she was willing to do whatever it took to keep me, and that’s a lesson I will not forget anytime soon.

That’s what makes the Red Pill a very empowering tool, is that one gets a much better sense of the how people actually operate. It helps you see appreciation for what it is, a carrot on the stick to keep you moving in one direction instead allowing you to see the entire carrot patch behind you.

To sum it all up

Be a person of value. If you find yourself being “appreciated,” then you’ve got some more work to do. This applies not only to your dating life but your professional life as well. How many employees are “appreciated” and then kick to the curb once their usefulness in done. A truly valued employee is someone that companies will try to poach and compete for and they will make large accommodations to keep them in the organization and happy. Entrepreneurship is the true way to go if you want to get ahead, but that’s another topic entirely and the point remains that if you presently have a job, you should test the waters to see if your company appreciates or values you. You should also do the same in all of your relationships, be them romantic, family or friends. Actions speak louder than words it’s always good to know who appreciates you will just stand back with a smile vs who values you and will take action on it. Know the difference.

Cheers.

Female Friends

The Butterfly Effect

Sexy Wet

“Small shifts in your thinking, and small changes in your energy, can lead to massive alterations of your end result.” ― Kevin Michel

We are the end results of the choices we have made in life, and more often than not, those choices our influenced by our way of thinking.

Years ago, when I was making my initial transition from Blue Pill to Red Pill, my roommate at the time had a female friend of his from the east coast coming to visit LA and hang. I was down for some adventure, so all met up at a local Japanese bar to take full advantage of happy hour. My roommate’s friend, who we’ll call Lauren, was a cute, bubbly Jewish girl with very good boobs and a high energy level. Me and her hit it off pretty much instantly, and we all put the word “happy” in happy hour.

After the Japanese bar we went back to our house to continue hanging. We put on a movie and Lauren and I got cozy on the coach, and the once the movie was over my roommate stated that he was tired and was headed to bed. I took Lauren in my room to hang, and then we proceeded to hook up.

We were laying in bed and she asked me “When did you know you wanted to hook up with me?” I replied with “I pretty much knew after a few minutes…When was the moment you knew?” She responded with something seemingly arbitrary, but it would have a profound impact on my thinking and Game:

“Pretty much right away. I mean you where this tall, hot guy that was a lot of fun from the start.”

Now, as much as I enjoy the compliment, the phrase “hot guy” caused a drastic shift in my mindset. As mentioned before, I was at the beginning stages of my Red Pill journey, but that phrase “hot guy” ran in my head. I’ve had some minor success with women before hand, but never had I ever thought of myself as a “hot guy.” To me, a “hot guy” was always some other guy, some shirtless and shredded Chad like Brad Pitt in fight club. But for this girl, I was that “hot guy” which led to us hooking up. From then on, that mental shift would have a butterfly effect of me realizing my value as well as farthing my trek into Red Pill conversion. I’m grateful that a positive moment helped me transition further into the Red Pill rather than a traumatic one. I’ve now incorporated the mindset of “I’m a hot guy” in my Game and it’s yielded big results, as it’s help to solidify my confidence which led to many successful interactions with women in the future.

I share this story as an anecdote for you, in that perhaps there is a limiting belief you have or you never tried thinking of yourself in a certain way. A small mental shift, like “why would she go out with me?” to “why wouldn’t she want to go out with me?” can have a large impact on your success rate as well as the choices you make. If you were like me and never thought of yourself as “a hot guy,” imagine yourself that way and see types of results it can produce. Small changes, be it changes in your thinking, your style, or physique can have a cascading butterfly effect in your Game. Now is the time to experiment with small tweaks and see what results they produce, and then build upon positive results. If you’re a well seasoned vet, then you already know the power of small change and you’re continuously implementing them to keep your Game at it’s peak.

Go out there and conquer your goals. Cheers.

Woman rain

Protecting Your Ass(ets): A Lesson In Rock-Solid Frame From John Cena

John Cena

“I have certain things that I stand for, certain things that I believe in, and if you don’t like it and you tell me to go to hell, I think that’s your God-given right as a fan. It’s one of those deals where I’m that one guy who is outside of that realm of good guy, bad guy. I’m just me, and it elicits a response both positive and negative.” – John Cena

As a man in this world, building an empire is hard and burdensome work, but highly rewarding. And while building an empire is hard enough, protecting it can be 3 times as hard. For this post, I wanted to showcase and breakdown a real world example of it being done right, by pro wrestler John Cena.

