Stargirl

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“I just want to see you shine ’cause I know you are a Stargirl” – Stargirl, by The Weeknd

This post is one that I’ve alluded to in a few previous posts and I am now finally getting around to fully detailing the story. This set of field reports, or saga I suppose, is based on a girl who’s been referenced in previous posts as Tess, though my nickname for her is Stargirl. This is because the vibe of the song Stargirl by the Weekend fits her personality perfectly.

I first met Stargirl at a rooftop hot spot on a Thursday when she was in town for a conference. While I was busy afterwards that night with my First Wheel, I had planned to see Stargirl on Saturday night. The next night was a Friday, and I had over a girl that I had been hooking up with for a few month’s over. We had a great thing, in which we would Netflix and Chill while ordering in food. This particular Friday we were making our way through the end of a series and we started the last episode at 11 pm, after a fun session of sex that started at about 9 pm. The episodes of this particular series where an hour long, so my though was more sex would ensue after. At 11:30 pm I get a text from Stargirl. Her and her coworkers are at a fun club that’s about 25 min from my house and she’s love it if I came out. I let her know that I’m in the middle of something, but should be free to head over in 30. Once the episode ended around midnight, the girl l I’m presently with remarks about how much she hates having to leave. “Yeah it’s a shame,” I respond, thinking about how quickly I could take a shower. “I don’t wanna leave,” she responded, in a playfully pouty tone. Well, I thought to myself, It’s time for you to get going.

Despite some effort on my part, it wasn’t until around 12:45 am when she finally left. I hit up Stargirl to let her know that I wouldn’t make it in time, but to let me know what she’s up to the next day. She responded letting me know she’ll do that, and then I get to bed, now 0-1 in my attempts to see Stargirl.

Saturday night came by, as I mentioned in a previous post, that night didn’t work out because I had another girl I was going to hook up with that unknowingly wanted to meet me at the same venue I was going to see Stargirl at. I wasn’t able to redirect either to a different spot, so now I was 0-2 in my attempts to see Stargirl.

Sunday, I hit up a brunch spot by the beach with some friends. I’m not sure how, but that Sunday brunch turned into an all day-rager as we wound up bringing girls to hang at our table, bouncing to a hotel party, then recruiting from that hotel to hit up a restaurant next door for snacks, then we all went to another bar up the street and befriended a fun group, and then finally wound up at a local dive close by with our new friend friends. We started brunch at 11 am and now it was 8 pm as we were at this dive bar. Stargirl texted me to let me know that her and her coworkers would be back at her hotel getting drinks at the bar at 10 pm. I let her know I’d be there, and continued to hang with my friends and our other collected peoples until about 9:30. I then left to go meetup with Stargirl and her coworkers.

I arrived at the hotel and rolled in to find Stargirl with 3 of her coworkers, one of whom I’d met with her on Thursday. Her other coworkers were women, and they were all equally hot. I was there to see Stargirl, but trying to focus got a little challenging for the first few minutes. I then grabbed a drink and we all started exchanging fun stories of shenanigans and mischief, and one by one her coworkers left to rest up for their conference in the morning. Lastly it was me and Stargirl left. “I have wine in my room” she said to which I responded “That sounds like an excellent idea.” We then went up to her room and had a glass of wine as we discussed other fun stories from our pasts.

My favorite conversations with girls are the ones you have right before you hook up for the first time; when both of you are acutely aware that sex is imminent. It’s a fun and exciting place as you both know a secret and the anticipation of how it’s going to unfold has yet to be revealed. This was very much one of those conversations. We both got through about half a glass of wine before we wound up in the bed, at which point things escalated into a vigorous sex session. Finally, after being 0-2, the 3rd night was the charm.

