C’est La Vie

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“Life is available only in the present moment. If you abandon the present moment you cannot live the moments of your daily life deeply.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

I just recently finished up a trip to a conference out in Texas, and I must say, conferences and trade shows are a great place for networking, meeting interesting people, and to game. You have people from all over the place working for a multitude of companies and it makes for a very conducive environment for the adventurous. I may have to do a post/podcast episode exclusively on the subject, but for this post, I’ll be detailing what transpired this past trip.

I get to the trade show floor so I can hop to my booth and get things ready to go. The show opens, and people start pouring in to checkout different booths, network and grab a lot of free swag. I alwyas make sure I have a free hour or so to stroll the floor myself; there’s always a chance to learn something new and it’s an excellent way to meet some very attractive girls working their booths. Before I took my break, I noticed that at the booth directly across from mine was being manned by 3 people. One young guy who was fairly tall, another older woman, and another woman looked to be a few years younger than me. She was petite, with a very pretty face, deep green eyes, reddish-brown hair down to her shoulders and she was wearing these tight white jeans that highlighted her great legs and fantastic ass. After taking notice of her, I had a very practical and brief thought: “I should have sex with this girl,” I thought to myself.

I then took my break and made my rounds, chatting it up with several people at various booths, includding to stunning brunnetes that were working a booth together at the far end of the conference. One was married and the other appeared single, so I made mental note of it before making my way back to my booth. Since things in my section were slow, I caught the perky girl in the white jeans looking in the direction of my booth, so I waved at her and motioned for her to come over.

“Hi booth neighbor, I’m Alpha J,” I said as I introduced myself and shook her hand.

“Hello neighbor!,” she enthusiastically replied. “My name is Tori.” I then asked her about what her company does and she proceeded to tell me all about it. I found out that she was from the Midwest and this was her first time at a trade show. I told her as a trade show pro that she should make sure she visits as many booths as possible, especially the ones manned by 1 bored person that’s starved for human interaction. She giggled at the thought and then a customer of mine stopped by so I excused myself from the conversation and tended to my client.

The show continued for another hour and then ended, and most people at the trade show went to opening night after party…and by party essentially it was people rushing to the bar set for drinks and raiding the food stands. Thanks to a colleague i was able to sneak into the “party” with having to way over pay to get in, and proceeded to chat with a few other industry folks I knew. I then took a moment to scan the room and then I  noticed Tori across the room at a table with her coworkers and she was looking in my direction, then I realized she was looking at me. I gave her a head nod which she returned, then I went back to the bar to grab a beverage and wound up talking with a prospective client in the process. Once that conversation was over, I made my way to Tori’s table where she was sitting with her coworkers.

“What trouble are you kids causing?” I asked. “We’re not sure,” one of her coworkers replied. I then let them know that since I was in a new city I’d be on a mission to do some exploring and that they all were welcome to join me up. They all nodded and thought that might be a fun idea, and since I was out of cards I wrote my number down and gave it to Tori and told her to text me her info so I could keep them all in the loop. As a side bar, when in a professional setting and you’re trying to Game, it’s best to do the business card exchange so you have some plausible deniability as well as you don’t want to the girl to feel like she’s acting slutty in front of her colleagues. Hence why I gave her my number as I had a strong feeling she’d hit me up when the coworkers were not around. Know the difference between personal time and work time.

I then made my way to another group of people I knew and then left the party after about another 30 minutes. It was about 8 pm so I went to dinner with a colleague and got a text from an unknown number. “Is this Alpha J?” The text asked. “The 1 and only” I replied. “Hi! This is Torie.” I received back. She then followed that up with “Are you going out tonight?” Perfect, I thought to myself. “Absolutely, wrapping up dinner I’ll let you know where I head out.” I then proceeded to have dinner and then on the way back to my hotel at 9 I sent a text “Done with dinner going to find some local adventure.” I got back to the hotel, got a good shower, and then scoped out a few places. It was now 9:45 and I hadn’t heard back, so I found a chill looking spot on Yelp and headed there. I also Yelped another cool looking spot that would be a good place to potentially meet some local talent or have Tori meet me at if I heard from her.