You can read the full story here, but the headline sums things up nicely:

“John Cena made Nikki Bella sign a 75-page contract before she moved in with him.”

1. Rock Solid Frame. There’s Frame, and then there is Rock-Solid-Frame. In an era were most guys have to ask permission from their significant others to leave the toilet seat up, Cena has shown that his Frame is as rock-solid as it gets. Here’s a clear example of a man who knows his value, has a woman he loves, yet still know’s how exert his Frame and he isn’t afraid lose her due to holding that Frame. She had to sign a document stating she was a “guest” in his house and should they break up, she would have to vacate. That is impenetrable Frame. That is the key factor in Frame execution that separates the boys who lose it all from the men who know how to protect their empires.

2. Your Mission Come First. Cena knows first hand how hard he worked to get where is is and just how quickly it can all be taken away:

“Cena eventually convinced his then-girlfriend to sign the contract, explaining that the agreement was done to protect his finances so he can support his family members.

“You met my family. You think my mom paid for that house herself? She didn’t. My brother lives in that house, they’re expecting a child. My younger brother, he’s got medical problems. I make sure he’s okay. I always tell them, I’m a horrible brother, but I try to be the best provider that I can,” Cena said in 2016. “I just don’t want to ever be in a position where that’s in jeopardy.””

Cena has mission to provide for his family and he knows how high those stakes are. Nothing comes before that and nothing will get in the way of that. This is a prime example of Heartiste Commandment III: “You shall make your mission, not your woman, your priority.” Write this down, tattoo it in your brain and see your life improve to levels never before seen. As Cena has done here, he’s not letting a woman jeopardize his ability to take care of his family because he keeps his mission as priority number 1. Did he love her? Yes he did. But he also loves his family and being able to take care of his family’s needs. And he knows good and well that if he’s losing everything he’s worked for in a messy divorce, he will lose his ability to keep providing for his family. Know how high the stakes are and let nothing stand in the way of your mission. This takes serious discipline to achieve and Cena has shown that he’s got it.

3. Game Recognize Game. As I’ve tweeted, I’m not one for celebrity gossip but in this instance I have to give credit where credit is due. What he did takes a lot of balls and I highly respect him for it. John Cena is a G. That is all.

Cheers.

John Cena Bird

Flying The Friendly Skies

Air Traffic Controller

“Fly the friendly skies” – United Airlines

As anyone experience with Game knows, whether you’re just starting to develop your Game or you’re an experienced player, spinning plates is an essential part of the Game and great skill to master. I’ve been doing a bit of traveling recently so this post is an inspired metaphor to help you develop this skill. Spinning plates, or seeing multiple people simultaneously, is just like being an air traffic controller. You are in the command tower and it’s your job to manage the flow of air traffic. You need to keep a keen eye on managing inbound and out going flights, as well as keeping a watchful eye on weather conditions to know when to delay or cancel flights. If you don’t, you’ll be the cause of a serious disaster.

1. Keep your schedule organized. Many times guys don’t manage or keep track of their time, so they wind up with a situation where two flights are due to land on the same runway at the same time, or they schedule one flight too close to the other which puts pressure on them to keep the first flight off the runway and any delays increases the stress tenfold. You calendar is your best friend, and most of you have phones with calendar apps. Use it and give yourself a proper chunk of time to enjoy each hangout and give you time to manage logistics comfortably. Stay organized and you’ll be amazed at how easy flight management is.

2. Keep a close eye on the weather. Are the skies clear and sunny? Are there strong winds blowing in from the north east, or a large storm system approaching from the south? As air traffic controller need to know the weather, you must also know the emotional weather of your plates. Is one of them going through a rough patch at work and is prone to acting out? Is another plate feeling you’ve become distant or not giving her enough attention? Or is there another plate that’s easy going and experiencing her horny week? The most effective way to manage plates and keep everything running smooth is to pay attention to these weather patterns. All it takes is for for one category 5 hurricane to sneak up on you and then suddenly you’ll find you need to cancel all flights to deal with this situation. Keep mental notes on how things are going with your plates, that way if there’s a troubling weather pattern approaching you can delay or even cancel flights accordingly.

