The Butterfly Effect

Sexy Wet

“Small shifts in your thinking, and small changes in your energy, can lead to massive alterations of your end result.” ― Kevin Michel

We are the end results of the choices we have made in life, and more often than not, those choices our influenced by our way of thinking.

Years ago, when I was making my initial transition from Blue Pill to Red Pill, my roommate at the time had a female friend of his from the east coast coming to visit LA and hang. I was down for some adventure, so all met up at a local Japanese bar to take full advantage of happy hour. My roommate’s friend, who we’ll call Lauren, was a cute, bubbly Jewish girl with very good boobs and a high energy level. Me and her hit it off pretty much instantly, and we all put the word “happy” in happy hour.

After the Japanese bar we went back to our house to continue hanging. We put on a movie and Lauren and I got cozy on the coach, and the once the movie was over my roommate stated that he was tired and was headed to bed. I took Lauren in my room to hang, and then we proceeded to hook up.

We were laying in bed and she asked me “When did you know you wanted to hook up with me?” I replied with “I pretty much knew after a few minutes…When was the moment you knew?” She responded with something seemingly arbitrary, but it would have a profound impact on my thinking and Game:

“Pretty much right away. I mean you where this tall, hot guy that was a lot of fun from the start.”

Now, as much as I enjoy the compliment, the phrase “hot guy” caused a drastic shift in my mindset. As mentioned before, I was at the beginning stages of my Red Pill journey, but that phrase “hot guy” ran in my head. I’ve had some minor success with women before hand, but never had I ever thought of myself as a “hot guy.” To me, a “hot guy” was always some other guy, some shirtless and shredded Chad like Brad Pitt in fight club. But for this girl, I was that “hot guy” which led to us hooking up. From then on, that mental shift would have a butterfly effect of me realizing my value as well as farthing my trek into Red Pill conversion. I’m grateful that a positive moment helped me transition further into the Red Pill rather than a traumatic one. I’ve now incorporated the mindset of “I’m a hot guy” in my Game and it’s yielded big results, as it’s help to solidify my confidence which led to many successful interactions with women in the future.

I share this story as an anecdote for you, in that perhaps there is a limiting belief you have or you never tried thinking of yourself in a certain way. A small mental shift, like “why would she go out with me?” to “why wouldn’t she want to go out with me?” can have a large impact on your success rate as well as the choices you make. If you were like me and never thought of yourself as “a hot guy,” imagine yourself that way and see types of results it can produce. Small changes, be it changes in your thinking, your style, or physique can have a cascading butterfly effect in your Game. Now is the time to experiment with small tweaks and see what results they produce, and then build upon positive results. If you’re a well seasoned vet, then you already know the power of small change and you’re continuously implementing them to keep your Game at it’s peak.

Go out there and conquer your goals. Cheers.

Woman rain

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An “Honest” Try

Trying too hard

“Above all, don’t lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.” ― Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Brothers Karamazov

For this post, I wanted to tackle an insidious phrase I hear over and over again, which at it’s core is one of the strongest Blue Pill shackles that keeps men chained to terrible situations. This phrase has all the right words and seems to express what men should be doing. But in reality, this phrase is a warped mix of self-deception that preys on a man’s sense of honor and doing the right thing. That phrase is:

“I’m giving it an honest try.”

The phrase of “I’m giving it an honest try,” or any variation of it (“We’re giving it an honest shot”, etc.) is such a sneaky phrase because on the surface it sounds like the right thing. It’s saying that a man is wanting to give a relationship a go with his full attention, desire and will power. It’s supposedly saying this man is a mature adult and is taking responsibility for himself and for his relationship. After all, men are the ones who constantly are in need of “growing up” right? What is so wrong with admitting to trying your best and giving a relationship your all?

To begin with, this phrase it built entirely on Blue Pill honor-bound logic that places the man’s internal value far below that of his partner in the relationship. “I’ve giving it an honest try” is always uttered as a justification that society and men tell themselves for sticking with a partner that they are not in a good situation with. This phrase never appears when a situation is solid, operating withing a good, healthy Frame. No one in those situations is “giving it an honest try.” That phrase always appears when there’s constant fighting, situational turmoil, and drama. Then mostly men will utter this phrase as if it’s justification of all the strife and magically makes all of the bad acceptable. It’s a phrase used as an end-all-be-all statement that supposed to be taken at face value and left be.

