The Butterfly Effect

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“Small shifts in your thinking, and small changes in your energy, can lead to massive alterations of your end result.” ― Kevin Michel

We are the end results of the choices we have made in life, and more often than not, those choices our influenced by our way of thinking.

Years ago, when I was making my initial transition from Blue Pill to Red Pill, my roommate at the time had a female friend of his from the east coast coming to visit LA and hang. I was down for some adventure, so all met up at a local Japanese bar to take full advantage of happy hour. My roommate’s friend, who we’ll call Lauren, was a cute, bubbly Jewish girl with very good boobs and a high energy level. Me and her hit it off pretty much instantly, and we all put the word “happy” in happy hour.

After the Japanese bar we went back to our house to continue hanging. We put on a movie and Lauren and I got cozy on the coach, and the once the movie was over my roommate stated that he was tired and was headed to bed. I took Lauren in my room to hang, and then we proceeded to hook up.

We were laying in bed and she asked me “When did you know you wanted to hook up with me?” I replied with “I pretty much knew after a few minutes…When was the moment you knew?” She responded with something seemingly arbitrary, but it would have a profound impact on my thinking and Game:

“Pretty much right away. I mean you where this tall, hot guy that was a lot of fun from the start.”

Now, as much as I enjoy the compliment, the phrase “hot guy” caused a drastic shift in my mindset. As mentioned before, I was at the beginning stages of my Red Pill journey, but that phrase “hot guy” ran in my head. I’ve had some minor success with women before hand, but never had I ever thought of myself as a “hot guy.” To me, a “hot guy” was always some other guy, some shirtless and shredded Chad like Brad Pitt in fight club. But for this girl, I was that “hot guy” which led to us hooking up. From then on, that mental shift would have a butterfly effect of me realizing my value as well as farthing my trek into Red Pill conversion. I’m grateful that a positive moment helped me transition further into the Red Pill rather than a traumatic one. I’ve now incorporated the mindset of “I’m a hot guy” in my Game and it’s yielded big results, as it’s help to solidify my confidence which led to many successful interactions with women in the future.

I share this story as an anecdote for you, in that perhaps there is a limiting belief you have or you never tried thinking of yourself in a certain way. A small mental shift, like “why would she go out with me?” to “why wouldn’t she want to go out with me?” can have a large impact on your success rate as well as the choices you make. If you were like me and never thought of yourself as “a hot guy,” imagine yourself that way and see types of results it can produce. Small changes, be it changes in your thinking, your style, or physique can have a cascading butterfly effect in your Game. Now is the time to experiment with small tweaks and see what results they produce, and then build upon positive results. If you’re a well seasoned vet, then you already know the power of small change and you’re continuously implementing them to keep your Game at it’s peak.

Go out there and conquer your goals. Cheers.

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The Time Of Kings

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“A King needs a Kingdom to to King, not a Queen. Remember that.” – Unknown

As western society becomes more and more feminized, there is a unintended advantage born from this paradigm. Now has never been a easier time to establish yourself from the heard of boys as a man, and not just any man; a king.

“A King needs a Kingdom to to King, not a Queen. Remember that.”

This quote rings so true I’m posting it twice. This is a core Red Pill idea that most men will not embrace but will run from because of the burden it represents: We are responsible for our own  lives and what we get out of them. A woman does not define you and you need no other external validation to define yourself either. You are a king, the time is now to master your kingdom.

But what is my kingdom and how do I master it, you ask? Take a look:

Your Body Is Your Kingdom – Master it, exercise it, sculpt and shape it. Excercise and stay healthy. Many a man was stunted his potential by allowing his body to be soft and his health to be poor.

Your Mind Is Your Kingdom – Take care what you put into it and who you allow to have influence in it. Put positive things that will inspire and help you grow into it, and only allow people who add positive value to have influence on it. You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Choose them wisely.

Your Relationships Are Your Kingdom – You are the one in the driver’s seat of your relationships, so manage and led them wisely. If a relationship is a negative or counter productive to you, it s your job to remove it. Failure to do so can cost you time, sanity, and much, much more. All relationships, from family to business to romantic relationships are under the domain of your kingdom, especially the romantic ones. Take the lead and remember, you are the king, the queen does not define your kingdom or the status of your kingship.

Your Time Is Your Kingdom – Manage it relentlessly and guard it jealous. Of all the commodities in this world, it it the one thing you can never get back. Make it count.

Your Life Is Your Kingdom – You only have one go at it and only you can live your life. So live your life on your own terms. Life the life you want and dream about. Live your life as if your life depends on it. It does.

There’s your pep-talk for the day. Go out and conquer your kingdom.

