Lessons About Alpha Frame From Bryan Cranston

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“I don’t think life owes me anything and the business doesn’t owe me anything. The only way to approach it is by working hard and loving what you do. If you do that and have faith, maybe you will get lucky. I mean that sincerely and specifically. I truly believe that no professional career in the arts is capable without a healthy dose of luck.” – Bryan Cranston

I went to a book signing event where Bryan Cranston would be signing his book A Life In Parts as well as having a moderated Q&A session. As a student of life and game, I new it would be a great opportunity to find some great takeaways. Needless to say Cranston did not disappoint, and below are some major takeaways from the 2 hour event.

1. He Owns The Space. Cranston is a bit tall, thin man but not the most physically imposing person. However, when he’s in front of a crowd he completely owns the space with his body language and presence. I’ve seen a lot of famous people living in LA, and I must say that his use of space and presence let everyone know he’s the Alpha in the room. He walks with a purpose, and everywhere he stands, sits, or just is he gives off the vibe that he totally owns the space, and as well the entire room. His body language is relaxed and commanding, which may be a result of stage training as an actor. But in any case, his body language is always on point.

2. Attention Is His Plaything. Being the reason everyone is at the event means that he’s going to be the focus of attention, and he fully embraces it. From the moment he hopped out in front of everyone (yes, he did simply not walk in, he ran in and jumped out) he grabbed all of the focus and attention like a ball and immediately proceeded to play with it. From telling jokes to launching into entertaining stories, Cranston not only has fun with his audience, he also let’s them have fun with him which creates a deeper connection between him and his audience. He uses his Alpha presence to hold the attention he’s receiving, but he keeps a light and playful tone when conversing to keep his presence from being overwhelming. This leads to the next point…

3. He Uses Humility And Genuineness As His Armor. Cranston’s presence is pure Alpha, and the tools behind it are a combination of humility and genuineness. He uses a sense of humility when talking about himself and his experiences to relay his confidence and belief in himself, without seeking validation of approval from the audience. This solidifies his Alpha presence is that his is self-assured but not arrogant, which is the perfect armor for the Alpha. He then takes this to another level by bringing out a raw sense of genuineness, especially when engaging people one on one, which not only allows people to relate and connect with him, but also commands respect because you get a clear understanding of who he is. For example, when I went to get my book copy signed, he looked me in the eyes and said “I sincerely hope you enjoy the book. I’m grateful for the support.” It was a genuine sentiment that showed that he was thankful, but also at the same time it all was within the context of his Frame. Speaking of…

4. His Frame Is Airtight. Cranston’s Frame is by far one of the most impressive examples I’ve witnessed from anyone, as he always holds the Frame. About 20 minutes into the Q&A, this woman in the front row accidentally had her phone go off. While the distraction was entertaining, Cranston walked up to her, took her phone and then said “Let’s see what we have here.” He then pretended to scroll through her phone and then showed her how to put it on silent, before causally strolling back to his chair as if he was a professor giving a class a lecture. Nothing operated outside of his Frame, not even unexpected interruptions.

Those where the main takeaways I got from a fascinating 2 hours. I am a fan of Cranston’s acting, as he’s owned the role of Walter White from the iconic Breaking Bad, but has also done some great work in the comedy space as well. Often times with actors they portray these Alpha characters but their real presence is very much the opposite. In this case, Cranston is legitimate the real-deal, and there’s a lot that can be learned about Alpha Frame from observing him. Fame is the ultimate game, but having a true alpha presence take that to the next level. He really is “the one who knocks.”

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The Game Grind

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“Everybody wants to be famous, but nobody wants to do the work. I live by that. You grind hard so you can play hard. At the end of the day, you put all the work in, and eventually it’ll pay off. It could be in a year, it could be in 30 years. Eventually, your hard work will pay off.” – Kevin Hart

One of the often glossed over parts of Game is the Game Grind, which is the process of refining and developing one’s Game. It’s very easy to see folks like Rollo, Goldmund or Christian McQueen and forget that they all had journey’s they started long before any of us ever heard of them. Many will talk about how amazing and easy Game is for them now, but they’ll gloss over all the hard parts of getting to that present point. I myself know this very well.

My background story is pretty funny looking back on it now, but during the time before and just starting to come to awareness it’s pretty wild to see myself now compared to how I was back then. I used to be a Blue Pill as they came, for some of the usual reasons and for some other reasons as well. I’ll detail more about this on a post later, but my father was pretty Blue Pill and we had a lot of tensions and headbutting as my parents went through a divorce when I was a teenager. Determined “not to be just like him” I pushed myself deep into the Blue Pill side of spectrum. I never went White night, but I got pretty close to that point.

I always had a bit of a Red Pill side that would come out in “flashes,” which to my Blue Pill self was too much a reminder of some traits of my Dad I wasn’t fond of at the time, so suppression was my natural way of coping with it. My experiences with women where so Blue Pill dipped I could write a book on it. Writing poems (oh yes, that happened), being the shoulder to cry on, placing the needs of women and telling myself that “I’m a relationship guy” led to a string of disastrous experiences that proved to be extremely fruitless and wasted effort. I had a few successes sprinkled in there, but each time was during a “flash” of my cocky bastard (Red Pill) side.

After some time I began to notice this discrepancy between what I was saying and thinking vs what actually worked when it came to women. Noticing this, I began experimenting more and more with what was working, and them came across rather simultaneously Rollo Tomassi and Christian McQueen’s blogs. From there is was game over as I fully dove into the Red Pill and rapidly absorbed as much as I could. Over the next 4 years, I’m at the point that I am at today which is light years ahead of where I was.

