C’est La Vie

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“Life is available only in the present moment. If you abandon the present moment you cannot live the moments of your daily life deeply.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

I just recently finished up a trip to a conference out in Texas, and I must say, conferences and trade shows are a great place for networking, meeting interesting people, and to game. You have people from all over the place working for a multitude of companies and it makes for a very conducive environment for the adventurous. I may have to do a post/podcast episode exclusively on the subject, but for this post, I’ll be detailing what transpired this past trip.

I get to the trade show floor so I can hop to my booth and get things ready to go. The show opens, and people start pouring in to checkout different booths, network and grab a lot of free swag. I alwyas make sure I have a free hour or so to stroll the floor myself; there’s always a chance to learn something new and it’s an excellent way to meet some very attractive girls working their booths. Before I took my break, I noticed that at the booth directly across from mine was being manned by 3 people. One young guy who was fairly tall, another older woman, and another woman looked to be a few years younger than me. She was petite, with a very pretty face, deep green eyes, reddish-brown hair down to her shoulders and she was wearing these tight white jeans that highlighted her great legs and fantastic ass. After taking notice of her, I had a very practical and brief thought: “I should have sex with this girl,” I thought to myself.

I then took my break and made my rounds, chatting it up with several people at various booths, includding to stunning brunnetes that were working a booth together at the far end of the conference. One was married and the other appeared single, so I made mental note of it before making my way back to my booth. Since things in my section were slow, I caught the perky girl in the white jeans looking in the direction of my booth, so I waved at her and motioned for her to come over.

“Hi booth neighbor, I’m Alpha J,” I said as I introduced myself and shook her hand.

“Hello neighbor!,” she enthusiastically replied. “My name is Tori.” I then asked her about what her company does and she proceeded to tell me all about it. I found out that she was from the Midwest and this was her first time at a trade show. I told her as a trade show pro that she should make sure she visits as many booths as possible, especially the ones manned by 1 bored person that’s starved for human interaction. She giggled at the thought and then a customer of mine stopped by so I excused myself from the conversation and tended to my client.

The show continued for another hour and then ended, and most people at the trade show went to opening night after party…and by party essentially it was people rushing to the bar set for drinks and raiding the food stands. Thanks to a colleague i was able to sneak into the “party” with having to way over pay to get in, and proceeded to chat with a few other industry folks I knew. I then took a moment to scan the room and then I  noticed Tori across the room at a table with her coworkers and she was looking in my direction, then I realized she was looking at me. I gave her a head nod which she returned, then I went back to the bar to grab a beverage and wound up talking with a prospective client in the process. Once that conversation was over, I made my way to Tori’s table where she was sitting with her coworkers.

“What trouble are you kids causing?” I asked. “We’re not sure,” one of her coworkers replied. I then let them know that since I was in a new city I’d be on a mission to do some exploring and that they all were welcome to join me up. They all nodded and thought that might be a fun idea, and since I was out of cards I wrote my number down and gave it to Tori and told her to text me her info so I could keep them all in the loop. As a side bar, when in a professional setting and you’re trying to Game, it’s best to do the business card exchange so you have some plausible deniability as well as you don’t want to the girl to feel like she’s acting slutty in front of her colleagues. Hence why I gave her my number as I had a strong feeling she’d hit me up when the coworkers were not around. Know the difference between personal time and work time.

I then made my way to another group of people I knew and then left the party after about another 30 minutes. It was about 8 pm so I went to dinner with a colleague and got a text from an unknown number. “Is this Alpha J?” The text asked. “The 1 and only” I replied. “Hi! This is Torie.” I received back. She then followed that up with “Are you going out tonight?” Perfect, I thought to myself. “Absolutely, wrapping up dinner I’ll let you know where I head out.” I then proceeded to have dinner and then on the way back to my hotel at 9 I sent a text “Done with dinner going to find some local adventure.” I got back to the hotel, got a good shower, and then scoped out a few places. It was now 9:45 and I hadn’t heard back, so I found a chill looking spot on Yelp and headed there. I also Yelped another cool looking spot that would be a good place to potentially meet some local talent or have Tori meet me at if I heard from her.

It’s now 11 pm and I am hanging at this cool spot that has a bar, a few locals and has a chill vibe. It was cool, but I figured I’ll head to the other place I looked up in about 10 minutes. Suddenly I get a text from Tori, “Are you still out?” I reply “I’m heading to this call spot call The Bar, you guys should come join.” She replied with “My colleagues are being lame and calling it early.” I respond back with “don’t be lame like them. come hang.” She then replies with the very dangerous “Hmmm…” “To which I respond with “Come check it out and have 1 drink. Then you can pull a Cinderella at midnight and vanish.” A minute passed and then she said “Ok, I’ll be there in 7 minutes.”

3 minutes later I arrive at The Bar, and it’s a pretty cool spot. they have a live band playing some good jazz in the front, and then in the back they have a full bar with bartenders rocking slacks, vests, and rolled up selves, giving the place a 1920’s vibe. They also have chalk walls with a list of specialty drinks written on them, giving the place a cool vibe. Well done to the venue. I order a cocktail and the bartender says “Right away sir, but just to let you know that’s one of our pricier cocktails…it’s $9.” I love how much cheaper it is to drink just about everyone else but LA, so I chuckled and said “I’m sure it’s worth the premium.” I scanned the bar and noticed this group of 3 girls close by, and one of them took immediate notice of me. “How is your night going?” she asked me. She was cute, a brunette with a full figure, not fat, but a had nice curves. “It’s off to an adventurous start” I replied. I then told her I was visiting from out of town and was having fun exploring the city. She told me she was out celebrating her cousin’s birthday and some how we got on the topic of meeting people. She then asked me if I was married and said “with my luck, you are because everyone I meet is.” I said “As your luck would not have it, I am not married.” This caught her attention and I could see the ye fucking starting to happen. Her cousin and other friend then went to the front to get a closer seat to the band and then she said “We’ll be around for a bit,” and headed off to join them.

