The Game Grind

Lifting

“Everybody wants to be famous, but nobody wants to do the work. I live by that. You grind hard so you can play hard. At the end of the day, you put all the work in, and eventually it’ll pay off. It could be in a year, it could be in 30 years. Eventually, your hard work will pay off.” – Kevin Hart

One of the often glossed over parts of Game is the Game Grind, which is the process of refining and developing one’s Game. It’s very easy to see folks like Rollo, Goldmund or Christian McQueen and forget that they all had journey’s they started long before any of us ever heard of them. Many will talk about how amazing and easy Game is for them now, but they’ll gloss over all the hard parts of getting to that present point. I myself know this very well.

My background story is pretty funny looking back on it now, but during the time before and just starting to come to awareness it’s pretty wild to see myself now compared to how I was back then. I used to be a Blue Pill as they came, for some of the usual reasons and for some other reasons as well. I’ll detail more about this on a post later, but my father was pretty Blue Pill and we had a lot of tensions and headbutting as my parents went through a divorce when I was a teenager. Determined “not to be just like him” I pushed myself deep into the Blue Pill side of spectrum. I never went White night, but I got pretty close to that point.

I always had a bit of a Red Pill side that would come out in “flashes,” which to my Blue Pill self was too much a reminder of some traits of my Dad I wasn’t fond of at the time, so suppression was my natural way of coping with it. My experiences with women where so Blue Pill dipped I could write a book on it. Writing poems (oh yes, that happened), being the shoulder to cry on, placing the needs of women and telling myself that “I’m a relationship guy” led to a string of disastrous experiences that proved to be extremely fruitless and wasted effort. I had a few successes sprinkled in there, but each time was during a “flash” of my cocky bastard (Red Pill) side.

After some time I began to notice this discrepancy between what I was saying and thinking vs what actually worked when it came to women. Noticing this, I began experimenting more and more with what was working, and them came across rather simultaneously Rollo Tomassi and Christian McQueen’s blogs. From there is was game over as I fully dove into the Red Pill and rapidly absorbed as much as I could. Over the next 4 years, I’m at the point that I am at today which is light years ahead of where I was.

That’s a high-level view of my story, but the bigger point I want to make is that every man has to start somewhere in his journey and if you’re just starting our or decades in, you still have to grind and refine your game. Starting out getting a phone number was a huge deal and maybe getting a kiss was the highlight of my month. Fast forward after many years of trial, error, learning and refinement, I can get a one night stand or same day bang while doubling the contacts in my phone book. I’m not trying to brag or stoke my ego by saying how great I am. What I’m getting at is that where I am today is the result of many years of grinding and learning after being frustrated with where I was. And like many of you, it’s going back on memory lane is funny now, despite the fact that it was a nightmare to experience back then.

One of the biggest things that gave me the shock to the system I needed was losing my virginity to my “dream girl.” I was raised pretty religiously so it I was 26 when I lost my virginity, though I had done everything up to that point but stick it in. I’d gotten blowjobs, finger-banged girls and played with boobs before then, so I had some experience, but I always stopped myself before going too far. But when I was 26 I finally hooked up with this girl that I had met when i was 25 and I had thought she was so special and unique, all of which where complete pedestal-level views of who she really was, which I saw a little bit too but overlooked because I saw the potential of the situation. Fast forward a year later when she’s out my house and basically just giving it away, when I was having sex with her I experienced one of the most empty experiences I’ve ever had, and the kicker is part of me knew that’s how it would be going in. I may detail the experience in a later post, because it’s a story almost too crazy to believe (I’ll just say it was really spiritual in a good and bad way).

After that experience it was another year before I had sex again, but the second time was a much different scenario and mental place, and I give this experience the credit for my desire to learn that sent me on my Red Pill Quest. I was at a club to celebrate a birthday of a friend of mine that I had known for a few years. She and I had a mutual friend so we’d hung out a quite a few times over the years but I always just thought of her as a friend, even though she was a pretty cute, tall blonde that had some of the same interests as me. Anyways, it was her birthday and she was wearing a sexy lack dress and so we went out on the dance floor. While dancing with her I had a thought of “I bet I could make out with her right now” that popped into my head, and so I went with it and we started making out. We eventually wound up back at her friend’s place since she lived on the other side of town but he lived in West Hollywood, which was close to the club, since she already made arrangements to crash at his place.

Her friend (a guy), her and me get back to his place and he has a small 1 bed room apartment. after 5 minutes of conversation, this guy pulls one of the greatest moves in bro-code history and says “We’ll I’m tried so I’m going to pass out.” He then “passes out” on his couch in the living room. I take the birthday girl into his bedroom, shut the door, toss her on the bed, and proceed to have some great birthday sex until the following morning. That expedience was made possible by following my budding Red Pill instinct as well as a little Bang-It-Forward help from her friend, but that’s where the journey started for me.