That’s a high-level view of my story, but the bigger point I want to make is that every man has to start somewhere in his journey and if you’re just starting our or decades in, you still have to grind and refine your game. Starting out getting a phone number was a huge deal and maybe getting a kiss was the highlight of my month. Fast forward after many years of trial, error, learning and refinement, I can get a one night stand or same day bang while doubling the contacts in my phone book. I’m not trying to brag or stoke my ego by saying how great I am. What I’m getting at is that where I am today is the result of many years of grinding and learning after being frustrated with where I was. And like many of you, it’s going back on memory lane is funny now, despite the fact that it was a nightmare to experience back then.

One of the biggest things that gave me the shock to the system I needed was losing my virginity to my “dream girl.” I was raised pretty religiously so it I was 26 when I lost my virginity, though I had done everything up to that point but stick it in. I’d gotten blowjobs, finger-banged girls and played with boobs before then, so I had some experience, but I always stopped myself before going too far. But when I was 26 I finally hooked up with this girl that I had met when i was 25 and I had thought she was so special and unique, all of which where complete pedestal-level views of who she really was, which I saw a little bit too but overlooked because I saw the potential of the situation. Fast forward a year later when she’s out my house and basically just giving it away, when I was having sex with her I experienced one of the most empty experiences I’ve ever had, and the kicker is part of me knew that’s how it would be going in. I may detail the experience in a later post, because it’s a story almost too crazy to believe (I’ll just say it was really spiritual in a good and bad way).

After that experience it was another year before I had sex again, but the second time was a much different scenario and mental place, and I give this experience the credit for my desire to learn that sent me on my Red Pill Quest. I was at a club to celebrate a birthday of a friend of mine that I had known for a few years. She and I had a mutual friend so we’d hung out a quite a few times over the years but I always just thought of her as a friend, even though she was a pretty cute, tall blonde that had some of the same interests as me. Anyways, it was her birthday and she was wearing a sexy lack dress and so we went out on the dance floor. While dancing with her I had a thought of “I bet I could make out with her right now” that popped into my head, and so I went with it and we started making out. We eventually wound up back at her friend’s place since she lived on the other side of town but he lived in West Hollywood, which was close to the club, since she already made arrangements to crash at his place.

Her friend (a guy), her and me get back to his place and he has a small 1 bed room apartment. after 5 minutes of conversation, this guy pulls one of the greatest moves in bro-code history and says “We’ll I’m tried so I’m going to pass out.” He then “passes out” on his couch in the living room. I take the birthday girl into his bedroom, shut the door, toss her on the bed, and proceed to have some great birthday sex until the following morning. That expedience was made possible by following my budding Red Pill instinct as well as a little Bang-It-Forward help from her friend, but that’s where the journey started for me.

If you think it was all flowers, roses, and quick bangs you’d be terribly mistaken. The following years were filled with missed opportunities, bad Blue Pill habits that sabotaged me and flat out hardcore rejections from many girls. But I persisted on and now I’m at a point where my Red Pill knowledge and Game are in harmony. But am I resting on my laurels? Hell no. Why? Because there’s always something to learn and there’s always room to improve. Even today I get rejected, learn a new technique and find new experiences I hadn’t had before (Like going on a date to place that turned out to be a swingers club). The grind continues but I find joy in it because it makes me better and as helped me to help others. Yes, there are some nights where I am on fire and can do no wrong. And then there are nights where I am off and literally cannot buy a phone number. No matter how good you get you will never be 100% all the time. But by keeping the grind going, you can improve your consistency to get it as high as you can and you can see how far you have come along in your journey when you look back. I’ll always be grateful to the Rep Pill for giving me the tool set and vision to understand the nature of relationships, which has given me the freedom to navigate them in a way that I determine. And I’m also grateful for my Blue Pill experiences, because they’ve kept me humbled as I progress along my Red Pill path.

So whether you are just starting out or are well season-veteran, always remember that there is a grind involved in the processes. It’s not always fun, pretty or happy, but it’s the work that it takes to maximize your potential. and always remember that everyone who you see at the top of their game never started out that way, they had to go through a grind to get there.

Wake up. Grind. Rest. Repeat.

 

 

The Ashes Of Gotham

 

“Home…Where I learned the truth about despair. As will you. There’s a reason why this prison is the worst hell on earth: Hope. Every man who has rotted here over the centuries has looked up to the light and imagined climbing to freedom. So easy. So simple. And like shipwrecked men turning to sea water, from uncontrollable thirst; many have died trying. I learned here that there can be no true despair without hope.” – Bane, The Dark Knight Rises

I love this scene for so many reasons and after some interesting reading I have found another way to view and love this scene. One of the inherent dangers of the Red Pill is the effect of Reality Depression, where upon seeing the world for what it is, particularly women and their motivations, it’s very easy to become depressed and drift into a sense of harsh hopelessness. For this post, I will be exploring this subject and using the quoted line above as frame of reference. What inspired this was re-watching this scene and imagining that Bane was my Red Pill self talking to my recently former Blue Pill self after coming to a Red Pill awareness. I’d suggest giving that scene a viewing under that context after reading this post, the monologue by Bane hits some pretty chilling points with how contextually relatable it is.

So within the framework of this movie, your Blue Pill self (Batman) just confronted your Red Pill awareness (Bane). Though your Blue Pill self put up a fight that was “admirable, but mistaken,” it was defeated and broken. Now, a broken, feeble version your Blue Pill self lies in a place buried deep, confronted by the Red Pill. Now in this context, Gotham City is the Blue Pill idealism, and your Blue Pill self (Batman) had dedicated its life to protecting and upholding those idealizations.