I left her hotel at 5:45 am to get back to my side of town, which only took 20 minutes. I stopped by McDonald’s for some victory breakfast (2 egg & bacon McMuffin’s with orange juice) which is the first time I had been to a McDonald’s in years, and then got a little sleep at my place. Later that day Stargirl texted me “You wore me out. And the night before I have to be on my feet for 7 hours.” I sent a response of “I’ll have to come finish the job since you still have your ability to stand.” She sent a few laughing emoji’s and then said “Tuesday gives me time to recover.” So that Monday we both rested, and then on Tuesday, her last night in town, we met up an a beach side bar for a drink and to hear stories from the conference, before heading back to her hotel and then continuing the sex-o-thon.

The next morning, I again left at 5:45 am and had another victory breakfast from McDonald’s (it’s close, convenient and most importantly open at that time) and again got some sleep. A month and half later I wound up taking a trip up to San Fran with a friend of mine for a weekend, and I wound up meeting up with Stargirl again, but this time the sex-o-than took place at her house.

Takeaways:

3. Persistence pays off. Since I was dealing with a time constraint, I made sure that at least 1 night was open for a meetup. Despite being thwarted 2 nights in a row, the 3rd night things worked out. Sometimes thing won’t work out the first or second time. But if you have a plan and keep at it, good things can happen.

2. If a girl’s about it, she’s about it. From the fact that when we met and began making out withing minutes to the fact that she hit me up every night she was in town, Stargirl was down. Always look at people’s actions and not their words, so if you’re getting “mixed signals,” then she’s not feeling you. As Rollo says, “the medium is the message.”

1. Egg McMuffins aren’t that bad. Cheers.

 

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A Bottle of Wine, A Service Elevator & A Hot Tub

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“Life is either a great adventure or nothing.” – Helen Keller

Based of the title of this post, what do these 3 things have in common? They can all be key elements of an adventure than ends in getting you laid. Allow me to give you a field report of a crazy adventure that happened down in San Diego a few years ago.

The Story

I was in San Diego for a conference, and the company I was with was in talks with another company about doing a joint-partnership. We all met up for a lunch meet and great, so we all could get to know each other’s teams. One of the girls from this other team was a very cute girl named Stacy. She had dirty blonde hair, blue eyes, a great smile and very solid body. She was older than me but had a very bubbly personality. I took mental note of this as we proceeded to have a meeting after the lunch about how our companies would work together.

The following night, there was a party being thrown by one of the major sponsors of the conference at this club and both of our companies where attending this party. Everyone on my team and the other team secured a booth for both teams and then the bottles of wine started flowing. I began talking with the members of the other team and then started talking with Stacy, who turns out is from the mid west and hasn’t been in San Diego before. Somehow the guess my age game came up and she asked me to guess her age. I responded by saying “That’s tough because you look 22 but you carry yourself with a mature presence, so I’m inclined to think you’re older.” She blushed a bit and said “So what age?” “28,” I replied. “I’m 37” she said. I responded with, “I don’t believe you, let me see your ID.” She replied “Seriously?” I then held out my hand and munitioned for an ID. She then got out her driver’s license and handed it to me. I scanned it over for a minute and then I said in a playful tone “I know a fake ID when I see one, you’re not fooling me with this.” She blushed again and took back her licence. “I’m not sure what to tell you,” she said, at which point I asked her strong her dance moves where and a group of us went to the dance floor to dance to the music played by this great cover band.

After some solid dancing we made our way back to the booth. “What’s the game plan after this?” I asked Stacy. She told me her hotel had a rooftop bar that she wanted to check out. Since it was about 1:15 am and the party was winding down, I said “that’s an excellent idea.” I then grabbed the nearly full  bottle of wine off the table, handed her a glass, and took a glass for myself. We then strolled out the back entrance and somehow found a cab on the street, that shuffled us back to her hotel. We got into the hotel and took the elevator to the floor below the rooftop bar. “I forgot we need a certain room key to get up to the roof,” she said. “Let’s explore,” I said as we walked into the hallway.  we walked for a minute or two before we came to a door that had the word “Service” written above it. The door was slightly popped out, but still closed. I pulled out my hotel’s room key card, and then slide it into the part of the door where the bolt mechanism was. After a few seconds, I was able to get the key card in and open the door. “Follow me,” I said, as we walked through to the service hallway and found the service elevator. “Bingo” I said, as we got into the service elevator and then took it up to the rooftop. Once we got out to head to the bar, we saw it was empty as the staff was closing the place down. Turns out it was 2:15  am by the time we up there, so we had missed our window.

