The Gamer Girl Guide

Gamer-Girl

“My coach said I ran like a girl, I said if he could run a little faster he could too”– Mia Hamm

For this post, I wanted to elaborate on a reply to a comment that Days of Game left on my last post, Street Walker’s Gold. I had been tossing the idea around for a while and after some enlightening experiences this past weekend, I wanted to put together a guide for the different types of Game that girls use. Now this list isn’t complete and I do look forward to getting some contributions from other great minds, but from a Red Pill context here are some types of Female Game strategies I’ve noticed over the years. Now, understand that this ins’t to bash women and in fact if you do consider an LTR some forms girl game can be a good thing. The purpose of this is to keep you informed on what type of game you might be encountering when dealing with a particular girl.

1) Covert Lock Down Game

Girls run this with guys that they know have plenty of other options when it comes to dating and sexual intimacy. This game strategy involves them “playing it cool” and being able to keeping things smooth. What betrays this strategy is the little subtleties, like she might offhandedly mention something about a couple and follow it up with something like “they’re like us” or might make other relationship oriented jokes or comments. The bet she’s playing is that by not appearing to be “clingy” or appearing relationship oriented the guy with forego his other options in favor of her because she’s established herself as relate-able and uncomplicated. Red Pill aware guys that are attune to women’s sub-communications and can read between the lines well will pick up on this game and act accordingly with their own objectives. Those that don’t pick up on it find them selves saying “I never thought I’d be in a relationship, but here I am.” If your Frame is solid this can lead to a great and healthy LTR if that is your inclination.

2) Side-Man Game

This strategy is employed by girls who have and are entertaining other prospects, especially with guys that are at the number 2 thru 10 slots. This game works very effectively with Beta orbiters who get blindsided because they think they’ve finally found a cool girl that they “click” with only to get blind sided when she dumps them or pulls the Let’s Just Be Friends card. Alpha’s and the Red Pill aware tend to instinctively pick up on the ques from this game and take it for it is: minimal investment is required and the relationship already has an expiration date so when it’s reached that time it’s not a big deal. Signs of this strategy in play are very long delays in response to communication, always seemingly unavailable during prime “date” times or in general, and vague comments about that unavailability in the vein of “I already have plans for that time.” This type of girl game is not conducive to an LTR since the very nature of it is temporary and similar to Dread Game. Proceed with caution and make sure your Frame is airtight if you think of proceeding down the LTR path.

3) Direct Game

The best examples of direct game are found in women that are very close to hitting The Wall or in the online dating / dating app arena. For this type of game time is of the essence, and so there’s no room to bullshit about. This game is direct and blunt with wanting to satisfy the hypergamic directive and usually isn’t bashful in expressing it. You’ll notice phrases like “I want to start a family” or “I don’t have time to date” mentioned incredibly early on. For the Red Pill aware most will avoid because there are much better prospects and also you don’t want to waste their time as well as your own. Since a lot of the ones using this type of game are looking to check a box, it’s not worth the pursuit, unless their long term objective happen to line up perfectly with your own. But there are plenty of Blue Pill Betas that are more than happy to be that check mark on the box. Take this on a case by case basis, it can be a very pragmatic partnership if the dynamic clicks. Trust your gut.

4) Good Girl Game

Good Girl game is used by women who are clever at making themselves look good compared to other girls. These types are usually highly critical of other women, are quick to point out how other girls are dressed like sluts or act like whores. Even though if given the opportunity these women would probably do the same things, they are very outspoken about “Low Quality Women.” These women also can have a few skeletons from their past, but a lot of times this game is employed by women of religious backgrounds. Keeping a realistic frame of mind will help you see what’s what quickly and see who she truly is. If things check out, you’re good to go. If not, then NEXT her and move on.

5) Victim Game

This game strategy is employed by a lot of borderline personality disorder women aka “psycho girls.” This strategy partially stems from our social attitudes towards women being victims by default and manifests itself in later stages of the relationship. This game employs the use of a past abuse or trauma as a baseline to explain away irrational or just plain bad behavior. Usually this these women will put on a front of being normal, innocent and sweet, until the viciously malicious side comes out. Then after the true nature has been revealed, the use of victimhood is employed so it’s “not really her fault” and that she has “issues she’s working through.” Woe is the man who falls into this trap, for he often finds himself having to come up with justifications or explanations for her behavior and gets taken into an emotional hellscape.  Warning signs, aside from the many red flags, are her always being the victim, you always having to justify or rationalize her actions or make excuses on her behalf, and her not taking any real accountability for her actions. When you encounter this type of game, RUN.