3. You dictate the schedule. You’re in the controller’s chair, so you need to utilize your Frame to keep everything going. Is a flight straying off course? You need to put out a call to get it to make a course correction. Is a flight from Kansas trying to land 30 minutes early? You need to ensure there are no conflicts. Has another flight popped in but doesn’t have a gate to park in? You’ll have to see if there is an available and not be afraid to let that flight sit on the tarmac if there isn’t. There’s a lot of women out there and there’s only 1 of you. So you’ll have to manage your time and your boundaries so you can get the most out of each experience with them. The biggest take away is that you are in control of your situations, and you’ll need to understand this to effectively spin plates to heart’s content.

That’s it for this post, I’ve got some flights I need to schedule myself, but I wish you good fortune and smooths flights!

Cheers.

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L’art De La Féminité (The Art of Femininity)

Jill Hennessy

“Femininity can be a powerful thing.” – Jillian Rose Banks

This post is a special one, in that it’s not discussing theory or field reports. Sometimes in the Red Pill community everyone gets so caught up in highlighting the negative or frustrating aspects of women, that all of the beauty and wonderment of them gets lost in the shuffle. This post is a shout out to femininity, to all the women who embrace it and to the women who know the art of it.

In the modern world, the art of femininity has become an increasingly rare commodity. Feminism and the betafaction of men has done a lot of damage to men with the Blue Pill, but it’s also done a lot of damage to women in their ability to express what truly is an art from. Like masculinity which is an art into itself, femininity has be chastised and turned on itself in an attempt to warp it into a perverted version of masculinity. But where there is oppression and attack, there is resistance, and prosperity.

Shout out to women who understand and embody the lost art of femininity. Women who look feminine and in their own unique way express their femininity through their actions. To the girls that know how to rock a stunning dress, know to utilize their feminine charm to create a sense of mystery and intrigue, to the women who know how to be a proper counter balance to men without trying to become men. Shout out to the women who grind right along with men in their own hustle rather than solely use them, who know how to blow our minds in the bedroom, and know how to a take care of themselves. Shout out to women who know how to cook, how to appreciate fine dining and how to make our days a bit brighter. And a big shout out to girls that are into threesomes, because that’s just awesome.

Women are a compliment to a man’s life, never the sole focus of it. But they can be a massive compliment with a very capable woman. In order to experience that as a man, you yourself must be a man that can bring it out of a woman. If she’s a Ferrari but you only know how to drive Honda Civics, then you need to get some driving school in and learn how to master that Ferrari to get the most out of it. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, women can be incredibly powerful, amazing and dynamic experiences. One of the great joys in life is coming across a truly feminine woman, who exudes and radiates it in every way. You represent the best that womankind has to offer.

Cheers.

Hannah Ferguson for Ellipse Serenity Lingerie lookbook (Summer 2013)

 

 

5 Reasons to Have Female Friends

Female Friends

“I think there’s something to the old saying that women use sex to get love, and men use love to get sex. And love is really just a word we use to describe a close bond, or relationship, between two people. Men have been programmed to want sex, so they do whatever is necessary to be in a relationship with a woman. And a woman is programmed to want the stability and (financial) security of a relationship, so she offers the man what he wants: sex.” ― Oliver Markus, Why Men And Women Can’t Be Friends

The topic of female friends is always an interesting debate within the Red Pill community. Some say never have them, others say it’s ok to have one or two. Personally, I find this topic to be pretty interesting and I have my own thoughts on the subject. As a Red Pill man I think it’s essential to have a core group of Red Pill (or close to it) male friends. As for female friends,  I think it’s not only possible but it’s important to have them as well. Below are my top 5 reasons why:

5. They provide first-hand validation of Red Pill truths. Once you become Red-Pill aware, you can’t unsee the truths it holds. This will be extremely evident in all of your relationships, especially those with pre-existing female friends. But, what this does allow is for you to go “go behind enemy lines” so to speak, in that you get a first hand view into confirming these truths for yourself. Suddenly, things you used to take at face value you can suddenly see the mechanisms behind the words or action, especially when your female friends discuss dating.  It’s always good to get a live reminder of how women operate so that way you can see just how Blue Pill men get used by women, but also frustrate women at the same time. You also get to see confirmations of how Alpha and Red Pill men are perceived and treated and these first hand observations confirm things in ways far more meaningfully than a forum post. So to sum it up, having female friends is a great way to get field confirmation of Red Pill truths so you can better understand them, learn about them, and then apply them for your own means.

