5 Reasons to Have Female Friends

Female Friends

“I think there’s something to the old saying that women use sex to get love, and men use love to get sex. And love is really just a word we use to describe a close bond, or relationship, between two people. Men have been programmed to want sex, so they do whatever is necessary to be in a relationship with a woman. And a woman is programmed to want the stability and (financial) security of a relationship, so she offers the man what he wants: sex.” ― Oliver Markus, Why Men And Women Can’t Be Friends

The topic of female friends is always an interesting debate within the Red Pill community. Some say never have them, others say it’s ok to have one or two. Personally, I find this topic to be pretty interesting and I have my own thoughts on the subject. As a Red Pill man I think it’s essential to have a core group of Red Pill (or close to it) male friends. As for female friends,  I think it’s not only possible but it’s important to have them as well. Below are my top 5 reasons why:

5. They provide first-hand validation of Red Pill truths. Once you become Red-Pill aware, you can’t unsee the truths it holds. This will be extremely evident in all of your relationships, especially those with pre-existing female friends. But, what this does allow is for you to go “go behind enemy lines” so to speak, in that you get a first hand view into confirming these truths for yourself. Suddenly, things you used to take at face value you can suddenly see the mechanisms behind the words or action, especially when your female friends discuss dating.  It’s always good to get a live reminder of how women operate so that way you can see just how Blue Pill men get used by women, but also frustrate women at the same time. You also get to see confirmations of how Alpha and Red Pill men are perceived and treated and these first hand observations confirm things in ways far more meaningfully than a forum post. So to sum it up, having female friends is a great way to get field confirmation of Red Pill truths so you can better understand them, learn about them, and then apply them for your own means.

4. They can be great bait. Female friends, especially attractive ones, are excellent bait, in the sense that they are perfect for arousing the curiosity of other females. Once you learn mastery over not being phased by a woman’s beauty and you adopt the abundance mentality, then being friends with attractive women is very easy. And an unintended perk of that is if you invite these female friends out to a fun venue, say a bar, club, event or even just the park; all other females in the vicinity will be instantly curious. I’ve been approached by many women when I am out with a female friend or several, and the first thing they want to know if “what’s your situation?” Having attractive female friends creates a rudimentary form of social proof. And when it comes to nightlife it makes the relationship very symbiotic, in that your female friends get to enjoy your presence and check out cool places, and you get to have instant social proof you can leverage to pickup other girls. Now remember your Red Pill principals, on having strong Frame will allow you to fully maximize this. If you’re that guy that’s with a bunch of female friends but you have no Frame and project a Beta vibe, then you’re going to be perceived as a girlfriend yourself. So the 2 big things to remember are keep your Frame strong and the more attractive your friends are, the better it the situation will be for you.

3. They can keep your plates in check. Another perk that female friends can provide, especially very attractive ones, is that they can keep your plates in check. We’ve all been in that situation where a plate gets a little too comfortable and starts trying up the shit test ante. Having solid Frame keeps that in check, but also doing a hangout with a plate and an attractive female friend works effectively in creating that sense of light dread. It’s a very live reminder of “I’m a man who keeps the company of attractive women, so I don’t need you as my sole source company.” Girls are very competitive, so playing that nature against itself works very effectively in your favor. And if you’re still a little Blue Pill and think that this is somehow morally manipulative, you need to understand that women are naturally far better players than men and are playing their own game. So you either need to be superior at your own game or find yourself trapped within the confines of her game.

2. They can be friends with benefits. If you have your Frame in check and are a high value man, then you’d be amazed at what situations you can create for yourself. Friends with benefits is always a great situation to have, and in order to have that situation, you need to first be friends. If you stick to your Red Pill principals and work an developing yourself and your Frame, then you’ll be able to foster these situations much more frequently at your discretion. The more experience you have the women, the better you’ll be with them, to them and for them.

1. It’s just good networking. One of my favorite quotes is “Life is a contact sport. The more people you contact, the better you’ll do. Having female friends is good networking, as with any friend it can lead to other romantic pursuits with other friends they have, experiences at at events, or even career opportunities. The key is to ensure that if you’re going to have a friendship, with anyone, they are a person of good character that adds value to your life, just like you will add value to theirs. Everything I listed above only works if you are a man of value who provides some type of value. If you’re just looking to be a leech or a taker without giving anything in return, then you need to do some seriously self evaluation and turn that ship around.

All in all having female friends can provide many perks and also helps give a balanced perspective on life. Remember, the purpose of the Red Pill isn’t to hate women or be anti women, it’s to help men better understand them so we can be the “men who other women want to fuck, and other men want to be.” If you hate women, then you’ve completely missed the point.

Thinking Man

Friends Like These

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“Always sleep with one eye open. Never take anything for granted. Your best friends might just be your enemies” – Sara Shepard

For this post, I wanted to touch on an interesting topic that I’ve dealt with personally and I feel is becoming more and more of an issue many guys are dealing with in general as well as in a magnified capacity with Red Pill Awareness: The role of male friendship.