The next part of this phrase that’s very insidious is that no one bothers to ask the question of what does an “honest” try actually mean? As I mentioned before, this phrase is only used to attempt to overwrite a bad and dysfunctional situation. So are all the healthy situations “dishonest?” The true answer is that the “honest” part is a self-deception for the Blue Pill man. It’s a lie he tells himself over and over hoping that it’ll become true someday. “If only saying it, would make it so” (I couldn’t help but to toss a Star Wars quote in there).  The reality is that this idea of an “honest” try is completely female-centric Blue Pill conditioning that says “your duty as a man is to put up with this girl’s bullshit no matter what the cost to you is. It doesn’t matter how raw the deal is for you, you owe her an “honest” effort in the situation.” So keep on trying and sacrificing for the sake of being an “honest” man. You can see why it’s just a commonly used phrase for the Blue Pill man.

For men, this phrase is essentially the guy saying “I’m telling myself a dishonest lie. I’m abdicating my Frame to appease this girl in the vain hope that she’ll appreciate the sacrifice and find a way to respect me.” And as those who are familiar with the Red Pill know, once you give up on your Frame you will be eaten alive. Women don’t want you to cave to their temperamental storms, they want you to weather them and remain true to yourself and unshaken. If you can’t keep yourself protected from her temperament, how will you be able to protect her from the world? How will you be able to handle yourself when the tough situations in life come for you both? Women are constantly testing men because if she’s going to invest in a partner, she’s going to make damn sure her partner can handle himself and his business, regardless of what gets tossed his way. So if you’re losing your shit over a girl’s behavior, that shows to her that she can pierce your armor and therefor the world can pierce your armor as well. How can you possibly be a worthy shield if she can break you so easily?

If you find yourself saying this phrase, then I have news for you: It’s time to NEXT this girl and move on. Saying this phrase is an omission of relinquishing Frame and any chance of legitimacy has been lost. It’s far better to cut things off and move on before your soul gets ravaged and drained. Women are supposed to make your dick hard, not your life. If it’s the latter, you need to reevaluate your situation and see why your Frame isn’t in check. Then you need to be truly honest with yourself and proceed from there. The only “honest try” you need to be giving is to your mission in life and your own self improvement.

Ex

 

Going The Distance: Strategy For Dating At A Long(ish) Distance

“Whoever coined the term “absence makes a heart grow fonder,” was an idiot. Absence makes a bitch grow crazy.” – Toni Aleo

I’m not a fan or real believer in long distance relationships. For an LTR, it creates a lot of unnecessary problems and stress. However, if you’re casually dating or have a hook up buddy situation, than the long distance can be a huge plus. For this post, I’ll be touching on a helpful strategy to foster and manage dating from a long(ish) distance.

To start, I will say that for purposes of this strategy, long(ish) distance is anyone that lives 30 or more miles away from you, or usually lives about an hour and half of travel time from you. In the dating scene, distance plays a factor. Usually a good 5-20 mile radius is ideal because that makes logistics much simpler with shorter travel times and convenience of venues located close to your house or their’s. When you get beyond that, you start getting into issues of logistics and time that usually force your hand to find a place that is either in your neighborhood or in hers. So what is a good way to manage this?

For a first date / hang session, I almost always find a venue in her neighborhood and will go pick her up. This allows me to maintain Frame as I am responsible for transportation as well as putting within close proximity to her place if things go very well. Also, unless a girl is making it really clear that she is super into you, it’s much easier to go to her side of town for the first encounter because she’s putting less investment in initially by you coming to her (when a girls lives relatively close to me, I usually do the inverse in that I almost always have them come to me on the first encounter). But this is your chance to show off how awesome you are and to get her to enticed into your Frame. You’re giving her a strong reason to come to your side of town for the next date / hangout. Remember, girls live in a time where they have more access to men than they know what to do with, so you need to give her a worthwhile reason to drive and hour or more in traffic to come see you when she could easily swipe right on a guy that lives 3 blocks away on her phone. Be the man worth the effort and you’ll be surprised by what girls will do to be with you. I once went out with a girl that did not have a car (this was the pre-Uber days) and lived on the other side of town from me and for our second date she took 3 buses and train, in LA, which is not known for it’s efficient public transportation to get to me, she was that into me. I’ve also had another girl that lived an hour away from me have car trouble so she borrowed her aunt’s car to drive to me rather than me driving to her. Be a man worth the effort.

