Appreciation Vs Value

Scales

“Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.” –  Albert Einstein

One of the fundamental differences between the Alpha and Beta men that blue Pill men have a hard time differentiating is that one is appreciated, while the other is valued. For the Blue Pill man, appreciation = value, when this is not the case.

Appreciation

Appreciation is a nice thing to have on the surface, because it means people have noticed your efforts and are expressing recognition of it. The problem with appreciation is that the ball pretty stops at acknowledgement, but it seldom leads to action. This is why Blue Pill men are susceptible to the false sense of validation from appreciation, because they see that their investment and actions have been recognized so they feel that corresponding action is just around the corner.

What they fail to see is that appreciation is essentially a few nice words and a pat on the back, and that’s it. Hence why they tend to be orbiters of women that appreciate them for who they are but won’t have sex with them. They falsely assume that because these women appreciate them being different from other guys that eventually these women will come to act on that appreciation. But appreciation is an expression of gratitude, not an action of gratitude.

During my Blue Pill days I easily fell into that trap, as I had many female friends I was interested in dating. Doing the typical Blue Pill things I often received the “compliments” of “You’re a great guy, someone will be lucky to have you” or “I appreciate you as a person, don’t ever change.” In the beginning it was easy to keep on the same path because if people saw how different I was, eventually someone would act on it, right? But eventually the wool was pulled from my eyes as I noticed that what what people said the appreciated didn’t give me any success, and when I did a few things to break that mold, my success rate started improve dramatically. I suddenly realized that “appreciation” was a passive sentiment, not an actionable one.

Value

When a man is valued, he is a person worth going the extra mile and competing for. People will go out of their way to ensure that a man who is valued is happy, content and appeased. A man of value will enjoy the fullest of what people really have to offer, not just their gratitude. People will also make sacrifices for the sake of value as well. Value is an actionable state and you will want to take people at their actions and never their words.

I vividly remember when I had to breakup with my last ex girlfriend. She was a great person and actually was an excellent girlfriend, however, there where two major issues. First, what we wanted out of life was very different at the time, mainly she wanted to have kids very soon and I didn’t. Secondly, I am mildly allergic to dogs and she owned 3 of them, so there was always a bit of a hurdle. I knew calling it off was the right thing to do for the both of us, though it wasn’t an easy decision to make. During our conversation while I outlined those reasons, and I distinctly remember my ex offering to give up her pets for adoption. Now take a moment to think on that. She was willing to sacrifice her pets, which as many of you know how much women love their pets, which she’d also owned for years before even dating me in order to continue to our relationship. That’s an example of being valued. If she didn’t value you, she would have told me “see you later” and shown me the door. But she was willing to do whatever it took to keep me, and that’s a lesson I will not forget anytime soon.

That’s what makes the Red Pill a very empowering tool, is that one gets a much better sense of the how people actually operate. It helps you see appreciation for what it is, a carrot on the stick to keep you moving in one direction instead allowing you to see the entire carrot patch behind you.

To sum it all up

Be a person of value. If you find yourself being “appreciated,” then you’ve got some more work to do. This applies not only to your dating life but your professional life as well. How many employees are “appreciated” and then kick to the curb once their usefulness in done. A truly valued employee is someone that companies will try to poach and compete for and they will make large accommodations to keep them in the organization and happy. Entrepreneurship is the true way to go if you want to get ahead, but that’s another topic entirely and the point remains that if you presently have a job, you should test the waters to see if your company appreciates or values you. You should also do the same in all of your relationships, be them romantic, family or friends. Actions speak louder than words it’s always good to know who appreciates you will just stand back with a smile vs who values you and will take action on it. Know the difference.

Cheers.

Female Friends

The Intersexual Ecosystem

 

Intersexual Ecosystem

“Our challenge for the future is that we realize we are very much a part of the earth’s ecosystem, and we must learn to respect and live according to the basic biological laws of nature.”– Jim Fowler

What I have found to be interesting is that when we as humans look at naturalized ecosystems, we see the inner workings and hierarchies at play and accept that truth as fact. Yet, when we look ourselves in human society, we somehow think this truth of the natural world somehow doesn’t apply to us. In this post, I want to address the concept of a natural ecosystem within the framework of the Red Pill, and what those implications are in that context.