4. They can be great bait. Female friends, especially attractive ones, are excellent bait, in the sense that they are perfect for arousing the curiosity of other females. Once you learn mastery over not being phased by a woman’s beauty and you adopt the abundance mentality, then being friends with attractive women is very easy. And an unintended perk of that is if you invite these female friends out to a fun venue, say a bar, club, event or even just the park; all other females in the vicinity will be instantly curious. I’ve been approached by many women when I am out with a female friend or several, and the first thing they want to know if “what’s your situation?” Having attractive female friends creates a rudimentary form of social proof. And when it comes to nightlife it makes the relationship very symbiotic, in that your female friends get to enjoy your presence and check out cool places, and you get to have instant social proof you can leverage to pickup other girls. Now remember your Red Pill principals, on having strong Frame will allow you to fully maximize this. If you’re that guy that’s with a bunch of female friends but you have no Frame and project a Beta vibe, then you’re going to be perceived as a girlfriend yourself. So the 2 big things to remember are keep your Frame strong and the more attractive your friends are, the better it the situation will be for you.

3. They can keep your plates in check. Another perk that female friends can provide, especially very attractive ones, is that they can keep your plates in check. We’ve all been in that situation where a plate gets a little too comfortable and starts trying up the shit test ante. Having solid Frame keeps that in check, but also doing a hangout with a plate and an attractive female friend works effectively in creating that sense of light dread. It’s a very live reminder of “I’m a man who keeps the company of attractive women, so I don’t need you as my sole source company.” Girls are very competitive, so playing that nature against itself works very effectively in your favor. And if you’re still a little Blue Pill and think that this is somehow morally manipulative, you need to understand that women are naturally far better players than men and are playing their own game. So you either need to be superior at your own game or find yourself trapped within the confines of her game.

2. They can be friends with benefits. If you have your Frame in check and are a high value man, then you’d be amazed at what situations you can create for yourself. Friends with benefits is always a great situation to have, and in order to have that situation, you need to first be friends. If you stick to your Red Pill principals and work an developing yourself and your Frame, then you’ll be able to foster these situations much more frequently at your discretion. The more experience you have the women, the better you’ll be with them, to them and for them.

1. It’s just good networking. One of my favorite quotes is “Life is a contact sport. The more people you contact, the better you’ll do. Having female friends is good networking, as with any friend it can lead to other romantic pursuits with other friends they have, experiences at at events, or even career opportunities. The key is to ensure that if you’re going to have a friendship, with anyone, they are a person of good character that adds value to your life, just like you will add value to theirs. Everything I listed above only works if you are a man of value who provides some type of value. If you’re just looking to be a leech or a taker without giving anything in return, then you need to do some seriously self evaluation and turn that ship around.

All in all having female friends can provide many perks and also helps give a balanced perspective on life. Remember, the purpose of the Red Pill isn’t to hate women or be anti women, it’s to help men better understand them so we can be the “men who other women want to fuck, and other men want to be.” If you hate women, then you’ve completely missed the point.

Thinking Man

An “Honest” Try

Trying too hard

“Above all, don’t lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.” ― Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Brothers Karamazov

For this post, I wanted to tackle an insidious phrase I hear over and over again, which at it’s core is one of the strongest Blue Pill shackles that keeps men chained to terrible situations. This phrase has all the right words and seems to express what men should be doing. But in reality, this phrase is a warped mix of self-deception that preys on a man’s sense of honor and doing the right thing. That phrase is:

“I’m giving it an honest try.”