“Time for plan B” I said, as we took the main elevator back down to ground floor. We made our way to the hot tub and dipped our legs in as we sipped wine and she proceeded to talk about her background and the places she’s traveled. after about 10 minutes a security guard came and told us the pool area closes at midnight. “Apologies, we just had to dip our toes in for a few minutes, if that’s cool with you sir,” I said to the guard. He gave us a nod and said, “If you happen to be hear on my next round, then I’ll have to boot you out.” “Understood,” I said to him as I gave him a wave.

I the focused my attentions on Stacy. I had made a few attempts to escalate the kino during conversation, however, Stacy was a very avid talker so she focused on keeping the conversation going. After 30 more minutes of conversation, it was nearing 3 am and I reached a point where I was ready for sleep. “This has been a grand adventure” I said, “I’ll walk you back to your room, but it’s late so no bed time story for you.” She laughed as we got up and we went back up to her room which was about 15 floors up. At this point I was looking forward to getting back to my hotel to get some sleep as I had a fun night and did what I could to try to get some action going. I gave her a good by hug, which then led to us making out, and that led to a crazy sex marathon in which we had sex in literally every part of the room, from the bed to the couch to the shower the following morning. She was a bit of a screamer, and hearing her scream my name for about an hour certainly made the long conversation at the hot tub worth it.

As I was leaving her room around 9 am, the couple in the room next door was also leaving at the same time. They both gave a me a funny look, and then the woman said, “Good morning…Alpha.” I smirked back and said “A good morning indeed,” as I gave them a point and head nod and proceeded to take the elevator down the lobby with them.

Takeaways

4. Persistence is key. Just when I thought my night was over, it actually was just starting. It’s always up to you to see how long you’re willing to ride things out, but you might be surprised how they turn very quickly in your favor if you stick with it. Obviously paying careful attention to signs is important. In this case this girl keep talking and conversing, but her body language never closed herself of or implied that she was uninterested. If a girl is giving you clear “no’s” then it’s time ti call it quits. But if you’re getting good signals than it’s worth exploring.

3. Take the lead. We left the one party to go checkout the bar at her hotel. When we couldn’t get to the roof, I found a way into the service entrance. When the bar on the turned out to be closed, I took her to the hot tub. Then from the hot tub I walked her back to her room.

2. Don’t be afraid to break a few rules. Taking the bottle of wine, making our way into the service elevator and staying in the hot tub after closing were all fun things that broke a few rules. Obey the law, but break the rules, as the wine was paid for, the service entrance door was not fully closed, and the guard turned out to be cool with us kicking it at the hot tub after hours. This showed that I’m a man that does what he wants, when he wants, and doesn’t follow the rules everyone else does.

1. Hotel sex in the morning with a superb view of San Diego is awesome. That is all.

Bron

 

First Wheel

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“Why go out and be a third wheel when you can stay home and be a unicycle?” – Unknown

In this post I wanted to share a field report of a most adventurous night and a few of the takeaways from it. Grab some popcorn and get cozy, this one is a bit of a ride.

I was hanging a hot spot rooftop bar in LA with a good friend of mine. I had chosen the spot because I like it and frequent it a lot, and throw in the fact that a lot of very attractive women frequent this place, it was a good venue to discuss some business before causing trouble.

As we where hanging out talking, I noticed this girl walking a few feet behind us. She was about 5’8″, had a nice athletic figure, had dark blonde hair and certain presence she carried herself with that made her intriguing. As she walked by I saw her glance over quickly and give the signature “up and down” look-over to my friend and I. This alerted my radar that a hot target was is close proximity. She then continued over to her friend very attractive brunette friend that was about 10 feet away from us.

