Appreciation Vs Value

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“Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.” –  Albert Einstein

One of the fundamental differences between the Alpha and Beta men that blue Pill men have a hard time differentiating is that one is appreciated, while the other is valued. For the Blue Pill man, appreciation = value, when this is not the case.

Appreciation

Appreciation is a nice thing to have on the surface, because it means people have noticed your efforts and are expressing recognition of it. The problem with appreciation is that the ball pretty stops at acknowledgement, but it seldom leads to action. This is why Blue Pill men are susceptible to the false sense of validation from appreciation, because they see that their investment and actions have been recognized so they feel that corresponding action is just around the corner.

What they fail to see is that appreciation is essentially a few nice words and a pat on the back, and that’s it. Hence why they tend to be orbiters of women that appreciate them for who they are but won’t have sex with them. They falsely assume that because these women appreciate them being different from other guys that eventually these women will come to act on that appreciation. But appreciation is an expression of gratitude, not an action of gratitude.

During my Blue Pill days I easily fell into that trap, as I had many female friends I was interested in dating. Doing the typical Blue Pill things I often received the “compliments” of “You’re a great guy, someone will be lucky to have you” or “I appreciate you as a person, don’t ever change.” In the beginning it was easy to keep on the same path because if people saw how different I was, eventually someone would act on it, right? But eventually the wool was pulled from my eyes as I noticed that what what people said the appreciated didn’t give me any success, and when I did a few things to break that mold, my success rate started improve dramatically. I suddenly realized that “appreciation” was a passive sentiment, not an actionable one.

Value

When a man is valued, he is a person worth going the extra mile and competing for. People will go out of their way to ensure that a man who is valued is happy, content and appeased. A man of value will enjoy the fullest of what people really have to offer, not just their gratitude. People will also make sacrifices for the sake of value as well. Value is an actionable state and you will want to take people at their actions and never their words.

I vividly remember when I had to breakup with my last ex girlfriend. She was a great person and actually was an excellent girlfriend, however, there where two major issues. First, what we wanted out of life was very different at the time, mainly she wanted to have kids very soon and I didn’t. Secondly, I am mildly allergic to dogs and she owned 3 of them, so there was always a bit of a hurdle. I knew calling it off was the right thing to do for the both of us, though it wasn’t an easy decision to make. During our conversation while I outlined those reasons, and I distinctly remember my ex offering to give up her pets for adoption. Now take a moment to think on that. She was willing to sacrifice her pets, which as many of you know how much women love their pets, which she’d also owned for years before even dating me in order to continue to our relationship. That’s an example of being valued. If she didn’t value you, she would have told me “see you later” and shown me the door. But she was willing to do whatever it took to keep me, and that’s a lesson I will not forget anytime soon.

That’s what makes the Red Pill a very empowering tool, is that one gets a much better sense of the how people actually operate. It helps you see appreciation for what it is, a carrot on the stick to keep you moving in one direction instead allowing you to see the entire carrot patch behind you.

To sum it all up

Be a person of value. If you find yourself being “appreciated,” then you’ve got some more work to do. This applies not only to your dating life but your professional life as well. How many employees are “appreciated” and then kick to the curb once their usefulness in done. A truly valued employee is someone that companies will try to poach and compete for and they will make large accommodations to keep them in the organization and happy. Entrepreneurship is the true way to go if you want to get ahead, but that’s another topic entirely and the point remains that if you presently have a job, you should test the waters to see if your company appreciates or values you. You should also do the same in all of your relationships, be them romantic, family or friends. Actions speak louder than words it’s always good to know who appreciates you will just stand back with a smile vs who values you and will take action on it. Know the difference.

Cheers.

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The Alpha Wingman

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“You can be my wingman anytime” – Ice Man, Top Gun

Sometimes being an Alpha in a situation is not about using your Frame for your own benefit, but sometimes it’s about using it to help others. This post covers just such a situation that happened recently on a night out with a friend.

Field Report

I was hosting a friend of mine from out of town. He’s a young guy, in his mid twenties and is usually more of the quite and shy type at first, but opens up more once he’s comfortable in a situation. I decide to take him out for a Saturday night of fun and we go to this restaurant and lounge that I frequent in a hip and busy part of town. I like the place because it has a great atmosphere and energy, great food, great drinks, and is close to a lot of other places. It’s also frequented by many beautiful and diverse women, which makes it the prime location for a proper night out.

We get to the venue and go inside for a round of drinks. Since I frequent this place, all of the staff knows me, from the General Manager to the bar-backs, so I’m being greeted and am introducing my friend to them. After hanging out for about 30 minutes, I spot a pair of girls sitting at the end of the bar. One is blonde, with a curvy figure, and the other is a redhead with bright blue eyes and a petite figure. Both girls look to be in their mid thirties, but I know my friend has a thing for older women. I point out the redhead, which is the type of girl he usually goes for and said “I think I found someone you should go meet.” My buddy responded by saying “I’m not sure what the move is,” and so at this point I knew that I would need to take command of the situation.