6) Strong Independent Woman Game

This game is the pride and joy of hypergamy. This game is usually ego-driven, and is very much used by women looking to prove themselves and establish dominance over the mythical and omnipotent patriarchy in some way. This type of game is about a woman not needing  man in any real capacity, and usually you’ll hear things “sex isn’t important in a relationship” or “communication is the key to any great relationship.” This type of game utilizes guilt and “Man Up” (be your own man, but within the context of what I want a man  to be) conventions to keep men in line. Alpha’s have no time for this and the Red Pill aware can see the smoke screen for what it is. Users of this type of game are best avoided because the shit tests will be nonstop.

7) Party Girl Game

As the title suggest, this type of game is employed by “party girls,” or girls that have very active social lives…in the party scene. This game type is what the Blue Pill men thinks of when they imagine clubs, bars and other places of “ill-repute.” These girls love to party and have a great time, and usually that means whatever it takes to keep the party going. Alcohol is frequent and drug use is common among these those using this strategy. The allure of this type of game is that it is fun and the goal is to have a great time, and also this type of game flaunts female sexuality. These girls will usually do impromptu strip shows, make out with other girls, or even be game for sexual encounter in the bathroom in the back of the club. This is all fun and games, but understand that’s that all it is. Blue Pill Men are often horrified while Alpha’s get to reap the spoils. Though there are plenty of Betas that are more than willing to fund the party lifestyle in the hope of getting in on some of the action. It’s best to take this type of female game for what it is, fun and games, no more and no less. Never forget girls are just as if not more sexual than guys, and sometimes they just want to go out, have fun and get laid. Many of the girls using this game using it during their peak SMV years, before “maturing” and resorting to other strategies to exercise their hypergamy. If your Frame is rock solid then you can find some LTR potential, but always see things for what they are.

8) Scenester Girl Game

This game is employed by girls that are constantly trying to maximize their options. You can also nickname them bargain hunters, because they are constantly searching for a better deal without investing more than they have to to get it. These girls are usually the arm candy that arrive with guys to parties or nights out, but always seem a little aloof in their own worlds. They are usually very nice and courteous, and any Red Pill aware man gets the sense they could probably swoop in and “steal” this girl away.  A huge sign is if they arrive with a guy and it’s not apparent that they’re together. These girls are very hypergamous, and so they are continuously and actively looking for a better deal. The men they are presently “with” are only so out of convenience. These types are best to be avoided, because at best you can lease them, but you will never truly “own” them. Getting involved with them also leads to complications with ex-lovers. These women are expensive to maintain as well, in that it takes a lot of resources (time, money, energy, etc.) to hold their interest for little reward. These women typically target men that are successful in business but are Blue Pill or Beta when it comes to dealing with women. Alphas tend to understand their nature instinctively and so they follow the “don’t be gentle it’s a rental” mentality and ditch them before they can find a better situation. Warning signs are girls that only want to go on dates that involve a large social scene (like going to clubs or high profile places) were she can meet other suitors, girls that are currently in relationships but they’re “already winding things down” or “in the processes of ending it” but somehow that relationship continues to go on and not officially end. They also tend to be very much in their own worlds when out, not really interacting with their dates but are easily approachable by anyone who wishes to talk to them. Also look out for going on many dates with them before any type of sexual intimacy occurs. This is a good rule in general, but Sceneters are especially prone to sporadic intimacy, usually requiring a very long courting process (like 5 -10 dates). An LTR is not advised because you’ll be setting yourself up to be cheated on, it’s best to look elsewhere if an LTR is your end goal.

9) Tease Game

This style of game is actually fairly clever. This type of game is when a women tells you up front that she’s a tease or something else negative about her, like “I’m a huge bitch.” The trick is that her actions shortly after tend to contradict what she said earlier. So it’s a little bit of a bait-and-switch tactic. But then after a period of time, the character flaw she warned you of previously comes out in full force and all she has to say for herself is “I told you about this from the get go.” This type of game is the bait-and-switch-and-switch-back. This can throw any guy for a loop and takes some experience to see the signs more clearly. Always heed any overt warnings and proceed with caution. The best way to deal with this game is to treat it like Side-Man game, enjoy it while it lasts, and then when the warning comes true; cut, run and never look back.