Your Blue Pill self asks where it is, your Red Pill self replies “Home,” which brilliantly translates to the deepest recceses of your mind, the part of you that always knew that something was off. The part of you that always took notice when women said one thing, but then did the complete opposite. The part of you that grew up believing one thing but deep down had some doubts as you saw that things you were raised to do did not work despite continuously being encouraged to do so. This part of yourself is “were I learned to the truth about despair.” And sure enough, “As will you,” translates to your Blue Pill self is only able to be ready to learn once it’s be completely broken by some type of trauma. As many other Red Pill writers have detailed, usually this is caused by something of significant magnitude like a horrible break up or a divorce.

The “reason why this prison is the worst hell on earth” for your Blue Pill self is summed up in one word: “Hope.” This is where a lot of men struggle with their Reality Depression, they are seeing things for how they really are, but there is a part of them that still hopes to achieve the Blue Pill idealization and wishes it to be true. “Every (Blue Pill) man who has rotted here (in a state where they see Red Pill truths) over the centuries has looked up to the light (Blue Pill idealized hope) and imagined climbing to freedom. So easy. So simple.” It seems like an easy idea to go back to the Blue Pill existence you had known before, with society reinforcing these ideas it seems like it should be a simple task.

But “like shipwrecked men turning to sea water from uncontrollable thirst; many have died trying.” And here we get to the core of that reality depression, which is Blue Pill men trying to return to their former ways and idealizations which were toxic and discovering just how poisonous those Blue Pill idealization really are. Though many men have tried to hold onto those ideas and tried to make them true, many have died emotionally or literally in the process without ever coming close to completing their impossible task.

Most men “learned here” in this place, this confrontation between the broken Blue Pill idealizations and the powerful Red Pill awareness, “that there can be no true despair without hope.” The hope of the Blue Pill, the last and strongest core of the what the Blue Pill stands for and runs on, is what causes the true despair. Despite knowing that the Red Pill is reality and how the world works, the Blue Pill hopes against all odds that it can be realized. And this is a dangerous crossroads many men face.

So how does one reconcile this? That is a choice each of us has to make individually, to attempt to reconcile with our old understanding and cling to the hope of the Blue pill; or to see the harsh truths that the Red Pill represents and decide how best to move forward. But one thing is certain, no matter which choice is made, the point of no return has been crossed. Hope and despair are two powerful forces that will push and pull you, but the real questions is will you use the hope of the Blue Pill knowing that deep down it fuels your despair? Or will you see hope in the Red Pill while not succumbing to the inherent despair that harsh reality brings?

This is a question we all face and sometimes struggle with on a continual basis. If Gotham (the Blue Pill idealism) is overrun with despair and hypocrisy, the wisest course of action would be to take the other path and let Gotham burn. While there might be despair, at least there is truth and reality for what it is, so you can now truly live to make your own path.

I do imagine the final lines of this scene will recall the moment when many of you transitioned from Blue Pill to Red Pill, as the conversation with your former and new self most likely ended like this scene does: With your Red Pill self taking one last look at your Blue Pill self and stating as a final farewell: “We will destroy Gotham. And then…when it is done…and Gotham is…ashes…Then you have my permission to die.”

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The Question King: 5 Golden Questions

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“Judge a man by his questions rather than his answers” – Voltaire

So for those of you that don’t know, I actually do some work in the dating industry, and I can tell you dropping some Red Pill tidbits here and there goes a long way. A fun way to give back to the community would be to bring over some tips and experiences I’ve had, and if they can help just 1 of you out there close a deal, it’s all been worth it. One of the biggest consistent issues I’ve seen in the dating world has been guys sweating over what to say to a girl when opening up a new, cold conversation. Below I’ll be sharing with you some questions that I love using when opening and during conversations, because they work so well in both Day and Night Game, and translate well with gaming girls or with making conversation with anyone. Ready to become a master conversation starter? Well here you go:

1. “Tell Me Your Life Story”

This question is a great way to rapidly get people (especially girls) talking about themselves and helps you do some quick scouting on background details, like where they are from what they do, and why they moved to the city they are in, for example. I like to ask this question in a playful sense, by keeping the tone light, and I’ll usually preface it something like “So, mysterious person…” Sometimes people will be like “My whole life story?” and you have room for a playful response, something like “give me the highlights” or “only what you want to share with the class.” You have a lot of room to tease, be playful, or ramp up the energy to get people into the same vibe as you. And if a girl just refuses to play along, you can quickly NEXT them and move on because this question can be a shit test of your own to see if she is willing to play along with you or will fight you.

2. “What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?”

This is another great question and what I love about it is the fact that’s it very deep, insightful and revealing, while being brilliantly simple and subtle. I once asked a girl that was bar tending at this place I like “So what do you want to be when you grow up?” She responded with by telling me how she moved out to a big city to pursue acting because she felt people like herself where under represented in media and wanted to change social attitudes about that.”  So, with this simple question, I uncovered a core motivating driver in her life, what her passion is and experienced a deep moment that connected us while still keeping everything fun and light. You’ll be surprised at the answers people will give you. And the fun part about this question is when you ask girls it gives them a playful sense of bright-eyed optimism and youth.

3. “What Is The Most Romantic Song Of All time?”

This question is a lot of fun to use because it’s a topic with many built in transitional topics, which I’ll get to later. It works extremely well with groups, but this requires you to have some fun energy to really make it work. Whenever someone names a song, I will usually excited reply “That’s a great one!” or “Oh I hadn’t thought of that…great pick!” It works really well with obscure songs. Also, this questions usually gets people talking about themselves and their relationships, with things like “Well when I was traveling in Paris I heard” or “me and my boyfriend listen this song because it’s our song.” So it saves you some effort in qualifying them because they are revealing everything for you. And naturally, you can transition the conversation into personal theme songs to best hook-up songs.