After you’ve shown that you’re a man of value and are worth going the distance for, the second encounter you should have her meet at your place and then you take her out from there. This allows you to bring her into your world and show off your home court advantage with local venues that you know of. Also, you’ll have to end up back at your place, which makes it more convenient for her to spend the night. I’ve dated a lot of girls that lived 30 – 70 miles away from me and this formula works extremely well, especially as once the Frame has been established, usually 8 out 10 dates involve them coming to my side of town in exchange for me going to their side of town 1 or 2 out of 10 times. This is especially effective with girls that are living with roommates or that are living with family. Your world can be an exciting escape from their reality for them.

Another benefit of this arrangement is that if you’re seeing multiple people, it’s easier to schedule them to come see you and you can also schedule multiple dates in the same day with people who live in the same direction. Once I did a “double day” by seeing a girl in Oceanside, which is easily an hour and half outside of Los Angeles in the afternoon and then saw another girl that I hooked up with that night down in San Diego. The logistics worked at very well and made the 120 mile drive down to San Diego very worth while as I was able to make a stop en route for a date in Oceanside, which is 35 miles north of San Diego. Killing 2 birds with 1 stone as they say. Another perk is that you have a drastically reduced chance of bumping into one of your longer distance prospects while out with a local girl, and it helps keep your plates that you’re spinning separate.

I will stress that all of this works based on the fact that you have your Frame in check. If you don’t then you’ll come off as that Beta guy that’s really “nice.” Only having that Alpha swag will make her desire to make the trip. The real question you have to ask is how much effort are you willing to put in. If you don’t want to bother, not to worry, go out and meet more people that are closer to you. But if you have a warm lead and the only thing standing in the way is distance, then this might be a solid option to consider. I have found with long(ish) distance dating, by putting in a little bit more effort upfront I can then have an easier situation that requires an extremely small amount of work to maintain. I do enjoy making the effort on the first encounter, as I usually get to know and scout a new area out for future reference (you never know when it will come in handy). So if you meet someone that you’re into and are trying to figure out out how logistics can work, try this formula out for yourself. It’s especially useful for you guys in towns that are small and far from a lot of action, so you most likely are making a bit of a trek to go beyond the local watering holes anyways. See if your prospects can go the distance.

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Predatory Efficiency

Fierce Tiger

“He was a killer, a thing that preyed, living on the things that lived, unaided, alone, by virtue of his own strength and prowess, surviving triumphantly in a hostile environment where only the strong survive.” ― The Call of the Wild,  Jack London

I don’t watch any TV as I plain and simply don’t have the time for it, but every now and again I might watch a few episodes of something educational or inspiring. Recently, I watched a fantastic series call The Hunt, which you can stream on Netflix. Aside from being beautifully shot with an Oscar-worthy soundtrack, this series takes a harsh look at being a predator in the wild and how harsh the natural world can be.

What I also gleamed from this series where a lot of parallels between predators in the wild and what we as men must face in the world of Game. Below are some observational parallels inspired by this series, since as men, when it comes to dating we are the hunters:

4. Failure is an essential part of the Game. One of the biggest themes in this series is failure and how there is no getting around it, it’s a part of life. Predators in the wild have an extremely high failure rate, with stats around 1 in 7 to 1 in 10 hunts actually being successful. This is true with Game as well.

Game is not about never failing or or getting rejected, it’s actually about going out there and facing that rejection. A season player will actually get rejected more than a timid one, and that’s fine because he’s creating more opportunities for success by doing more approaches. Life is a contact sport, the more people you contact, the better you’ll do. So play the numbers. If your success rate is 1 in 10, and you only ever make 10 approaches, then you’re only ever going to be successful once. But if you make 100 approaches, then your success rate may stay the same but you will have 10 success under you belt because you did more work. It’s a learning process, so the more you get out there and get experience, the more you learn what works for you and more your success rate will improve. No one will ever be at 100%, but if you can go from 10% successful to 15%, that’s a big improvement. And eventually you can build on that to get your success rate even higher. This leads to observation number 2…

3. Persistence is key to success and survival. In the wild, predators fail much more than they succeed, yet they persist on. Why? If they don’t they will die. Their very survival depends on it. Predators are the most persistent group of animals because they have to continually push themselves in order to be successful. It doesn’t matter if they haven’t eaten in weeks, if they are facing prey that is bigger than them or that half the things they hunt could injure or kill them. They have to be fearless, bold, and persistent to be successful and survive.