The phrase of “I’m giving it an honest try,” or any variation of it (“We’re giving it an honest shot”, etc.) is such a sneaky phrase because on the surface it sounds like the right thing. It’s saying that a man is wanting to give a relationship a go with his full attention, desire and will power. It’s supposedly saying this man is a mature adult and is taking responsibility for himself and for his relationship. After all, men are the ones who constantly are in need of “growing up” right? What is so wrong with admitting to trying your best and giving a relationship your all?

To begin with, this phrase it built entirely on Blue Pill honor-bound logic that places the man’s internal value far below that of his partner in the relationship. “I’ve giving it an honest try” is always uttered as a justification that society and men tell themselves for sticking with a partner that they are not in a good situation with. This phrase never appears when a situation is solid, operating withing a good, healthy Frame. No one in those situations is “giving it an honest try.” That phrase always appears when there’s constant fighting, situational turmoil, and drama. Then mostly men will utter this phrase as if it’s justification of all the strife and magically makes all of the bad acceptable. It’s a phrase used as an end-all-be-all statement that supposed to be taken at face value and left be.

The next part of this phrase that’s very insidious is that no one bothers to ask the question of what does an “honest” try actually mean? As I mentioned before, this phrase is only used to attempt to overwrite a bad and dysfunctional situation. So are all the healthy situations “dishonest?” The true answer is that the “honest” part is a self-deception for the Blue Pill man. It’s a lie he tells himself over and over hoping that it’ll become true someday. “If only saying it, would make it so” (I couldn’t help but to toss a Star Wars quote in there).  The reality is that this idea of an “honest” try is completely female-centric Blue Pill conditioning that says “your duty as a man is to put up with this girl’s bullshit no matter what the cost to you is. It doesn’t matter how raw the deal is for you, you owe her an “honest” effort in the situation.” So keep on trying and sacrificing for the sake of being an “honest” man. You can see why it’s just a commonly used phrase for the Blue Pill man.

For men, this phrase is essentially the guy saying “I’m telling myself a dishonest lie. I’m abdicating my Frame to appease this girl in the vain hope that she’ll appreciate the sacrifice and find a way to respect me.” And as those who are familiar with the Red Pill know, once you give up on your Frame you will be eaten alive. Women don’t want you to cave to their temperamental storms, they want you to weather them and remain true to yourself and unshaken. If you can’t keep yourself protected from her temperament, how will you be able to protect her from the world? How will you be able to handle yourself when the tough situations in life come for you both? Women are constantly testing men because if she’s going to invest in a partner, she’s going to make damn sure her partner can handle himself and his business, regardless of what gets tossed his way. So if you’re losing your shit over a girl’s behavior, that shows to her that she can pierce your armor and therefor the world can pierce your armor as well. How can you possibly be a worthy shield if she can break you so easily?

If you find yourself saying this phrase, then I have news for you: It’s time to NEXT this girl and move on. Saying this phrase is an omission of relinquishing Frame and any chance of legitimacy has been lost. It’s far better to cut things off and move on before your soul gets ravaged and drained. Women are supposed to make your dick hard, not your life. If it’s the latter, you need to reevaluate your situation and see why your Frame isn’t in check. Then you need to be truly honest with yourself and proceed from there. The only “honest try” you need to be giving is to your mission in life and your own self improvement.

Ex

 

Going The Distance: Strategy For Dating At A Long(ish) Distance

“Whoever coined the term “absence makes a heart grow fonder,” was an idiot. Absence makes a bitch grow crazy.” – Toni Aleo

I’m not a fan or real believer in long distance relationships. For an LTR, it creates a lot of unnecessary problems and stress. However, if you’re casually dating or have a hook up buddy situation, than the long distance can be a huge plus. For this post, I’ll be touching on a helpful strategy to foster and manage dating from a long(ish) distance.

To start, I will say that for purposes of this strategy, long(ish) distance is anyone that lives 30 or more miles away from you, or usually lives about an hour and half of travel time from you. In the dating scene, distance plays a factor. Usually a good 5-20 mile radius is ideal because that makes logistics much simpler with shorter travel times and convenience of venues located close to your house or their’s. When you get beyond that, you start getting into issues of logistics and time that usually force your hand to find a place that is either in your neighborhood or in hers. So what is a good way to manage this?

