L’art De La Féminité (The Art of Femininity)

Jill Hennessy

“Femininity can be a powerful thing.” – Jillian Rose Banks

This post is a special one, in that it’s not discussing theory or field reports. Sometimes in the Red Pill community everyone gets so caught up in highlighting the negative or frustrating aspects of women, that all of the beauty and wonderment of them gets lost in the shuffle. This post is a shout out to femininity, to all the women who embrace it and to the women who know the art of it.

In the modern world, the art of femininity has become an increasingly rare commodity. Feminism and the betafaction of men has done a lot of damage to men with the Blue Pill, but it’s also done a lot of damage to women in their ability to express what truly is an art from. Like masculinity which is an art into itself, femininity has be chastised and turned on itself in an attempt to warp it into a perverted version of masculinity. But where there is oppression and attack, there is resistance, and prosperity.

Shout out to women who understand and embody the lost art of femininity. Women who look feminine and in their own unique way express their femininity through their actions. To the girls that know how to rock a stunning dress, know to utilize their feminine charm to create a sense of mystery and intrigue, to the women who know how to be a proper counter balance to men without trying to become men. Shout out to the women who grind right along with men in their own hustle rather than solely use them, who know how to blow our minds in the bedroom, and know how to a take care of themselves. Shout out to women who know how to cook, how to appreciate fine dining and how to make our days a bit brighter. And a big shout out to girls that are into threesomes, because that’s just awesome.

Women are a compliment to a man’s life, never the sole focus of it. But they can be a massive compliment with a very capable woman. In order to experience that as a man, you yourself must be a man that can bring it out of a woman. If she’s a Ferrari but you only know how to drive Honda Civics, then you need to get some driving school in and learn how to master that Ferrari to get the most out of it. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, women can be incredibly powerful, amazing and dynamic experiences. One of the great joys in life is coming across a truly feminine woman, who exudes and radiates it in every way. You represent the best that womankind has to offer.

Cheers.

Hannah Ferguson for Ellipse Serenity Lingerie lookbook (Summer 2013)

 

 

5 Reasons to Have Female Friends

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“I think there’s something to the old saying that women use sex to get love, and men use love to get sex. And love is really just a word we use to describe a close bond, or relationship, between two people. Men have been programmed to want sex, so they do whatever is necessary to be in a relationship with a woman. And a woman is programmed to want the stability and (financial) security of a relationship, so she offers the man what he wants: sex.” ― Oliver Markus, Why Men And Women Can’t Be Friends

The topic of female friends is always an interesting debate within the Red Pill community. Some say never have them, others say it’s ok to have one or two. Personally, I find this topic to be pretty interesting and I have my own thoughts on the subject. As a Red Pill man I think it’s essential to have a core group of Red Pill (or close to it) male friends. As for female friends,  I think it’s not only possible but it’s important to have them as well. Below are my top 5 reasons why:

5. They provide first-hand validation of Red Pill truths. Once you become Red-Pill aware, you can’t unsee the truths it holds. This will be extremely evident in all of your relationships, especially those with pre-existing female friends. But, what this does allow is for you to go “go behind enemy lines” so to speak, in that you get a first hand view into confirming these truths for yourself. Suddenly, things you used to take at face value you can suddenly see the mechanisms behind the words or action, especially when your female friends discuss dating.  It’s always good to get a live reminder of how women operate so that way you can see just how Blue Pill men get used by women, but also frustrate women at the same time. You also get to see confirmations of how Alpha and Red Pill men are perceived and treated and these first hand observations confirm things in ways far more meaningfully than a forum post. So to sum it up, having female friends is a great way to get field confirmation of Red Pill truths so you can better understand them, learn about them, and then apply them for your own means.

4. They can be great bait. Female friends, especially attractive ones, are excellent bait, in the sense that they are perfect for arousing the curiosity of other females. Once you learn mastery over not being phased by a woman’s beauty and you adopt the abundance mentality, then being friends with attractive women is very easy. And an unintended perk of that is if you invite these female friends out to a fun venue, say a bar, club, event or even just the park; all other females in the vicinity will be instantly curious. I’ve been approached by many women when I am out with a female friend or several, and the first thing they want to know if “what’s your situation?” Having attractive female friends creates a rudimentary form of social proof. And when it comes to nightlife it makes the relationship very symbiotic, in that your female friends get to enjoy your presence and check out cool places, and you get to have instant social proof you can leverage to pickup other girls. Now remember your Red Pill principals, on having strong Frame will allow you to fully maximize this. If you’re that guy that’s with a bunch of female friends but you have no Frame and project a Beta vibe, then you’re going to be perceived as a girlfriend yourself. So the 2 big things to remember are keep your Frame strong and the more attractive your friends are, the better it the situation will be for you.