“Follow my lead,” I told him, as I walked over to the girls. As I was making my way over, someone bumped me so my drink spilled a little onto my hand, so when I got up to the girls I asked if they could pass me a napkin since they where sitting next to them.

“That you for that act of bar-decency,” I said. “The bar is a lawless place and most of the time people just act insane.” Both girls laughed and then I quickly introduced myself and my friend to them. “So what brings you guys out tonight?” I inquired. “Well, we’re out to celebrate my cousin’s birthday,” said the blonde as she pointed to the redhead. “Well happiest of birthdays to you!” I said to the redhead as I gave her an enthusiastic high-five. “How did you guys know to come here?” I asked. “Where were at another bar, but there where no guys so we had heard of this place and came here.”

From there I knew we had a golden scenario. A birthday, which is a reason to celebrate. Check. They had come to this venue specially for guys. Double check. All that was left was to take the reins of the situation.

“You ladies came to the right place,” I said. “We are going to ensure that you have a proper birthday celebration.” I raised my glass and all four of us toasted to the birthday girl. We had some small talk, about what we all did and it urns out the blonde works for a Hollywood agency and the redhead is a college professor. As it turns out, they both had recently moved into the this particular area of town and they were looking to explore it more. They liked the current venue because the redhead leaved about a mile away from it. I asked them if they had been to this other lounge that is close by that I frequent, to which they replied they had hear good things but never had been. “Finish up those drinks, we’re moving out!” I said as I finished my beverage and then called for my tab.

The 2 girls, my friend and myself all made our together to the lounge I had mentioned, and I texted the General Manager there who is a buddy of min that I was en route. I got a “Fo sho playa” response back from the GM and told the ladies that they where going to like this spot a lot. This lounge is a bit of hot spot and sure enough, there was a large line out front as we arrived. I lead the group right up to the front and gave the door guy I know a solid handshake and then a hug to the girl that helps run the door as well. We then strolled right past the line and proceeded to the lounge area. As soon as we got in my buddy who is the GM greeted me and said “It’s a packed night but we have a table set aside for you. Enjoy my man.” The Assistant GM then lead us through the sea of people to a table and we got situated with myself next to the blond facing my friend and the redhead on the other side.

“What just happened?” The redhead asked. “We’re celebrating your birthday, so we are going to do it properly,” I told her. We then ordered some drinks and I made the promise that we would find birthday cake for the birthday girl to ensure the night was flawless. Our drinks arrived and my friend worked his game on the redhead as they got a little more cozy and I chatted up the blonde. After about 15 minutes, I then told the blonde that she should checkout the rest of the lounge and I took her on a tour of the space to give my friend and the redhead some 1 on 1 time.

After the tour of the of the lounge, which deliberately took 20 minutes, we rejoined the table. Once it hit 1 am, I told the group “Time for a field trip,” so we paid our tab then I took us all to a convenience store to look for some type of cake to act as a birthday cake. Since no cake could be found, we grabbed a bunch of peanut butter M&M’s, which is the birthday girl’s favorite candy. I also grabbed a bottle of wine and some matches. I paid for all of the item and then as we walked out of the store I turned to the redhead.

“So we’re going back to your place to continue the celebrations since it’s around the corner? My place is about 20 minutes from here.” She paused for a minute and then said “Ok! I wasn’t planning to have folks over, so I will need to tidy up for a quick minute before anyone comes in.” I smiled and said “Whatever the birthday girl desires.” We made our way to her place, which only took 5 minutes, and then both girls went upstairs to her place to tidy it up. My friend then said “Man, thank you for wingmanning, this has been great!” I turned to him and said “Ok this is how it’s going to go down. We’re going to head up there, have some wine and celebrate for about 30 minutes. Then people are going to get tired, at which point I will take the blonde back to her place and you’ll be good to go.” My friend nodded his head excitedly, and after a few more minutes the girls came back down to let us know we could head in.

We all got up stairs to continue the birthday theme of the evening by finding a few leftover candles and lighting them with the matches I had picked up. We all held glasses of wine and some peanut butter M&M’s while we sang Happy Birthday to the redhead. We then paired off and got settled on the couches and began discussing random topics, from different us cities to movies. Sure enough, after about 1 glass of wine and 30 minutes, the blonde said “I’m starting to get sleepy.” I responded by saying, “Same here, it is pretty late.” I then stood up and said, “We’ll I think I am going to head off,” I then turned to the blonde. “You’re an awesome amount of fun, I’ll give you a lift back to your place so you don’t have to call an Uber.” “Are you sure?” She asked. “Not a big deal,” I replied. “Plus I live in that direction anyway and can hop the freeway back home.” “Ok,” the blonde replied. The redhead then looked at me and asked “What about him?” as she looked at my friend. “No worries,” I said, “I’ll give you to some time. I’ll come back and pick him up after I make sure your friend gets home safely.” Of course, what I was thinking was “I’ll come back and pick him up tomorrow morning,” and I proceeded to say goodbye to the redhead and was quickly followed by the blonde.