About a minute later Tori walked in and greeted me at the bar. We exchanged a little small talk and pointed to the walls where the specialty drinks were listed. I gave her a suggestion and then got her drink ordered, and then we talked a bit about our backgrounds. After a little bit, we noticed this crazy looking cocktail being made and ordered one, then I said “let’s see this music up close” and lead her to a booth in the front next to the band. We listened to some songs and then made out in the booth. At about 12:30 Tori noticed the time, and I said “Uh oh Cinderella, looks like you’re out past curfew. I’ll walk you back to your hotel to make sure you get ok.”

We then walked and continued talking about random thing and then made it back to her hotel and at the lobby bar lounge was a loud but fun group of guys. Apparently Tori had hung out with them earlier and it turns out they are the producers of the trade show. She then asked me if I wanted to hang with them to which I replied “I’m down.” No let’s pause a minute here, as some of you may wonder why I opted for that. The “do you want to hang” is a bit of a shit test in disguise, as it’s bit of LMR. By being flexible and down to hang, what I was saying is that I’m interested in having fun and a good time with cool people ad am not just looking to get laid. I am not outcome dependent and am able to go with the flow. So we went and joined the producers, who turned out to be a very hilarious group of guys.

After some great conversation, at 2 am when the hotel bar closed, one of the guys suggested we head to the pool to keep handing, and I said “the adventure continues”. We made our way to the pool and hopped the very short gate to it, as it was closed, and sat for a few minutes. Surely enough, security came and nicely asked us to leave, and at that point I told the guys my adventure time was done. I looked at Tori and said “We’ll I promised to ensure you get back to your room safely so I’ll walk you back and then bounce back to my hotel.” She agreed and then I walked her back up to her room. We got inside the room and she thanked me for a fantastic evening, to which I replied “That’s my specialty.” She then gave me a very long good bye hug, and then we strarted making out. About 5 minutes later, she was naked, i was just in my socks, but I was holding her up and having passionate sex with her against the wall, and then on the bed. We had a very long and passionate sex session, and one thing I will say is that girl can fuck. I’m talking about the 100 % pure passion, hot sweaty fucking that taps into your most primal instincts and makes you feel alive type of fucking. We had about 3 or so rounds before semi-passing out, exhausted and drenched in sweat and scent of sex. What a delightful place to be.

It was about 7 am and I needed to get back to my hotel to prepare for the next day of the trade show, so I got up, got my clothes on, and then sat on the side of the bed next to her fully naked body with a sheet very elegantly covering her.  She looked up at me and smiled in a way that only a genuinely feminine girl can smile. Now one thing that will level up our Game more than anything is being fully present in the moment. Enjoy the moment and relish it, because there will never be another one exactly like it and once the moment is gone, it’s gone forever. So as I sat on the side of the bed leaning over her, I looked deep into her green eyes and then spent a few seconds studying every last detail of her face. In that exact moment, she was the most beautiful woman in the world to me. She clearly picked up on this and got enveloped into the moment as she suddenly blushed and then said “What?” with a slight giggle. I just smirked, leaned in and gave her a passionate kiss. Then I stood up and said “I bid the fair well, ma lady.” I then turned towards the door and heard her say “Wait a moment.” I turned around and she said “Just one more thing before you leave.” So I walked over to the bed, figuring I’d give her another goodbye kiss, and then she quickly and very elegantly pulled my pants down, wrapped her lips around my cock, and then proceeded to passionately suck me off. Once I was finished, she looked up at me and said, “Now you’re good to go.”

I left the room and called an Uber to take my back to my hotel, and I got back to my room a little bit after 8 am. I needed a shower and so as I got ready I caught a glimpse of my back in the mirror and then noticed that is was covered in red marks from her nails, as if I had been mauled by a wolverine. I smiled to myself as I looked over the battle scars of victory, and then hoped in a refreshing and cleansing hot shower.

Takeaways

5. When traveling, the rules of Text Game are a little different. With travel text game, you need to remember that you have a time constraint and act with a sense of urgency. Don’t act thirsty, but also know that you have a limited time so you want to make he most of it. Your response window can be shortened for the sake of time and you’ll want to really focus on meetup logistics.

4. Be in the moment. So many times guys get wrapped up in getting laid that they completely overlook the present moment. How can a girl fully experience who you are and connect with you if you aren’t fully there? As the Jedi saying goes, “Be mindful of the future, but not at the expense of the present.” So take your time and enjoy the present moment. Relish it. Be fully present and involved in it, and see where it takes you. Enjoy the process of seduction, for in the process is the art and a whole lot of fun.

3. Use your energy to draw people into your Frame. Whether you are a high energy person or a more calm and reserved person, learning how to draw people in with your energy is paramount to your Game success. If you’re a high energy person, leverage that to generate momentum and excitement that makes it easy for other people to get swept up in. If you’re reserved, use your presence to slow things down and create a sense of intimacy. Whatever your forte, utilize it to extend your Frame and you’ll see wonder happen with your results. In this case, my energy was looking for adventure, and so exploring a cool place in a new city was my mission and Tori was along for that ride.