That’s what I have for now. I hope you can use this knowledge to help with your current or future situations. Sometime women run 1 type of game exclusively and other times they run a few different concurrently. But if you know what to look for, you’ll be able to see things for what they really are. Remember; in your own life you are Player #1. Don’t get played.

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Street Walker’s Gold

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“You’re nothing more than a clever prostitute. You accepted the conditions in which you found yourself and you triumphed.” – E.L. Doctorow

For today’s post, I’ll be elaborating on a throwaway comment I made to a friend of mine while we were out at an LA hot spot that stuck with me. One of the Blue Pill maxims that is very prevalent is the myth of the “quality girl” vs the “non-quality girl.” We were noticing a two girls, and one was taking pictures of the other. Both girls where incredibly attractive, long blonde hair, perfectly tone bodies and legs that could go on for days. We started to notice some details about their clothing and accessories. Both girls had on YSL (Yes Saint Laurent Shoes), Birkin Hand Bags and they looked to be about 21 – 23 tops. Now, if you aren’t familiar with those brands do a quick google search. Those accessories are very expensive, and for girls in their early 20’s to be rocking these there’s a 99.9% chance they didn’t pay for them. After they where done taking pictures, 2 guys joined them. The guys looked to be of middle-eastern decent, relatively young (I’d guess 26-32) but they drove over in a Mercedes Benz G Wagon 65 AMG, which is a very expensive SUV. My friend made a comment along the lines of these girls being gold diggers and responded unconsciously with: Everyone’s a prostitute, but there’s only 2 variables in the equation: 1) What is their preferred currency & 2) How much?

Everyone is a prostitute

Why this comment stuck with me is that in the context of the Red Pill, it’s easy to see past the “non-quality woman” mantra that gets shoved down our throats by the equalist-fempower movement. It’s easy and dismissive to write these young, hot girls that are easily 9.5’s on the SMV (Sexual Market Value) curve as materialistic, gold-digging fashion whores that aren’t worthy of a Blue Pill man’s time or energy. He should instead focus on finding a “quality girl” to occupy his affections. The reality is that this smoke screen is really just a way to disguise women’s hypergamy. The 9.5 hot girls can easily maximize there hyergamous options because when you are that high up on the SMV curve you can “command a premium” and guys are more than willing to pay it. For the girls that can’t compete directly, the strategy is to shame those girls in the eyes of men who might not be able to compete, or in some cases can but don’t know their SMV worth, so that can turn their SMV disadvantage into a big strength. Taking this to the broader scale, everyone, and I do mean everyone – both men and women, is a prostitute in some way shape or form. The guys in the expensive SUV might be using their expensive car and displays of wealth to prostitute themselves to hot girls. The girls might use their looks and sexuality to get access to the perceived wealth and lifestyle of these guys. Or the waiter at serving food might pretend to really care about a very annoying table he’s serving in order to get a better tip. Or a girl might were low cut skirt to get a promotion at the office. Make no mistakes, we all prostitute ourselves, so putting that in a Red Pill context we are willing to make social transactions for goods or services. The only 2 variables are: What is the currency & How much?

What is the currency?

We all want different things, but it is in those wants that we can discover the currency. Some people want friendship, others sex, other career advancement and others companionship. In a Red Pill sense, the Beta provider who finds himself a “quality girl” doesn’t see the relationship for what it is: He’s “paying” for the intimacy and companionship he desires by providing this “quality girl” with his finical and emotional provisioning. It’s like the old joke of “What is the difference between getting a prostitute and having a girlfriend? Paying for dinner.” This observation has stood the test of time because for guys, we can pay a girl money and she’ll provide us with the sexual release we seek. Or we can talk to a girl, and instead of paying her directly, we’ll pay for her dinner in the hope of achieving the same end.  So the real question is, What is the preferred currency of choice? Is it cold hard cash or is it expensive dinners?