It’s now 11 pm and I am hanging at this cool spot that has a bar, a few locals and has a chill vibe. It was cool, but I figured I’ll head to the other place I looked up in about 10 minutes. Suddenly I get a text from Tori, “Are you still out?” I reply “I’m heading to this call spot call The Bar, you guys should come join.” She replied with “My colleagues are being lame and calling it early.” I respond back with “don’t be lame like them. come hang.” She then replies with the very dangerous “Hmmm…” “To which I respond with “Come check it out and have 1 drink. Then you can pull a Cinderella at midnight and vanish.” A minute passed and then she said “Ok, I’ll be there in 7 minutes.”

3 minutes later I arrive at The Bar, and it’s a pretty cool spot. they have a live band playing some good jazz in the front, and then in the back they have a full bar with bartenders rocking slacks, vests, and rolled up selves, giving the place a 1920’s vibe. They also have chalk walls with a list of specialty drinks written on them, giving the place a cool vibe. Well done to the venue. I order a cocktail and the bartender says “Right away sir, but just to let you know that’s one of our pricier cocktails…it’s $9.” I love how much cheaper it is to drink just about everyone else but LA, so I chuckled and said “I’m sure it’s worth the premium.” I scanned the bar and noticed this group of 3 girls close by, and one of them took immediate notice of me. “How is your night going?” she asked me. She was cute, a brunette with a full figure, not fat, but a had nice curves. “It’s off to an adventurous start” I replied. I then told her I was visiting from out of town and was having fun exploring the city. She told me she was out celebrating her cousin’s birthday and some how we got on the topic of meeting people. She then asked me if I was married and said “with my luck, you are because everyone I meet is.” I said “As your luck would not have it, I am not married.” This caught her attention and I could see the ye fucking starting to happen. Her cousin and other friend then went to the front to get a closer seat to the band and then she said “We’ll be around for a bit,” and headed off to join them.

About a minute later Tori walked in and greeted me at the bar. We exchanged a little small talk and pointed to the walls where the specialty drinks were listed. I gave her a suggestion and then got her drink ordered, and then we talked a bit about our backgrounds. After a little bit, we noticed this crazy looking cocktail being made and ordered one, then I said “let’s see this music up close” and lead her to a booth in the front next to the band. We listened to some songs and then made out in the booth. At about 12:30 Tori noticed the time, and I said “Uh oh Cinderella, looks like you’re out past curfew. I’ll walk you back to your hotel to make sure you get ok.”

We then walked and continued talking about random thing and then made it back to her hotel and at the lobby bar lounge was a loud but fun group of guys. Apparently Tori had hung out with them earlier and it turns out they are the producers of the trade show. She then asked me if I wanted to hang with them to which I replied “I’m down.” No let’s pause a minute here, as some of you may wonder why I opted for that. The “do you want to hang” is a bit of a shit test in disguise, as it’s bit of LMR. By being flexible and down to hang, what I was saying is that I’m interested in having fun and a good time with cool people ad am not just looking to get laid. I am not outcome dependent and am able to go with the flow. So we went and joined the producers, who turned out to be a very hilarious group of guys.

After some great conversation, at 2 am when the hotel bar closed, one of the guys suggested we head to the pool to keep handing, and I said “the adventure continues”. We made our way to the pool and hopped the very short gate to it, as it was closed, and sat for a few minutes. Surely enough, security came and nicely asked us to leave, and at that point I told the guys my adventure time was done. I looked at Tori and said “We’ll I promised to ensure you get back to your room safely so I’ll walk you back and then bounce back to my hotel.” She agreed and then I walked her back up to her room. We got inside the room and she thanked me for a fantastic evening, to which I replied “That’s my specialty.” She then gave me a very long good bye hug, and then we strarted making out. About 5 minutes later, she was naked, i was just in my socks, but I was holding her up and having passionate sex with her against the wall, and then on the bed. We had a very long and passionate sex session, and one thing I will say is that girl can fuck. I’m talking about the 100 % pure passion, hot sweaty fucking that taps into your most primal instincts and makes you feel alive type of fucking. We had about 3 or so rounds before semi-passing out, exhausted and drenched in sweat and scent of sex. What a delightful place to be.