2. Be open to seeing where the adventure takes you. This leads back to being in the moment, but it’s a point that I can’t stress enough. It’s great to have an end goal in mind, but don’t railroad an encounter to get to that destination, because you’ll find more often than not that you’ll get there alone. Instead, detach yourself from the outcome and see what the situation brings you. going out to meet girls is like a conversation, you have a place where you start and you know where you want to wind up, but you never know what topics will be presented (girl’s you’ll meet) or what opportunities will arise. So be open letting opportunities present themselves and if necessary you can create your own opportunities, but do so within the flow as opposed to trying to steamroll everything to your will. In this case, going from the bar back to her hotel and then hanging with the producers and then breaking into the pool made the night a very memorable one. Was my hotel way closer? Absolutely, but by focusing on having fun in the moment it allowed my connection with Tori to build on a deeper level which culminated in an explosive sex session.

1. Midwest girls are unbeatable when it comes to sexual customer service.  If you need more proof, you can discover how I became known as “The Muffin Man.”

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Cheers.

Look Sharp

Dirty Laundry

Dirty Laundry

“The secret of the creative life is how to feel at ease with your own embarrassment. We’re all in the dirty laundry business and we’re being paid to take risks and look silly. Race car drivers get paid to risk their lives in a more concrete way; we get paid to risk our lives in an emotional way.” – Paul Schrader

One of the most challenging things to deal with in life, especially in the dating game is with your past. Specifically things that embarrass you or may not put you in the best light. We all have these skeletons, be it a picture taken while drunk and passed out or that time you got caught having sex with the neighbor’s daughter in her car. So how do you deal with your personal dirty laundry?

3. Prevention is the best cure. First things first, is making wise decisions. If you find yourself at a party with people acting crazy and committing arson, then it might not be the wisest idea to be on video in your friend’s snap story yelling “burn it!” at the top of your lungs. A side effect of the internet age is that once things are out there, the are out there. So be smart with how you conduct yourself. I’m not saying don’t go out and have a good time, but just be conscious of the day and age we’re in. One thing you do could wind up all over the web.

2. Own it. What’s past has past, you can’t take it back. So the only thing you can do is own it and move on. When you attempt to bury it, lie about it, or run away from it, somehow it always manages to catch up with you. I’m not saying you should highlight it or lead off with it, but if it does come up, the way to handle it is to take ownership of it.

Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armour yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you. – Tyrion Lannister

1. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. Building on the second point of owning your past, you have to own it but that doesn’t mean that you have owe every a long, heartfelt sob story on how you where young and dumb.  You can be honest about your past in the sense of “yes that happened,” and you can leave it at that. Frankly most people don’t care and also trying to explain the past gives them ammo to be used against you in the future. I have plenty of things from my past that I have to own, like being very Blue Pill, being in debt and being homeless. Your past refines you, not defines you. So use it as fuel to drive your life in a positive direction. So should you find yourself confronted by the dirty laundry of your past, take ownership of it and let it be known that while you’re not proud of it, it is a par of your story and you’ve grown as a person and moved on from it.

Cheers.

Ass

5 Reasons to Have Female Friends

Female Friends

“I think there’s something to the old saying that women use sex to get love, and men use love to get sex. And love is really just a word we use to describe a close bond, or relationship, between two people. Men have been programmed to want sex, so they do whatever is necessary to be in a relationship with a woman. And a woman is programmed to want the stability and (financial) security of a relationship, so she offers the man what he wants: sex.” ― Oliver Markus, Why Men And Women Can’t Be Friends

The topic of female friends is always an interesting debate within the Red Pill community. Some say never have them, others say it’s ok to have one or two. Personally, I find this topic to be pretty interesting and I have my own thoughts on the subject. As a Red Pill man I think it’s essential to have a core group of Red Pill (or close to it) male friends. As for female friends,  I think it’s not only possible but it’s important to have them as well. Below are my top 5 reasons why:

5. They provide first-hand validation of Red Pill truths. Once you become Red-Pill aware, you can’t unsee the truths it holds. This will be extremely evident in all of your relationships, especially those with pre-existing female friends. But, what this does allow is for you to go “go behind enemy lines” so to speak, in that you get a first hand view into confirming these truths for yourself. Suddenly, things you used to take at face value you can suddenly see the mechanisms behind the words or action, especially when your female friends discuss dating.  It’s always good to get a live reminder of how women operate so that way you can see just how Blue Pill men get used by women, but also frustrate women at the same time. You also get to see confirmations of how Alpha and Red Pill men are perceived and treated and these first hand observations confirm things in ways far more meaningfully than a forum post. So to sum it up, having female friends is a great way to get field confirmation of Red Pill truths so you can better understand them, learn about them, and then apply them for your own means.

4. They can be great bait. Female friends, especially attractive ones, are excellent bait, in the sense that they are perfect for arousing the curiosity of other females. Once you learn mastery over not being phased by a woman’s beauty and you adopt the abundance mentality, then being friends with attractive women is very easy. And an unintended perk of that is if you invite these female friends out to a fun venue, say a bar, club, event or even just the park; all other females in the vicinity will be instantly curious. I’ve been approached by many women when I am out with a female friend or several, and the first thing they want to know if “what’s your situation?” Having attractive female friends creates a rudimentary form of social proof. And when it comes to nightlife it makes the relationship very symbiotic, in that your female friends get to enjoy your presence and check out cool places, and you get to have instant social proof you can leverage to pickup other girls. Now remember your Red Pill principals, on having strong Frame will allow you to fully maximize this. If you’re that guy that’s with a bunch of female friends but you have no Frame and project a Beta vibe, then you’re going to be perceived as a girlfriend yourself. So the 2 big things to remember are keep your Frame strong and the more attractive your friends are, the better it the situation will be for you.