The same is especially true with Game. If you only make a few approaches a month, get rejected and stop approaching, guess what? You’re not to going to find any success or change your situation. With Game you have to be persistent in order to be successful. Lie a tiger in the jungle, the fate of your night is up to you. Will you go out and find a girl to have sex with? Will you have a fun time regardless? Or will you skulk at home because it’s “too hard?” The choice is yours. Choose wisely.

2. Predators are efficient. A Cheetah does not sprint at max speed every chance it gets, not does it waste energy running and leaping for no reason. Predators conserve their energy at all costs, because once it’s spent, there’s no guarantee of success so they may be successful and in turn be able to recoup that energy quickly. Hence why predator spend most of their hunting time utilize stealth so they can get withing striking distance. Once there, they unleash their full might in a high risk high reward explosion of force that gives them the absolute best chance of success.

When out in the field Gaming, you must become efficient as well. If you’re a clever smooth talker, make that work for you instead of trying to be the loud, over the top comedian. If you’re the loud, over the top comedian, than play that to your advantage and don’t waste your energy trying to be the technical philosopher. Now don’t be afraid to experiment with different styles depending on the situation, but ultimately you know what works best for you and what doesn’t work best.

Also, be efficient with your resources. Your money, energy, attention, and especially your time. If you’re catching a hint that a girl is wasting or eating up too much of any of these, then NEXT her and move on, it’s not efficient for your success rate to waste needlessly. It’s better to spend more of those or much stronger leads than trying to play the “if I can convince her game,” which is always a losing game since if you even do manage to “win,” you’ve dumped more resources than you know you should have so you still don’t come out ahead.

1. Predators have rock-solid focus. When predator are in stealth mode and getting withing striking distance, pay very close attention to their entire bodies. I love how the way every last inch of a predator locks into an aggressive, spring-loaded stance as they prepare to unleash murderous force up their prey. It starts from their head and eyes and all other parts of their bodies shift to channel all their energy to that single focal point, like a sniper locking a round into the chamber and focusing the scope on the rifle. And once a predator makes the leap into the kill zone, as prey dodges and changes directions, predators heads and eyes remain locked entirely on their prey, never losing sight or focus of their target, while their body makes automated adjustments to keep the predator on track.

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This is a critical takeaway for Game, as once you get in that “kill zone” state where you can escalate things sexually (in a consensual way, of course), you have to utilize that focus to enhance your presence and maximize the moment. When you keep your focus, it’s amazing how your body language and Frame will subconsciously lock into place to work for you and not against you. This will help you conquer shit tests, deal with cock blocks and increase the vibe that you’re a man on a mission.

That does it for this post, but I hope some of these takeaways help you in the field. Happy hunting.

Hawk

 

Who’s Turn Is It Anyway?

Line

“No winter lasts forever; no spring skips its turn.” –  Hal Borland

For this post I wanted to give a bit of a quick pep talk addressing on of the core Red Pill truth’s. When it comes to any woman you’re involved with romantically, always remember that she is not your’s, it’s just your turn. Now, this turn might last for 1 night or 50 years, but if you understand this concept this will help you in regulation your Frame and emotions. It’s an important concept because it puts the abundance mentality first and helps you see relationships for what hey are, not for what society conditions use to believe, which is that they are one-shot chances at happiness.

Now perhaps event more importantly to remember is the inverse act is true: She doesn’t own you and it’s her turn with you. Many times this fact is forgotten because too much focus is put externally on the other party in the relationship. But this is a true fact that reinforces the you are the prize mentality. So I’ll say it again, when you’re involved with any woman romantically remember that it’s her turn to be with you, and that turn can be ended at your discretion.

That’s it for today, sort and sweet. Now go make the most of those turns.

Cheers.