The blonde and I then left the redhead and my friend and we proceeded to drive to her place on the other side of town. We got to her street and there was no where to park, so I threw on my hazard lights and prepared to say goodbye to the blonde. The blonde then looked at me and said “I should text my cousin so she knows I got back safe.” Knowing this might cause a potential cock-block, as it might imply that I would be en route back to pick up my friend, responded by leaning in close and then making out with the blonde. After making out  and playing with her large breast for a few minutes, I pulled back and said “Sucks there is no parking.” The blonde gave me a naughty look and said, “You can come inside next time.” Sure enough, a week later I would in every sense of the phrase. But that night, she returned home and I jetted back to my pad to get some much earned sleep. The following day I texted my buddy in the morning and picked him up from the redheads place.

This story is a bit of a longer one, but it is full of some key tips and ideas for you to take away.

Takeaways

6. Having venues locked down is a huge plus. Nothing can kill your momentum faster than dealing with hangups at venues, be it trying to get in or trying to grab drinks and find a place to be comfortable. Having a venue that you have locked down not only makes logistics silky smooth but it also enforces your Frame as a high value individual. Like in this example, having the staff know me at the first venue gave me social proof and boosted my status. Then, moving to the next venue, that status and Frame were further reinforced by bypassing the line and then getting a table instantly in a busy place. This also had the added effect of making the transitional logistics smooth and easy, which makes the impression of status high and well as keeps the momentum building and going, rather than hitting a wall.

 

5. Logistics are half the battle. When I am out and am suggesting other places to checkout, I ensure that they are logistically easy and close to each other. a long travel time can kill your momentum. Doing recon before and during your night is key. Since I frequent the area, I have great knowledge of all venues and their relative proximity to each other. Also, when it came up during the conversation that the redhead lived very close to where we were, that made her place the ideal go-to stop to continue the night once the bars closed.

 

4. Frame is a powerful tool. In this particular night, I used Frame to be the best wingman I could be. From the initial approach to taking the group from one lounge to the other, then to a convenience store and then back to one of the girl’s houses, that was only made possible because I defined and held the Frame. I used the theme statement of “It’s your birthday, we’re going to celebrate it properly” as the base that Frame operated from and it made for an adventure that everyone else was more than happy to be a part of.

3. Don’t ask. Subtly command. Part of Frame and game is learning to subtly give commands and not go about it by asking in a Beta way. What I mean by this is when I said “Finish up those drinks, we’re moving out!” I was giving the command of “finish your drinks, we are going to relocate to another venue,” rather than asking “Hey do you guys want to go see this other place?” By taking command of the situation I was able to hold Frame and steer the direction of the night. Other cases of this from that night were when I said “Time for a field trip,” and then leading the group to a convenience store, and then once we where done at the store saying to the Redhead “So we’re going back to your place to continue the celebrations since it’s around the corner?” I was dictating how the night was going to go, and then last example of that was near the end when we were hanging at the redhead’s place and I stated to the blonde “You’re an awesome amount of fun, I’ll give you a lift back to your place so you don’t have to call an Uber.” I was telling her not to call an Uber, I will be taking her home. Now there is a fine line, you don’t have to be an asshole in a commanding way, and sometimes you’ll get some push back to subtle commands. That’s fine and comes with the territory. NEVER FORCE ANYONE TO DO SOMETHING THEY DON”T WANT TO DO. I know most of you reading this already know that, but for those of you that might miss my meaning, I am not advocating forcing people into situations without their consent. Commands establish reinforce your Frame in an authentic way and is a great way to test how well people fall into it.

2. Know how to follow the lead. Nothing is more frustrating that doing a lot of setup to get the baton to the next runner and then to have them drop it half a second into you trying to pass it on. My friend did an excellent job of following my lead and playing off of me, so the combination was extremely effective. You can be Alpha and have Frame by following the lead of another person’s strong Frame. This can help establish your own Frame with a particular person or group and makes for an effective 1 – 2 punch. If you’re rolling out with a wingman and you guys can’t play off each other or follow each other’s leads as needed, you success rate is going to plummet, so make sure you both can either take the lead or follow the lead.