3. They can keep your plates in check. Another perk that female friends can provide, especially very attractive ones, is that they can keep your plates in check. We’ve all been in that situation where a plate gets a little too comfortable and starts trying up the shit test ante. Having solid Frame keeps that in check, but also doing a hangout with a plate and an attractive female friend works effectively in creating that sense of light dread. It’s a very live reminder of “I’m a man who keeps the company of attractive women, so I don’t need you as my sole source company.” Girls are very competitive, so playing that nature against itself works very effectively in your favor. And if you’re still a little Blue Pill and think that this is somehow morally manipulative, you need to understand that women are naturally far better players than men and are playing their own game. So you either need to be superior at your own game or find yourself trapped within the confines of her game.

2. They can be friends with benefits. If you have your Frame in check and are a high value man, then you’d be amazed at what situations you can create for yourself. Friends with benefits is always a great situation to have, and in order to have that situation, you need to first be friends. If you stick to your Red Pill principals and work an developing yourself and your Frame, then you’ll be able to foster these situations much more frequently at your discretion. The more experience you have the women, the better you’ll be with them, to them and for them.

1. It’s just good networking. One of my favorite quotes is “Life is a contact sport. The more people you contact, the better you’ll do. Having female friends is good networking, as with any friend it can lead to other romantic pursuits with other friends they have, experiences at at events, or even career opportunities. The key is to ensure that if you’re going to have a friendship, with anyone, they are a person of good character that adds value to your life, just like you will add value to theirs. Everything I listed above only works if you are a man of value who provides some type of value. If you’re just looking to be a leech or a taker without giving anything in return, then you need to do some seriously self evaluation and turn that ship around.

All in all having female friends can provide many perks and also helps give a balanced perspective on life. Remember, the purpose of the Red Pill isn’t to hate women or be anti women, it’s to help men better understand them so we can be the “men who other women want to fuck, and other men want to be.” If you hate women, then you’ve completely missed the point.

Thinking Man

Going The Distance: Strategy For Dating At A Long(ish) Distance

“Whoever coined the term “absence makes a heart grow fonder,” was an idiot. Absence makes a bitch grow crazy.” – Toni Aleo

I’m not a fan or real believer in long distance relationships. For an LTR, it creates a lot of unnecessary problems and stress. However, if you’re casually dating or have a hook up buddy situation, than the long distance can be a huge plus. For this post, I’ll be touching on a helpful strategy to foster and manage dating from a long(ish) distance.

To start, I will say that for purposes of this strategy, long(ish) distance is anyone that lives 30 or more miles away from you, or usually lives about an hour and half of travel time from you. In the dating scene, distance plays a factor. Usually a good 5-20 mile radius is ideal because that makes logistics much simpler with shorter travel times and convenience of venues located close to your house or their’s. When you get beyond that, you start getting into issues of logistics and time that usually force your hand to find a place that is either in your neighborhood or in hers. So what is a good way to manage this?

For a first date / hang session, I almost always find a venue in her neighborhood and will go pick her up. This allows me to maintain Frame as I am responsible for transportation as well as putting within close proximity to her place if things go very well. Also, unless a girl is making it really clear that she is super into you, it’s much easier to go to her side of town for the first encounter because she’s putting less investment in initially by you coming to her (when a girls lives relatively close to me, I usually do the inverse in that I almost always have them come to me on the first encounter). But this is your chance to show off how awesome you are and to get her to enticed into your Frame. You’re giving her a strong reason to come to your side of town for the next date / hangout. Remember, girls live in a time where they have more access to men than they know what to do with, so you need to give her a worthwhile reason to drive and hour or more in traffic to come see you when she could easily swipe right on a guy that lives 3 blocks away on her phone. Be the man worth the effort and you’ll be surprised by what girls will do to be with you. I once went out with a girl that did not have a car (this was the pre-Uber days) and lived on the other side of town from me and for our second date she took 3 buses and train, in LA, which is not known for it’s efficient public transportation to get to me, she was that into me. I’ve also had another girl that lived an hour away from me have car trouble so she borrowed her aunt’s car to drive to me rather than me driving to her. Be a man worth the effort.

After you’ve shown that you’re a man of value and are worth going the distance for, the second encounter you should have her meet at your place and then you take her out from there. This allows you to bring her into your world and show off your home court advantage with local venues that you know of. Also, you’ll have to end up back at your place, which makes it more convenient for her to spend the night. I’ve dated a lot of girls that lived 30 – 70 miles away from me and this formula works extremely well, especially as once the Frame has been established, usually 8 out 10 dates involve them coming to my side of town in exchange for me going to their side of town 1 or 2 out of 10 times. This is especially effective with girls that are living with roommates or that are living with family. Your world can be an exciting escape from their reality for them.

Another benefit of this arrangement is that if you’re seeing multiple people, it’s easier to schedule them to come see you and you can also schedule multiple dates in the same day with people who live in the same direction. Once I did a “double day” by seeing a girl in Oceanside, which is easily an hour and half outside of Los Angeles in the afternoon and then saw another girl that I hooked up with that night down in San Diego. The logistics worked at very well and made the 120 mile drive down to San Diego very worth while as I was able to make a stop en route for a date in Oceanside, which is 35 miles north of San Diego. Killing 2 birds with 1 stone as they say. Another perk is that you have a drastically reduced chance of bumping into one of your longer distance prospects while out with a local girl, and it helps keep your plates that you’re spinning separate.