As my friend and I wrapped up official business conversation, I had noticed that the blonde and brunette had managed to be standing within a few feet of us. I then asked my friend about what airline is the best and told him we need to get some outside opinions to weigh in, so I walked over to the blonde and ask “excuse me, we’re crowd sourcing opinions, which airline is the best?” They both responded with “Virgin Airlines” to which I responded “That’s the correct answer!” (because it is) and then I introduced myself and my friend. The blonde girl introduced herself as “Tess” and the brunette introduced herself as “Lily.”

1 minute into our conversation I was picking up some serious vibes from Tess. Suddenly, I had the thought of “I bet i could just make out with this girl right now.” So another two minutes later, I very gently place my hands on her hips, pulled her in close, and then just started kissing her. She was really into it, and then I pulled back to see her giving me one of the most innocently dirty smiles I’ve ever come across. It was that smile where she telepathically was saying “I want you to rail me until I’m a writhing pile of orgasmic sensation” and the thought I was projecting back was “It’s not a matter if, it’s only a matter of when.” Just then Lily got a text from a colleague of theirs, which signaled that they had to leave to meet with the rest of their colleagues. I proceeded to get Tess’ number and then told her “I’ll be seeing you later,” with a smirk and a wink. And indeed, I would see her later in an epic saga that resulted in one of my favorite sexual encounters to date.

But that story is for another post,  so back to the story at hand, my friend and I started to debrief after the girls left. 2 minutes later, this guy and two girls came into the venue. I recognized the guy as a bartender from one of my favorite lounges, and it appeared his was on a date with a girl and tag along friend. They got to the bar an ordered drinks, just as my friend who’s the GM of the present venue gave me and my friend 4 vodka sodas, compliments of the house. I thanked my buddy but now we had 2 extra drinks, so I used that as part of my opening play.  I tapped my bartender friend, let’s call him Chuck, on the shoulder and asked him what was up and how he was doing. We exchanged some quick small talk and he introduced me to his date, Mia, and her friend, Brittney.  Shortly after the drinks for Chuck and Mia where placed on the bar. Before they could react, I already had my card out, on the bar and told the working bartender the drinks ordered by Chuck and Mia where on me. (Side bar- this is Pro Tip; if you ever encounter a bartender you know outside of their work in the field, buy them a drink or two. Trust me, they will remember it fondly the next time you seem them while they are working.) Chuck thanked me, and then I picked up one of the vodka sodas and handed it to Brittney and said “vodka soda on the house from the GM, I have an extra one and you need something to cheers with.” Brittney enthusiastically took the beverage and then all of gave a cheers to the night. I then turned my attention towards Brittney and asked her what she was doing with Chuck and Mia. She looked at me and said, “I’m hanging out playing third wheel with them.” Seizing the moment, I replied in a jovial tone:

“Don’t be the third wheel with them. Come be first wheel with us.”

Her eyes lit up as she enthusiastically said “I’m in!” She came over to join me and my friend as we then proceeded to have a conversation about tech company stocks. During that conversation I kept my flirt game high since I was still feeling in the zone from my encounter 10 minutes earlier. At some point the subject of height came up, and Brittney pointed out how it must be nice to be my height, to be able to see over crowds. I told her the only way to find out was to experience it via piggyback, then took her by the hand to position her to hop on my back. She then hopped on, and I gave her a piggy back ride across the bar and back. I set her down and said “How was that test drive for you?” Brittney laughed and said it was a lot of fun and can see why I chose to be tall. We both then starting bobbing with the music that was playing, and after 30 seconds of light dancing, I felt the energy of the night take over. I then leaned towards Brittany and we started making out. I then took her to sit by the fire pit and proceeded to keep making out with her. We were hanging out there when someone offered us shots, to which I declined but she accepted.

