Dirty Laundry

Dirty Laundry

“The secret of the creative life is how to feel at ease with your own embarrassment. We’re all in the dirty laundry business and we’re being paid to take risks and look silly. Race car drivers get paid to risk their lives in a more concrete way; we get paid to risk our lives in an emotional way.” – Paul Schrader

One of the most challenging things to deal with in life, especially in the dating game is with your past. Specifically things that embarrass you or may not put you in the best light. We all have these skeletons, be it a picture taken while drunk and passed out or that time you got caught having sex with the neighbor’s daughter in her car. So how do you deal with your personal dirty laundry?

3. Prevention is the best cure. First things first, is making wise decisions. If you find yourself at a party with people acting crazy and committing arson, then it might not be the wisest idea to be on video in your friend’s snap story yelling “burn it!” at the top of your lungs. A side effect of the internet age is that once things are out there, the are out there. So be smart with how you conduct yourself. I’m not saying don’t go out and have a good time, but just be conscious of the day and age we’re in. One thing you do could wind up all over the web.

2. Own it. What’s past has past, you can’t take it back. So the only thing you can do is own it and move on. When you attempt to bury it, lie about it, or run away from it, somehow it always manages to catch up with you. I’m not saying you should highlight it or lead off with it, but if it does come up, the way to handle it is to take ownership of it.

Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armour yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you. – Tyrion Lannister

1. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. Building on the second point of owning your past, you have to own it but that doesn’t mean that you have owe every a long, heartfelt sob story on how you where young and dumb.  You can be honest about your past in the sense of “yes that happened,” and you can leave it at that. Frankly most people don’t care and also trying to explain the past gives them ammo to be used against you in the future. I have plenty of things from my past that I have to own, like being very Blue Pill, being in debt and being homeless. Your past refines you, not defines you. So use it as fuel to drive your life in a positive direction. So should you find yourself confronted by the dirty laundry of your past, take ownership of it and let it be known that while you’re not proud of it, it is a par of your story and you’ve grown as a person and moved on from it.

Cheers.

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Up Your Dating Game Today: The 1st eBook Is Here

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I just released my first eBook, which you can download for price of a nice cup of coffee:

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Cheers.

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Protecting Your Ass(ets): A Lesson In Rock-Solid Frame From John Cena

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“I have certain things that I stand for, certain things that I believe in, and if you don’t like it and you tell me to go to hell, I think that’s your God-given right as a fan. It’s one of those deals where I’m that one guy who is outside of that realm of good guy, bad guy. I’m just me, and it elicits a response both positive and negative.” – John Cena

As a man in this world, building an empire is hard and burdensome work, but highly rewarding. And while building an empire is hard enough, protecting it can be 3 times as hard. For this post, I wanted to showcase and breakdown a real world example of it being done right, by pro wrestler John Cena.

You can read the full story here, but the headline sums things up nicely:

“John Cena made Nikki Bella sign a 75-page contract before she moved in with him.”

1. Rock Solid Frame. There’s Frame, and then there is Rock-Solid-Frame. In an era were most guys have to ask permission from their significant others to leave the toilet seat up, Cena has shown that his Frame is as rock-solid as it gets. Here’s a clear example of a man who knows his value, has a woman he loves, yet still know’s how exert his Frame and he isn’t afraid lose her due to holding that Frame. She had to sign a document stating she was a “guest” in his house and should they break up, she would have to vacate. That is impenetrable Frame. That is the key factor in Frame execution that separates the boys who lose it all from the men who know how to protect their empires.

2. Your Mission Come First. Cena knows first hand how hard he worked to get where is is and just how quickly it can all be taken away:

“Cena eventually convinced his then-girlfriend to sign the contract, explaining that the agreement was done to protect his finances so he can support his family members.

“You met my family. You think my mom paid for that house herself? She didn’t. My brother lives in that house, they’re expecting a child. My younger brother, he’s got medical problems. I make sure he’s okay. I always tell them, I’m a horrible brother, but I try to be the best provider that I can,” Cena said in 2016. “I just don’t want to ever be in a position where that’s in jeopardy.””

Cena has mission to provide for his family and he knows how high those stakes are. Nothing comes before that and nothing will get in the way of that. This is a prime example of Heartiste Commandment III: “You shall make your mission, not your woman, your priority.” Write this down, tattoo it in your brain and see your life improve to levels never before seen. As Cena has done here, he’s not letting a woman jeopardize his ability to take care of his family because he keeps his mission as priority number 1. Did he love her? Yes he did. But he also loves his family and being able to take care of his family’s needs. And he knows good and well that if he’s losing everything he’s worked for in a messy divorce, he will lose his ability to keep providing for his family. Know how high the stakes are and let nothing stand in the way of your mission. This takes serious discipline to achieve and Cena has shown that he’s got it.