1. Have fun. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the outcome that we forget to take a step back and just enjoy the ride. One of the best highlights of the night for me was being able to have a fun time while helping a friend run his game on a girl he was attracted to. But all of us had a really fun time as we took the theme of “proper birthday celebrations” and ran with it. From the first venue to the second then the convenience store and then finally at the redhead’s house, the entire night was a fun time we all participated in. If you focus on having fun, then whether your get laid or not at the end of the night you’ll have a great time regardless. And as a bonus, having that attitude usually gets you laid more.

The More You Know

The Man In Black

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“You know why you exist, Teddy? The world out there – the one you’ll never see – was one of plenty. A fat soft teat people cling to their entire life. Every need taken care of except one. Purpose. Meaning. So they come here. They can be a little scared, a little thrilled, enjoy some sweetly affirmative bullshit and then they take a fucking picture and they go back home. But I think there’s a deeper meaning hiding under all that. Something the person who created it wanted to express. Something true.” – The Man In Black, Westworld

I just recently finished a re-watching of the HBO series West World. I don’t watch any TV, except for a series every now and again, but this series is a very thought provoking one. You can check it out or read all abut it, as this post isn’t about the series. This post is actually about the character that I find the most fascinating on the show (hence the post title) and the Red Pill context of the character’s actions and persona. I will say this, if you haven’t seen the show, then you may want to come back to this post later because there are going to be a host of major spoilers, so don’t say I didn’t warn you.

As a quick character summary, we’re introduced to the Man in Black as a mysterious, cold-hearted man with a clear agenda of his own and taste of extreme actions. He is later revealed to have started out as a much more timid and apprehensive person, as we are shown that the mild-mannered William, is in fact, a young version of the Man In Black. What we have here is a great – and rare, I might add – example of a self-forged Alpha with a Blue Pill mindset (despite that fact that the show merges it’s strongest character with it’s weakest).

As we see William when he first enters the park, he seems a little unfit for the wild nature and indulgences that can be found in there. But, in true Blue Pill fashion, once William encounters the Host (artificial human) Delores, he very quickly develops a Oneitis level obsession with her, despite the fact that he knows she’s a robot. He later would spend years searching for her until one day, he made his way back to the first area of the park and he sees her again. To his dismay and heartbreak, he discovers that she has been reset, so she does not remember him or any of the “love” that they shared in their trials and travels earlier.

This troubling realization leads William on a quest of self discovery throughout the park, which forges him into the Man in Black. In the begging of his quest to find his love, he had discovered he had a liking and nack for violence as well as manipulation, which where things he used outside in the real world to become a titan of industry. In his later years, he would test the limits of his morals, by killing a robot mother and child in cold blood to see what he would feel. Once he catches wind of a mythical maze within the park, it becomes his new obsession as he seeks to find a way to enter it and find a deeper meaning within the game of the park.

What’s intriguing about this character is that when we are first introduced to who he was as young William, he is very Blue Pill Beta man that is your run of the mill AFC. He is engaged to be married and he plays second fiddle to his hedonistic brother-in-law to be Logan, both on a personal and professional level. When he encounters Delores, he is drawn to her as something about her seems different and unique. Now, for the sake of the show, she actually is the first robot to develop consciousness, but in the context of the Red Pill, he has a very idealistic view about his “one special girl.” Everything he does is never of his own mental point of origin, it’s either spurned by Logan or Delores, he never acts of his own accord. When he finally goes of on his quest to find this one girl he’s pedestalized, he does so to satisfy his Blue Pill investment he’s made into the relationship. And much like many Blue Men before him, he discovers the painfully hard way that that all his Blue Pill investment, the hardships endured, the years searching and looking, all count for nothing. Now yes, Delores is a robot and her memory was reset, but the metaphor is one that many Blue Pill men are all too familiar with. How many times has a man spent years enduring relationship stress, trying to find someway to win back the affections of his partner, only discover all those effort carried no actual value to her attraction to him?

For the sake of the show, it’s a good twist but all it really accomplishes is it merges the shows least interesting character with it’s most, so in effect it knocks a great character down a few pegs (cough cough…Darth Vader and Anakin Skywalker cough cough). But in the context of the Red Pill, it’s a very good example of a Blue Pill man who’s traumatic personal experience has pushed him from a Beta Bucks into a hardened Alpha…but an Alpha with a blue Pill mindset. We’ll see where this character goes in the next season, but hopefully the Man in Black will develop some actualized Red Pill awareness as a character.

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The Intersexual Ecosystem

 

Intersexual Ecosystem

“Our challenge for the future is that we realize we are very much a part of the earth’s ecosystem, and we must learn to respect and live according to the basic biological laws of nature.”– Jim Fowler

What I have found to be interesting is that when we as humans look at naturalized ecosystems, we see the inner workings and hierarchies at play and accept that truth as fact. Yet, when we look ourselves in human society, we somehow think this truth of the natural world somehow doesn’t apply to us. In this post, I want to address the concept of a natural ecosystem within the framework of the Red Pill, and what those implications are in that context.