Now, the purpose of this isn’t to dehumanize people, or to take anything away from the genuine emotions, desire, and enjoyment people have in relationships and interactions. But but I am saying is that there are underlying mechanisms at play that if you don’t understand then you’ll find yourself very surprised and shocked when you’re suddenly “outbid” but another party using the currency of choice. For the Red Pill aware, you know that the hypergamous nature of women is always testing for perfection and the best available option. So that understanding that a better bid (someone more Alpha, higher status, etc) may come along is very real. How many relationships have been ended at rock shows when the band pulls a guy’s girlfriend on stage? A clear case of a better bid.

Women understand this intuitively, hence why they approach dating as a zero-sum game. They know that there is a very real reality where a better bid (someone younger, hotter, more adventurous, etc.) can come along that can derail their investment. How many times have we heard the shaming strategy in play with divorced women complaining about their ex dating a “child” (aka a younger and hotter girl) after the divorce? They instinctively understand this reality of “everyone has a price” hence why they spend so much time and effort trying to lock down the men they perceive as Alpha’s. Usually the easiest and most commonly preferred currency is sex. Hence why Alphas enjoy the depths of depravity and sexual exploration with women, because these women know that if they maintain a hold on the currency they can keep the bid. Beta men on the other hand, usually have a preferred currency of companionship, validation and low sexpecatation (minimal expectations with sex), hence why they they get the companionship and ego boost they seek by landing a “quality girl” but will never experience the recesses of her full sexuality. They also make the mistake of trying to use the wrong currency with the women they fantasize about (like trying to relate to her as a gender neutral being would) and are perplexed when their currency is rejected.

How much?

After the preferred currency has been figured out, the next question naturally is, How much? This is one area when looking at things through the Red Pill lens where women, being the more pragmatic ones in their approach to love really excel compared to men. Men are usually very good at problem solving and using logic and reason, but when it comes to the question of currency, men, especially the Blue Pill Betas, get outclassed 10 to 1. Women understand the zero-sum nature of the sexual market place: If another woman secures a mate, they do not get that mate. Seeing this, women have become incredibly adept at figuring out the preferred currency that any given man seeks. Some men want passionate and consistent sex. Other men want ego validation while others simply just don’t want to be alone. Women are incredibly adapt at using discovering the currency of a man and then investing enough of it to get a long term contract in place to secure their ends, and once the sale has been made, there’s no need to continue paying for what they own if know the man they’ve secured is not a hot commodity in the market place. Hence why so many men get caught off guard when their girlfriends are sexually insatiable or always beyond supportive when they are dating, but once they establish a LTR or get married, suddenly all of that fades away.

Men can be very similar, particularity Alpha males, because instinctively the Alpha knows he’s a hot commodity. His currency is himself: His time is the commodity and as a high-value male he knows he can command a premium and that there are going to many buyers out there on the market. Beta men who aren’t able to enjoy the level of access the Alpha has (typically) employ other methods of currency, be it funding expensive lifestyles, emotional support or “seeing the real person” and completely overlooking someone’s past.

I do want to emphasize as a conclude this post that the intent here is not to take anything away from human relationships or experiences. The intent here is to provide a metaphor for the mechanisms behind human interactions and relationships to help you arm yourself with some knowledge that can help you maximize your potential and help you avoid unnecessary distress. Everyone wants something and there is a set of conditions (aka a price) that people want met to get that something. Learn what your own currency and prices are to protect and master yourself. Learn how to discover the currency and price of others and you’ll find endless potential when you can see the going rate of street walker’s gold.

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Un(but totally)conditional Love

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Hypergamy doesn’t care about relational equity” – Rollo Tomassi

This past weekend I had a very fascinating late-into-the-night conversation that inspired this post. I was invited to a BBQ with a very good friend of mine and it was being hosted by several friends of his. After the dinner and several people left, the remaining group was me, my friend , and two married couples, including the hosts. We were enjoying dessert and some fun conversation, and at some point the conversation turned to dating and relationships. For some background context, my friend was in a 5 year relationship (married for 3) but now is going through a divorce. The host couple has been married for about 2 years and together for 4 years, and the other couple has been together for 15 years and married for 8. The age ranges of everyone (myself included) are from 31 to 38.

So with that background context in mind, it’s quite amazing how much of an eye opener having Red Pill awareness can be. Through the course of the conversation when I posed the question of what makes relationships work and last I got the usual, Blue Pill responses of “it takes hard work and communication” and when I inquired why dating is challenging today the responses of “men are intimidated by strong independent women” and “they don’t act like men” were what I received. If you assumed that the women where the ones leading these responses, you’d be correct. If you also assumed that the men unquestioningly complied with these responses, you’d also be correct.