I will stress that all of this works based on the fact that you have your Frame in check. If you don’t then you’ll come off as that Beta guy that’s really “nice.” Only having that Alpha swag will make her desire to make the trip. The real question you have to ask is how much effort are you willing to put in. If you don’t want to bother, not to worry, go out and meet more people that are closer to you. But if you have a warm lead and the only thing standing in the way is distance, then this might be a solid option to consider. I have found with long(ish) distance dating, by putting in a little bit more effort upfront I can then have an easier situation that requires an extremely small amount of work to maintain. I do enjoy making the effort on the first encounter, as I usually get to know and scout a new area out for future reference (you never know when it will come in handy). So if you meet someone that you’re into and are trying to figure out out how logistics can work, try this formula out for yourself. It’s especially useful for you guys in towns that are small and far from a lot of action, so you most likely are making a bit of a trek to go beyond the local watering holes anyways. See if your prospects can go the distance.

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Predatory Efficiency

Fierce Tiger

“He was a killer, a thing that preyed, living on the things that lived, unaided, alone, by virtue of his own strength and prowess, surviving triumphantly in a hostile environment where only the strong survive.” ― The Call of the Wild,  Jack London

I don’t watch any TV as I plain and simply don’t have the time for it, but every now and again I might watch a few episodes of something educational or inspiring. Recently, I watched a fantastic series call The Hunt, which you can stream on Netflix. Aside from being beautifully shot with an Oscar-worthy soundtrack, this series takes a harsh look at being a predator in the wild and how harsh the natural world can be.

What I also gleamed from this series where a lot of parallels between predators in the wild and what we as men must face in the world of Game. Below are some observational parallels inspired by this series, since as men, when it comes to dating we are the hunters:

4. Failure is an essential part of the Game. One of the biggest themes in this series is failure and how there is no getting around it, it’s a part of life. Predators in the wild have an extremely high failure rate, with stats around 1 in 7 to 1 in 10 hunts actually being successful. This is true with Game as well.

Game is not about never failing or or getting rejected, it’s actually about going out there and facing that rejection. A season player will actually get rejected more than a timid one, and that’s fine because he’s creating more opportunities for success by doing more approaches. Life is a contact sport, the more people you contact, the better you’ll do. So play the numbers. If your success rate is 1 in 10, and you only ever make 10 approaches, then you’re only ever going to be successful once. But if you make 100 approaches, then your success rate may stay the same but you will have 10 success under you belt because you did more work. It’s a learning process, so the more you get out there and get experience, the more you learn what works for you and more your success rate will improve. No one will ever be at 100%, but if you can go from 10% successful to 15%, that’s a big improvement. And eventually you can build on that to get your success rate even higher. This leads to observation number 2…

3. Persistence is key to success and survival. In the wild, predators fail much more than they succeed, yet they persist on. Why? If they don’t they will die. Their very survival depends on it. Predators are the most persistent group of animals because they have to continually push themselves in order to be successful. It doesn’t matter if they haven’t eaten in weeks, if they are facing prey that is bigger than them or that half the things they hunt could injure or kill them. They have to be fearless, bold, and persistent to be successful and survive.

The same is especially true with Game. If you only make a few approaches a month, get rejected and stop approaching, guess what? You’re not to going to find any success or change your situation. With Game you have to be persistent in order to be successful. Lie a tiger in the jungle, the fate of your night is up to you. Will you go out and find a girl to have sex with? Will you have a fun time regardless? Or will you skulk at home because it’s “too hard?” The choice is yours. Choose wisely.

2. Predators are efficient. A Cheetah does not sprint at max speed every chance it gets, not does it waste energy running and leaping for no reason. Predators conserve their energy at all costs, because once it’s spent, there’s no guarantee of success so they may be successful and in turn be able to recoup that energy quickly. Hence why predator spend most of their hunting time utilize stealth so they can get withing striking distance. Once there, they unleash their full might in a high risk high reward explosion of force that gives them the absolute best chance of success.

When out in the field Gaming, you must become efficient as well. If you’re a clever smooth talker, make that work for you instead of trying to be the loud, over the top comedian. If you’re the loud, over the top comedian, than play that to your advantage and don’t waste your energy trying to be the technical philosopher. Now don’t be afraid to experiment with different styles depending on the situation, but ultimately you know what works best for you and what doesn’t work best.

Also, be efficient with your resources. Your money, energy, attention, and especially your time. If you’re catching a hint that a girl is wasting or eating up too much of any of these, then NEXT her and move on, it’s not efficient for your success rate to waste needlessly. It’s better to spend more of those or much stronger leads than trying to play the “if I can convince her game,” which is always a losing game since if you even do manage to “win,” you’ve dumped more resources than you know you should have so you still don’t come out ahead.

1. Predators have rock-solid focus. When predator are in stealth mode and getting withing striking distance, pay very close attention to their entire bodies. I love how the way every last inch of a predator locks into an aggressive, spring-loaded stance as they prepare to unleash murderous force up their prey. It starts from their head and eyes and all other parts of their bodies shift to channel all their energy to that single focal point, like a sniper locking a round into the chamber and focusing the scope on the rifle. And once a predator makes the leap into the kill zone, as prey dodges and changes directions, predators heads and eyes remain locked entirely on their prey, never losing sight or focus of their target, while their body makes automated adjustments to keep the predator on track.

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This is a critical takeaway for Game, as once you get in that “kill zone” state where you can escalate things sexually (in a consensual way, of course), you have to utilize that focus to enhance your presence and maximize the moment. When you keep your focus, it’s amazing how your body language and Frame will subconsciously lock into place to work for you and not against you. This will help you conquer shit tests, deal with cock blocks and increase the vibe that you’re a man on a mission.