3. They can keep your plates in check. Another perk that female friends can provide, especially very attractive ones, is that they can keep your plates in check. We’ve all been in that situation where a plate gets a little too comfortable and starts trying up the shit test ante. Having solid Frame keeps that in check, but also doing a hangout with a plate and an attractive female friend works effectively in creating that sense of light dread. It’s a very live reminder of “I’m a man who keeps the company of attractive women, so I don’t need you as my sole source company.” Girls are very competitive, so playing that nature against itself works very effectively in your favor. And if you’re still a little Blue Pill and think that this is somehow morally manipulative, you need to understand that women are naturally far better players than men and are playing their own game. So you either need to be superior at your own game or find yourself trapped within the confines of her game.

2. They can be friends with benefits. If you have your Frame in check and are a high value man, then you’d be amazed at what situations you can create for yourself. Friends with benefits is always a great situation to have, and in order to have that situation, you need to first be friends. If you stick to your Red Pill principals and work an developing yourself and your Frame, then you’ll be able to foster these situations much more frequently at your discretion. The more experience you have the women, the better you’ll be with them, to them and for them.

1. It’s just good networking. One of my favorite quotes is “Life is a contact sport. The more people you contact, the better you’ll do. Having female friends is good networking, as with any friend it can lead to other romantic pursuits with other friends they have, experiences at at events, or even career opportunities. The key is to ensure that if you’re going to have a friendship, with anyone, they are a person of good character that adds value to your life, just like you will add value to theirs. Everything I listed above only works if you are a man of value who provides some type of value. If you’re just looking to be a leech or a taker without giving anything in return, then you need to do some seriously self evaluation and turn that ship around.

All in all having female friends can provide many perks and also helps give a balanced perspective on life. Remember, the purpose of the Red Pill isn’t to hate women or be anti women, it’s to help men better understand them so we can be the “men who other women want to fuck, and other men want to be.” If you hate women, then you’ve completely missed the point.

Thinking Man

An “Honest” Try

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“Above all, don’t lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.” ― Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Brothers Karamazov

For this post, I wanted to tackle an insidious phrase I hear over and over again, which at it’s core is one of the strongest Blue Pill shackles that keeps men chained to terrible situations. This phrase has all the right words and seems to express what men should be doing. But in reality, this phrase is a warped mix of self-deception that preys on a man’s sense of honor and doing the right thing. That phrase is:

“I’m giving it an honest try.”

The phrase of “I’m giving it an honest try,” or any variation of it (“We’re giving it an honest shot”, etc.) is such a sneaky phrase because on the surface it sounds like the right thing. It’s saying that a man is wanting to give a relationship a go with his full attention, desire and will power. It’s supposedly saying this man is a mature adult and is taking responsibility for himself and for his relationship. After all, men are the ones who constantly are in need of “growing up” right? What is so wrong with admitting to trying your best and giving a relationship your all?

To begin with, this phrase it built entirely on Blue Pill honor-bound logic that places the man’s internal value far below that of his partner in the relationship. “I’ve giving it an honest try” is always uttered as a justification that society and men tell themselves for sticking with a partner that they are not in a good situation with. This phrase never appears when a situation is solid, operating withing a good, healthy Frame. No one in those situations is “giving it an honest try.” That phrase always appears when there’s constant fighting, situational turmoil, and drama. Then mostly men will utter this phrase as if it’s justification of all the strife and magically makes all of the bad acceptable. It’s a phrase used as an end-all-be-all statement that supposed to be taken at face value and left be.

The next part of this phrase that’s very insidious is that no one bothers to ask the question of what does an “honest” try actually mean? As I mentioned before, this phrase is only used to attempt to overwrite a bad and dysfunctional situation. So are all the healthy situations “dishonest?” The true answer is that the “honest” part is a self-deception for the Blue Pill man. It’s a lie he tells himself over and over hoping that it’ll become true someday. “If only saying it, would make it so” (I couldn’t help but to toss a Star Wars quote in there).  The reality is that this idea of an “honest” try is completely female-centric Blue Pill conditioning that says “your duty as a man is to put up with this girl’s bullshit no matter what the cost to you is. It doesn’t matter how raw the deal is for you, you owe her an “honest” effort in the situation.” So keep on trying and sacrificing for the sake of being an “honest” man. You can see why it’s just a commonly used phrase for the Blue Pill man.