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Name Your Game

Rat Pack

“Your life is not a simulation; it’s the real game. Play wisely.” ― Richelle E. Goodrich

As you develop your Game skills and understanding, you realize that there are many different type of Game styles that can utilize. Usually one style is the most effective for you, but you can utilize more than one at different times or concurrently to improve your success rate. For this post, I’ll be detailing below 4 different Game styles and the personality types these are very effective for, with 4 real-world examples of each.

4. Great Gatsby Game

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Style: This game style is not so much named because of who the fictional character Jay Gatsby was, since he was extremely Beta; but more so about what he represented. Gatsby was known for hosting and throwing large, grand and very elaborate parties that made him the talk of the town. Gatsby was about viewing life as a grand adventure and being larger than life. This made him so charming and appealing because he had a sense of optimistic innocence to his world view that made it easy for people to get swept up in; it was pure.

This style will draw shit testing from women’s pragmatic side or the people trying to pull you out of “fantasy play land” and back to “the real world.” This is countered by adopting the old Playstation mantra: “Live in your world; play in ours.” Great Gatsby Game is about bringing people into your Frame and you maintaining it. Your world is one of fun, celebration and adventure. The trick is to not let the guests in your world change it back into their world.

Personality Type: This Game style is best suited for guys that are social, especially those with “larger than life” personalities. Typically these guys have no problems approaching and opening an individual or a group of people and within 5 minutes they are are charmed by their spell. This Game style utilizes social proof and bravado and results in you very overtly owning the room. I make the most use of this style personally, as it suits my personality and passion for adventure in life.

Examples: Walt Disney, John Wayne, James Dean, Elon Musk

3. James Bond Game

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Style: This Game style is defined as being sleek, subtle, and follows a more Classic Alpha archetype. Unlike the Great Gatsby Game, James Bond Game is much more poised. Everything seems calculated and strategic, there are “no accidents” when employing this game. There is always an sense of “I know a juicy secret about the world and I won’t tell anyone” that draws an entices people in; it’s the sense of mystery generated by the great confidence and poise. This Game style also gets a lot of shit tests thrown at it, which are then deflected with the greatest of ease by a smirk and quick comment. There is always an air of classy superiority that is present, regardless if there is social proof or not. This style runs on 100% rock-solid Frame.

This style is loathed by Beta orbiters because there is no clearly visible reason why this style is so intriguing to women, and so they will shit test, run interference and try to “protect” women from this unknown danger that represents a threat to their misguided investment in women. This style will use that to your advantage to show how confidently Alpha you are and will draw women in more powerfully while getting the Betas to push themselves away further.

Personality Type: This Game style is best suited for guys that would rather approach indirectly or by proximity, rather than go out of their way to make a direct approach. Guys that are great at the concept of Amused Mastery and are good at using teasing and sarcasm.

Examples: Frank Sinatra, Clint Eastwood, Sean Connery, George Clooney

2. Jeff Goldblum Game (aka The Eccentric Genius Game)

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Style: This unconventional style of Game owns that fact all the way while highlighting how many different Red Pill concepts can be executed brilliantly in very diverse ways. On the outside these might seem like head-scratching outliers, but for those who know how to read the Red Pill tells, it makes perfect sense. This style is based on embracing one’s social uniqueness and holding total Frame control while doing so. What this Frame hold does is it makes the rest of the world seem like it’s off and the one projecting the Frame is the standard. Rather than conform to the world this style is about getting the world to conform to you.

This style can be an acquired taste in certain situations, but once’s it’s honed, it’s charm is almost irresistible, because it creates instant social proof by getting everyone to conform. Jeff Goldblum, who I have had the pleasure of meeting and is the reason why this style is named after him, is a prime example of this. When you’re in his presence you feel like you’re caught in a mental conversation he’s having with himself, but his sense of charm and inquisitive curiosity makes the experience uniquely fun and very memorable. It’s a different version of Great Gatsby Game in sense that you’re bringing others into your own reality, however this reality is not larger than life, this reality is one simple thing: You.

Personality Type: This works very well for people who are introverted, a little socially awkward or who have a more unique view of the world but would not be defined as classically Alpha. Book-smart and nerdy guys excel at this style of Game.