3. Game Recognize Game. As I’ve tweeted, I’m not one for celebrity gossip but in this instance I have to give credit where credit is due. What he did takes a lot of balls and I highly respect him for it. John Cena is a G. That is all.

Cheers.

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Flying The Friendly Skies

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“Fly the friendly skies” – United Airlines

As anyone experience with Game knows, whether you’re just starting to develop your Game or you’re an experienced player, spinning plates is an essential part of the Game and great skill to master. I’ve been doing a bit of traveling recently so this post is an inspired metaphor to help you develop this skill. Spinning plates, or seeing multiple people simultaneously, is just like being an air traffic controller. You are in the command tower and it’s your job to manage the flow of air traffic. You need to keep a keen eye on managing inbound and out going flights, as well as keeping a watchful eye on weather conditions to know when to delay or cancel flights. If you don’t, you’ll be the cause of a serious disaster.

1. Keep your schedule organized. Many times guys don’t manage or keep track of their time, so they wind up with a situation where two flights are due to land on the same runway at the same time, or they schedule one flight too close to the other which puts pressure on them to keep the first flight off the runway and any delays increases the stress tenfold. You calendar is your best friend, and most of you have phones with calendar apps. Use it and give yourself a proper chunk of time to enjoy each hangout and give you time to manage logistics comfortably. Stay organized and you’ll be amazed at how easy flight management is.

2. Keep a close eye on the weather. Are the skies clear and sunny? Are there strong winds blowing in from the north east, or a large storm system approaching from the south? As air traffic controller need to know the weather, you must also know the emotional weather of your plates. Is one of them going through a rough patch at work and is prone to acting out? Is another plate feeling you’ve become distant or not giving her enough attention? Or is there another plate that’s easy going and experiencing her horny week? The most effective way to manage plates and keep everything running smooth is to pay attention to these weather patterns. All it takes is for for one category 5 hurricane to sneak up on you and then suddenly you’ll find you need to cancel all flights to deal with this situation. Keep mental notes on how things are going with your plates, that way if there’s a troubling weather pattern approaching you can delay or even cancel flights accordingly.

3. You dictate the schedule. You’re in the controller’s chair, so you need to utilize your Frame to keep everything going. Is a flight straying off course? You need to put out a call to get it to make a course correction. Is a flight from Kansas trying to land 30 minutes early? You need to ensure there are no conflicts. Has another flight popped in but doesn’t have a gate to park in? You’ll have to see if there is an available and not be afraid to let that flight sit on the tarmac if there isn’t. There’s a lot of women out there and there’s only 1 of you. So you’ll have to manage your time and your boundaries so you can get the most out of each experience with them. The biggest take away is that you are in control of your situations, and you’ll need to understand this to effectively spin plates to heart’s content.

That’s it for this post, I’ve got some flights I need to schedule myself, but I wish you good fortune and smooths flights!

Cheers.

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A Bottle of Wine, A Service Elevator & A Hot Tub

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“Life is either a great adventure or nothing.” – Helen Keller

Based of the title of this post, what do these 3 things have in common? They can all be key elements of an adventure than ends in getting you laid. Allow me to give you a field report of a crazy adventure that happened down in San Diego a few years ago.

The Story

I was in San Diego for a conference, and the company I was with was in talks with another company about doing a joint-partnership. We all met up for a lunch meet and great, so we all could get to know each other’s teams. One of the girls from this other team was a very cute girl named Stacy. She had dirty blonde hair, blue eyes, a great smile and very solid body. She was older than me but had a very bubbly personality. I took mental note of this as we proceeded to have a meeting after the lunch about how our companies would work together.

The following night, there was a party being thrown by one of the major sponsors of the conference at this club and both of our companies where attending this party. Everyone on my team and the other team secured a booth for both teams and then the bottles of wine started flowing. I began talking with the members of the other team and then started talking with Stacy, who turns out is from the mid west and hasn’t been in San Diego before. Somehow the guess my age game came up and she asked me to guess her age. I responded by saying “That’s tough because you look 22 but you carry yourself with a mature presence, so I’m inclined to think you’re older.” She blushed a bit and said “So what age?” “28,” I replied. “I’m 37” she said. I responded with, “I don’t believe you, let me see your ID.” She replied “Seriously?” I then held out my hand and munitioned for an ID. She then got out her driver’s license and handed it to me. I scanned it over for a minute and then I said in a playful tone “I know a fake ID when I see one, you’re not fooling me with this.” She blushed again and took back her licence. “I’m not sure what to tell you,” she said, at which point I asked her strong her dance moves where and a group of us went to the dance floor to dance to the music played by this great cover band.