Let me first preface this post by saying that this breakdown is looking at things from the context of intersexual dynamics. This is not a social ranking or reflection of individual worth, societal value or social class. This is purely about looking at the intersexual landscape as an ecosystem. So with that in mind, when we look at natural ecosystems, we see apex consumers, tertiary consumers, secondary consumers, primary consumers, producers and decomposers. In the Red Pill context, the flow chart looks something like this:

Apex Consumers – Red Pill Alpha Males (top 10% of males)
Tertiary Consumers – Red Pill Lesser Alphas (next 10% of males)
Secondary Consumers – Alpha Females (top 10% of females)
Primary Consumers – Other Females (other 90% of females)
Producers – Blue Pill Beta Men (other 80% of males)
Decomposers – MGTOW (small percentage)

Intersexual Ecosystem

Apex Consumers (Predators)

As we all know, the top 10% of Men basically have their pick of the pie, no one has more access than they do (and there’s been plenty written about it). These Alphas are the embodiment of the full Red Pill scope maximized. Usually there is a lot of, if not some natural skill at play, but what really makes it work is the Red Pill mindset and execution. Dark Triad Traits can be seen in common and frequent usage in this part of the ecosystem. The morality of them is a question for debate, but the effectiveness of them is very factual.

Tertiary Consumers (Predators)

These are the Lesser Alphas with Red Pill awareness and represent the next 10% of the male population. They don’t have as much natural access as the top tier Alphas do, but they still enjoy a very broad range of access to options. These men are the embodiment of the utility side of the Red Pill. What they may lack in natural ability they more than make up for by utilizing their Red Pill awareness to maximize their personal potential up to a point. The Dark Triad is less commonly employed here. Only when faced head to head with a direct top tier Alpha does the discrepancy in options become apparent for the Lesser Alpha. An example of this would be someone like Tom Cruise, who is a pretty natural Apex Alpha (and for this example let’s assume he’s Red Pill), the fact that he has fame and status solidifies his position top tier. Many lesser Alphas, like Roosh or Mystery would not be able to compete as well in direct comparison, out on the open market. It’s not a reflection of their ability or worth, it’s a reflection of “fame is the ultimate game” versus pure Red Pill knowledge. Not to say those guys couldn’t pull a target away from the celebrity, but the odds are heavily stacked against them and the social proof is what counts. Mystery and Roosh are both very capable PUA’s, however there are million of women ready to break into Tom Cruise’s house for a chance just to see him, and he is still one of the top earning movie stars of all time.

Secondary Consumers

Secondary Consumers are Alpha females, which are women that know they are at the top of the female hierarchy and knowingly exploit this. They can have access to many Alpha males as well as any Beta, but the Betas are put on hold for when their access to Alphas diminishes over time. Many will usually be able to lock down a mate of their choosing, and these women are allowed to maximize their hypergamous natures because of their near unrestricted access to options.

Primary Consumers

Primary Consumers are the rest of the sisterhood which have varying degrees of access to Alphas, but have a lot more interaction and selection from the Producers (the rest of Beta kind). Though they may be just as hypergamous as their sisters in the Secondary Consumer role, Primary Consumers are not able to directly compete on the same terms and thus have to settle for less available options.

Producers

The Producers are 80% of the male population which is Beta and their access and options are the most limited. There are certainly a some greater Betas that have more options than the lesser ones do, but as a whole they are prey items for the Secondary and Primary Consumers. The beauty of Red Pill Awareness is that it allows for a Producers to change roles into a Tertiary or Apex Consumers, though those that do this are a very small percentage of the whole.

Decomposers

The decomposers are the MGTOW segment, these are men that are Red Pill Aware yet have consciously removed themselves from the dating market. While this still doesn’t remove them from the ecosystem, they are neither active predator nor prey. They are more or less in the background of the ecosystem, doing what it is that they do on their own terms. Some Alphas and many newly Red Pill Aware Producers comprise this role in the ecosystem for their own various reasons.

Conclusion

To stress the point again, none of these terms are meant as compliments or as insults. They are just descriptive terms for a role. Each role in the ecosystem is vital and they all are interdependent. Alphas need Betas to stand out even more, Secondary Consumers need Betas because the population of Alphas is so small, Betas need Alphas to learn Red Pill Awareness and the MGTOWs provide prospective for Alphas. The real question is where do you find yourself in the sexual food chain?