Let me first preface this post by saying that this breakdown is looking at things from the context of intersexual dynamics. This is not a social ranking or reflection of individual worth, societal value or social class. This is purely about looking at the intersexual landscape as an ecosystem. So with that in mind, when we look at natural ecosystems, we see apex consumers, tertiary consumers, secondary consumers, primary consumers, producers and decomposers. In the Red Pill context, the flow chart looks something like this:

Apex Consumers – Red Pill Alpha Males (top 10% of males)
Tertiary Consumers – Red Pill Lesser Alphas (next 10% of males)
Secondary Consumers – Alpha Females (top 10% of females)
Primary Consumers – Other Females (other 90% of females)
Producers – Blue Pill Beta Men (other 80% of males)
Decomposers – MGTOW (small percentage)

Intersexual Ecosystem

Apex Consumers (Predators)

As we all know, the top 10% of Men basically have their pick of the pie, no one has more access than they do (and there’s been plenty written about it). These Alphas are the embodiment of the full Red Pill scope maximized. Usually there is a lot of, if not some natural skill at play, but what really makes it work is the Red Pill mindset and execution. Dark Triad Traits can be seen in common and frequent usage in this part of the ecosystem. The morality of them is a question for debate, but the effectiveness of them is very factual.

Tertiary Consumers (Predators)

These are the Lesser Alphas with Red Pill awareness and represent the next 10% of the male population. They don’t have as much natural access as the top tier Alphas do, but they still enjoy a very broad range of access to options. These men are the embodiment of the utility side of the Red Pill. What they may lack in natural ability they more than make up for by utilizing their Red Pill awareness to maximize their personal potential up to a point. The Dark Triad is less commonly employed here. Only when faced head to head with a direct top tier Alpha does the discrepancy in options become apparent for the Lesser Alpha. An example of this would be someone like Tom Cruise, who is a pretty natural Apex Alpha (and for this example let’s assume he’s Red Pill), the fact that he has fame and status solidifies his position top tier. Many lesser Alphas, like Roosh or Mystery would not be able to compete as well in direct comparison, out on the open market. It’s not a reflection of their ability or worth, it’s a reflection of “fame is the ultimate game” versus pure Red Pill knowledge. Not to say those guys couldn’t pull a target away from the celebrity, but the odds are heavily stacked against them and the social proof is what counts. Mystery and Roosh are both very capable PUA’s, however there are million of women ready to break into Tom Cruise’s house for a chance just to see him, and he is still one of the top earning movie stars of all time.

Secondary Consumers

Secondary Consumers are Alpha females, which are women that know they are at the top of the female hierarchy and knowingly exploit this. They can have access to many Alpha males as well as any Beta, but the Betas are put on hold for when their access to Alphas diminishes over time. Many will usually be able to lock down a mate of their choosing, and these women are allowed to maximize their hypergamous natures because of their near unrestricted access to options.

Primary Consumers

Primary Consumers are the rest of the sisterhood which have varying degrees of access to Alphas, but have a lot more interaction and selection from the Producers (the rest of Beta kind). Though they may be just as hypergamous as their sisters in the Secondary Consumer role, Primary Consumers are not able to directly compete on the same terms and thus have to settle for less available options.

Producers

The Producers are 80% of the male population which is Beta and their access and options are the most limited. There are certainly a some greater Betas that have more options than the lesser ones do, but as a whole they are prey items for the Secondary and Primary Consumers. The beauty of Red Pill Awareness is that it allows for a Producers to change roles into a Tertiary or Apex Consumers, though those that do this are a very small percentage of the whole.

Decomposers

The decomposers are the MGTOW segment, these are men that are Red Pill Aware yet have consciously removed themselves from the dating market. While this still doesn’t remove them from the ecosystem, they are neither active predator nor prey. They are more or less in the background of the ecosystem, doing what it is that they do on their own terms. Some Alphas and many newly Red Pill Aware Producers comprise this role in the ecosystem for their own various reasons.

Conclusion

To stress the point again, none of these terms are meant as compliments or as insults. They are just descriptive terms for a role. Each role in the ecosystem is vital and they all are interdependent. Alphas need Betas to stand out even more, Secondary Consumers need Betas because the population of Alphas is so small, Betas need Alphas to learn Red Pill Awareness and the MGTOWs provide prospective for Alphas. The real question is where do you find yourself in the sexual food chain?

Food Web