If you think it was all flowers, roses, and quick bangs you’d be terribly mistaken. The following years were filled with missed opportunities, bad Blue Pill habits that sabotaged me and flat out hardcore rejections from many girls. But I persisted on and now I’m at a point where my Red Pill knowledge and Game are in harmony. But am I resting on my laurels? Hell no. Why? Because there’s always something to learn and there’s always room to improve. Even today I get rejected, learn a new technique and find new experiences I hadn’t had before (Like going on a date to place that turned out to be a swingers club). The grind continues but I find joy in it because it makes me better and as helped me to help others. Yes, there are some nights where I am on fire and can do no wrong. And then there are nights where I am off and literally cannot buy a phone number. No matter how good you get you will never be 100% all the time. But by keeping the grind going, you can improve your consistency to get it as high as you can and you can see how far you have come along in your journey when you look back. I’ll always be grateful to the Rep Pill for giving me the tool set and vision to understand the nature of relationships, which has given me the freedom to navigate them in a way that I determine. And I’m also grateful for my Blue Pill experiences, because they’ve kept me humbled as I progress along my Red Pill path.

So whether you are just starting out or are well season-veteran, always remember that there is a grind involved in the processes. It’s not always fun, pretty or happy, but it’s the work that it takes to maximize your potential. and always remember that everyone who you see at the top of their game never started out that way, they had to go through a grind to get there.

Wake up. Grind. Rest. Repeat.

 

 

The Intersexual Ecosystem

 

Intersexual Ecosystem

“Our challenge for the future is that we realize we are very much a part of the earth’s ecosystem, and we must learn to respect and live according to the basic biological laws of nature.”– Jim Fowler

What I have found to be interesting is that when we as humans look at naturalized ecosystems, we see the inner workings and hierarchies at play and accept that truth as fact. Yet, when we look ourselves in human society, we somehow think this truth of the natural world somehow doesn’t apply to us. In this post, I want to address the concept of a natural ecosystem within the framework of the Red Pill, and what those implications are in that context.

Let me first preface this post by saying that this breakdown is looking at things from the context of intersexual dynamics. This is not a social ranking or reflection of individual worth, societal value or social class. This is purely about looking at the intersexual landscape as an ecosystem. So with that in mind, when we look at natural ecosystems, we see apex consumers, tertiary consumers, secondary consumers, primary consumers, producers and decomposers. In the Red Pill context, the flow chart looks something like this:

Apex Consumers – Red Pill Alpha Males (top 10% of males)
Tertiary Consumers – Red Pill Lesser Alphas (next 10% of males)
Secondary Consumers – Alpha Females (top 10% of females)
Primary Consumers – Other Females (other 90% of females)
Producers – Blue Pill Beta Men (other 80% of males)
Decomposers – MGTOW (small percentage)

Intersexual Ecosystem

Apex Consumers (Predators)

As we all know, the top 10% of Men basically have their pick of the pie, no one has more access than they do (and there’s been plenty written about it). These Alphas are the embodiment of the full Red Pill scope maximized. Usually there is a lot of, if not some natural skill at play, but what really makes it work is the Red Pill mindset and execution. Dark Triad Traits can be seen in common and frequent usage in this part of the ecosystem. The morality of them is a question for debate, but the effectiveness of them is very factual.

Tertiary Consumers (Predators)

These are the Lesser Alphas with Red Pill awareness and represent the next 10% of the male population. They don’t have as much natural access as the top tier Alphas do, but they still enjoy a very broad range of access to options. These men are the embodiment of the utility side of the Red Pill. What they may lack in natural ability they more than make up for by utilizing their Red Pill awareness to maximize their personal potential up to a point. The Dark Triad is less commonly employed here. Only when faced head to head with a direct top tier Alpha does the discrepancy in options become apparent for the Lesser Alpha. An example of this would be someone like Tom Cruise, who is a pretty natural Apex Alpha (and for this example let’s assume he’s Red Pill), the fact that he has fame and status solidifies his position top tier. Many lesser Alphas, like Roosh or Mystery would not be able to compete as well in direct comparison, out on the open market. It’s not a reflection of their ability or worth, it’s a reflection of “fame is the ultimate game” versus pure Red Pill knowledge. Not to say those guys couldn’t pull a target away from the celebrity, but the odds are heavily stacked against them and the social proof is what counts. Mystery and Roosh are both very capable PUA’s, however there are million of women ready to break into Tom Cruise’s house for a chance just to see him, and he is still one of the top earning movie stars of all time.