For a first date / hang session, I almost always find a venue in her neighborhood and will go pick her up. This allows me to maintain Frame as I am responsible for transportation as well as putting within close proximity to her place if things go very well. Also, unless a girl is making it really clear that she is super into you, it’s much easier to go to her side of town for the first encounter because she’s putting less investment in initially by you coming to her (when a girls lives relatively close to me, I usually do the inverse in that I almost always have them come to me on the first encounter). But this is your chance to show off how awesome you are and to get her to enticed into your Frame. You’re giving her a strong reason to come to your side of town for the next date / hangout. Remember, girls live in a time where they have more access to men than they know what to do with, so you need to give her a worthwhile reason to drive and hour or more in traffic to come see you when she could easily swipe right on a guy that lives 3 blocks away on her phone. Be the man worth the effort and you’ll be surprised by what girls will do to be with you. I once went out with a girl that did not have a car (this was the pre-Uber days) and lived on the other side of town from me and for our second date she took 3 buses and train, in LA, which is not known for it’s efficient public transportation to get to me, she was that into me. I’ve also had another girl that lived an hour away from me have car trouble so she borrowed her aunt’s car to drive to me rather than me driving to her. Be a man worth the effort.

After you’ve shown that you’re a man of value and are worth going the distance for, the second encounter you should have her meet at your place and then you take her out from there. This allows you to bring her into your world and show off your home court advantage with local venues that you know of. Also, you’ll have to end up back at your place, which makes it more convenient for her to spend the night. I’ve dated a lot of girls that lived 30 – 70 miles away from me and this formula works extremely well, especially as once the Frame has been established, usually 8 out 10 dates involve them coming to my side of town in exchange for me going to their side of town 1 or 2 out of 10 times. This is especially effective with girls that are living with roommates or that are living with family. Your world can be an exciting escape from their reality for them.

Another benefit of this arrangement is that if you’re seeing multiple people, it’s easier to schedule them to come see you and you can also schedule multiple dates in the same day with people who live in the same direction. Once I did a “double day” by seeing a girl in Oceanside, which is easily an hour and half outside of Los Angeles in the afternoon and then saw another girl that I hooked up with that night down in San Diego. The logistics worked at very well and made the 120 mile drive down to San Diego very worth while as I was able to make a stop en route for a date in Oceanside, which is 35 miles north of San Diego. Killing 2 birds with 1 stone as they say. Another perk is that you have a drastically reduced chance of bumping into one of your longer distance prospects while out with a local girl, and it helps keep your plates that you’re spinning separate.

I will stress that all of this works based on the fact that you have your Frame in check. If you don’t then you’ll come off as that Beta guy that’s really “nice.” Only having that Alpha swag will make her desire to make the trip. The real question you have to ask is how much effort are you willing to put in. If you don’t want to bother, not to worry, go out and meet more people that are closer to you. But if you have a warm lead and the only thing standing in the way is distance, then this might be a solid option to consider. I have found with long(ish) distance dating, by putting in a little bit more effort upfront I can then have an easier situation that requires an extremely small amount of work to maintain. I do enjoy making the effort on the first encounter, as I usually get to know and scout a new area out for future reference (you never know when it will come in handy). So if you meet someone that you’re into and are trying to figure out out how logistics can work, try this formula out for yourself. It’s especially useful for you guys in towns that are small and far from a lot of action, so you most likely are making a bit of a trek to go beyond the local watering holes anyways. See if your prospects can go the distance.

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Predatory Efficiency

Fierce Tiger

“He was a killer, a thing that preyed, living on the things that lived, unaided, alone, by virtue of his own strength and prowess, surviving triumphantly in a hostile environment where only the strong survive.” ― The Call of the Wild,  Jack London

I don’t watch any TV as I plain and simply don’t have the time for it, but every now and again I might watch a few episodes of something educational or inspiring. Recently, I watched a fantastic series call The Hunt, which you can stream on Netflix. Aside from being beautifully shot with an Oscar-worthy soundtrack, this series takes a harsh look at being a predator in the wild and how harsh the natural world can be.