For men, this phrase is essentially the guy saying “I’m telling myself a dishonest lie. I’m abdicating my Frame to appease this girl in the vain hope that she’ll appreciate the sacrifice and find a way to respect me.” And as those who are familiar with the Red Pill know, once you give up on your Frame you will be eaten alive. Women don’t want you to cave to their temperamental storms, they want you to weather them and remain true to yourself and unshaken. If you can’t keep yourself protected from her temperament, how will you be able to protect her from the world? How will you be able to handle yourself when the tough situations in life come for you both? Women are constantly testing men because if she’s going to invest in a partner, she’s going to make damn sure her partner can handle himself and his business, regardless of what gets tossed his way. So if you’re losing your shit over a girl’s behavior, that shows to her that she can pierce your armor and therefor the world can pierce your armor as well. How can you possibly be a worthy shield if she can break you so easily?

If you find yourself saying this phrase, then I have news for you: It’s time to NEXT this girl and move on. Saying this phrase is an omission of relinquishing Frame and any chance of legitimacy has been lost. It’s far better to cut things off and move on before your soul gets ravaged and drained. Women are supposed to make your dick hard, not your life. If it’s the latter, you need to reevaluate your situation and see why your Frame isn’t in check. Then you need to be truly honest with yourself and proceed from there. The only “honest try” you need to be giving is to your mission in life and your own self improvement.

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Going The Distance: Strategy For Dating At A Long(ish) Distance

“Whoever coined the term “absence makes a heart grow fonder,” was an idiot. Absence makes a bitch grow crazy.” – Toni Aleo

I’m not a fan or real believer in long distance relationships. For an LTR, it creates a lot of unnecessary problems and stress. However, if you’re casually dating or have a hook up buddy situation, than the long distance can be a huge plus. For this post, I’ll be touching on a helpful strategy to foster and manage dating from a long(ish) distance.

To start, I will say that for purposes of this strategy, long(ish) distance is anyone that lives 30 or more miles away from you, or usually lives about an hour and half of travel time from you. In the dating scene, distance plays a factor. Usually a good 5-20 mile radius is ideal because that makes logistics much simpler with shorter travel times and convenience of venues located close to your house or their’s. When you get beyond that, you start getting into issues of logistics and time that usually force your hand to find a place that is either in your neighborhood or in hers. So what is a good way to manage this?

For a first date / hang session, I almost always find a venue in her neighborhood and will go pick her up. This allows me to maintain Frame as I am responsible for transportation as well as putting within close proximity to her place if things go very well. Also, unless a girl is making it really clear that she is super into you, it’s much easier to go to her side of town for the first encounter because she’s putting less investment in initially by you coming to her (when a girls lives relatively close to me, I usually do the inverse in that I almost always have them come to me on the first encounter). But this is your chance to show off how awesome you are and to get her to enticed into your Frame. You’re giving her a strong reason to come to your side of town for the next date / hangout. Remember, girls live in a time where they have more access to men than they know what to do with, so you need to give her a worthwhile reason to drive and hour or more in traffic to come see you when she could easily swipe right on a guy that lives 3 blocks away on her phone. Be the man worth the effort and you’ll be surprised by what girls will do to be with you. I once went out with a girl that did not have a car (this was the pre-Uber days) and lived on the other side of town from me and for our second date she took 3 buses and train, in LA, which is not known for it’s efficient public transportation to get to me, she was that into me. I’ve also had another girl that lived an hour away from me have car trouble so she borrowed her aunt’s car to drive to me rather than me driving to her. Be a man worth the effort.

After you’ve shown that you’re a man of value and are worth going the distance for, the second encounter you should have her meet at your place and then you take her out from there. This allows you to bring her into your world and show off your home court advantage with local venues that you know of. Also, you’ll have to end up back at your place, which makes it more convenient for her to spend the night. I’ve dated a lot of girls that lived 30 – 70 miles away from me and this formula works extremely well, especially as once the Frame has been established, usually 8 out 10 dates involve them coming to my side of town in exchange for me going to their side of town 1 or 2 out of 10 times. This is especially effective with girls that are living with roommates or that are living with family. Your world can be an exciting escape from their reality for them.

Another benefit of this arrangement is that if you’re seeing multiple people, it’s easier to schedule them to come see you and you can also schedule multiple dates in the same day with people who live in the same direction. Once I did a “double day” by seeing a girl in Oceanside, which is easily an hour and half outside of Los Angeles in the afternoon and then saw another girl that I hooked up with that night down in San Diego. The logistics worked at very well and made the 120 mile drive down to San Diego very worth while as I was able to make a stop en route for a date in Oceanside, which is 35 miles north of San Diego. Killing 2 birds with 1 stone as they say. Another perk is that you have a drastically reduced chance of bumping into one of your longer distance prospects while out with a local girl, and it helps keep your plates that you’re spinning separate.