About 5 minutes later, she began to feel a little sick. Having been to college and seen when someone’s had one-too-many plenty of times before, I knew she was done for. I had her put her phone number in my phone while I flagged Chuck over. He and Mia took Brittney to out to an uber so they could get her back to her place. I rejoined my friend and while checking my phone discovered that Brittney had added 8 digits in for her number, so I had no idea which digit was the extra one. My friend and I had a good laugh about that fact and continued to befriend random people until we closed the place down and I made my way home at 2:30 am.

Takeaways

4. In The Zone. Some nights you’re in the zone…you can do no wrong. You’re feeling the energy and channeling it through yourself. When you’re feeling it have fun with it, because the universe is about balance and there will be some nights where you’re so off you couldn’t even buy a phone number if you tried. The more you practice , refine and hone your game, the more times you’re find yourself being able to get into the zone.

3. Trust your gut. When you feel a strong vibe and your gut is telling you that a girl is on that same vibe, seize the moment and make magic happen. I could tell the Tess was interested based on her eye-rape as she did a close walk by. Then when we got to talking, I felt the vibe more intensely, almost like a magnetic force, and so withing 3 minutes of meeting her I was making out with her. The same is true with vibe I got from Brittney, and it worked out really well.

2. Create separation. What helped with both girls was the ability to create a little separation and create a personal bubble that was just the two of us. With Tess it started off physically creating it by placing my hands on her hips. With Brittney, it was when I rescued her from being trapped as a third wheel and told her to come be first wheel with my friend and I. Also, the piggyback ride certainly created a physical bubble. Working on this will help your success rate rocket up as well create stronger connections with women.

1. Your only expectation should be to have fun. If you approach the night with that mindset, then no matter what you’ll have a good time. I can look at what didn’t work that night, like the fact that Tess had to leave early and that Brittney took too many shots and got sick and I didn’t get laid that night. Or I can look at all the positives that made it fun, I had a great business discussion with my friend, I got to make out with Tess within 3 minutes and got her number, I gave Brittney a piggyback ride around the bar before making out with her, I got to make out with different girls in a 20 minute time span, all while befriend some other interesting people and coming away with a great story. If you find a way to have fun, then you’ll have it, and that’s what makes life worth living.

So the next time you find a girl that’s a 3rd wheel, rescue her and upgrade her into a 1st wheel.

Cheers with Beers

The Alpha Wingman

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“You can be my wingman anytime” – Ice Man, Top Gun

Sometimes being an Alpha in a situation is not about using your Frame for your own benefit, but sometimes it’s about using it to help others. This post covers just such a situation that happened recently on a night out with a friend.

Field Report

I was hosting a friend of mine from out of town. He’s a young guy, in his mid twenties and is usually more of the quite and shy type at first, but opens up more once he’s comfortable in a situation. I decide to take him out for a Saturday night of fun and we go to this restaurant and lounge that I frequent in a hip and busy part of town. I like the place because it has a great atmosphere and energy, great food, great drinks, and is close to a lot of other places. It’s also frequented by many beautiful and diverse women, which makes it the prime location for a proper night out.

We get to the venue and go inside for a round of drinks. Since I frequent this place, all of the staff knows me, from the General Manager to the bar-backs, so I’m being greeted and am introducing my friend to them. After hanging out for about 30 minutes, I spot a pair of girls sitting at the end of the bar. One is blonde, with a curvy figure, and the other is a redhead with bright blue eyes and a petite figure. Both girls look to be in their mid thirties, but I know my friend has a thing for older women. I point out the redhead, which is the type of girl he usually goes for and said “I think I found someone you should go meet.” My buddy responded by saying “I’m not sure what the move is,” and so at this point I knew that I would need to take command of the situation.

“Follow my lead,” I told him, as I walked over to the girls. As I was making my way over, someone bumped me so my drink spilled a little onto my hand, so when I got up to the girls I asked if they could pass me a napkin since they where sitting next to them.

“That you for that act of bar-decency,” I said. “The bar is a lawless place and most of the time people just act insane.” Both girls laughed and then I quickly introduced myself and my friend to them. “So what brings you guys out tonight?” I inquired. “Well, we’re out to celebrate my cousin’s birthday,” said the blonde as she pointed to the redhead. “Well happiest of birthdays to you!” I said to the redhead as I gave her an enthusiastic high-five. “How did you guys know to come here?” I asked. “Where were at another bar, but there where no guys so we had heard of this place and came here.”