Secondary Consumers

Secondary Consumers are Alpha females, which are women that know they are at the top of the female hierarchy and knowingly exploit this. They can have access to many Alpha males as well as any Beta, but the Betas are put on hold for when their access to Alphas diminishes over time. Many will usually be able to lock down a mate of their choosing, and these women are allowed to maximize their hypergamous natures because of their near unrestricted access to options.

Primary Consumers

Primary Consumers are the rest of the sisterhood which have varying degrees of access to Alphas, but have a lot more interaction and selection from the Producers (the rest of Beta kind). Though they may be just as hypergamous as their sisters in the Secondary Consumer role, Primary Consumers are not able to directly compete on the same terms and thus have to settle for less available options.

Producers

The Producers are 80% of the male population which is Beta and their access and options are the most limited. There are certainly a some greater Betas that have more options than the lesser ones do, but as a whole they are prey items for the Secondary and Primary Consumers. The beauty of Red Pill Awareness is that it allows for a Producers to change roles into a Tertiary or Apex Consumers, though those that do this are a very small percentage of the whole.

Decomposers

The decomposers are the MGTOW segment, these are men that are Red Pill Aware yet have consciously removed themselves from the dating market. While this still doesn’t remove them from the ecosystem, they are neither active predator nor prey. They are more or less in the background of the ecosystem, doing what it is that they do on their own terms. Some Alphas and many newly Red Pill Aware Producers comprise this role in the ecosystem for their own various reasons.

Conclusion

To stress the point again, none of these terms are meant as compliments or as insults. They are just descriptive terms for a role. Each role in the ecosystem is vital and they all are interdependent. Alphas need Betas to stand out even more, Secondary Consumers need Betas because the population of Alphas is so small, Betas need Alphas to learn Red Pill Awareness and the MGTOWs provide prospective for Alphas. The real question is where do you find yourself in the sexual food chain?

Food Web

Swipe Right: A Red Pill Dating App Review

App

“I’ve been on so many blind dates, I should get a free dog.” – Wendy Liebman

Being in the dating industry I get a lot of questions around dating apps. My personal take on dating apps is that they are ok only if used 10% of the time to augment and compliment you Game activities. Dating apps are heavily skewed against men and the whole system is designed to give people who couldn’t “compete” so to speak on the open market place a fighting chance. Now there’s nothing wrong with meeting someone on an app, but if you’re relaying on apps to meet girls vs going out into the real world, you’re going to be in for a rough ride and will stunt you Game development. So I recently downloaded a few and played around on them to better answer the questions I hear surrounding these apps. So with that in mind, here’s a breakdown I have for each app:

Tinder

The app to put dating apps on the map, Tinder is one I’m sure many of you have tried. From a Red Pill perspective this app is conducive to the abundance mentality tenant, which like real life requires you to do a lot of digging (swiping) to find potential prospects. Tinder is certainly an anything goes app, so be ready to deal with anything and everything. The quality is certainly not high, but with enough swiping or carpet bombing (just swiping right on everything and seeing who you match with) you might uncover a gem or two. Be wary of getting that “match validation high” since 80% of swipes you probably won’t match with so it makes each match seem like a bigger deal than it really is.

Bumble

This apps is very hypergamic but also consistently has the highest quality (most attractive options) of all apps. Maybe every girl on Bumble knows how to take better pictures, but in any case this apps does foster abundance mentality. The girls have to send the first message, so with that restriction in mind you know that a girl is at least interested when you do get a message. There is a feature of extending matches which is Blue Pill scarcity dread tactic, so if a match is going to expire let it and move on. Extending the match means you’re already afraid of losing a girl you haven’t even met or talked to you which will put you at a disadvantage. If she matches you and is interested, she will act in her 24 hour window.

Coffee Meets Bagel

If hypergamy was an app, this would be it. This app uses restrictions and selective matching as a way to get money from people as well as reinforce the scarcity mentality as well as to run a built-in dread game. The noticeably more attractive matches that you can “discover” but have to use beans (the app currency which you can purchase with real money) for, it’s almost like you’re dating the dating app and trying to appease it to give you access to the goods. You can even “skip the line” to put yourself in a potential matches queue faster, which is you paying the app to get yourself qualified by a girl. This is not a position you want to put yourself in psychologically, you’re already setting yourself up to have a Beta mentally. This apps prays on the Blue Pill guys so I’d suggest avoiding it all together.

Hinge

After a few failed versions of the swipe model, Hinge has morphed into a traditional website style dating app, like Match.com or Plenty of Fish (both of which have apps). This apps give you recommendations so it’s another app that gives you less options and choices, thus creating a false sense of scarcity and dread.