After some solid dancing we made our way back to the booth. “What’s the game plan after this?” I asked Stacy. She told me her hotel had a rooftop bar that she wanted to check out. Since it was about 1:15 am and the party was winding down, I said “that’s an excellent idea.” I then grabbed the nearly full  bottle of wine off the table, handed her a glass, and took a glass for myself. We then strolled out the back entrance and somehow found a cab on the street, that shuffled us back to her hotel. We got into the hotel and took the elevator to the floor below the rooftop bar. “I forgot we need a certain room key to get up to the roof,” she said. “Let’s explore,” I said as we walked into the hallway.  we walked for a minute or two before we came to a door that had the word “Service” written above it. The door was slightly popped out, but still closed. I pulled out my hotel’s room key card, and then slide it into the part of the door where the bolt mechanism was. After a few seconds, I was able to get the key card in and open the door. “Follow me,” I said, as we walked through to the service hallway and found the service elevator. “Bingo” I said, as we got into the service elevator and then took it up to the rooftop. Once we got out to head to the bar, we saw it was empty as the staff was closing the place down. Turns out it was 2:15  am by the time we up there, so we had missed our window.

“Time for plan B” I said, as we took the main elevator back down to ground floor. We made our way to the hot tub and dipped our legs in as we sipped wine and she proceeded to talk about her background and the places she’s traveled. after about 10 minutes a security guard came and told us the pool area closes at midnight. “Apologies, we just had to dip our toes in for a few minutes, if that’s cool with you sir,” I said to the guard. He gave us a nod and said, “If you happen to be hear on my next round, then I’ll have to boot you out.” “Understood,” I said to him as I gave him a wave.

I the focused my attentions on Stacy. I had made a few attempts to escalate the kino during conversation, however, Stacy was a very avid talker so she focused on keeping the conversation going. After 30 more minutes of conversation, it was nearing 3 am and I reached a point where I was ready for sleep. “This has been a grand adventure” I said, “I’ll walk you back to your room, but it’s late so no bed time story for you.” She laughed as we got up and we went back up to her room which was about 15 floors up. At this point I was looking forward to getting back to my hotel to get some sleep as I had a fun night and did what I could to try to get some action going. I gave her a good by hug, which then led to us making out, and that led to a crazy sex marathon in which we had sex in literally every part of the room, from the bed to the couch to the shower the following morning. She was a bit of a screamer, and hearing her scream my name for about an hour certainly made the long conversation at the hot tub worth it.

As I was leaving her room around 9 am, the couple in the room next door was also leaving at the same time. They both gave a me a funny look, and then the woman said, “Good morning…Alpha.” I smirked back and said “A good morning indeed,” as I gave them a point and head nod and proceeded to take the elevator down the lobby with them.

Takeaways

4. Persistence is key. Just when I thought my night was over, it actually was just starting. It’s always up to you to see how long you’re willing to ride things out, but you might be surprised how they turn very quickly in your favor if you stick with it. Obviously paying careful attention to signs is important. In this case this girl keep talking and conversing, but her body language never closed herself of or implied that she was uninterested. If a girl is giving you clear “no’s” then it’s time ti call it quits. But if you’re getting good signals than it’s worth exploring.

3. Take the lead. We left the one party to go checkout the bar at her hotel. When we couldn’t get to the roof, I found a way into the service entrance. When the bar on the turned out to be closed, I took her to the hot tub. Then from the hot tub I walked her back to her room.

2. Don’t be afraid to break a few rules. Taking the bottle of wine, making our way into the service elevator and staying in the hot tub after closing were all fun things that broke a few rules. Obey the law, but break the rules, as the wine was paid for, the service entrance door was not fully closed, and the guard turned out to be cool with us kicking it at the hot tub after hours. This showed that I’m a man that does what he wants, when he wants, and doesn’t follow the rules everyone else does.

1. Hotel sex in the morning with a superb view of San Diego is awesome. That is all.

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Predatory Efficiency

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“He was a killer, a thing that preyed, living on the things that lived, unaided, alone, by virtue of his own strength and prowess, surviving triumphantly in a hostile environment where only the strong survive.” ― The Call of the Wild,  Jack London

I don’t watch any TV as I plain and simply don’t have the time for it, but every now and again I might watch a few episodes of something educational or inspiring. Recently, I watched a fantastic series call The Hunt, which you can stream on Netflix. Aside from being beautifully shot with an Oscar-worthy soundtrack, this series takes a harsh look at being a predator in the wild and how harsh the natural world can be.

What I also gleamed from this series where a lot of parallels between predators in the wild and what we as men must face in the world of Game. Below are some observational parallels inspired by this series, since as men, when it comes to dating we are the hunters:

4. Failure is an essential part of the Game. One of the biggest themes in this series is failure and how there is no getting around it, it’s a part of life. Predators in the wild have an extremely high failure rate, with stats around 1 in 7 to 1 in 10 hunts actually being successful. This is true with Game as well.