That does it for this post, but I hope some of these takeaways help you in the field. Happy hunting.

Hawk

 

Gay Club Game For Straight Guys

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“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” –  Neale Donald Walsch

In my experience, a very underrated area for a single straight guy to go meet women is at a gay club. I’ve gone with my gay male friends before just hang and have a good time, and I’ve found that being a straight guy you game gets an amplified boost. With halfway decent game your efforts get an amplified effect, so I’ve broken down a few reasons why below. Now note that these observations apply to straight men and straight women.

4. You’re open minded and know how to have fun.

A lot of straight guys get hung up on the “gay” part of the gay club. Either they don’t feel comfortable, it’s not something they wish to be associated with, or there is a host of other reasons. But in any case, by virtue of you being at a gay club signals that you’re open minded and down for a good time. The message you’re translating is that you’re a man comfortable enough with his own sexuality to be in a place that would seem to put you outside of your comfort zone. Use this frame to set the tone for your night.

3. In an ocean of unattainable guys, you are a beacon of attainability.

Why do straight girls go gay clubs? So they can look at hot guys while dancing, having fun and not worrying about anyone hitting on them. They can do a little window shopping, like when people look at homes or cars they can’t afford yet. They want to get a little taste of the dream. That being said, when you have women that are looking at a bunch of attractive men that they know they have no real chance with, but then you come along to and show them that they don’t have to stick to window shopping that night. It’s not always the most shredded 6-pack abs covered in baby oil type guy that gets the girl…sometimes it’s the most attainable guy, who you know, likes girls. Which leads to point #3…

2. Your competition is minimal

This should be self explanatory but I’ll mention this point to reinforce point #3. In a sea of sharks that only want to eat other sharks, this leaves ample amounts of tuna for a shark that wants tuna to eat. Translating that to the gay club, you’ll find that other dudes trying to cockblock or AMOG you with other girls is minimal. At regular clubs you have to deal with those distractions more regularly, but at the gay club you’ll find that other dudes hitting on you will distract you more than other guys trying to compete for the girl you’re going after. The script is flipped, in which girls now have other guys competing to get you, so play with that competitive advantage a little.

1. The environment is a massive wingman

All the prior points outline the fundamental message I want to drive home: The entire place, though not intended to, actually acts as a facilitator and amplifier for your game. Another big help is that gay clubs, in typical guy fashion, are very overt and charged with sexual energy. The entire environment is a giant social Viagra that is designed to get people excited, amped up and turned on. So when you have women entering this sexually supercharged zone with no outlet for it, your job is made a whole lot easier. Do you still need to put in work? Yes, because unless you’re like Leonardo DiCaprio, chances are you can’t just show up and get swarmed by girls (and guys alike). So yes, you will need your game skills but you’ll find they have an amplified effect.

That’s all for this post, so get out there and take over the world gents.

 

The Lesbian

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“I’m in lesbians with you” – Scott Pilgrim, Scott Pilgrim Vs. The World

When you have many experiences with women, you will get some interesting situations and have some interesting conversations. You’ll also get shit tested in some interesting and unique ways and this story is about one of the most interesting shit tests I have ever received.

I was at an alumni event at my old college when I had met this 23 year old Latina. She’s a very cute, petite girl with a great figure and sexy eyes. I had given her my business card when we met since the setting was more professional at the event. She texted me later that night saying it was great to meet me. A week later I hit her up about hanging out, to which she responded with:

“Wait, are you asking me out? I’m pretty dense about that kinda of stuff”

My response was “I didn’t realize “hangout” was such a loaded term.”

I can already get a sense that this girl might be the the type to shit test a lot, so I decided to play it very casual and ambiguous to see where this would go. After a few other texts, we setup a time to meet up for hang out a few days later. Now since this was a first encounter and based on the texting there seemed like a lot of shit testing was going to be involved, I decided it would be best to meet on the early side, around 7 pm so that way I could go over for a Netflix and chill session after with another girl that I’ve hooked up with before who also lives in the area around 9:30.

I told the Latina to met up at a lounge I like and I get there about 2 minutes before her. We get seated at a table in a good spot in the lounge, which lets us see out onto the street and makes for great people watching. We exchange a little small talk about how her week went and then about 3 minutes into the conversation I get hit with a shit test that’s way out of left field. She perks up, looks me directly in the eyes and says:

“Just so you know, I’m a lesbian.”

Straight out of left field. No warning, just right into it. I knew this was a pivotal shit test moment, where right off the bat I was being thrown towards the fire to see if I would flinch. In my head I laughed a bit because based on all of the back and forth that led to this meeting, I wasn’t buying it at all. I also had not been hit with this exact shit test out of the blue before either, which was partly entertaining and partly exciting as it represented a new challenge. Without skipping a beat I casually replied:

“That’s awesome.”

She looked a bit surprised at my response. I delivered my response while maintaining my relaxed yet commanding posture, and the tone of my voice was casual. Then I followed up with: “I love me some lesbians.”

She paused for a minute, as her hamster tried to process my responses. She then went on a little bit about her family and how she’s never had a boyfriend. The conversation continued with her doing 90% of the talking, and I could tell based on how I handled the shit test, she was now trying to qualify herself to me. We where talking for another 10 or so minutes when she asked me a question:

“What are you doing after this?”

I believe honesty is the best armor you can have, it keeps you free and also can be a great way to show off an IDGAF attitude when used strategically. Since I had been hit with big shit test out of left field, I decided to throw out one of my own, to see how she reacted to it:

“I’m going to see another girl.”