Happn

This app takes an interesting twist on the conventional dating app: It focuses on people who’ve been to the same places as you. The issue with this app from a Red Pill perspective is that this app forces you to go through a process to get a girl’s attention by sending charms and then crushes, so it’s psychologically prepping you to go through a qualification process to get the attention of women.

Apps can be useful when going to a new city and looking to meet people and local recommendations. If you’re looking for some more in depth guides on how to get the most mileage out of apps, you can checkout this podcast. But from a Red Pill perspective it’s important to understand how each app will psychologically condition you, so use them with caution. Most of them by design will condition you to be a Beta qualifier for a girl’s affections. As always, the best thing to do is go old school: Talk to girls in real life.

Umbrella

The Ashes Of Gotham

 

“Home…Where I learned the truth about despair. As will you. There’s a reason why this prison is the worst hell on earth: Hope. Every man who has rotted here over the centuries has looked up to the light and imagined climbing to freedom. So easy. So simple. And like shipwrecked men turning to sea water, from uncontrollable thirst; many have died trying. I learned here that there can be no true despair without hope.” – Bane, The Dark Knight Rises

I love this scene for so many reasons and after some interesting reading I have found another way to view and love this scene. One of the inherent dangers of the Red Pill is the effect of Reality Depression, where upon seeing the world for what it is, particularly women and their motivations, it’s very easy to become depressed and drift into a sense of harsh hopelessness. For this post, I will be exploring this subject and using the quoted line above as frame of reference. What inspired this was re-watching this scene and imagining that Bane was my Red Pill self talking to my recently former Blue Pill self after coming to a Red Pill awareness. I’d suggest giving that scene a viewing under that context after reading this post, the monologue by Bane hits some pretty chilling points with how contextually relatable it is.

So within the framework of this movie, your Blue Pill self (Batman) just confronted your Red Pill awareness (Bane). Though your Blue Pill self put up a fight that was “admirable, but mistaken,” it was defeated and broken. Now, a broken, feeble version your Blue Pill self lies in a place buried deep, confronted by the Red Pill. Now in this context, Gotham City is the Blue Pill idealism, and your Blue Pill self (Batman) had dedicated its life to protecting and upholding those idealizations.

Your Blue Pill self asks where it is, your Red Pill self replies “Home,” which brilliantly translates to the deepest recceses of your mind, the part of you that always knew that something was off. The part of you that always took notice when women said one thing, but then did the complete opposite. The part of you that grew up believing one thing but deep down had some doubts as you saw that things you were raised to do did not work despite continuously being encouraged to do so. This part of yourself is “were I learned to the truth about despair.” And sure enough, “As will you,” translates to your Blue Pill self is only able to be ready to learn once it’s be completely broken by some type of trauma. As many other Red Pill writers have detailed, usually this is caused by something of significant magnitude like a horrible break up or a divorce.

The “reason why this prison is the worst hell on earth” for your Blue Pill self is summed up in one word: “Hope.” This is where a lot of men struggle with their Reality Depression, they are seeing things for how they really are, but there is a part of them that still hopes to achieve the Blue Pill idealization and wishes it to be true. “Every (Blue Pill) man who has rotted here (in a state where they see Red Pill truths) over the centuries has looked up to the light (Blue Pill idealized hope) and imagined climbing to freedom. So easy. So simple.” It seems like an easy idea to go back to the Blue Pill existence you had known before, with society reinforcing these ideas it seems like it should be a simple task.

But “like shipwrecked men turning to sea water from uncontrollable thirst; many have died trying.” And here we get to the core of that reality depression, which is Blue Pill men trying to return to their former ways and idealizations which were toxic and discovering just how poisonous those Blue Pill idealization really are. Though many men have tried to hold onto those ideas and tried to make them true, many have died emotionally or literally in the process without ever coming close to completing their impossible task.

Most men “learned here” in this place, this confrontation between the broken Blue Pill idealizations and the powerful Red Pill awareness, “that there can be no true despair without hope.” The hope of the Blue Pill, the last and strongest core of the what the Blue Pill stands for and runs on, is what causes the true despair. Despite knowing that the Red Pill is reality and how the world works, the Blue Pill hopes against all odds that it can be realized. And this is a dangerous crossroads many men face.

So how does one reconcile this? That is a choice each of us has to make individually, to attempt to reconcile with our old understanding and cling to the hope of the Blue pill; or to see the harsh truths that the Red Pill represents and decide how best to move forward. But one thing is certain, no matter which choice is made, the point of no return has been crossed. Hope and despair are two powerful forces that will push and pull you, but the real questions is will you use the hope of the Blue Pill knowing that deep down it fuels your despair? Or will you see hope in the Red Pill while not succumbing to the inherent despair that harsh reality brings?