Food Web

Swipe Right: A Red Pill Dating App Review

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“I’ve been on so many blind dates, I should get a free dog.” – Wendy Liebman

Being in the dating industry I get a lot of questions around dating apps. My personal take on dating apps is that they are ok only if used 10% of the time to augment and compliment you Game activities. Dating apps are heavily skewed against men and the whole system is designed to give people who couldn’t “compete” so to speak on the open market place a fighting chance. Now there’s nothing wrong with meeting someone on an app, but if you’re relaying on apps to meet girls vs going out into the real world, you’re going to be in for a rough ride and will stunt you Game development. So I recently downloaded a few and played around on them to better answer the questions I hear surrounding these apps. So with that in mind, here’s a breakdown I have for each app:

Tinder

The app to put dating apps on the map, Tinder is one I’m sure many of you have tried. From a Red Pill perspective this app is conducive to the abundance mentality tenant, which like real life requires you to do a lot of digging (swiping) to find potential prospects. Tinder is certainly an anything goes app, so be ready to deal with anything and everything. The quality is certainly not high, but with enough swiping or carpet bombing (just swiping right on everything and seeing who you match with) you might uncover a gem or two. Be wary of getting that “match validation high” since 80% of swipes you probably won’t match with so it makes each match seem like a bigger deal than it really is.

Bumble

This apps is very hypergamic but also consistently has the highest quality (most attractive options) of all apps. Maybe every girl on Bumble knows how to take better pictures, but in any case this apps does foster abundance mentality. The girls have to send the first message, so with that restriction in mind you know that a girl is at least interested when you do get a message. There is a feature of extending matches which is Blue Pill scarcity dread tactic, so if a match is going to expire let it and move on. Extending the match means you’re already afraid of losing a girl you haven’t even met or talked to you which will put you at a disadvantage. If she matches you and is interested, she will act in her 24 hour window.

Coffee Meets Bagel

If hypergamy was an app, this would be it. This app uses restrictions and selective matching as a way to get money from people as well as reinforce the scarcity mentality as well as to run a built-in dread game. The noticeably more attractive matches that you can “discover” but have to use beans (the app currency which you can purchase with real money) for, it’s almost like you’re dating the dating app and trying to appease it to give you access to the goods. You can even “skip the line” to put yourself in a potential matches queue faster, which is you paying the app to get yourself qualified by a girl. This is not a position you want to put yourself in psychologically, you’re already setting yourself up to have a Beta mentally. This apps prays on the Blue Pill guys so I’d suggest avoiding it all together.

Hinge

After a few failed versions of the swipe model, Hinge has morphed into a traditional website style dating app, like Match.com or Plenty of Fish (both of which have apps). This apps give you recommendations so it’s another app that gives you less options and choices, thus creating a false sense of scarcity and dread.

Happn

This app takes an interesting twist on the conventional dating app: It focuses on people who’ve been to the same places as you. The issue with this app from a Red Pill perspective is that this app forces you to go through a process to get a girl’s attention by sending charms and then crushes, so it’s psychologically prepping you to go through a qualification process to get the attention of women.

Apps can be useful when going to a new city and looking to meet people and local recommendations. If you’re looking for some more in depth guides on how to get the most mileage out of apps, you can checkout this podcast. But from a Red Pill perspective it’s important to understand how each app will psychologically condition you, so use them with caution. Most of them by design will condition you to be a Beta qualifier for a girl’s affections. As always, the best thing to do is go old school: Talk to girls in real life.

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The Ashes Of Gotham

 

“Home…Where I learned the truth about despair. As will you. There’s a reason why this prison is the worst hell on earth: Hope. Every man who has rotted here over the centuries has looked up to the light and imagined climbing to freedom. So easy. So simple. And like shipwrecked men turning to sea water, from uncontrollable thirst; many have died trying. I learned here that there can be no true despair without hope.” – Bane, The Dark Knight Rises

I love this scene for so many reasons and after some interesting reading I have found another way to view and love this scene. One of the inherent dangers of the Red Pill is the effect of Reality Depression, where upon seeing the world for what it is, particularly women and their motivations, it’s very easy to become depressed and drift into a sense of harsh hopelessness. For this post, I will be exploring this subject and using the quoted line above as frame of reference. What inspired this was re-watching this scene and imagining that Bane was my Red Pill self talking to my recently former Blue Pill self after coming to a Red Pill awareness. I’d suggest giving that scene a viewing under that context after reading this post, the monologue by Bane hits some pretty chilling points with how contextually relatable it is.

So within the framework of this movie, your Blue Pill self (Batman) just confronted your Red Pill awareness (Bane). Though your Blue Pill self put up a fight that was “admirable, but mistaken,” it was defeated and broken. Now, a broken, feeble version your Blue Pill self lies in a place buried deep, confronted by the Red Pill. Now in this context, Gotham City is the Blue Pill idealism, and your Blue Pill self (Batman) had dedicated its life to protecting and upholding those idealizations.