She had this completely shocked look on her face and instantly asked “What do you mean?”

I replied, “It’ll probably be a Netflix and chill situation. We have a thing that when I see her I’m with her, but when I don’t, I’m not.” I could see the hamster going into overdrive in her head as she was contemplating this news I had relayed. I just sat comfortably while holding eye contact and smirking. My posture was saying “This is the deal, are you with it or not?” She then asked me a few questions about my past relationships, to which I replied that I like to keep things very open so I can experience as many people as possible. She continued on about her thoughts on relationships as we finished our drinks.

About 20 minutes later we wrapped up at the lounge and I took for for a stroll around the down town area. Part of the stroll included a stop at an adult shop. While we were in there she asked me if I had a “Christian Grey Room,” to which I replied “Every room I enter is a Christian Grey room.” I could see a little twinkle in her eye as her hamster began spinning on the implications of what I had said.

After the sex shop I took her to the outside patio of a cigar lounge and we sat there for a bit, discussing random things. We began making out for a bit and then I checked the time. It was 9:15 so it was time to go see my Netflix and chill girl. We said our goodbyes and and she said that we should hang again, which I causally agreed would be cool. That was the start of a very fun situation, in which a week later I’d discover she was a squirter in the back of my car, as well as how to utilize Frame to keep things as a casual hook up for the past 7 months now.

Takeaways:

1. Women will shit test you all the time and in ways you’ll never expect. Always be on your top game and always be ready. You never know exactly how these test will come, but they are coming. Usually the more insecure the girl, the more shit tests you will face. Know who you’re dealing with so you have can anticipate what you’ll have to deal with.

2. Hold Frame. I’ve said it many times before, but Frame is absolutely critical. Without it, I would have been crucified by her shit test. But with it, I was able to work the situation to my advantage.

3. Honesty will set you free. Using strategic honesty, you can be free to be yourself while seeing if she’s down to enter your world and come along for the ride, or if she will fight you tooth and nail every step of the way. By flat out telling this Latina that I was seeing another girl after her, I was free to let her know that I have options and if she is on board with entering my world she’s welcome, if not, she can go her own way and I’ll be fine. It also gives me the freedom to see multiple people without having to feel like I’m sneaking around behind everyone’s back because I’m out in the open with what the situation is. Obviously you don’t need to blab the full truth of your family life or other things, but being honest about what you want and who you are at the right times will work in your favor far more than trying to hide it.

4. Use your own shit tests. For guys we typically call this screening, but don’t be afraid to use some shit tests of your own. This does 2 things. 1) It flips the script and makes YOU the prize, not the guy chasing after her affections. 2) This is a way to qualify how well into your Frame she’ll come into and well as give you better insight into who she is as person. Is she a chill, go with the flow type? Or she the type that has a snarky negative comment about everything? Just as girls use shit tests to expose if a guy is Alpha or not, you need to use shit tests to see if any girl you are with is the type of girl you want to be with.

5. Work the hamster. A girl’s imagination is the most powerful thing you can play with and utilize. Work it often and work it well. Let her imagination take her to a conclusion you lead her to. Too many times guys are just matter-o-factly about things which leaves no room for imagination. Do you want to drive a girl wild with passion and desire? Do you want her to get wet at the thought of a spontaneous encounter of intimacy between you two? Then learn how to use innuendo, flirting, and ambiguity to get her imagination working. If you don’t, you’ll find the girls you go out with will be dryer than the Sahara desert during a drought. In this example, I used these things to keep her hamster constantly going so that by the time our 2nd encounter happened, we where going at it in the back of my car in an alleyway close to her house.

If I’ve given you some good takeaways you can use while entertaining you, then my goal is complete. Go out there and conquer the world friends.

Gentleman

Recommended Reads

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“Reading is to the mind what exercise is to the body.” – Joseph Addison

Part of every man’s journey is a search for knowledge. Below are a list of books that I have read that I would highly recommend you check out. Some you may have read, others you have never heard of, but these books I’ve found to be great sources of inspiration and insight. I’m in no way affiliated with any of the authors, these are books I enjoy and would encourage others to read.

The Rational Male – Rollo Tomassi

A book that easily is top 3 in essential reading for any man, this masterpiece by Rollo Tomassi lays out an introduction to intersexual dynamics, known as the Red Pill. Be sure to checkout his blog at The Rational Male for much, much more thought provoking topics.

The Millionaire Fastlane – MJ DeMarco

This book is a masterpiece for anyone and everyone, especially people interested in entrepreneurship. It lays out the stakes of the game we’re all living in and explains the pathways we each face. A brilliant read filled with brilliant insight.

The Art of War – Sun Tzu

A short but insightful read, this book has stood the test of time. It’s a great thinker and will help with approaching the many daily battles we face in life.

Capture Your Career – King Bless

A short and great read, this book is about focusing your mindset to maximize your professional goals. Be sure to checkout King Bless’ blog as well.

The Like Switch – Jack Schafer

Another thought-provoking read, this book breaks down the science behind interactions and how to use them. There is a little bit of Blue Pill rhetoric towards the end, but still, the overall book is a great read.

So What? – Mark Magnacca

This book is short and content-rich. It asks an essential question around framing how we talk and in most cases try to sell to people which is: So What? What we say is not always of value, but understanding who we are talking to so we can frame our words to have the best impact is the core of what this book addresses.

Study up.