I will stress that all of this works based on the fact that you have your Frame in check. If you don’t then you’ll come off as that Beta guy that’s really “nice.” Only having that Alpha swag will make her desire to make the trip. The real question you have to ask is how much effort are you willing to put in. If you don’t want to bother, not to worry, go out and meet more people that are closer to you. But if you have a warm lead and the only thing standing in the way is distance, then this might be a solid option to consider. I have found with long(ish) distance dating, by putting in a little bit more effort upfront I can then have an easier situation that requires an extremely small amount of work to maintain. I do enjoy making the effort on the first encounter, as I usually get to know and scout a new area out for future reference (you never know when it will come in handy). So if you meet someone that you’re into and are trying to figure out out how logistics can work, try this formula out for yourself. It’s especially useful for you guys in towns that are small and far from a lot of action, so you most likely are making a bit of a trek to go beyond the local watering holes anyways. See if your prospects can go the distance.

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Who’s Turn Is It Anyway?

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“No winter lasts forever; no spring skips its turn.” –  Hal Borland

For this post I wanted to give a bit of a quick pep talk addressing on of the core Red Pill truth’s. When it comes to any woman you’re involved with romantically, always remember that she is not your’s, it’s just your turn. Now, this turn might last for 1 night or 50 years, but if you understand this concept this will help you in regulation your Frame and emotions. It’s an important concept because it puts the abundance mentality first and helps you see relationships for what hey are, not for what society conditions use to believe, which is that they are one-shot chances at happiness.

Now perhaps event more importantly to remember is the inverse act is true: She doesn’t own you and it’s her turn with you. Many times this fact is forgotten because too much focus is put externally on the other party in the relationship. But this is a true fact that reinforces the you are the prize mentality. So I’ll say it again, when you’re involved with any woman romantically remember that it’s her turn to be with you, and that turn can be ended at your discretion.

That’s it for today, sort and sweet. Now go make the most of those turns.

Cheers.

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Wolves Vs Dogs

Classy Wolf

“Liberty for wolves is death to the lambs.” – Isaiah Berlin

This post is an inspired response to Rollo Tomassi’s thought provoking tweet from 1/13/2018:

“The “beta uprising” will be nothing more than betas doubling down on empathizing with women. Whether directly by supporting and increasingly tight laws they hope will crack down on alphas being alphas, or indirectly by sorting themselves voluntarily out of the dating pool.”

I gave a quick reply on twitter:

“I think that is how It will start, but I think they will hit a point of nothing to lose, as they have given everything away and will start to push back.”

While this reply was based on my initial thoughts, the tweet stuck with me in my thoughts which lead to me to the post that I have for today. While do think that in the end, the Beat Awakening will result in some push back on the pendulum, Rollo’s words gave rise to a thought where I can’t help but see the parallel between wolves and domesticated dogs, and how the situation came to be.

Dogs started out as feral, untamed pack hunters that early humans feared and respected. At some point thousands of ears ago, there was a divergence, where dogs that where less aggressive and more naturally tame,where taken in by humans, while the wild ones where hunted, killed, or driven away. These time dogs become domesticated, and as time has passed, have become dependent upon humans for their survival. As we all know, domesticated dogs for the most part are nothing like their wild counter parts in modern times. And these domestic dogs will defend to the death their human masters and can even be sent on hunts to track down other wild dogs.

Relating this to Rollo’s tweet, the same can be applied to Beta men vs Alpha men. The Beta’s are in a sense domesticated pets, ready and willing to do their master’s bidding. They will even defend and attack the Alpha’s to protect their masters from them. Despite sharing a common ancestry, the Alpha’s and Betas are on different sides of the fence. So Rollo’s point of  “doubling down” I can see being the first step in a “Beta Awakening”. The first step will always be to defend what is known. But even domesticated dogs can become feral and wild should they suffer too much abuse from their masters. I think that will be the second part of the “Awakening” will happen when Betas are forced in kennels and denied the comforts of what they need to function.

In the meantime, the Alpha seems like an endangered species, in that as Open Hypergamy expands, the Alpha’s habitat is under serious threat. Though much like feral and cunning wolves, the Alphas have managed to adapt and find solace in numbers allowing them to thrive. As many have stated in before, learning game and evolving it is more critical than ever before. It is no longer a luxury, it is a survival requirement.