Your Blue Pill self asks where it is, your Red Pill self replies “Home,” which brilliantly translates to the deepest recceses of your mind, the part of you that always knew that something was off. The part of you that always took notice when women said one thing, but then did the complete opposite. The part of you that grew up believing one thing but deep down had some doubts as you saw that things you were raised to do did not work despite continuously being encouraged to do so. This part of yourself is “were I learned to the truth about despair.” And sure enough, “As will you,” translates to your Blue Pill self is only able to be ready to learn once it’s be completely broken by some type of trauma. As many other Red Pill writers have detailed, usually this is caused by something of significant magnitude like a horrible break up or a divorce.

The “reason why this prison is the worst hell on earth” for your Blue Pill self is summed up in one word: “Hope.” This is where a lot of men struggle with their Reality Depression, they are seeing things for how they really are, but there is a part of them that still hopes to achieve the Blue Pill idealization and wishes it to be true. “Every (Blue Pill) man who has rotted here (in a state where they see Red Pill truths) over the centuries has looked up to the light (Blue Pill idealized hope) and imagined climbing to freedom. So easy. So simple.” It seems like an easy idea to go back to the Blue Pill existence you had known before, with society reinforcing these ideas it seems like it should be a simple task.

But “like shipwrecked men turning to sea water from uncontrollable thirst; many have died trying.” And here we get to the core of that reality depression, which is Blue Pill men trying to return to their former ways and idealizations which were toxic and discovering just how poisonous those Blue Pill idealization really are. Though many men have tried to hold onto those ideas and tried to make them true, many have died emotionally or literally in the process without ever coming close to completing their impossible task.

Most men “learned here” in this place, this confrontation between the broken Blue Pill idealizations and the powerful Red Pill awareness, “that there can be no true despair without hope.” The hope of the Blue Pill, the last and strongest core of the what the Blue Pill stands for and runs on, is what causes the true despair. Despite knowing that the Red Pill is reality and how the world works, the Blue Pill hopes against all odds that it can be realized. And this is a dangerous crossroads many men face.

So how does one reconcile this? That is a choice each of us has to make individually, to attempt to reconcile with our old understanding and cling to the hope of the Blue pill; or to see the harsh truths that the Red Pill represents and decide how best to move forward. But one thing is certain, no matter which choice is made, the point of no return has been crossed. Hope and despair are two powerful forces that will push and pull you, but the real questions is will you use the hope of the Blue Pill knowing that deep down it fuels your despair? Or will you see hope in the Red Pill while not succumbing to the inherent despair that harsh reality brings?

This is a question we all face and sometimes struggle with on a continual basis. If Gotham (the Blue Pill idealism) is overrun with despair and hypocrisy, the wisest course of action would be to take the other path and let Gotham burn. While there might be despair, at least there is truth and reality for what it is, so you can now truly live to make your own path.

I do imagine the final lines of this scene will recall the moment when many of you transitioned from Blue Pill to Red Pill, as the conversation with your former and new self most likely ended like this scene does: With your Red Pill self taking one last look at your Blue Pill self and stating as a final farewell: “We will destroy Gotham. And then…when it is done…and Gotham is…ashes…Then you have my permission to die.”

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Fight Club: The Alpha Vs. Beta

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“We’re a generation of men raised by women. I’m wondering if another woman is really the answer we need. ” – Tyler Durden

For today’s post, I want to revisit a film that many would propose as a “modern classic,” Fight Club. I won’t deny it, this film has had a pretty profound cultural impact and has reverberated with a generation of men. Having seen it while still very blue pill and having seen it again with a red pill lens, it has become vividly clear why this film strikes such a cord: It’s the battle inside every man that we all face of Alpha vs. Beta.

For those who haven’t seen it, here’s a brief summary (you can read the full summary here): Our main protagonist is the nameless Narrator, played by Edward Norton. He’s you’re average corporate drone, working long days at a job he loathes with not much else happening in his life. One day on a plane flight he meets very eccentric man full of bravado, Tyler Durden, played by Brad Pitt. They quickly become friends and create a Fight Club, a place for fellow men like the Narrator to release their aggression and frustration with the world in a brutal and physical way. As the club membership grows and it evolves into a revolutionary group aimed at curing the evils of consumerism in the world. The Narrator tries to take a larger role, and when the leader Tyler disappears, he goes on a hunt to find him. In that process, he discovers that Tyler Durden is actually a split personality of himself. He eventually reconciles this and is able to “kill” Tyler by shooting himself, while watching Tyler’s master plan to blow up several buildings unfold.

Now, the narrator is left as a nameless character, because he is supposed to represent average, every-day-man. In actuality, the Narrator is the embodiment of the Beta and Tyler Durden is very clearly the Alpha. The Narrator is an insomniac, haunted by the depression of his everyday life. He seeks solace in support groups by remaining silent and letting others assume he is going through the same affliction as them. While doing this, he meets a woman named Marla, who he doesn’t know how to interact with. She’s an imposter at the support groups like him, but he is attracted to her yet afraid of being outed by her at the same time. For those of you with even a hint of red pill awareness, the Narrator screams “beta” in every way. He has no frame, no direction or control of his life, and has to be pushed to extremes in order to act. He even looks physically weak and fragile, and his need for validation from others is fully exposed with the support groups.