Examples: Jeff Goldblum, Woody Allen, John Malkovich, Howard Hughes

1. Tortured Genius Game

Jim-Morrison

Style: This style of Game is a variant of the Alpha Bad Boy archetype and is one of the most powerful and effective types of Game there is. This type of Game is “No fucks given” to the highest degree. Abundance mentality rules as many may come and go, one thing remains, the driving goal or passion in life. This passion, be it art, music, acquiring wealth or any other obsession will always be the top priority. Lil Wayne stated it best: “I’m married to the Game and I love my wifey.” For girls, this means that they will always be in direct competition with that driving passion and that they will always come in 2nd place to it, effectively making them a gloried mistress. Usually paired with a knack for creativity, this game creates that irresistible combo to women of strong Alpha traits paired with a “beautiful soul,” as only their uniquely feminine charms can see into it and witness the raw creative talent. A common phrase heard is “He chose me,” which reflects that this Alpha has a multitude of options available to him and he is in fact, the prize worth competing for.

There is a downside with type of Game, as these type seems much more prone to relationships based on a volatile nature and extreme degrees of pendulum swings. One day all is perfect, the next day, the entire world is burning down and there is no escape. Keeping one’s emotional Frame is in check is essential to ensuring that what makes this style so successful doesn’t wind up destroying you, making this style a very sharp double-edged sword.

Personality Type: This type of game is seen a lot in the creative fields, especially with musicians, actors and artists (and bartenders, for whatever reason). The creative drive and vision for the world is a very sexy trait, though I’ve noticed that guys that naturally utilize this style are very prone to self-destructive tendencies (excessive drinking and drug abuse, dangerous activities, etc.). Also given to the volatile nature of this dynamic, more aggressive and passionate personalities tend to utilize this game and they enjoy a much larger threshold of forgiveness and tolerance than any of the other Game styles. Guys that are good with words or expressing and conveying ideas become the masters of tapping into women’s hamsters and getting them to spin in overdrive. Paired with truly not giving a fuck, it’s game over.

Examples: Jim Morrison, Prince, Kurt Cobian, Kanye West

If these apply to you you should explore and experiment with mastering your style. If they don’t you can consider utilizing these styles to see if any work well in your favor. I’d be willing to bet that at least 1 of them does.

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The Lesbian

Girls

“I’m in lesbians with you” – Scott Pilgrim, Scott Pilgrim Vs. The World

When you have many experiences with women, you will get some interesting situations and have some interesting conversations. You’ll also get shit tested in some interesting and unique ways and this story is about one of the most interesting shit tests I have ever received.

I was at an alumni event at my old college when I had met this 23 year old Latina. She’s a very cute, petite girl with a great figure and sexy eyes. I had given her my business card when we met since the setting was more professional at the event. She texted me later that night saying it was great to meet me. A week later I hit her up about hanging out, to which she responded with:

“Wait, are you asking me out? I’m pretty dense about that kinda of stuff”

My response was “I didn’t realize “hangout” was such a loaded term.”

I can already get a sense that this girl might be the the type to shit test a lot, so I decided to play it very casual and ambiguous to see where this would go. After a few other texts, we setup a time to meet up for hang out a few days later. Now since this was a first encounter and based on the texting there seemed like a lot of shit testing was going to be involved, I decided it would be best to meet on the early side, around 7 pm so that way I could go over for a Netflix and chill session after with another girl that I’ve hooked up with before who also lives in the area around 9:30.

I told the Latina to met up at a lounge I like and I get there about 2 minutes before her. We get seated at a table in a good spot in the lounge, which lets us see out onto the street and makes for great people watching. We exchange a little small talk about how her week went and then about 3 minutes into the conversation I get hit with a shit test that’s way out of left field. She perks up, looks me directly in the eyes and says:

“Just so you know, I’m a lesbian.”

Straight out of left field. No warning, just right into it. I knew this was a pivotal shit test moment, where right off the bat I was being thrown towards the fire to see if I would flinch. In my head I laughed a bit because based on all of the back and forth that led to this meeting, I wasn’t buying it at all. I also had not been hit with this exact shit test out of the blue before either, which was partly entertaining and partly exciting as it represented a new challenge. Without skipping a beat I casually replied:

“That’s awesome.”

She looked a bit surprised at my response. I delivered my response while maintaining my relaxed yet commanding posture, and the tone of my voice was casual. Then I followed up with: “I love me some lesbians.”