I do agree with Rollo’s thought that the “Beta Awakening” will see the doubling down of the domesticated Betas to protect their masters to their own detriment. I also feel that that will be the first part, and that the second, true “awakening” will happen after a breaking point is reached. Only time will tell where all of this goes and how it will play out. But one thing I do know is that much like wolves who have roamed the earth for thousands of years and have found ways to survive in all type of conditions, those that can actualize their Alpha selves and keep a strong Red Pill understanding will find a way to thrive. And when spotted in the wild, there will be a sense of awe and a reminder of how the natural world really works to the beholder.

Howling Wolf

Name Your Game

Rat Pack

“Your life is not a simulation; it’s the real game. Play wisely.” ― Richelle E. Goodrich

As you develop your Game skills and understanding, you realize that there are many different type of Game styles that can utilize. Usually one style is the most effective for you, but you can utilize more than one at different times or concurrently to improve your success rate. For this post, I’ll be detailing below 4 different Game styles and the personality types these are very effective for, with 4 real-world examples of each.

4. Great Gatsby Game

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Style: This game style is not so much named because of who the fictional character Jay Gatsby was, since he was extremely Beta; but more so about what he represented. Gatsby was known for hosting and throwing large, grand and very elaborate parties that made him the talk of the town. Gatsby was about viewing life as a grand adventure and being larger than life. This made him so charming and appealing because he had a sense of optimistic innocence to his world view that made it easy for people to get swept up in; it was pure.

This style will draw shit testing from women’s pragmatic side or the people trying to pull you out of “fantasy play land” and back to “the real world.” This is countered by adopting the old Playstation mantra: “Live in your world; play in ours.” Great Gatsby Game is about bringing people into your Frame and you maintaining it. Your world is one of fun, celebration and adventure. The trick is to not let the guests in your world change it back into their world.

Personality Type: This Game style is best suited for guys that are social, especially those with “larger than life” personalities. Typically these guys have no problems approaching and opening an individual or a group of people and within 5 minutes they are are charmed by their spell. This Game style utilizes social proof and bravado and results in you very overtly owning the room. I make the most use of this style personally, as it suits my personality and passion for adventure in life.

Examples: Walt Disney, John Wayne, James Dean, Elon Musk

3. James Bond Game

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Style: This Game style is defined as being sleek, subtle, and follows a more Classic Alpha archetype. Unlike the Great Gatsby Game, James Bond Game is much more poised. Everything seems calculated and strategic, there are “no accidents” when employing this game. There is always an sense of “I know a juicy secret about the world and I won’t tell anyone” that draws an entices people in; it’s the sense of mystery generated by the great confidence and poise. This Game style also gets a lot of shit tests thrown at it, which are then deflected with the greatest of ease by a smirk and quick comment. There is always an air of classy superiority that is present, regardless if there is social proof or not. This style runs on 100% rock-solid Frame.

This style is loathed by Beta orbiters because there is no clearly visible reason why this style is so intriguing to women, and so they will shit test, run interference and try to “protect” women from this unknown danger that represents a threat to their misguided investment in women. This style will use that to your advantage to show how confidently Alpha you are and will draw women in more powerfully while getting the Betas to push themselves away further.

Personality Type: This Game style is best suited for guys that would rather approach indirectly or by proximity, rather than go out of their way to make a direct approach. Guys that are great at the concept of Amused Mastery and are good at using teasing and sarcasm.

Examples: Frank Sinatra, Clint Eastwood, Sean Connery, George Clooney

2. Jeff Goldblum Game (aka The Eccentric Genius Game)

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Style: This unconventional style of Game owns that fact all the way while highlighting how many different Red Pill concepts can be executed brilliantly in very diverse ways. On the outside these might seem like head-scratching outliers, but for those who know how to read the Red Pill tells, it makes perfect sense. This style is based on embracing one’s social uniqueness and holding total Frame control while doing so. What this Frame hold does is it makes the rest of the world seem like it’s off and the one projecting the Frame is the standard. Rather than conform to the world this style is about getting the world to conform to you.

This style can be an acquired taste in certain situations, but once’s it’s honed, it’s charm is almost irresistible, because it creates instant social proof by getting everyone to conform. Jeff Goldblum, who I have had the pleasure of meeting and is the reason why this style is named after him, is a prime example of this. When you’re in his presence you feel like you’re caught in a mental conversation he’s having with himself, but his sense of charm and inquisitive curiosity makes the experience uniquely fun and very memorable. It’s a different version of Great Gatsby Game in sense that you’re bringing others into your own reality, however this reality is not larger than life, this reality is one simple thing: You.

Personality Type: This works very well for people who are introverted, a little socially awkward or who have a more unique view of the world but would not be defined as classically Alpha. Book-smart and nerdy guys excel at this style of Game.