4. “Ladies Can You Help Me Out? / I Need A Girl’s Opinion…”

If you have a question of some sort ready but are unsure how to ask it, use these to preface that question. These work well because it peeks girl’s curiosity as to what you’re going to ask, and it gives them a little bit of an ego boost in the sense that they get to give their official opinion on something. Make sure if you use these your following question is somewhat appropriate Leading off with “I need a girl’s opinion, is jerking it 5 times a week a lot?” is not the way to go so use some common sense. Unless you’re getting a vibe based on the scene that something that out there would work, I’d stick to more fun and playful questions, like “Ladies can you help me out? What city has the best food in world?” These preface questions are golden ways to get attention, so make sure you capitalize on it.

5. “Can I Trust You?”

A large part of Game is creating your own personal bubble with a girl, and this question does just that. The implication with it is that you’re about to share something not-so public with her, which helps draw her into your world, as well as gets her to do a little qualifying of herself to you because of course, she is trustworthy and will prove it to you. This question is gold when trying to isolate a girl from the group or with giving you a reason to move a girl from one place to another, away from prying ears.

So if you can’t think of anything in your conversations or cold approaches, feel free to use and incorporate these questions. They can be used solo, in combination with each other, or in any way you see fit. Get out there and become a conversation guru.

Cheers.

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The Enemy

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“Know your enemy and know yourself and you can fight a hundred battles without disaster.” – Sun Tzu, The Art of War

For this post I wanted to further delve into a theme that’s been fairly recurring in my recent conversations. I’m not a fan of quoting myself, but for the sake of getting into this topic my hand is forced:

As a man, it’s paramount that you understand that women aren’t the enemy, but their natures will eat you alive and spit you out if you do not understand them.

So with that in mind, here we go.

Women Are Not The Enemy

Many men get caught in the mindset that women are their enemy, for various reasons. Plenty of AFC’s and Blue Pill men become frustrated and bitter over time after many rejections, divorce or general non-success they experience. A lot of men new to the Red Pill or transitioning to it get sucked into the mindset as well, and it’s pretty easy to see why. When the truth is shown and women’s mating and provisioning strategies are exposed, it can come as a cold, hard slap in the face that make man men view women with contempt, suspicion and anger. Extremes are always a red flag, and finding yourself with an extreme view on women should cause you to pause and give yourself some examination.

Now, this is not to say that there are not bad, malicious women out there. There are plenty of damaged or just plain crazy women in this world and yes, they these women are best avoided and are in a sense an enemy to your sanity and future. But to blanket this view to all women is not healthy, it’s narrow minded and it hurts you as it limits your experiences. Women can be amazing, dynamic and incredible experiences and can help give one insight into themselves as well as the world around them. But as mentioned in many places before, women should be a compliment to your life, never the sole focus of it. Learn how to weed the malicious one’s out, attract the complimentary ones and you’ll discover that women can be an incredible icing on the cake that is your life.

The Nature of Women

As others have outlined before, the nature of women is straightforward when you break it down. Women are pragmatic in their approach to love and relationships and as such they care more about the stats a man possesses. Your status, how good looking you are and how you conduct yourself are all huge factors. Women are attracted to man for what he is not who he is. Women don’t really care who Leonardo DiCaprio is, if he’s a nice guy, does he love kittens, or what his favorite pizza toppings are. They are attracted with what he is; a handsome, successful man that is A-List (high status) and famous (has large social proof).

This is not a “right or wrong” rant, it’s a mere statement of facts. So if you’re looking at this and saying “it’s wrong that they don’t value a man for who he is on the inside” then you’re missing the point. This is how the mechanisms for attraction with women work. It is what it is. There’s nothing inherently wrong with this either, because given the history of women they’ve literally had their survival tied to the man they pair with, so if they are going to invest their future with someone, they are going to ensure it’s the best deal they can get. On the flip side, men are hard-wired for visuals. If you see a 400 pound woman you instinctively are not going to look at her folds of fat and think “well she’s loves dogs and reads stories to orphans” and find yourself attracted to her. That’s not how attraction for guys work, hence the huge push these days for the “Big is Beautiful” movement. It’s an attempt by women to dictate to men what we should be attracted to. Well guess what, if you’re upset and ranting about why women should value you based on who you are on the inside, you’re doing the exact same thing but from the other side of the coin. “It’s what on the inside that counts” is the male equivalent of of the “Big is Beautiful” movement. Women can’t dictate to men what attraction for us is, and men can’t dictate to women what attraction for them is either.

Learn how that attraction works and then you can “hack” your own attractiveness so to speak. Is it going to be a magic bullet that has a 100% success rate? No. Nobody is at 100%, not even DiCaprio. But you can greatly improve your success rate, and improvement is always a goal worth striving for. If you want to attract more women, know what they are attracted to. As a hunter, you need to use the proper bait to attract prey. You won’t use carrots to attract a lion, so don’t think that just being a good person on the inside is going to cut it when it comes to attracting women. By all means, continue to be that good person on the inside, but you can add to your stat sheet as well to make you even more attractive. Think outside in vs inside out. If you were a pair of heels your stats like wealth, looks, and swagger are the exterior design of the shoe which draws women in. You being a good person is the bonus of the heels being comfortable and having a nice interior, but it’s not the most critically important factor. If you have no idea what I’m talking about, ask any girl about a pair of heels and why they like and wear them, especially when most of the time they are uncomfortable and painful.

The Real Enemy

Ignorance is the real enemy, and as they say “ignorance of the law is no excuse.” Arm yourself with knowledge, don’t be mad or throw a fit at how things are, see the game and know how to play it. You don’t blame a lion for eating a gazelle or call it evil. It’s a lion being a lion and doing what lions do: Hunt and eat gazelles. The same applies to women and how they approach relationships. They approach it from a pragmatic viewpoint and see things through the lens of what you are, not who you are. Love women, but have open eyes about their nature. If you want more success, develop yourself into a person of higher value, plain and simple. Maximize your potential, grow your status, your value and exercise to develop your body as well. When it all comes down to it, your personal success is tied to your biggest asset and your worst enemy: You.