From there I knew we had a golden scenario. A birthday, which is a reason to celebrate. Check. They had come to this venue specially for guys. Double check. All that was left was to take the reins of the situation.

“You ladies came to the right place,” I said. “We are going to ensure that you have a proper birthday celebration.” I raised my glass and all four of us toasted to the birthday girl. We had some small talk, about what we all did and it urns out the blonde works for a Hollywood agency and the redhead is a college professor. As it turns out, they both had recently moved into the this particular area of town and they were looking to explore it more. They liked the current venue because the redhead leaved about a mile away from it. I asked them if they had been to this other lounge that is close by that I frequent, to which they replied they had hear good things but never had been. “Finish up those drinks, we’re moving out!” I said as I finished my beverage and then called for my tab.

The 2 girls, my friend and myself all made our together to the lounge I had mentioned, and I texted the General Manager there who is a buddy of min that I was en route. I got a “Fo sho playa” response back from the GM and told the ladies that they where going to like this spot a lot. This lounge is a bit of hot spot and sure enough, there was a large line out front as we arrived. I lead the group right up to the front and gave the door guy I know a solid handshake and then a hug to the girl that helps run the door as well. We then strolled right past the line and proceeded to the lounge area. As soon as we got in my buddy who is the GM greeted me and said “It’s a packed night but we have a table set aside for you. Enjoy my man.” The Assistant GM then lead us through the sea of people to a table and we got situated with myself next to the blond facing my friend and the redhead on the other side.

“What just happened?” The redhead asked. “We’re celebrating your birthday, so we are going to do it properly,” I told her. We then ordered some drinks and I made the promise that we would find birthday cake for the birthday girl to ensure the night was flawless. Our drinks arrived and my friend worked his game on the redhead as they got a little more cozy and I chatted up the blonde. After about 15 minutes, I then told the blonde that she should checkout the rest of the lounge and I took her on a tour of the space to give my friend and the redhead some 1 on 1 time.

After the tour of the of the lounge, which deliberately took 20 minutes, we rejoined the table. Once it hit 1 am, I told the group “Time for a field trip,” so we paid our tab then I took us all to a convenience store to look for some type of cake to act as a birthday cake. Since no cake could be found, we grabbed a bunch of peanut butter M&M’s, which is the birthday girl’s favorite candy. I also grabbed a bottle of wine and some matches. I paid for all of the item and then as we walked out of the store I turned to the redhead.

“So we’re going back to your place to continue the celebrations since it’s around the corner? My place is about 20 minutes from here.” She paused for a minute and then said “Ok! I wasn’t planning to have folks over, so I will need to tidy up for a quick minute before anyone comes in.” I smiled and said “Whatever the birthday girl desires.” We made our way to her place, which only took 5 minutes, and then both girls went upstairs to her place to tidy it up. My friend then said “Man, thank you for wingmanning, this has been great!” I turned to him and said “Ok this is how it’s going to go down. We’re going to head up there, have some wine and celebrate for about 30 minutes. Then people are going to get tired, at which point I will take the blonde back to her place and you’ll be good to go.” My friend nodded his head excitedly, and after a few more minutes the girls came back down to let us know we could head in.

We all got up stairs to continue the birthday theme of the evening by finding a few leftover candles and lighting them with the matches I had picked up. We all held glasses of wine and some peanut butter M&M’s while we sang Happy Birthday to the redhead. We then paired off and got settled on the couches and began discussing random topics, from different us cities to movies. Sure enough, after about 1 glass of wine and 30 minutes, the blonde said “I’m starting to get sleepy.” I responded by saying, “Same here, it is pretty late.” I then stood up and said, “We’ll I think I am going to head off,” I then turned to the blonde. “You’re an awesome amount of fun, I’ll give you a lift back to your place so you don’t have to call an Uber.” “Are you sure?” She asked. “Not a big deal,” I replied. “Plus I live in that direction anyway and can hop the freeway back home.” “Ok,” the blonde replied. The redhead then looked at me and asked “What about him?” as she looked at my friend. “No worries,” I said, “I’ll give you to some time. I’ll come back and pick him up after I make sure your friend gets home safely.” Of course, what I was thinking was “I’ll come back and pick him up tomorrow morning,” and I proceeded to say goodbye to the redhead and was quickly followed by the blonde.