Examples: Jeff Goldblum, Woody Allen, John Malkovich, Howard Hughes

1. Tortured Genius Game

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Style: This style of Game is a variant of the Alpha Bad Boy archetype and is one of the most powerful and effective types of Game there is. This type of Game is “No fucks given” to the highest degree. Abundance mentality rules as many may come and go, one thing remains, the driving goal or passion in life. This passion, be it art, music, acquiring wealth or any other obsession will always be the top priority. Lil Wayne stated it best: “I’m married to the Game and I love my wifey.” For girls, this means that they will always be in direct competition with that driving passion and that they will always come in 2nd place to it, effectively making them a gloried mistress. Usually paired with a knack for creativity, this game creates that irresistible combo to women of strong Alpha traits paired with a “beautiful soul,” as only their uniquely feminine charms can see into it and witness the raw creative talent. A common phrase heard is “He chose me,” which reflects that this Alpha has a multitude of options available to him and he is in fact, the prize worth competing for.

There is a downside with type of Game, as these type seems much more prone to relationships based on a volatile nature and extreme degrees of pendulum swings. One day all is perfect, the next day, the entire world is burning down and there is no escape. Keeping one’s emotional Frame is in check is essential to ensuring that what makes this style so successful doesn’t wind up destroying you, making this style a very sharp double-edged sword.

Personality Type: This type of game is seen a lot in the creative fields, especially with musicians, actors and artists (and bartenders, for whatever reason). The creative drive and vision for the world is a very sexy trait, though I’ve noticed that guys that naturally utilize this style are very prone to self-destructive tendencies (excessive drinking and drug abuse, dangerous activities, etc.). Also given to the volatile nature of this dynamic, more aggressive and passionate personalities tend to utilize this game and they enjoy a much larger threshold of forgiveness and tolerance than any of the other Game styles. Guys that are good with words or expressing and conveying ideas become the masters of tapping into women’s hamsters and getting them to spin in overdrive. Paired with truly not giving a fuck, it’s game over.

Examples: Jim Morrison, Prince, Kurt Cobian, Kanye West

If these apply to you you should explore and experiment with mastering your style. If they don’t you can consider utilizing these styles to see if any work well in your favor. I’d be willing to bet that at least 1 of them does.

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Survival of the Fittest

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“You realize that we’re the only species that protects the weak?” – Bill Burr

For this post I’m addressing a topic that on the subject of something I find critically important: Personal Accountability. It seems as we become more an more progressive, we stay away from a core principal of life, which is survival of the fittest to “subduing the fit to ensure the weak survive.” This post is more of a pep talk, so please use it for a reminder or motivation go out and live your life to the fullest. Here’s my take on some universal truths and some motivational lines from pop culture to help relate them:

1. Life is not fair. Plan and simple, yet this truth is something we as a society continuously refuse to except and instead attempt to bring the successful down.  Everyone is dealt different cards in life and it’s all matter of how you play them. I know people with every advantage going for them and can’t seem to stay afloat, and I know people from nothing that have built sand achieved greatness. And I’ve seen people with every advantage and they use them brilliantly to expand themselves. Life isn’t fair…and it’s not fair for to everyone, which actually makes it fair.

As our society becomes more feminized, we’ve shifted our focus to protecting the feeling of everyone. Unfortunately a harsh truth is life does not care about your feeling and neither do results. Sports is one of the few places where this truth is allowed to shine, in that there is a winner and a loser, a champion and then everyone else. The idea that we all get trophies for participation sets a false expectation, because in life you may try your best and still fail or come up short. That is how life works. It’s better to fail and use the pain of it for motivation to succeed in the future than try to hide or downplay the simple truth that sometimes our best isn’t good enough. Another great line said by Sean Connery in the Rock (which he was a boss in that role)  sums up this sentiment perfectly:

“You’re best? Losers always whine about their best. Winners go home and fuck the prom queen.”

Take this to heart: Losers whine and winner get it done. Some days you will lose, and that’s ok, because the greatest teacher is failure. It’s not that you’ve failed but it’s the fact that you wallow in the failure that makes it a horrible thing. But if you fail, learn, pick yourself up and continue to push you will be successful and you will have an appreciation for those wins.

2. You are responsible for your situation. In your life, you have to accept that the 1 factor that that you have absolute control over is you. You can get caught up in headlines, what the latest new from Washington is or a million other things happening in the world. But the fact is, at the end of the day you need to decide what you have to do for you and you have to dedicate yourself to that. It doesn’t matter if you where born into a million dollars are born with 2 cents to your family name.