This is a question we all face and sometimes struggle with on a continual basis. If Gotham (the Blue Pill idealism) is overrun with despair and hypocrisy, the wisest course of action would be to take the other path and let Gotham burn. While there might be despair, at least there is truth and reality for what it is, so you can now truly live to make your own path.

I do imagine the final lines of this scene will recall the moment when many of you transitioned from Blue Pill to Red Pill, as the conversation with your former and new self most likely ended like this scene does: With your Red Pill self taking one last look at your Blue Pill self and stating as a final farewell: “We will destroy Gotham. And then…when it is done…and Gotham is…ashes…Then you have my permission to die.”

Bane Back

The Question King: 5 Golden Questions

Classy Sexy

“Judge a man by his questions rather than his answers” – Voltaire

So for those of you that don’t know, I actually do some work in the dating industry, and I can tell you dropping some Red Pill tidbits here and there goes a long way. A fun way to give back to the community would be to bring over some tips and experiences I’ve had, and if they can help just 1 of you out there close a deal, it’s all been worth it. One of the biggest consistent issues I’ve seen in the dating world has been guys sweating over what to say to a girl when opening up a new, cold conversation. Below I’ll be sharing with you some questions that I love using when opening and during conversations, because they work so well in both Day and Night Game, and translate well with gaming girls or with making conversation with anyone. Ready to become a master conversation starter? Well here you go:

1. “Tell Me Your Life Story”

This question is a great way to rapidly get people (especially girls) talking about themselves and helps you do some quick scouting on background details, like where they are from what they do, and why they moved to the city they are in, for example. I like to ask this question in a playful sense, by keeping the tone light, and I’ll usually preface it something like “So, mysterious person…” Sometimes people will be like “My whole life story?” and you have room for a playful response, something like “give me the highlights” or “only what you want to share with the class.” You have a lot of room to tease, be playful, or ramp up the energy to get people into the same vibe as you. And if a girl just refuses to play along, you can quickly NEXT them and move on because this question can be a shit test of your own to see if she is willing to play along with you or will fight you.

2. “What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?”

This is another great question and what I love about it is the fact that’s it very deep, insightful and revealing, while being brilliantly simple and subtle. I once asked a girl that was bar tending at this place I like “So what do you want to be when you grow up?” She responded with by telling me how she moved out to a big city to pursue acting because she felt people like herself where under represented in media and wanted to change social attitudes about that.”  So, with this simple question, I uncovered a core motivating driver in her life, what her passion is and experienced a deep moment that connected us while still keeping everything fun and light. You’ll be surprised at the answers people will give you. And the fun part about this question is when you ask girls it gives them a playful sense of bright-eyed optimism and youth.

3. “What Is The Most Romantic Song Of All time?”

This question is a lot of fun to use because it’s a topic with many built in transitional topics, which I’ll get to later. It works extremely well with groups, but this requires you to have some fun energy to really make it work. Whenever someone names a song, I will usually excited reply “That’s a great one!” or “Oh I hadn’t thought of that…great pick!” It works really well with obscure songs. Also, this questions usually gets people talking about themselves and their relationships, with things like “Well when I was traveling in Paris I heard” or “me and my boyfriend listen this song because it’s our song.” So it saves you some effort in qualifying them because they are revealing everything for you. And naturally, you can transition the conversation into personal theme songs to best hook-up songs.

4. “Ladies Can You Help Me Out? / I Need A Girl’s Opinion…”

If you have a question of some sort ready but are unsure how to ask it, use these to preface that question. These work well because it peeks girl’s curiosity as to what you’re going to ask, and it gives them a little bit of an ego boost in the sense that they get to give their official opinion on something. Make sure if you use these your following question is somewhat appropriate Leading off with “I need a girl’s opinion, is jerking it 5 times a week a lot?” is not the way to go so use some common sense. Unless you’re getting a vibe based on the scene that something that out there would work, I’d stick to more fun and playful questions, like “Ladies can you help me out? What city has the best food in world?” These preface questions are golden ways to get attention, so make sure you capitalize on it.

5. “Can I Trust You?”

A large part of Game is creating your own personal bubble with a girl, and this question does just that. The implication with it is that you’re about to share something not-so public with her, which helps draw her into your world, as well as gets her to do a little qualifying of herself to you because of course, she is trustworthy and will prove it to you. This question is gold when trying to isolate a girl from the group or with giving you a reason to move a girl from one place to another, away from prying ears.

So if you can’t think of anything in your conversations or cold approaches, feel free to use and incorporate these questions. They can be used solo, in combination with each other, or in any way you see fit. Get out there and become a conversation guru.

Cheers.