It was about 7 am and I needed to get back to my hotel to prepare for the next day of the trade show, so I got up, got my clothes on, and then sat on the side of the bed next to her fully naked body with a sheet very elegantly covering her.  She looked up at me and smiled in a way that only a genuinely feminine girl can smile. Now one thing that will level up our Game more than anything is being fully present in the moment. Enjoy the moment and relish it, because there will never be another one exactly like it and once the moment is gone, it’s gone forever. So as I sat on the side of the bed leaning over her, I looked deep into her green eyes and then spent a few seconds studying every last detail of her face. In that exact moment, she was the most beautiful woman in the world to me. She clearly picked up on this and got enveloped into the moment as she suddenly blushed and then said “What?” with a slight giggle. I just smirked, leaned in and gave her a passionate kiss. Then I stood up and said “I bid the fair well, ma lady.” I then turned towards the door and heard her say “Wait a moment.” I turned around and she said “Just one more thing before you leave.” So I walked over to the bed, figuring I’d give her another goodbye kiss, and then she quickly and very elegantly pulled my pants down, wrapped her lips around my cock, and then proceeded to passionately suck me off. Once I was finished, she looked up at me and said, “Now you’re good to go.”

I left the room and called an Uber to take my back to my hotel, and I got back to my room a little bit after 8 am. I needed a shower and so as I got ready I caught a glimpse of my back in the mirror and then noticed that is was covered in red marks from her nails, as if I had been mauled by a wolverine. I smiled to myself as I looked over the battle scars of victory, and then hoped in a refreshing and cleansing hot shower.

Takeaways

5. When traveling, the rules of Text Game are a little different. With travel text game, you need to remember that you have a time constraint and act with a sense of urgency. Don’t act thirsty, but also know that you have a limited time so you want to make he most of it. Your response window can be shortened for the sake of time and you’ll want to really focus on meetup logistics.

4. Be in the moment. So many times guys get wrapped up in getting laid that they completely overlook the present moment. How can a girl fully experience who you are and connect with you if you aren’t fully there? As the Jedi saying goes, “Be mindful of the future, but not at the expense of the present.” So take your time and enjoy the present moment. Relish it. Be fully present and involved in it, and see where it takes you. Enjoy the process of seduction, for in the process is the art and a whole lot of fun.

3. Use your energy to draw people into your Frame. Whether you are a high energy person or a more calm and reserved person, learning how to draw people in with your energy is paramount to your Game success. If you’re a high energy person, leverage that to generate momentum and excitement that makes it easy for other people to get swept up in. If you’re reserved, use your presence to slow things down and create a sense of intimacy. Whatever your forte, utilize it to extend your Frame and you’ll see wonder happen with your results. In this case, my energy was looking for adventure, and so exploring a cool place in a new city was my mission and Tori was along for that ride.

2. Be open to seeing where the adventure takes you. This leads back to being in the moment, but it’s a point that I can’t stress enough. It’s great to have an end goal in mind, but don’t railroad an encounter to get to that destination, because you’ll find more often than not that you’ll get there alone. Instead, detach yourself from the outcome and see what the situation brings you. going out to meet girls is like a conversation, you have a place where you start and you know where you want to wind up, but you never know what topics will be presented (girl’s you’ll meet) or what opportunities will arise. So be open letting opportunities present themselves and if necessary you can create your own opportunities, but do so within the flow as opposed to trying to steamroll everything to your will. In this case, going from the bar back to her hotel and then hanging with the producers and then breaking into the pool made the night a very memorable one. Was my hotel way closer? Absolutely, but by focusing on having fun in the moment it allowed my connection with Tori to build on a deeper level which culminated in an explosive sex session.

1. Midwest girls are unbeatable when it comes to sexual customer service.  If you need more proof, you can discover how I became known as “The Muffin Man.”

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Cheers.

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Hustling The Hustler

Bender

“The thief steals from himself. The swindler swindles himself. For the real price is knowledge and virtue, whereof wealth and credit are signs. These signs, like paper money, may be counterfeited or stolen, but that which they represent, namely, knowledge and virtue, cannot be counterfeited or stolen.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Sometimes you go out and you have fun. Other times you go out and have an experience that makes for an exceptional night. This story is one of those times. A good friend of mine and I were out at our favorite hot spot in LA. We’ve been going to this place for almost a year now because they have great food, amazing drinks, the perfect atmosphere and the staff is incredible.