We presently live in the best time in human history. The world has never been safer, had more access to resources available to people and any thing you could want to know are a few keystrokes and clicks away. The only thing that gets in the way of your success is you. Own it, and watch yourself do wondrous things.

3. No one has it easy. Celebrities, billionaire or other highly successful people don’t have things easy. Everyone in this life has their hardships and issues they have to deal with. Just because you can’t see their struggle does not somehow make your own struggles somehow special. To quote the musician Guru of Gang Starr, “Actions have reactions don’t be quick to judge, you may not know the hardships people don’t speak of.”

Now this is not to downplay the validity of your own struggles, but that doesn’t give you the right to disregard what others are going through. Some people are so poor they have no idea when they will eat again, other people are so rich they are isolated and can’t trust anyone as they have “friends” and family that are continuously trying to take from them. We all have struggles, so it’s best to focus on overcoming them and leave the jealousy of other peoples perceived easiness of life in the wind as it’s not a productive use of your energy or time.

4. “Do or do not, there is no try.” Ironic how words from a movie character (Yoda) can contain some powerful life wisdom. You either find a way to get it done or you find an excuse why you can’t. Plain and simple. If you have a goal, you need to make that your mission in life to get it done, come hell or high water. Now, you can adjust how your approach achieving that goal as go along the way, but at the end of the day it all becomes binary: Did you achieve it, or did you not achieve it?

Only you can answer that question and it’s up to you to hold yourself accountable for that. The best way to stay motivated is to never have a Plan B. Once you have a Plan B you’re subconsciously telling yourself that accepting failure to achieve that goal is an option. A personal mantra I use comes from a brilliant line delivered by John Trivolta in The Taking of Pelgham 123:

“Plan B is enforcing Plan A.”

That line is brilliant because it says he’s dead focused on a singular purpose and all of his being is working to execute it…even his “backup plan” is pushing through to execute and realize the vision of his main objective.

That’s my pep talk for today. I don’t know who you are or your story in life, but it is my sincerest hope that you live the life of your dreams and that you achieve your goals. I believe that we all can achieve greatness together and we won’t succeed by living solely to cut others down. I’ll leave you with another quote from the brilliant Felix Dennis (if you don’t know who he is you should google him), which reflects a core belief I hold:

“A swelling tide raises all boats, including yours.”

Go be the champion of your life.

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Gay Club Game For Straight Guys

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“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” –  Neale Donald Walsch

In my experience, a very underrated area for a single straight guy to go meet women is at a gay club. I’ve gone with my gay male friends before just hang and have a good time, and I’ve found that being a straight guy you game gets an amplified boost. With halfway decent game your efforts get an amplified effect, so I’ve broken down a few reasons why below. Now note that these observations apply to straight men and straight women.

4. You’re open minded and know how to have fun.

A lot of straight guys get hung up on the “gay” part of the gay club. Either they don’t feel comfortable, it’s not something they wish to be associated with, or there is a host of other reasons. But in any case, by virtue of you being at a gay club signals that you’re open minded and down for a good time. The message you’re translating is that you’re a man comfortable enough with his own sexuality to be in a place that would seem to put you outside of your comfort zone. Use this frame to set the tone for your night.

3. In an ocean of unattainable guys, you are a beacon of attainability.

Why do straight girls go gay clubs? So they can look at hot guys while dancing, having fun and not worrying about anyone hitting on them. They can do a little window shopping, like when people look at homes or cars they can’t afford yet. They want to get a little taste of the dream. That being said, when you have women that are looking at a bunch of attractive men that they know they have no real chance with, but then you come along to and show them that they don’t have to stick to window shopping that night. It’s not always the most shredded 6-pack abs covered in baby oil type guy that gets the girl…sometimes it’s the most attainable guy, who you know, likes girls. Which leads to point #3…

2. Your competition is minimal

This should be self explanatory but I’ll mention this point to reinforce point #3. In a sea of sharks that only want to eat other sharks, this leaves ample amounts of tuna for a shark that wants tuna to eat. Translating that to the gay club, you’ll find that other dudes trying to cockblock or AMOG you with other girls is minimal. At regular clubs you have to deal with those distractions more regularly, but at the gay club you’ll find that other dudes hitting on you will distract you more than other guys trying to compete for the girl you’re going after. The script is flipped, in which girls now have other guys competing to get you, so play with that competitive advantage a little.