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The Gamer Girl Guide

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“My coach said I ran like a girl, I said if he could run a little faster he could too”– Mia Hamm

For this post, I wanted to elaborate on a reply to a comment that Days of Game left on my last post, Street Walker’s Gold. I had been tossing the idea around for a while and after some enlightening experiences this past weekend, I wanted to put together a guide for the different types of Game that girls use. Now this list isn’t complete and I do look forward to getting some contributions from other great minds, but from a Red Pill context here are some types of Female Game strategies I’ve noticed over the years. Now, understand that this ins’t to bash women and in fact if you do consider an LTR some forms girl game can be a good thing. The purpose of this is to keep you informed on what type of game you might be encountering when dealing with a particular girl.

1) Covert Lock Down Game

Girls run this with guys that they know have plenty of other options when it comes to dating and sexual intimacy. This game strategy involves them “playing it cool” and being able to keeping things smooth. What betrays this strategy is the little subtleties, like she might offhandedly mention something about a couple and follow it up with something like “they’re like us” or might make other relationship oriented jokes or comments. The bet she’s playing is that by not appearing to be “clingy” or appearing relationship oriented the guy with forego his other options in favor of her because she’s established herself as relate-able and uncomplicated. Red Pill aware guys that are attune to women’s sub-communications and can read between the lines well will pick up on this game and act accordingly with their own objectives. Those that don’t pick up on it find them selves saying “I never thought I’d be in a relationship, but here I am.” If your Frame is solid this can lead to a great and healthy LTR if that is your inclination.

2) Side-Man Game

This strategy is employed by girls who have and are entertaining other prospects, especially with guys that are at the number 2 thru 10 slots. This game works very effectively with Beta orbiters who get blindsided because they think they’ve finally found a cool girl that they “click” with only to get blind sided when she dumps them or pulls the Let’s Just Be Friends card. Alpha’s and the Red Pill aware tend to instinctively pick up on the ques from this game and take it for it is: minimal investment is required and the relationship already has an expiration date so when it’s reached that time it’s not a big deal. Signs of this strategy in play are very long delays in response to communication, always seemingly unavailable during prime “date” times or in general, and vague comments about that unavailability in the vein of “I already have plans for that time.” This type of girl game is not conducive to an LTR since the very nature of it is temporary and similar to Dread Game. Proceed with caution and make sure your Frame is airtight if you think of proceeding down the LTR path.

3) Direct Game

The best examples of direct game are found in women that are very close to hitting The Wall or in the online dating / dating app arena. For this type of game time is of the essence, and so there’s no room to bullshit about. This game is direct and blunt with wanting to satisfy the hypergamic directive and usually isn’t bashful in expressing it. You’ll notice phrases like “I want to start a family” or “I don’t have time to date” mentioned incredibly early on. For the Red Pill aware most will avoid because there are much better prospects and also you don’t want to waste their time as well as your own. Since a lot of the ones using this type of game are looking to check a box, it’s not worth the pursuit, unless their long term objective happen to line up perfectly with your own. But there are plenty of Blue Pill Betas that are more than happy to be that check mark on the box. Take this on a case by case basis, it can be a very pragmatic partnership if the dynamic clicks. Trust your gut.

4) Good Girl Game

Good Girl game is used by women who are clever at making themselves look good compared to other girls. These types are usually highly critical of other women, are quick to point out how other girls are dressed like sluts or act like whores. Even though if given the opportunity these women would probably do the same things, they are very outspoken about “Low Quality Women.” These women also can have a few skeletons from their past, but a lot of times this game is employed by women of religious backgrounds. Keeping a realistic frame of mind will help you see what’s what quickly and see who she truly is. If things check out, you’re good to go. If not, then NEXT her and move on.

5) Victim Game

This game strategy is employed by a lot of borderline personality disorder women aka “psycho girls.” This strategy partially stems from our social attitudes towards women being victims by default and manifests itself in later stages of the relationship. This game employs the use of a past abuse or trauma as a baseline to explain away irrational or just plain bad behavior. Usually this these women will put on a front of being normal, innocent and sweet, until the viciously malicious side comes out. Then after the true nature has been revealed, the use of victimhood is employed so it’s “not really her fault” and that she has “issues she’s working through.” Woe is the man who falls into this trap, for he often finds himself having to come up with justifications or explanations for her behavior and gets taken into an emotional hellscape.  Warning signs, aside from the many red flags, are her always being the victim, you always having to justify or rationalize her actions or make excuses on her behalf, and her not taking any real accountability for her actions. When you encounter this type of game, RUN.

6) Strong Independent Woman Game

This game is the pride and joy of hypergamy. This game is usually ego-driven, and is very much used by women looking to prove themselves and establish dominance over the mythical and omnipotent patriarchy in some way. This type of game is about a woman not needing  man in any real capacity, and usually you’ll hear things “sex isn’t important in a relationship” or “communication is the key to any great relationship.” This type of game utilizes guilt and “Man Up” (be your own man, but within the context of what I want a man  to be) conventions to keep men in line. Alpha’s have no time for this and the Red Pill aware can see the smoke screen for what it is. Users of this type of game are best avoided because the shit tests will be nonstop.