We get in, grab some dinner and drinks and are having a merry time. We wanted to have a fun night to cap an already fun weekend, so our energy was high and contagious. Mixed and mingled with several groups of people, bought a few cool girls that where hanging with us drinks (we didn’t expect anything in return and they turned out to be very fun) and even wound up doing shots with the manager and one of our favorite bar tenders.

Toward 1am we go to the bar to close out our tab so we could go to another spot close by with some of the waitresses and girls we had met that night. At the end of the bar was this group of women in their 40’s that were dancing and looked like they where having a good time. As we got the bar tender to get our tab, one of the women came next to me and asked about how to get the bartender’s attention. I replied that I could get it, but that usually involved him just bringing trouble. I asked her what she planned to order as her other friend come over and she told me that she was probably going with some champagne or wine. I told her that I would suggest getting the bar’s specialty cocktail.

Her friend: “So, you buying a round of drink for us?”

Now this tipped my spidey-sense that these ladies, though older, were still trying to run girl game into getting free drinks. I had done a quick scan of their left hands and indeed, they each has large wedding rings on them. I’ll buy a drink under the right conditions, but having a married woman blatantly try to get them from me is not one of them.

Me: “I don’t know you guys that well, so I don’t think so.” I said it in a playful but firm tone. This was a test of Are you Beta? Will you let us exploit you?

The bar tender came over to take their order and the girl I was conversing with ordered 1 glass of champagne and two glasses of wine. When the bar tender asked if they needed anything else, I told them they should try the house cocktail as I closed out my tab. The girl then told the bar tender that she’d try the house cocktail. The bartender come back with 2 of them.

Woman: “We’re going to need a 3rd since there are 3 of us.” The bartender made a third one and brought it over. He then brought out a printed tab, since it had been last call.

Bartender: “Thank you ladies, that will be $50.”

The woman put on a stunned face.

Woman: “These guys should be paying for these.”

Bartender: “I heard you order these.”

She then shot me and my friend a look. At this point we had a choice: Be coerced into paying for drink we did not order, or let her deal with a situation that she created. We looked back at her firmly and unflinchingly to signal that we would not be taken advantage of. In disbelief she turned back to the bartender.

Woman: “Do you know these guys?”

Bartender: “I do. They are stand up guys. If you want I can get security and we can sort this out.”

Woman: “Get the manager.”

At this point my friend an I remained calm at the bar, standing against it relaxed and silent, waiting to see how it all was going to unfold.

Manager: “What’s the problem?”

Woman: “These guys ordered drinks for me and they are trying to get out of paying for them.”

Manager: “Well I know these guys, and they are stand up guys, so we’re going to need you to resolve this.”

She looked stunned and shocked, and seemed offended that no one was immediately taking her side.

Woman: “Well I’m not paying for these.”

Manager: “Ok, they we’ll buy them.” He then reached over and took all of the drinks back behind the bar. This infuriated the woman as she turned to my friend and me.

Woman: “You two are the most classless scoundrels I have ever encountered out of any country I have been to.”

Me: “Excellent, I was going for the record.”

My friend waved a bouncer over.

My friend: “Can you please take this away?”

The bouncer came up next to the woman.

Bouncer: “Time to go.”

He then escorted her outside and her friends joined her there.

The 3 Takeaways:

1) Hold Frame

By holding Frame and not relinquishing it, we did not allow this woman to coerce us into paying for her drinks. There have been times in the past when my friend and I would have allowed ourselves to be guilted into paying for drinks like chumps. But by holding Frame we established that we are not some random suckers that will be taken advantage of and we will not part with our hard earn money to pay for someone looking for a free ride.

2) Building venue equity is just as important

From the bartender to the manager to the doorman the message was the same: These are stand up guys (men we respect and value at our establishment) and we know who they are. This claim that she was presenting was out of character for us and as such, the entire venue had our backs. This is a powerful thing, but it’s something you have to earn. We’d been investing and building venue equity in that place for months now and it was awesome to see that good credit in full action.

3) Always approach the night with a fun attitude

I’m sorry (that I’m not sorry) that we ruined this woman’s night, but she certainly wasn’t ruining ours. We went out with the attitude that we’re going to have fun no matter what, and despite this incident, we had a great time and got an entertaining story out of it.

Now go out and have some fun you fellow scoundrels.

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