Now, let’s take a look at Tyler Durden, who at first glance screams “alpha.” Tyler is suave, dressed in a manner that shows care but also oozes the “rock star panty dropper” vibe. Physically, he is the idealized male body that is tone, athletic, and shredded (which is ironic that at one point when he mocks a designer ad featuring a perfect male physique like his and commenting “Is that what a real man is supposed to look like?”). He’s a natural leader, as he forms the fight club and evolves it into Project Mayhem and he touts his philosophy of personal freedom, anarchy, and dismantling the establishment. Tyler is that natural “alpha” that the beta Narrator wishes he could be. Brash, handsome, perfect figure and has total control over his life. Tyler even becomes sexually intimate with Marla, the girl the Narrator could only dream about being sexual with (literally and metaphorically).

Now, in the video above, Patrice O’Neal taps into something of note. While he sees it as a “The Holy Grail of something white,” I’d say he’s on point, but replace “white” with “beta.”  Fight Club is the Holy Grail for Betas. The story is about a beta guy who’s inner alpha comes bursting through. It’s the alpha side that wants total freedom – which is what true power is. The freedom to do as you desire and have total control over your life (for an excellent read on the subject, checkout this article).  Tyler is a beta’s idealized self, the true alpha that does what he wishes, beds the women he desires and is the man other men aspire to be and follow into battle.

“Man, I see in fight club the strongest and smartest men who’ve ever lived. I see all this potential, and I see squandering. God damn it, an entire generation pumping gas, waiting tables; slaves with white collars. Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don’t need. We’re the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our Great War’s a spiritual war… our Great Depression is our lives. We’ve all been raised on television to believe that one day we’d all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won’t. And we’re slowly learning that fact. And we’re very, very pissed off.” – Tyler Durden

Re-framing this statement in the context of blue pill and red pill, it reads much like this:

Man, I see in fight club the strongest and smartest men who’ve ever lived. Men of worth and value to themselves and to society.

I see all this potential, and I see squandering. Men are not actualizing themselves, they are subverting themselves to their own eventual demise.

God damn it, an entire generation pumping gas, waiting tables; slaves with white collars. Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don’t need. We’re enslaving ourselves to our blue pill idealizations, that by doing so we’re “doing our job” even though it’s not what we desire in our natural state. We’re relegating ourselves to be providers so we can been leeched dry until we have nothing left.

We’re the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our Great War’s a spiritual war… our Great Depression is our lives. The modern, more feminized world is constantly battling our masculinity. We’ve been stripped of it and as such striped of purpose. With the new equalist standard we are aimless and have become depressed. The blue pill is a raw deal that benefits everyone but us.

We’ve all been raised on television to believe that one day we’d all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won’t. And we’re slowly learning that fact. And we’re very, very pissed off. We see the harsh blue pill truths for what they are, as they have been made vividly apparent to us, and now we are displaying our justified outrage. The snowflakes have melted releasing the flood.

And this is a large reasoning for the MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) movement as well as the climbing suicide rate for men (not to mention the fact that 80% of all suicides are committed by men). For the blue pill beta, the world is a cruel place that promised itself to them and then slowly revealed itself to be draining them. That is why this story has the cultural impact it does, it’s very blunt and real about blue pill betas coming to terms with the harsh truths about the world.

And the ultimate climax, which I feel sells some false hope, is that in the end the Narrator is able to kill Tyler Durden, but is left to inherit Durden’s empire. The message is that the alpha side is wild, dangerous and destructive, but beta side can eventually subdue, confront and kill the alpha side. The alpha can do the hard work and make all things desired happen, but the false hope is that the blue pill beta side can still remain dominant and come out on top. It’s the same irony as the “Is that what a real man is supposed to look like?” scene, in which we have the idealized male form degraded by an idealized male to make the betas feel better about themselves. The same irony exists with the climax, where the beta side realizes that everything it wanted was achieved by the dominant alpha, but in the end the beta side won out because it was the “dominant” personality. The false hope here is that a frustrated blue pill beta can utilize his alpha to get where he wants to be and then stay true to his “real self” by killing the alpha side when things go too far.

From a red pill perspective, a lot of men can understand the blue pill beta side of things, as many have come from that paradigm and fully understand just how powerful that idea can be. But where the blue pill sees a heroic story and captures their existence, one can only hope that if they do embrace their inner alpha that some red pill awareness will factor in as a discipline that alpha-ness, which is sourced in bitterness and disillusionment. Imagine how different this story would be if the Narrator had more actualized red pill awareness instead of a blue pill frame to lash out from? That would be a movie I’d love to see.

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