Game is not about never failing or or getting rejected, it’s actually about going out there and facing that rejection. A season player will actually get rejected more than a timid one, and that’s fine because he’s creating more opportunities for success by doing more approaches. Life is a contact sport, the more people you contact, the better you’ll do. So play the numbers. If your success rate is 1 in 10, and you only ever make 10 approaches, then you’re only ever going to be successful once. But if you make 100 approaches, then your success rate may stay the same but you will have 10 success under you belt because you did more work. It’s a learning process, so the more you get out there and get experience, the more you learn what works for you and more your success rate will improve. No one will ever be at 100%, but if you can go from 10% successful to 15%, that’s a big improvement. And eventually you can build on that to get your success rate even higher. This leads to observation number 2…

3. Persistence is key to success and survival. In the wild, predators fail much more than they succeed, yet they persist on. Why? If they don’t they will die. Their very survival depends on it. Predators are the most persistent group of animals because they have to continually push themselves in order to be successful. It doesn’t matter if they haven’t eaten in weeks, if they are facing prey that is bigger than them or that half the things they hunt could injure or kill them. They have to be fearless, bold, and persistent to be successful and survive.

The same is especially true with Game. If you only make a few approaches a month, get rejected and stop approaching, guess what? You’re not to going to find any success or change your situation. With Game you have to be persistent in order to be successful. Lie a tiger in the jungle, the fate of your night is up to you. Will you go out and find a girl to have sex with? Will you have a fun time regardless? Or will you skulk at home because it’s “too hard?” The choice is yours. Choose wisely.

2. Predators are efficient. A Cheetah does not sprint at max speed every chance it gets, not does it waste energy running and leaping for no reason. Predators conserve their energy at all costs, because once it’s spent, there’s no guarantee of success so they may be successful and in turn be able to recoup that energy quickly. Hence why predator spend most of their hunting time utilize stealth so they can get withing striking distance. Once there, they unleash their full might in a high risk high reward explosion of force that gives them the absolute best chance of success.

When out in the field Gaming, you must become efficient as well. If you’re a clever smooth talker, make that work for you instead of trying to be the loud, over the top comedian. If you’re the loud, over the top comedian, than play that to your advantage and don’t waste your energy trying to be the technical philosopher. Now don’t be afraid to experiment with different styles depending on the situation, but ultimately you know what works best for you and what doesn’t work best.

Also, be efficient with your resources. Your money, energy, attention, and especially your time. If you’re catching a hint that a girl is wasting or eating up too much of any of these, then NEXT her and move on, it’s not efficient for your success rate to waste needlessly. It’s better to spend more of those or much stronger leads than trying to play the “if I can convince her game,” which is always a losing game since if you even do manage to “win,” you’ve dumped more resources than you know you should have so you still don’t come out ahead.

1. Predators have rock-solid focus. When predator are in stealth mode and getting withing striking distance, pay very close attention to their entire bodies. I love how the way every last inch of a predator locks into an aggressive, spring-loaded stance as they prepare to unleash murderous force up their prey. It starts from their head and eyes and all other parts of their bodies shift to channel all their energy to that single focal point, like a sniper locking a round into the chamber and focusing the scope on the rifle. And once a predator makes the leap into the kill zone, as prey dodges and changes directions, predators heads and eyes remain locked entirely on their prey, never losing sight or focus of their target, while their body makes automated adjustments to keep the predator on track.

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This is a critical takeaway for Game, as once you get in that “kill zone” state where you can escalate things sexually (in a consensual way, of course), you have to utilize that focus to enhance your presence and maximize the moment. When you keep your focus, it’s amazing how your body language and Frame will subconsciously lock into place to work for you and not against you. This will help you conquer shit tests, deal with cock blocks and increase the vibe that you’re a man on a mission.

That does it for this post, but I hope some of these takeaways help you in the field. Happy hunting.

Hawk

 

Who’s Turn Is It Anyway?

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“No winter lasts forever; no spring skips its turn.” –  Hal Borland

For this post I wanted to give a bit of a quick pep talk addressing on of the core Red Pill truth’s. When it comes to any woman you’re involved with romantically, always remember that she is not your’s, it’s just your turn. Now, this turn might last for 1 night or 50 years, but if you understand this concept this will help you in regulation your Frame and emotions. It’s an important concept because it puts the abundance mentality first and helps you see relationships for what hey are, not for what society conditions use to believe, which is that they are one-shot chances at happiness.

Now perhaps event more importantly to remember is the inverse act is true: She doesn’t own you and it’s her turn with you. Many times this fact is forgotten because too much focus is put externally on the other party in the relationship. But this is a true fact that reinforces the you are the prize mentality. So I’ll say it again, when you’re involved with any woman romantically remember that it’s her turn to be with you, and that turn can be ended at your discretion.

That’s it for today, sort and sweet. Now go make the most of those turns.

Cheers.

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