Golden Drink

Friends Like These

back stabber

“Always sleep with one eye open. Never take anything for granted. Your best friends might just be your enemies” – Sara Shepard

For this post, I wanted to touch on an interesting topic that I’ve dealt with personally and I feel is becoming more and more of an issue many guys are dealing with in general as well as in a magnified capacity with Red Pill Awareness: The role of male friendship.

For men, the role of friendship has become a much more difficult topic to tackle over the last 50 years, particularly over the last 30. The large reason for that is with the more feminized socialization of boys, they are taught that a more feminized method of expression is the “correct way.” Open communication, expressing feelings and being more sensitive is the “correct” or standardized way that boys are taught to communicate and behave, which is the way that women communicate and behave. The issue manifests as these boys grow older and don’t know how to relate to men as men. Male communication and socialization is different from women’s…Women will sit around compliment each other and not meaning it while men insult each other and not mean it. The way men bond and socialize is more direct and about sizing each other up to find a place in the pecking order…Men use insults, brash language and direct communication as a way of bonding and endearment. Guys poking fun of each other is part of our bonding experience…it’s a male-to-male shit test. If I call you a sissy, are you going to take it? Or are you going to fire back and give me a run for my money? To the female point of view this can seem horrifying, but it’s how male psychology has evolved to help ensure the survival of humans.

In the modern era, these sorts of mannerism have been deemed “incorrect” and boys are being encourage to socialize the way girls do, which is the “correct” method. The consequence of this is two fold: Men don’t know how to relate to women as men, but they know how to relate to them as “women”, and men don’t know how to relate to their fellow man. What this means in terms of intersexual and dating dynamics is that women are now frustrated that there are no “real men” left anymore, which is a result of this “corrective conditioning,” so the super-rare “Man” (Alpha) becomes a huge in-demand commodity.  For the average guy, this is an added insult to injury because he was raised his entire life to be sensitive and emotional, yet when he tries to relate to women he he shunned from their intimacy. He has been setup to fail and according to society it’s all still somehow his “fault.” This is seen very prominently in modern Christian circles. I’m not knocking religion or trying to make an attack on the Christian faith. I believe that spirituality is an essential part of human existence and organized religion can be a great thing. That being said, I also can see how Red Pill principles apply in a religious setting, and religious traditions aren’t exempt from examination or critique. Going back to the point at hand, the westernized Christian social settings are very feminized, and essentially use religious ideology to justify the pacification of men into “good little boys.” Anger aggression, and other displays of traditional masculinity are deemed sinful so not only is it the “improper” thing to do there’s also the risk of eternal damnation attached to it, which is a powerful reinforcement tool. This leads to a lot of strain in those marriages, because you have a feminized “good boy” that a wife is supposed to submit herself to, but it’s forcing her to do something that’s against her instincts: submit to a lesser man that relates to her as a girlfriend would.

The second part of this issue, which is the main focus of this post is that men don’t know how to relate to each other as men. This is the third time I’ve mentioned this in this post, but I think the point is that important that it needs to be driven home. When it comes to socializing and friendship, men need to understand how important relating to each other on a man-to-man level really is. One thing I’ve noticed, and I am sure many other Red Pill guys out there have, is that when you have a Red Pill awareness, you notice how feminized and “catty” blue pill men are. They tend to gossip and be involved in personal drama more and usually the bond you share doesn’t feel as genuine. The biggest issue, is that if you express some Red Pill idealism, they are quick to be offended and even quicker to sell you out, so to speak, or attempt to “correct” you. One really does have to treat these males as he would females, because they socialize in the same manner. This gets very isolating and alienating for Red Pill guys, because if anyone should be able to understand and accept you, it would be a friend, but it almost feels like apples and oranges. My closest friends tend to be immigrants from other countries that have a more traditional view point of masculinity and femininity, and even if these cultures aren’t overtly Red Pill aware so to speak, the understanding of the core concepts are there which makes for genuine bonds.

One of the reasons why World War II movies are held in such high esteem, especially for men, is that we’re reminded of what male friendship is. It’s going to war and battle with your brothers and providing that unquestioned support. It’s having a roast fest to see who can come out on top and who can display the most bravado. It’s a reminder of how we evolved to survive and the value of a friendship and brotherhood. World War II movies are one of the last remnants of positive masculinity in it’s purist form.