What I also gleamed from this series where a lot of parallels between predators in the wild and what we as men must face in the world of Game. Below are some observational parallels inspired by this series, since as men, when it comes to dating we are the hunters:

4. Failure is an essential part of the Game. One of the biggest themes in this series is failure and how there is no getting around it, it’s a part of life. Predators in the wild have an extremely high failure rate, with stats around 1 in 7 to 1 in 10 hunts actually being successful. This is true with Game as well.

Game is not about never failing or or getting rejected, it’s actually about going out there and facing that rejection. A season player will actually get rejected more than a timid one, and that’s fine because he’s creating more opportunities for success by doing more approaches. Life is a contact sport, the more people you contact, the better you’ll do. So play the numbers. If your success rate is 1 in 10, and you only ever make 10 approaches, then you’re only ever going to be successful once. But if you make 100 approaches, then your success rate may stay the same but you will have 10 success under you belt because you did more work. It’s a learning process, so the more you get out there and get experience, the more you learn what works for you and more your success rate will improve. No one will ever be at 100%, but if you can go from 10% successful to 15%, that’s a big improvement. And eventually you can build on that to get your success rate even higher. This leads to observation number 2…

3. Persistence is key to success and survival. In the wild, predators fail much more than they succeed, yet they persist on. Why? If they don’t they will die. Their very survival depends on it. Predators are the most persistent group of animals because they have to continually push themselves in order to be successful. It doesn’t matter if they haven’t eaten in weeks, if they are facing prey that is bigger than them or that half the things they hunt could injure or kill them. They have to be fearless, bold, and persistent to be successful and survive.

The same is especially true with Game. If you only make a few approaches a month, get rejected and stop approaching, guess what? You’re not to going to find any success or change your situation. With Game you have to be persistent in order to be successful. Lie a tiger in the jungle, the fate of your night is up to you. Will you go out and find a girl to have sex with? Will you have a fun time regardless? Or will you skulk at home because it’s “too hard?” The choice is yours. Choose wisely.

2. Predators are efficient. A Cheetah does not sprint at max speed every chance it gets, not does it waste energy running and leaping for no reason. Predators conserve their energy at all costs, because once it’s spent, there’s no guarantee of success so they may be successful and in turn be able to recoup that energy quickly. Hence why predator spend most of their hunting time utilize stealth so they can get withing striking distance. Once there, they unleash their full might in a high risk high reward explosion of force that gives them the absolute best chance of success.

When out in the field Gaming, you must become efficient as well. If you’re a clever smooth talker, make that work for you instead of trying to be the loud, over the top comedian. If you’re the loud, over the top comedian, than play that to your advantage and don’t waste your energy trying to be the technical philosopher. Now don’t be afraid to experiment with different styles depending on the situation, but ultimately you know what works best for you and what doesn’t work best.

Also, be efficient with your resources. Your money, energy, attention, and especially your time. If you’re catching a hint that a girl is wasting or eating up too much of any of these, then NEXT her and move on, it’s not efficient for your success rate to waste needlessly. It’s better to spend more of those or much stronger leads than trying to play the “if I can convince her game,” which is always a losing game since if you even do manage to “win,” you’ve dumped more resources than you know you should have so you still don’t come out ahead.

1. Predators have rock-solid focus. When predator are in stealth mode and getting withing striking distance, pay very close attention to their entire bodies. I love how the way every last inch of a predator locks into an aggressive, spring-loaded stance as they prepare to unleash murderous force up their prey. It starts from their head and eyes and all other parts of their bodies shift to channel all their energy to that single focal point, like a sniper locking a round into the chamber and focusing the scope on the rifle. And once a predator makes the leap into the kill zone, as prey dodges and changes directions, predators heads and eyes remain locked entirely on their prey, never losing sight or focus of their target, while their body makes automated adjustments to keep the predator on track.

Tiger Stalking

This is a critical takeaway for Game, as once you get in that “kill zone” state where you can escalate things sexually (in a consensual way, of course), you have to utilize that focus to enhance your presence and maximize the moment. When you keep your focus, it’s amazing how your body language and Frame will subconsciously lock into place to work for you and not against you. This will help you conquer shit tests, deal with cock blocks and increase the vibe that you’re a man on a mission.

That does it for this post, but I hope some of these takeaways help you in the field. Happy hunting.

Hawk