For men, the role of friendship has become a much more difficult topic to tackle over the last 50 years, particularly over the last 30. The large reason for that is with the more feminized socialization of boys, they are taught that a more feminized method of expression is the “correct way.” Open communication, expressing feelings and being more sensitive is the “correct” or standardized way that boys are taught to communicate and behave, which is the way that women communicate and behave. The issue manifests as these boys grow older and don’t know how to relate to men as men. Male communication and socialization is different from women’s…Women will sit around compliment each other and not meaning it while men insult each other and not mean it. The way men bond and socialize is more direct and about sizing each other up to find a place in the pecking order…Men use insults, brash language and direct communication as a way of bonding and endearment. Guys poking fun of each other is part of our bonding experience…it’s a male-to-male shit test. If I call you a sissy, are you going to take it? Or are you going to fire back and give me a run for my money? To the female point of view this can seem horrifying, but it’s how male psychology has evolved to help ensure the survival of humans.

In the modern era, these sorts of mannerism have been deemed “incorrect” and boys are being encourage to socialize the way girls do, which is the “correct” method. The consequence of this is two fold: Men don’t know how to relate to women as men, but they know how to relate to them as “women”, and men don’t know how to relate to their fellow man. What this means in terms of intersexual and dating dynamics is that women are now frustrated that there are no “real men” left anymore, which is a result of this “corrective conditioning,” so the super-rare “Man” (Alpha) becomes a huge in-demand commodity.  For the average guy, this is an added insult to injury because he was raised his entire life to be sensitive and emotional, yet when he tries to relate to women he he shunned from their intimacy. He has been setup to fail and according to society it’s all still somehow his “fault.” This is seen very prominently in modern Christian circles. I’m not knocking religion or trying to make an attack on the Christian faith. I believe that spirituality is an essential part of human existence and organized religion can be a great thing. That being said, I also can see how Red Pill principles apply in a religious setting, and religious traditions aren’t exempt from examination or critique. Going back to the point at hand, the westernized Christian social settings are very feminized, and essentially use religious ideology to justify the pacification of men into “good little boys.” Anger aggression, and other displays of traditional masculinity are deemed sinful so not only is it the “improper” thing to do there’s also the risk of eternal damnation attached to it, which is a powerful reinforcement tool. This leads to a lot of strain in those marriages, because you have a feminized “good boy” that a wife is supposed to submit herself to, but it’s forcing her to do something that’s against her instincts: submit to a lesser man that relates to her as a girlfriend would.

The second part of this issue, which is the main focus of this post is that men don’t know how to relate to each other as men. This is the third time I’ve mentioned this in this post, but I think the point is that important that it needs to be driven home. When it comes to socializing and friendship, men need to understand how important relating to each other on a man-to-man level really is. One thing I’ve noticed, and I am sure many other Red Pill guys out there have, is that when you have a Red Pill awareness, you notice how feminized and “catty” blue pill men are. They tend to gossip and be involved in personal drama more and usually the bond you share doesn’t feel as genuine. The biggest issue, is that if you express some Red Pill idealism, they are quick to be offended and even quicker to sell you out, so to speak, or attempt to “correct” you. One really does have to treat these males as he would females, because they socialize in the same manner. This gets very isolating and alienating for Red Pill guys, because if anyone should be able to understand and accept you, it would be a friend, but it almost feels like apples and oranges. My closest friends tend to be immigrants from other countries that have a more traditional view point of masculinity and femininity, and even if these cultures aren’t overtly Red Pill aware so to speak, the understanding of the core concepts are there which makes for genuine bonds.

One of the reasons why World War II movies are held in such high esteem, especially for men, is that we’re reminded of what male friendship is. It’s going to war and battle with your brothers and providing that unquestioned support. It’s having a roast fest to see who can come out on top and who can display the most bravado. It’s a reminder of how we evolved to survive and the value of a friendship and brotherhood. World War II movies are one of the last remnants of positive masculinity in it’s purist form.

As a general rule, you should always be careful of who your friends are, but as a Red Pill aware person you need to be doubly careful. The Red Pill presents a lot of cold, hard truths that come as a system shock to the Blue Pill, and as such it is usually received with hostility. What this does also, is it gives some friends the Judas complex, in the sense that in an attempt to “do the right thing” by society’s standards, they take every opportunity possible to bring you back around and back into the fold. It can be frustrating, because you know in their heart of hearts they are well meaning people and they are doing what they think is right, but once you know the truth there is no going back because the world has been exposed to you for what it really is, and there’s no way to un-see it. This certainly makes for some interesting food for thought, but friendship is something essential to the human experience and especially so for men. Fortunately with technology many Red Pill guys can find a virtual community to exchange ideas, experiences, and bridge that bond of friendship and brotherhood across cyberspace.

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