As a general rule, you should always be careful of who your friends are, but as a Red Pill aware person you need to be doubly careful. The Red Pill presents a lot of cold, hard truths that come as a system shock to the Blue Pill, and as such it is usually received with hostility. What this does also, is it gives some friends the Judas complex, in the sense that in an attempt to “do the right thing” by society’s standards, they take every opportunity possible to bring you back around and back into the fold. It can be frustrating, because you know in their heart of hearts they are well meaning people and they are doing what they think is right, but once you know the truth there is no going back because the world has been exposed to you for what it really is, and there’s no way to un-see it. This certainly makes for some interesting food for thought, but friendship is something essential to the human experience and especially so for men. Fortunately with technology many Red Pill guys can find a virtual community to exchange ideas, experiences, and bridge that bond of friendship and brotherhood across cyberspace.

band of brothers.jpg

The Gamer Girl Guide

Gamer-Girl

“My coach said I ran like a girl, I said if he could run a little faster he could too”– Mia Hamm

For this post, I wanted to elaborate on a reply to a comment that Days of Game left on my last post, Street Walker’s Gold. I had been tossing the idea around for a while and after some enlightening experiences this past weekend, I wanted to put together a guide for the different types of Game that girls use. Now this list isn’t complete and I do look forward to getting some contributions from other great minds, but from a Red Pill context here are some types of Female Game strategies I’ve noticed over the years. Now, understand that this ins’t to bash women and in fact if you do consider an LTR some forms girl game can be a good thing. The purpose of this is to keep you informed on what type of game you might be encountering when dealing with a particular girl.

1) Covert Lock Down Game

Girls run this with guys that they know have plenty of other options when it comes to dating and sexual intimacy. This game strategy involves them “playing it cool” and being able to keeping things smooth. What betrays this strategy is the little subtleties, like she might offhandedly mention something about a couple and follow it up with something like “they’re like us” or might make other relationship oriented jokes or comments. The bet she’s playing is that by not appearing to be “clingy” or appearing relationship oriented the guy with forego his other options in favor of her because she’s established herself as relate-able and uncomplicated. Red Pill aware guys that are attune to women’s sub-communications and can read between the lines well will pick up on this game and act accordingly with their own objectives. Those that don’t pick up on it find them selves saying “I never thought I’d be in a relationship, but here I am.” If your Frame is solid this can lead to a great and healthy LTR if that is your inclination.

2) Side-Man Game

This strategy is employed by girls who have and are entertaining other prospects, especially with guys that are at the number 2 thru 10 slots. This game works very effectively with Beta orbiters who get blindsided because they think they’ve finally found a cool girl that they “click” with only to get blind sided when she dumps them or pulls the Let’s Just Be Friends card. Alpha’s and the Red Pill aware tend to instinctively pick up on the ques from this game and take it for it is: minimal investment is required and the relationship already has an expiration date so when it’s reached that time it’s not a big deal. Signs of this strategy in play are very long delays in response to communication, always seemingly unavailable during prime “date” times or in general, and vague comments about that unavailability in the vein of “I already have plans for that time.” This type of girl game is not conducive to an LTR since the very nature of it is temporary and similar to Dread Game. Proceed with caution and make sure your Frame is airtight if you think of proceeding down the LTR path.

3) Direct Game

The best examples of direct game are found in women that are very close to hitting The Wall or in the online dating / dating app arena. For this type of game time is of the essence, and so there’s no room to bullshit about. This game is direct and blunt with wanting to satisfy the hypergamic directive and usually isn’t bashful in expressing it. You’ll notice phrases like “I want to start a family” or “I don’t have time to date” mentioned incredibly early on. For the Red Pill aware most will avoid because there are much better prospects and also you don’t want to waste their time as well as your own. Since a lot of the ones using this type of game are looking to check a box, it’s not worth the pursuit, unless their long term objective happen to line up perfectly with your own. But there are plenty of Blue Pill Betas that are more than happy to be that check mark on the box. Take this on a case by case basis, it can be a very pragmatic partnership if the dynamic clicks. Trust your gut.

4) Good Girl Game

Good Girl game is used by women who are clever at making themselves look good compared to other girls. These types are usually highly critical of other women, are quick to point out how other girls are dressed like sluts or act like whores. Even though if given the opportunity these women would probably do the same things, they are very outspoken about “Low Quality Women.” These women also can have a few skeletons from their past, but a lot of times this game is employed by women of religious backgrounds. Keeping a realistic frame of mind will help you see what’s what quickly and see who she truly is. If things check out, you’re good to go. If not, then NEXT her and move on.

5) Victim Game

This game strategy is employed by a lot of borderline personality disorder women aka “psycho girls.” This strategy partially stems from our social attitudes towards women being victims by default and manifests itself in later stages of the relationship. This game employs the use of a past abuse or trauma as a baseline to explain away irrational or just plain bad behavior. Usually this these women will put on a front of being normal, innocent and sweet, until the viciously malicious side comes out. Then after the true nature has been revealed, the use of victimhood is employed so it’s “not really her fault” and that she has “issues she’s working through.” Woe is the man who falls into this trap, for he often finds himself having to come up with justifications or explanations for her behavior and gets taken into an emotional hellscape.  Warning signs, aside from the many red flags, are her always being the victim, you always having to justify or rationalize her actions or make excuses on her behalf, and her not taking any real accountability for her actions. When you encounter this type of game, RUN.