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Your Frame Is Your Life

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“This weapon is your life” – Obi-Wan Kenobi

For today’s post, I will be outlining my take on the importance of Frame. Frame is a word that is thrown around a lot and I am sure many of you are aware of the basic concept: Frame is personal frame, and is the realm or “frame” of the person people are operating in. For some great articles on frame you can check here and here.

To relate the concept of frame in terms that are themed by my name sake, Frame, especially for guys, is like a Jedi’s lightsaber. One must use discipline, concentration and focus to construct it. Once constructed it once must learn how to properly wield it and finally, one must have it with them at all times and never lose it.

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Constructing Frame

In order to construct your Frame, first you need to exercise some discipline and be able to take a cold, hard look at yourself. Check your ego at the door and really think on and examine all of your interactions with people and in all of your relationships. Are you constantly apologizing to people, or feeling like you never get your way? Are you running the show in your professional life but find yourself always getting the short end of the stick in your family and romantic life? These are the honest questions that need addressing so you know where to begin. Everyone is different and will have different starting points. Some people have strong frame in their professional lives but not in their personal ones, vice versa, or weak frame in all areas of their life, and vice versa. That’s all fine, it’s a starting point and checking your ego helps you see things as they really are, not how you want them to be.

After taking a solid look inward you’ll instinctively know which areas your frame is naturally strong in, and which areas require some attention. Let me be clear; Frame is not about getting your way 100% of the time. There are times when you need to do things you don’t want to do, like say for example you get pulled over for a speeding ticket. Getting your way is continuing to drive off. You could do that, but then you’ll wind up making the situation worse for yourself with ensuing police pursuit. Pulling over to get the ticket is not weak Frame, it is acknowledgment of the fact that there are other social forces at work that you adhering too. But I digress. When you have an idea of where your Frame finds its natural strength, you’ll want to focus on what is working for you in that situation. For example, if you have strong frame in your personal relationships, and you discover that a lot of people find you to be funny, honest and confident, use those as templates to transfer to the areas you are weak in. Humor, honesty and confidence can go a long way in the professional and especially the romantic realm. These are examples, as I am sure you will discover you own. Now that you have a basic framework, it’s time to start making your Frame work (you see what I did there?).

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Wielding Frame

Frame is a tool and a very essential tool at that. But it requires knowledge on how to properly exercise it. The reality is most men in today’s society don’t have any frame or just don’t utilize it. They let complacency keep them from doing what they want all the while suffering in silence because they’ve been taught it’s always about everyone else and not themselves. I’m not advocating everyone become selfish assholes over night, but I am saying that exercising Frame will see a lot more people find satisfaction in life instead of being treated like doormats.

The best way to wield Frame is to first get in the habit of sensing Frame. If you’ve already started paying attention to your interactions, then you’ll pick up very quickly when you have Frame and when you don’t. If you don’t know if you have Frame in a situation or not, then guess what, you don’t have it. And as I mentioned earlier, Frame is getting what you want 100% and you will not have Frame in every situation. That’s ok. The important thing at this stage is to be aware of Frame and how it may shift so you can stay ahead of the curve, so to speak. You’ll learn about areas in which you compromise yourself too much, as well as which areas you can use your Frame to get more accomplished with. Applying this to romantic interactions, paying attention to this is critical. Having this skill with make shit tests very apparent and you’ll be able to pass them with ease. You’ll also pinpoint other areas where you might trip up, like say you’re great at one night stands but can’t seem to figure out how to get that third date locked in. Knowing where you compromise your Frame helps you keep yourself in check as well as makes you more aware of how your Frame effects others. It can be a powerful impact and one of the largest things with Frame is knowing what you want from every interaction. It doesn’t always have to be very specific, like “get sex” or “tell four elephant jokes.” But when you are involved in any interaction, you should have a vague goal in mind, be it to have a good time, de-stress, or to be intimate. But being indecisive and aimless is the easiest way to lose Frame. Taking control starts with your mindset.

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Keeping Frame

Now that you’ve analyzed your Frame, your mindset and are making it a habit to exercise your Frame, we come to the most important aspect: Keeping it. The simplest and best way to hold and keep Frame is to adopt one simple mindset: I come first. This seemingly selfish mindset is the key to holding Frame, because what it means is that you understand a simple truth: Only you can live your life and no one else can live it for you; you must live with the consequences of your choices whether they be good or bad.

With the I Come First mindset, you are prioritizing your needs in every situation. Sometimes what you want isn’t always in your best interest and you’re fully aware. Like say for example you want to go out drinking at night with your friends but tomorrow morning you have a huge presentation and you need to bring your A game. While going drinking is what you want to do, you realize that it is not in your best interest long-term if you have a hangover during your presentation. So despite your friends pleading to have their drinking buddy join them, your hold the Frame of “I have an important presentation I need to be sharp for” so you stay in and get a good night’s rest instead. I am sure you can think of your own examples, but the point is that you need to do what you feel is in your best interests first and foremost. If you have a hangover in the example above, your friends are not going to make the presentation for you, nor will they bare the consequences if you totally tank it. On the flip side, they aren’t going to to get the raise/promotion/good grade from your presentation, you will. You have to deal with the consequences in your own life, so make sure you are acting in what’s best for your own Frame.

In the romantic sense, many guys don’t have or completely lose their Frame with women because they fail to keep the I Come First mentality. They make it She Comes First and do everything in the book to appease her, only to find themselves frustrated and drawing spite from their romantic interests rather than appreciation and respect. How many stories are there of guys who had no Frame or completely lost it that find their lives have turned into nightmares? Jobs lost, friendships ruined and families destroyed because men couldn’t keep themselves or their houses in order? Your Frame is your responsibility and your life. Take care not to lose it.

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