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Survival of the Fittest

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“You realize that we’re the only species that protects the weak?” – Bill Burr

For this post I’m addressing a topic that on the subject of something I find critically important: Personal Accountability. It seems as we become more an more progressive, we stay away from a core principal of life, which is survival of the fittest to “subduing the fit to ensure the weak survive.” This post is more of a pep talk, so please use it for a reminder or motivation go out and live your life to the fullest. Here’s my take on some universal truths and some motivational lines from pop culture to help relate them:

1. Life is not fair. Plan and simple, yet this truth is something we as a society continuously refuse to except and instead attempt to bring the successful down.  Everyone is dealt different cards in life and it’s all matter of how you play them. I know people with every advantage going for them and can’t seem to stay afloat, and I know people from nothing that have built sand achieved greatness. And I’ve seen people with every advantage and they use them brilliantly to expand themselves. Life isn’t fair…and it’s not fair for to everyone, which actually makes it fair.

As our society becomes more feminized, we’ve shifted our focus to protecting the feeling of everyone. Unfortunately a harsh truth is life does not care about your feeling and neither do results. Sports is one of the few places where this truth is allowed to shine, in that there is a winner and a loser, a champion and then everyone else. The idea that we all get trophies for participation sets a false expectation, because in life you may try your best and still fail or come up short. That is how life works. It’s better to fail and use the pain of it for motivation to succeed in the future than try to hide or downplay the simple truth that sometimes our best isn’t good enough. Another great line said by Sean Connery in the Rock (which he was a boss in that role)  sums up this sentiment perfectly:

“You’re best? Losers always whine about their best. Winners go home and fuck the prom queen.”

Take this to heart: Losers whine and winner get it done. Some days you will lose, and that’s ok, because the greatest teacher is failure. It’s not that you’ve failed but it’s the fact that you wallow in the failure that makes it a horrible thing. But if you fail, learn, pick yourself up and continue to push you will be successful and you will have an appreciation for those wins.

2. You are responsible for your situation. In your life, you have to accept that the 1 factor that that you have absolute control over is you. You can get caught up in headlines, what the latest new from Washington is or a million other things happening in the world. But the fact is, at the end of the day you need to decide what you have to do for you and you have to dedicate yourself to that. It doesn’t matter if you where born into a million dollars are born with 2 cents to your family name.

We presently live in the best time in human history. The world has never been safer, had more access to resources available to people and any thing you could want to know are a few keystrokes and clicks away. The only thing that gets in the way of your success is you. Own it, and watch yourself do wondrous things.

3. No one has it easy. Celebrities, billionaire or other highly successful people don’t have things easy. Everyone in this life has their hardships and issues they have to deal with. Just because you can’t see their struggle does not somehow make your own struggles somehow special. To quote the musician Guru of Gang Starr, “Actions have reactions don’t be quick to judge, you may not know the hardships people don’t speak of.”

Now this is not to downplay the validity of your own struggles, but that doesn’t give you the right to disregard what others are going through. Some people are so poor they have no idea when they will eat again, other people are so rich they are isolated and can’t trust anyone as they have “friends” and family that are continuously trying to take from them. We all have struggles, so it’s best to focus on overcoming them and leave the jealousy of other peoples perceived easiness of life in the wind as it’s not a productive use of your energy or time.

4. “Do or do not, there is no try.” Ironic how words from a movie character (Yoda) can contain some powerful life wisdom. You either find a way to get it done or you find an excuse why you can’t. Plain and simple. If you have a goal, you need to make that your mission in life to get it done, come hell or high water. Now, you can adjust how your approach achieving that goal as go along the way, but at the end of the day it all becomes binary: Did you achieve it, or did you not achieve it?

Only you can answer that question and it’s up to you to hold yourself accountable for that. The best way to stay motivated is to never have a Plan B. Once you have a Plan B you’re subconsciously telling yourself that accepting failure to achieve that goal is an option. A personal mantra I use comes from a brilliant line delivered by John Trivolta in The Taking of Pelgham 123:

“Plan B is enforcing Plan A.”

That line is brilliant because it says he’s dead focused on a singular purpose and all of his being is working to execute it…even his “backup plan” is pushing through to execute and realize the vision of his main objective.

That’s my pep talk for today. I don’t know who you are or your story in life, but it is my sincerest hope that you live the life of your dreams and that you achieve your goals. I believe that we all can achieve greatness together and we won’t succeed by living solely to cut others down. I’ll leave you with another quote from the brilliant Felix Dennis (if you don’t know who he is you should google him), which reflects a core belief I hold:

“A swelling tide raises all boats, including yours.”

Go be the champion of your life.

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