6) Strong Independent Woman Game

This game is the pride and joy of hypergamy. This game is usually ego-driven, and is very much used by women looking to prove themselves and establish dominance over the mythical and omnipotent patriarchy in some way. This type of game is about a woman not needing  man in any real capacity, and usually you’ll hear things “sex isn’t important in a relationship” or “communication is the key to any great relationship.” This type of game utilizes guilt and “Man Up” (be your own man, but within the context of what I want a man  to be) conventions to keep men in line. Alpha’s have no time for this and the Red Pill aware can see the smoke screen for what it is. Users of this type of game are best avoided because the shit tests will be nonstop.

7) Party Girl Game

As the title suggest, this type of game is employed by “party girls,” or girls that have very active social lives…in the party scene. This game type is what the Blue Pill men thinks of when they imagine clubs, bars and other places of “ill-repute.” These girls love to party and have a great time, and usually that means whatever it takes to keep the party going. Alcohol is frequent and drug use is common among these those using this strategy. The allure of this type of game is that it is fun and the goal is to have a great time, and also this type of game flaunts female sexuality. These girls will usually do impromptu strip shows, make out with other girls, or even be game for sexual encounter in the bathroom in the back of the club. This is all fun and games, but understand that’s that all it is. Blue Pill Men are often horrified while Alpha’s get to reap the spoils. Though there are plenty of Betas that are more than willing to fund the party lifestyle in the hope of getting in on some of the action. It’s best to take this type of female game for what it is, fun and games, no more and no less. Never forget girls are just as if not more sexual than guys, and sometimes they just want to go out, have fun and get laid. Many of the girls using this game using it during their peak SMV years, before “maturing” and resorting to other strategies to exercise their hypergamy. If your Frame is rock solid then you can find some LTR potential, but always see things for what they are.

8) Scenester Girl Game

This game is employed by girls that are constantly trying to maximize their options. You can also nickname them bargain hunters, because they are constantly searching for a better deal without investing more than they have to to get it. These girls are usually the arm candy that arrive with guys to parties or nights out, but always seem a little aloof in their own worlds. They are usually very nice and courteous, and any Red Pill aware man gets the sense they could probably swoop in and “steal” this girl away.  A huge sign is if they arrive with a guy and it’s not apparent that they’re together. These girls are very hypergamous, and so they are continuously and actively looking for a better deal. The men they are presently “with” are only so out of convenience. These types are best to be avoided, because at best you can lease them, but you will never truly “own” them. Getting involved with them also leads to complications with ex-lovers. These women are expensive to maintain as well, in that it takes a lot of resources (time, money, energy, etc.) to hold their interest for little reward. These women typically target men that are successful in business but are Blue Pill or Beta when it comes to dealing with women. Alphas tend to understand their nature instinctively and so they follow the “don’t be gentle it’s a rental” mentality and ditch them before they can find a better situation. Warning signs are girls that only want to go on dates that involve a large social scene (like going to clubs or high profile places) were she can meet other suitors, girls that are currently in relationships but they’re “already winding things down” or “in the processes of ending it” but somehow that relationship continues to go on and not officially end. They also tend to be very much in their own worlds when out, not really interacting with their dates but are easily approachable by anyone who wishes to talk to them. Also look out for going on many dates with them before any type of sexual intimacy occurs. This is a good rule in general, but Sceneters are especially prone to sporadic intimacy, usually requiring a very long courting process (like 5 -10 dates). An LTR is not advised because you’ll be setting yourself up to be cheated on, it’s best to look elsewhere if an LTR is your end goal.

9) Tease Game

This style of game is actually fairly clever. This type of game is when a women tells you up front that she’s a tease or something else negative about her, like “I’m a huge bitch.” The trick is that her actions shortly after tend to contradict what she said earlier. So it’s a little bit of a bait-and-switch tactic. But then after a period of time, the character flaw she warned you of previously comes out in full force and all she has to say for herself is “I told you about this from the get go.” This type of game is the bait-and-switch-and-switch-back. This can throw any guy for a loop and takes some experience to see the signs more clearly. Always heed any overt warnings and proceed with caution. The best way to deal with this game is to treat it like Side-Man game, enjoy it while it lasts, and then when the warning comes true; cut, run and never look back.


That’s what I have for now. I hope you can use this knowledge to help with your current or future situations. Sometime women run 1 type of game exclusively and other times they run a few different concurrently. But if you know what to look for, you’ll be able to see things for what they really are. Remember; in your own life you are Player #1. Don’t get played.

Played