7) Party Girl Game

As the title suggest, this type of game is employed by “party girls,” or girls that have very active social lives…in the party scene. This game type is what the Blue Pill men thinks of when they imagine clubs, bars and other places of “ill-repute.” These girls love to party and have a great time, and usually that means whatever it takes to keep the party going. Alcohol is frequent and drug use is common among these those using this strategy. The allure of this type of game is that it is fun and the goal is to have a great time, and also this type of game flaunts female sexuality. These girls will usually do impromptu strip shows, make out with other girls, or even be game for sexual encounter in the bathroom in the back of the club. This is all fun and games, but understand that’s that all it is. Blue Pill Men are often horrified while Alpha’s get to reap the spoils. Though there are plenty of Betas that are more than willing to fund the party lifestyle in the hope of getting in on some of the action. It’s best to take this type of female game for what it is, fun and games, no more and no less. Never forget girls are just as if not more sexual than guys, and sometimes they just want to go out, have fun and get laid. Many of the girls using this game using it during their peak SMV years, before “maturing” and resorting to other strategies to exercise their hypergamy. If your Frame is rock solid then you can find some LTR potential, but always see things for what they are.

8) Scenester Girl Game

This game is employed by girls that are constantly trying to maximize their options. You can also nickname them bargain hunters, because they are constantly searching for a better deal without investing more than they have to to get it. These girls are usually the arm candy that arrive with guys to parties or nights out, but always seem a little aloof in their own worlds. They are usually very nice and courteous, and any Red Pill aware man gets the sense they could probably swoop in and “steal” this girl away.  A huge sign is if they arrive with a guy and it’s not apparent that they’re together. These girls are very hypergamous, and so they are continuously and actively looking for a better deal. The men they are presently “with” are only so out of convenience. These types are best to be avoided, because at best you can lease them, but you will never truly “own” them. Getting involved with them also leads to complications with ex-lovers. These women are expensive to maintain as well, in that it takes a lot of resources (time, money, energy, etc.) to hold their interest for little reward. These women typically target men that are successful in business but are Blue Pill or Beta when it comes to dealing with women. Alphas tend to understand their nature instinctively and so they follow the “don’t be gentle it’s a rental” mentality and ditch them before they can find a better situation. Warning signs are girls that only want to go on dates that involve a large social scene (like going to clubs or high profile places) were she can meet other suitors, girls that are currently in relationships but they’re “already winding things down” or “in the processes of ending it” but somehow that relationship continues to go on and not officially end. They also tend to be very much in their own worlds when out, not really interacting with their dates but are easily approachable by anyone who wishes to talk to them. Also look out for going on many dates with them before any type of sexual intimacy occurs. This is a good rule in general, but Sceneters are especially prone to sporadic intimacy, usually requiring a very long courting process (like 5 -10 dates). An LTR is not advised because you’ll be setting yourself up to be cheated on, it’s best to look elsewhere if an LTR is your end goal.

9) Tease Game

This style of game is actually fairly clever. This type of game is when a women tells you up front that she’s a tease or something else negative about her, like “I’m a huge bitch.” The trick is that her actions shortly after tend to contradict what she said earlier. So it’s a little bit of a bait-and-switch tactic. But then after a period of time, the character flaw she warned you of previously comes out in full force and all she has to say for herself is “I told you about this from the get go.” This type of game is the bait-and-switch-and-switch-back. This can throw any guy for a loop and takes some experience to see the signs more clearly. Always heed any overt warnings and proceed with caution. The best way to deal with this game is to treat it like Side-Man game, enjoy it while it lasts, and then when the warning comes true; cut, run and never look back.


That’s what I have for now. I hope you can use this knowledge to help with your current or future situations. Sometime women run 1 type of game exclusively and other times they run a few different concurrently. But if you know what to look for, you’ll be able to see things for what they really are. Remember; in your own life you are Player #1. Don’t get played.

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“You’re nothing more than a clever prostitute. You accepted the conditions in which you found yourself and you triumphed.” – E.L. Doctorow

For today’s post, I’ll be elaborating on a throwaway comment I made to a friend of mine while we were out at an LA hot spot that stuck with me. One of the Blue Pill maxims that is very prevalent is the myth of the “quality girl” vs the “non-quality girl.” We were noticing a two girls, and one was taking pictures of the other. Both girls where incredibly attractive, long blonde hair, perfectly tone bodies and legs that could go on for days. We started to notice some details about their clothing and accessories. Both girls had on YSL (Yes Saint Laurent Shoes), Birkin Hand Bags and they looked to be about 21 – 23 tops. Now, if you aren’t familiar with those brands do a quick google search. Those accessories are very expensive, and for girls in their early 20’s to be rocking these there’s a 99.9% chance they didn’t pay for them. After they where done taking pictures, 2 guys joined them. The guys looked to be of middle-eastern decent, relatively young (I’d guess 26-32) but they drove over in a Mercedes Benz G Wagon 65 AMG, which is a very expensive SUV. My friend made a comment along the lines of these girls being gold diggers and responded unconsciously with: Everyone’s a prostitute, but there’s only 2 variables in the equation: 1) What is their preferred currency & 2) How much?

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Why this comment stuck with me is that in the context of the Red Pill, it’s easy to see past the “non-quality woman” mantra that gets shoved down our throats by the equalist-fempower movement. It’s easy and dismissive to write these young, hot girls that are easily 9.5’s on the SMV (Sexual Market Value) curve as materialistic, gold-digging fashion whores that aren’t worthy of a Blue Pill man’s time or energy. He should instead focus on finding a “quality girl” to occupy his affections. The reality is that this smoke screen is really just a way to disguise women’s hypergamy. The 9.5 hot girls can easily maximize there hyergamous options because when you are that high up on the SMV curve you can “command a premium” and guys are more than willing to pay it. For the girls that can’t compete directly, the strategy is to shame those girls in the eyes of men who might not be able to compete, or in some cases can but don’t know their SMV worth, so that can turn their SMV disadvantage into a big strength. Taking this to the broader scale, everyone, and I do mean everyone – both men and women, is a prostitute in some way shape or form. The guys in the expensive SUV might be using their expensive car and displays of wealth to prostitute themselves to hot girls. The girls might use their looks and sexuality to get access to the perceived wealth and lifestyle of these guys. Or the waiter at serving food might pretend to really care about a very annoying table he’s serving in order to get a better tip. Or a girl might were low cut skirt to get a promotion at the office. Make no mistakes, we all prostitute ourselves, so putting that in a Red Pill context we are willing to make social transactions for goods or services. The only 2 variables are: What is the currency & How much?