As the conversation progressed inquiries about why I am single came up, and the usual comments of “you haven’t met The One yet” and “you need that One person who…” came up multiple times. It’s really fascinating just how ingrained the idea of “The One” is in our culture, and how people approach relationships from the view point without question. Since I was being given the Blue Pill sales pitch, I decided to pose a question to bring up some Red Pill awareness to the conversation while framing it as “food for thought.” I had mentioned earlier in the conversation that men are more romantically optimistic in their approach to relationships while women are more pragmatic (hypergamic in reality, but I had to be softer in phrasing that). I noted that both are complimentary in balance but in order to have it one must understand those natures. The conversation reached a point when we were talking about how relationships go in waves, with highs and lows. There are times when things are going great and then there are times when things are going bad. Fair enough, that is true with any relationship. So to illustrate my point on the differences of how men and women approach love, I posed this question:

“How long do things have to be consistently bad before you know it’s time to end the marriage?

The 15 year couple answered the question right away, but with very different replies. The husband immediately responded that loyalty comes above everything, and that one needs to honor their commitments. His wife responded right after him with “One year.” This dichotomy is the perfect example of how men and women approach love. Men approach love from standpoint of we always look for the potential of what things can be and we will move heaven and earth to hold onto that idea. In the case of the husband the thought of ending his marriage wasn’t even on is radar. Loyalty, and a sense of honor binding him to that loyalty means that no matter how bad things get and they stay, he’s in it until “death do us part.” Women on the other hand are much more pragmatic in their approach to love, it’s very much conditional. If the conditions remain favorable or good, all is well. Should those conditions change and become unfavorable or bad for a certain period of time, as many men find out the hard way, love does not conquer all and suddenly the relationship is in danger of ending or is already over. So while for the husband loyalty is what matters until death, for the wife the conditions are if the situation is bad for a year, it’s time to end things. For all the talk of “hard work, communication and loyalty,” the wife had a ready-fire specific time table while her husband didn’t even conceive of terms limits.

Now, this example isn’t to expose women as traitors or opportunists that are always waiting for a chance to jump ship. The purpose of this example is to highlight how men and women approach love differently so you know the reality of any relationship you choose to pursue. Many men are completely blind-sided by the women they are in relationships with because they do not understand that women approach love from a conditional point of view. If the conditions change, so will her attention and affections. For women it’s not malicious, it’s an evolved social survival mechanism. Throughout the history of marriage, women have had their well being, provisioning, and survival directly tied to the condition of their husband. Only since the 1960’s has that social situation changed, but centuries of evolved psychology still keeps the underlying motivations in place. Ask many ex-professional athletes about “unconditional love” when they played sports vs after.

Men tend to project their attributes onto women, especially in the “equalist movement” of the modern era, without seeing the fallacy of it. Men, being less pragmatic and more idealistic, approach love unconditionally. Take for example the ultimate Hollywood example of this, the movie Pretty Woman. For many women this movie makes the list for top 3 most romantic films of all time, if not at the top spot. But the story is about a very rich man who falls in love with and marries a prostitute. With the way men approach love, all past indiscretions can be completely forgiven and overlooked because he sees the “real her,” which his idealized version of her potential. If Hollywood came out with a movie called “Handsome Man” which was the exact same story but with the roles reversed, where a successful and rich woman marries a gigolo, it’d be one of the most reviled and mocked films ever made. Women love this movie because it highlights a very positive masculine trait, which is the fact that men approach love in a unconditional sense, which means that despite any past or current indiscretions, men can look past that, even though women do not afford men the same luxury when it comes to their approach to love.

As a man, it’s paramount that you understand that women aren’t the enemy, but their natures will eat you alive and spit you out if you do not understand them. If you’re Red Pill aware guy then you’ll certainly notice and see these ques vividly. For those of you that are Blue Pill aware or just starting to get some Red Pill awareness, it’s critical that you understand the unconscious mechanisms at play in inter-sexual relationships. Otherwise you’ll find like many AFC (Average Frustrated Chumps) out there, the love you think you have unconditionally is completely contingent upon a set of conditions, and once those conditions change, it’s game over. Just some “food for thought.”

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