She paused for a minute, as her hamster tried to process my responses. She then went on a little bit about her family and how she’s never had a boyfriend. The conversation continued with her doing 90% of the talking, and I could tell based on how I handled the shit test, she was now trying to qualify herself to me. We where talking for another 10 or so minutes when she asked me a question:

“What are you doing after this?”

I believe honesty is the best armor you can have, it keeps you free and also can be a great way to show off an IDGAF attitude when used strategically. Since I had been hit with big shit test out of left field, I decided to throw out one of my own, to see how she reacted to it:

“I’m going to see another girl.”

She had this completely shocked look on her face and instantly asked “What do you mean?”

I replied, “It’ll probably be a Netflix and chill situation. We have a thing that when I see her I’m with her, but when I don’t, I’m not.” I could see the hamster going into overdrive in her head as she was contemplating this news I had relayed. I just sat comfortably while holding eye contact and smirking. My posture was saying “This is the deal, are you with it or not?” She then asked me a few questions about my past relationships, to which I replied that I like to keep things very open so I can experience as many people as possible. She continued on about her thoughts on relationships as we finished our drinks.

About 20 minutes later we wrapped up at the lounge and I took for for a stroll around the down town area. Part of the stroll included a stop at an adult shop. While we were in there she asked me if I had a “Christian Grey Room,” to which I replied “Every room I enter is a Christian Grey room.” I could see a little twinkle in her eye as her hamster began spinning on the implications of what I had said.

After the sex shop I took her to the outside patio of a cigar lounge and we sat there for a bit, discussing random things. We began making out for a bit and then I checked the time. It was 9:15 so it was time to go see my Netflix and chill girl. We said our goodbyes and and she said that we should hang again, which I causally agreed would be cool. That was the start of a very fun situation, in which a week later I’d discover she was a squirter in the back of my car, as well as how to utilize Frame to keep things as a casual hook up for the past 7 months now.

Takeaways:

1. Women will shit test you all the time and in ways you’ll never expect. Always be on your top game and always be ready. You never know exactly how these test will come, but they are coming. Usually the more insecure the girl, the more shit tests you will face. Know who you’re dealing with so you have can anticipate what you’ll have to deal with.

2. Hold Frame. I’ve said it many times before, but Frame is absolutely critical. Without it, I would have been crucified by her shit test. But with it, I was able to work the situation to my advantage.

3. Honesty will set you free. Using strategic honesty, you can be free to be yourself while seeing if she’s down to enter your world and come along for the ride, or if she will fight you tooth and nail every step of the way. By flat out telling this Latina that I was seeing another girl after her, I was free to let her know that I have options and if she is on board with entering my world she’s welcome, if not, she can go her own way and I’ll be fine. It also gives me the freedom to see multiple people without having to feel like I’m sneaking around behind everyone’s back because I’m out in the open with what the situation is. Obviously you don’t need to blab the full truth of your family life or other things, but being honest about what you want and who you are at the right times will work in your favor far more than trying to hide it.

4. Use your own shit tests. For guys we typically call this screening, but don’t be afraid to use some shit tests of your own. This does 2 things. 1) It flips the script and makes YOU the prize, not the guy chasing after her affections. 2) This is a way to qualify how well into your Frame she’ll come into and well as give you better insight into who she is as person. Is she a chill, go with the flow type? Or she the type that has a snarky negative comment about everything? Just as girls use shit tests to expose if a guy is Alpha or not, you need to use shit tests to see if any girl you are with is the type of girl you want to be with.

5. Work the hamster. A girl’s imagination is the most powerful thing you can play with and utilize. Work it often and work it well. Let her imagination take her to a conclusion you lead her to. Too many times guys are just matter-o-factly about things which leaves no room for imagination. Do you want to drive a girl wild with passion and desire? Do you want her to get wet at the thought of a spontaneous encounter of intimacy between you two? Then learn how to use innuendo, flirting, and ambiguity to get her imagination working. If you don’t, you’ll find the girls you go out with will be dryer than the Sahara desert during a drought. In this example, I used these things to keep her hamster constantly going so that by the time our 2nd encounter happened, we where going at it in the back of my car in an alleyway close to her house.

If I’ve given you some good takeaways you can use while entertaining you, then my goal is complete. Go out there and conquer the world friends.

Gentleman