The blonde and I then left the redhead and my friend and we proceeded to drive to her place on the other side of town. We got to her street and there was no where to park, so I threw on my hazard lights and prepared to say goodbye to the blonde. The blonde then looked at me and said “I should text my cousin so she knows I got back safe.” Knowing this might cause a potential cock-block, as it might imply that I would be en route back to pick up my friend, responded by leaning in close and then making out with the blonde. After making out  and playing with her large breast for a few minutes, I pulled back and said “Sucks there is no parking.” The blonde gave me a naughty look and said, “You can come inside next time.” Sure enough, a week later I would in every sense of the phrase. But that night, she returned home and I jetted back to my pad to get some much earned sleep. The following day I texted my buddy in the morning and picked him up from the redheads place.

This story is a bit of a longer one, but it is full of some key tips and ideas for you to take away.

Takeaways

6. Having venues locked down is a huge plus. Nothing can kill your momentum faster than dealing with hangups at venues, be it trying to get in or trying to grab drinks and find a place to be comfortable. Having a venue that you have locked down not only makes logistics silky smooth but it also enforces your Frame as a high value individual. Like in this example, having the staff know me at the first venue gave me social proof and boosted my status. Then, moving to the next venue, that status and Frame were further reinforced by bypassing the line and then getting a table instantly in a busy place. This also had the added effect of making the transitional logistics smooth and easy, which makes the impression of status high and well as keeps the momentum building and going, rather than hitting a wall.

 

5. Logistics are half the battle. When I am out and am suggesting other places to checkout, I ensure that they are logistically easy and close to each other. a long travel time can kill your momentum. Doing recon before and during your night is key. Since I frequent the area, I have great knowledge of all venues and their relative proximity to each other. Also, when it came up during the conversation that the redhead lived very close to where we were, that made her place the ideal go-to stop to continue the night once the bars closed.

 

4. Frame is a powerful tool. In this particular night, I used Frame to be the best wingman I could be. From the initial approach to taking the group from one lounge to the other, then to a convenience store and then back to one of the girl’s houses, that was only made possible because I defined and held the Frame. I used the theme statement of “It’s your birthday, we’re going to celebrate it properly” as the base that Frame operated from and it made for an adventure that everyone else was more than happy to be a part of.

3. Don’t ask. Subtly command. Part of Frame and game is learning to subtly give commands and not go about it by asking in a Beta way. What I mean by this is when I said “Finish up those drinks, we’re moving out!” I was giving the command of “finish your drinks, we are going to relocate to another venue,” rather than asking “Hey do you guys want to go see this other place?” By taking command of the situation I was able to hold Frame and steer the direction of the night. Other cases of this from that night were when I said “Time for a field trip,” and then leading the group to a convenience store, and then once we where done at the store saying to the Redhead “So we’re going back to your place to continue the celebrations since it’s around the corner?” I was dictating how the night was going to go, and then last example of that was near the end when we were hanging at the redhead’s place and I stated to the blonde “You’re an awesome amount of fun, I’ll give you a lift back to your place so you don’t have to call an Uber.” I was telling her not to call an Uber, I will be taking her home. Now there is a fine line, you don’t have to be an asshole in a commanding way, and sometimes you’ll get some push back to subtle commands. That’s fine and comes with the territory. NEVER FORCE ANYONE TO DO SOMETHING THEY DON”T WANT TO DO. I know most of you reading this already know that, but for those of you that might miss my meaning, I am not advocating forcing people into situations without their consent. Commands establish reinforce your Frame in an authentic way and is a great way to test how well people fall into it.