What is the currency?

We all want different things, but it is in those wants that we can discover the currency. Some people want friendship, others sex, other career advancement and others companionship. In a Red Pill sense, the Beta provider who finds himself a “quality girl” doesn’t see the relationship for what it is: He’s “paying” for the intimacy and companionship he desires by providing this “quality girl” with his finical and emotional provisioning. It’s like the old joke of “What is the difference between getting a prostitute and having a girlfriend? Paying for dinner.” This observation has stood the test of time because for guys, we can pay a girl money and she’ll provide us with the sexual release we seek. Or we can talk to a girl, and instead of paying her directly, we’ll pay for her dinner in the hope of achieving the same end.  So the real question is, What is the preferred currency of choice? Is it cold hard cash or is it expensive dinners?

Now, the purpose of this isn’t to dehumanize people, or to take anything away from the genuine emotions, desire, and enjoyment people have in relationships and interactions. But but I am saying is that there are underlying mechanisms at play that if you don’t understand then you’ll find yourself very surprised and shocked when you’re suddenly “outbid” but another party using the currency of choice. For the Red Pill aware, you know that the hypergamous nature of women is always testing for perfection and the best available option. So that understanding that a better bid (someone more Alpha, higher status, etc) may come along is very real. How many relationships have been ended at rock shows when the band pulls a guy’s girlfriend on stage? A clear case of a better bid.

Women understand this intuitively, hence why they approach dating as a zero-sum game. They know that there is a very real reality where a better bid (someone younger, hotter, more adventurous, etc.) can come along that can derail their investment. How many times have we heard the shaming strategy in play with divorced women complaining about their ex dating a “child” (aka a younger and hotter girl) after the divorce? They instinctively understand this reality of “everyone has a price” hence why they spend so much time and effort trying to lock down the men they perceive as Alpha’s. Usually the easiest and most commonly preferred currency is sex. Hence why Alphas enjoy the depths of depravity and sexual exploration with women, because these women know that if they maintain a hold on the currency they can keep the bid. Beta men on the other hand, usually have a preferred currency of companionship, validation and low sexpecatation (minimal expectations with sex), hence why they they get the companionship and ego boost they seek by landing a “quality girl” but will never experience the recesses of her full sexuality. They also make the mistake of trying to use the wrong currency with the women they fantasize about (like trying to relate to her as a gender neutral being would) and are perplexed when their currency is rejected.

How much?

After the preferred currency has been figured out, the next question naturally is, How much? This is one area when looking at things through the Red Pill lens where women, being the more pragmatic ones in their approach to love really excel compared to men. Men are usually very good at problem solving and using logic and reason, but when it comes to the question of currency, men, especially the Blue Pill Betas, get outclassed 10 to 1. Women understand the zero-sum nature of the sexual market place: If another woman secures a mate, they do not get that mate. Seeing this, women have become incredibly adept at figuring out the preferred currency that any given man seeks. Some men want passionate and consistent sex. Other men want ego validation while others simply just don’t want to be alone. Women are incredibly adapt at using discovering the currency of a man and then investing enough of it to get a long term contract in place to secure their ends, and once the sale has been made, there’s no need to continue paying for what they own if know the man they’ve secured is not a hot commodity in the market place. Hence why so many men get caught off guard when their girlfriends are sexually insatiable or always beyond supportive when they are dating, but once they establish a LTR or get married, suddenly all of that fades away.

Men can be very similar, particularity Alpha males, because instinctively the Alpha knows he’s a hot commodity. His currency is himself: His time is the commodity and as a high-value male he knows he can command a premium and that there are going to many buyers out there on the market. Beta men who aren’t able to enjoy the level of access the Alpha has (typically) employ other methods of currency, be it funding expensive lifestyles, emotional support or “seeing the real person” and completely overlooking someone’s past.

I do want to emphasize as a conclude this post that the intent here is not to take anything away from human relationships or experiences. The intent here is to provide a metaphor for the mechanisms behind human interactions and relationships to help you arm yourself with some knowledge that can help you maximize your potential and help you avoid unnecessary distress. Everyone wants something and there is a set of conditions (aka a price) that people want met to get that something. Learn what your own currency and prices are to protect and master yourself. Learn how to discover the currency and price of others and you’ll find endless potential when you can see the going rate of street walker’s gold.

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Fight Club: The Alpha Vs. Beta

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“We’re a generation of men raised by women. I’m wondering if another woman is really the answer we need. ” – Tyler Durden

For today’s post, I want to revisit a film that many would propose as a “modern classic,” Fight Club. I won’t deny it, this film has had a pretty profound cultural impact and has reverberated with a generation of men. Having seen it while still very blue pill and having seen it again with a red pill lens, it has become vividly clear why this film strikes such a cord: It’s the battle inside every man that we all face of Alpha vs. Beta.