2. Know how to follow the lead. Nothing is more frustrating that doing a lot of setup to get the baton to the next runner and then to have them drop it half a second into you trying to pass it on. My friend did an excellent job of following my lead and playing off of me, so the combination was extremely effective. You can be Alpha and have Frame by following the lead of another person’s strong Frame. This can help establish your own Frame with a particular person or group and makes for an effective 1 – 2 punch. If you’re rolling out with a wingman and you guys can’t play off each other or follow each other’s leads as needed, you success rate is going to plummet, so make sure you both can either take the lead or follow the lead.

1. Have fun. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the outcome that we forget to take a step back and just enjoy the ride. One of the best highlights of the night for me was being able to have a fun time while helping a friend run his game on a girl he was attracted to. But all of us had a really fun time as we took the theme of “proper birthday celebrations” and ran with it. From the first venue to the second then the convenience store and then finally at the redhead’s house, the entire night was a fun time we all participated in. If you focus on having fun, then whether your get laid or not at the end of the night you’ll have a great time regardless. And as a bonus, having that attitude usually gets you laid more.

The More You Know

Gay Club Game For Straight Guys

Night Club

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” –  Neale Donald Walsch

In my experience, a very underrated area for a single straight guy to go meet women is at a gay club. I’ve gone with my gay male friends before just hang and have a good time, and I’ve found that being a straight guy you game gets an amplified boost. With halfway decent game your efforts get an amplified effect, so I’ve broken down a few reasons why below. Now note that these observations apply to straight men and straight women.

4. You’re open minded and know how to have fun.

A lot of straight guys get hung up on the “gay” part of the gay club. Either they don’t feel comfortable, it’s not something they wish to be associated with, or there is a host of other reasons. But in any case, by virtue of you being at a gay club signals that you’re open minded and down for a good time. The message you’re translating is that you’re a man comfortable enough with his own sexuality to be in a place that would seem to put you outside of your comfort zone. Use this frame to set the tone for your night.

3. In an ocean of unattainable guys, you are a beacon of attainability.

Why do straight girls go gay clubs? So they can look at hot guys while dancing, having fun and not worrying about anyone hitting on them. They can do a little window shopping, like when people look at homes or cars they can’t afford yet. They want to get a little taste of the dream. That being said, when you have women that are looking at a bunch of attractive men that they know they have no real chance with, but then you come along to and show them that they don’t have to stick to window shopping that night. It’s not always the most shredded 6-pack abs covered in baby oil type guy that gets the girl…sometimes it’s the most attainable guy, who you know, likes girls. Which leads to point #3…

2. Your competition is minimal

This should be self explanatory but I’ll mention this point to reinforce point #3. In a sea of sharks that only want to eat other sharks, this leaves ample amounts of tuna for a shark that wants tuna to eat. Translating that to the gay club, you’ll find that other dudes trying to cockblock or AMOG you with other girls is minimal. At regular clubs you have to deal with those distractions more regularly, but at the gay club you’ll find that other dudes hitting on you will distract you more than other guys trying to compete for the girl you’re going after. The script is flipped, in which girls now have other guys competing to get you, so play with that competitive advantage a little.

1. The environment is a massive wingman

All the prior points outline the fundamental message I want to drive home: The entire place, though not intended to, actually acts as a facilitator and amplifier for your game. Another big help is that gay clubs, in typical guy fashion, are very overt and charged with sexual energy. The entire environment is a giant social Viagra that is designed to get people excited, amped up and turned on. So when you have women entering this sexually supercharged zone with no outlet for it, your job is made a whole lot easier. Do you still need to put in work? Yes, because unless you’re like Leonardo DiCaprio, chances are you can’t just show up and get swarmed by girls (and guys alike). So yes, you will need your game skills but you’ll find they have an amplified effect.

That’s all for this post, so get out there and take over the world gents.