For those who haven’t seen it, here’s a brief summary (you can read the full summary here): Our main protagonist is the nameless Narrator, played by Edward Norton. He’s you’re average corporate drone, working long days at a job he loathes with not much else happening in his life. One day on a plane flight he meets very eccentric man full of bravado, Tyler Durden, played by Brad Pitt. They quickly become friends and create a Fight Club, a place for fellow men like the Narrator to release their aggression and frustration with the world in a brutal and physical way. As the club membership grows and it evolves into a revolutionary group aimed at curing the evils of consumerism in the world. The Narrator tries to take a larger role, and when the leader Tyler disappears, he goes on a hunt to find him. In that process, he discovers that Tyler Durden is actually a split personality of himself. He eventually reconciles this and is able to “kill” Tyler by shooting himself, while watching Tyler’s master plan to blow up several buildings unfold.

Now, the narrator is left as a nameless character, because he is supposed to represent average, every-day-man. In actuality, the Narrator is the embodiment of the Beta and Tyler Durden is very clearly the Alpha. The Narrator is an insomniac, haunted by the depression of his everyday life. He seeks solace in support groups by remaining silent and letting others assume he is going through the same affliction as them. While doing this, he meets a woman named Marla, who he doesn’t know how to interact with. She’s an imposter at the support groups like him, but he is attracted to her yet afraid of being outed by her at the same time. For those of you with even a hint of red pill awareness, the Narrator screams “beta” in every way. He has no frame, no direction or control of his life, and has to be pushed to extremes in order to act. He even looks physically weak and fragile, and his need for validation from others is fully exposed with the support groups.

Now, let’s take a look at Tyler Durden, who at first glance screams “alpha.” Tyler is suave, dressed in a manner that shows care but also oozes the “rock star panty dropper” vibe. Physically, he is the idealized male body that is tone, athletic, and shredded (which is ironic that at one point when he mocks a designer ad featuring a perfect male physique like his and commenting “Is that what a real man is supposed to look like?”). He’s a natural leader, as he forms the fight club and evolves it into Project Mayhem and he touts his philosophy of personal freedom, anarchy, and dismantling the establishment. Tyler is that natural “alpha” that the beta Narrator wishes he could be. Brash, handsome, perfect figure and has total control over his life. Tyler even becomes sexually intimate with Marla, the girl the Narrator could only dream about being sexual with (literally and metaphorically).

Now, in the video above, Patrice O’Neal taps into something of note. While he sees it as a “The Holy Grail of something white,” I’d say he’s on point, but replace “white” with “beta.”  Fight Club is the Holy Grail for Betas. The story is about a beta guy who’s inner alpha comes bursting through. It’s the alpha side that wants total freedom – which is what true power is. The freedom to do as you desire and have total control over your life (for an excellent read on the subject, checkout this article).  Tyler is a beta’s idealized self, the true alpha that does what he wishes, beds the women he desires and is the man other men aspire to be and follow into battle.

“Man, I see in fight club the strongest and smartest men who’ve ever lived. I see all this potential, and I see squandering. God damn it, an entire generation pumping gas, waiting tables; slaves with white collars. Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don’t need. We’re the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our Great War’s a spiritual war… our Great Depression is our lives. We’ve all been raised on television to believe that one day we’d all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won’t. And we’re slowly learning that fact. And we’re very, very pissed off.” – Tyler Durden

Re-framing this statement in the context of blue pill and red pill, it reads much like this:

Man, I see in fight club the strongest and smartest men who’ve ever lived. Men of worth and value to themselves and to society.

I see all this potential, and I see squandering. Men are not actualizing themselves, they are subverting themselves to their own eventual demise.

God damn it, an entire generation pumping gas, waiting tables; slaves with white collars. Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don’t need. We’re enslaving ourselves to our blue pill idealizations, that by doing so we’re “doing our job” even though it’s not what we desire in our natural state. We’re relegating ourselves to be providers so we can been leeched dry until we have nothing left.

We’re the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our Great War’s a spiritual war… our Great Depression is our lives. The modern, more feminized world is constantly battling our masculinity. We’ve been stripped of it and as such striped of purpose. With the new equalist standard we are aimless and have become depressed. The blue pill is a raw deal that benefits everyone but us.

We’ve all been raised on television to believe that one day we’d all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won’t. And we’re slowly learning that fact. And we’re very, very pissed off. We see the harsh blue pill truths for what they are, as they have been made vividly apparent to us, and now we are displaying our justified outrage. The snowflakes have melted releasing the flood.

And this is a large reasoning for the MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) movement as well as the climbing suicide rate for men (not to mention the fact that 80% of all suicides are committed by men). For the blue pill beta, the world is a cruel place that promised itself to them and then slowly revealed itself to be draining them. That is why this story has the cultural impact it does, it’s very blunt and real about blue pill betas coming to terms with the harsh truths about the world.

And the ultimate climax, which I feel sells some false hope, is that in the end the Narrator is able to kill Tyler Durden, but is left to inherit Durden’s empire. The message is that the alpha side is wild, dangerous and destructive, but beta side can eventually subdue, confront and kill the alpha side. The alpha can do the hard work and make all things desired happen, but the false hope is that the blue pill beta side can still remain dominant and come out on top. It’s the same irony as the “Is that what a real man is supposed to look like?” scene, in which we have the idealized male form degraded by an idealized male to make the betas feel better about themselves. The same irony exists with the climax, where the beta side realizes that everything it wanted was achieved by the dominant alpha, but in the end the beta side won out because it was the “dominant” personality. The false hope here is that a frustrated blue pill beta can utilize his alpha to get where he wants to be and then stay true to his “real self” by killing the alpha side when things go too far.

From a red pill perspective, a lot of men can understand the blue pill beta side of things, as many have come from that paradigm and fully understand just how powerful that idea can be. But where the blue pill sees a heroic story and captures their existence, one can only hope that if they do embrace their inner alpha that some red pill awareness will factor in as a discipline that alpha-ness, which is sourced in bitterness and disillusionment. Imagine how different this story would be if the Narrator had more actualized red pill awareness instead of a blue pill frame to lash out from? That would be a movie I’d love to see.

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