1. The environment is a massive wingman

All the prior points outline the fundamental message I want to drive home: The entire place, though not intended to, actually acts as a facilitator and amplifier for your game. Another big help is that gay clubs, in typical guy fashion, are very overt and charged with sexual energy. The entire environment is a giant social Viagra that is designed to get people excited, amped up and turned on. So when you have women entering this sexually supercharged zone with no outlet for it, your job is made a whole lot easier. Do you still need to put in work? Yes, because unless you’re like Leonardo DiCaprio, chances are you can’t just show up and get swarmed by girls (and guys alike). So yes, you will need your game skills but you’ll find they have an amplified effect.

That’s all for this post, so get out there and take over the world gents.

 

Friends Like These

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“Always sleep with one eye open. Never take anything for granted. Your best friends might just be your enemies” – Sara Shepard

For this post, I wanted to touch on an interesting topic that I’ve dealt with personally and I feel is becoming more and more of an issue many guys are dealing with in general as well as in a magnified capacity with Red Pill Awareness: The role of male friendship.

For men, the role of friendship has become a much more difficult topic to tackle over the last 50 years, particularly over the last 30. The large reason for that is with the more feminized socialization of boys, they are taught that a more feminized method of expression is the “correct way.” Open communication, expressing feelings and being more sensitive is the “correct” or standardized way that boys are taught to communicate and behave, which is the way that women communicate and behave. The issue manifests as these boys grow older and don’t know how to relate to men as men. Male communication and socialization is different from women’s…Women will sit around compliment each other and not meaning it while men insult each other and not mean it. The way men bond and socialize is more direct and about sizing each other up to find a place in the pecking order…Men use insults, brash language and direct communication as a way of bonding and endearment. Guys poking fun of each other is part of our bonding experience…it’s a male-to-male shit test. If I call you a sissy, are you going to take it? Or are you going to fire back and give me a run for my money? To the female point of view this can seem horrifying, but it’s how male psychology has evolved to help ensure the survival of humans.

In the modern era, these sorts of mannerism have been deemed “incorrect” and boys are being encourage to socialize the way girls do, which is the “correct” method. The consequence of this is two fold: Men don’t know how to relate to women as men, but they know how to relate to them as “women”, and men don’t know how to relate to their fellow man. What this means in terms of intersexual and dating dynamics is that women are now frustrated that there are no “real men” left anymore, which is a result of this “corrective conditioning,” so the super-rare “Man” (Alpha) becomes a huge in-demand commodity.  For the average guy, this is an added insult to injury because he was raised his entire life to be sensitive and emotional, yet when he tries to relate to women he he shunned from their intimacy. He has been setup to fail and according to society it’s all still somehow his “fault.” This is seen very prominently in modern Christian circles. I’m not knocking religion or trying to make an attack on the Christian faith. I believe that spirituality is an essential part of human existence and organized religion can be a great thing. That being said, I also can see how Red Pill principles apply in a religious setting, and religious traditions aren’t exempt from examination or critique. Going back to the point at hand, the westernized Christian social settings are very feminized, and essentially use religious ideology to justify the pacification of men into “good little boys.” Anger aggression, and other displays of traditional masculinity are deemed sinful so not only is it the “improper” thing to do there’s also the risk of eternal damnation attached to it, which is a powerful reinforcement tool. This leads to a lot of strain in those marriages, because you have a feminized “good boy” that a wife is supposed to submit herself to, but it’s forcing her to do something that’s against her instincts: submit to a lesser man that relates to her as a girlfriend would.

The second part of this issue, which is the main focus of this post is that men don’t know how to relate to each other as men. This is the third time I’ve mentioned this in this post, but I think the point is that important that it needs to be driven home. When it comes to socializing and friendship, men need to understand how important relating to each other on a man-to-man level really is. One thing I’ve noticed, and I am sure many other Red Pill guys out there have, is that when you have a Red Pill awareness, you notice how feminized and “catty” blue pill men are. They tend to gossip and be involved in personal drama more and usually the bond you share doesn’t feel as genuine. The biggest issue, is that if you express some Red Pill idealism, they are quick to be offended and even quicker to sell you out, so to speak, or attempt to “correct” you. One really does have to treat these males as he would females, because they socialize in the same manner. This gets very isolating and alienating for Red Pill guys, because if anyone should be able to understand and accept you, it would be a friend, but it almost feels like apples and oranges. My closest friends tend to be immigrants from other countries that have a more traditional view point of masculinity and femininity, and even if these cultures aren’t overtly Red Pill aware so to speak, the understanding of the core concepts are there which makes for genuine bonds.

One of the reasons why World War II movies are held in such high esteem, especially for men, is that we’re reminded of what male friendship is. It’s going to war and battle with your brothers and providing that unquestioned support. It’s having a roast fest to see who can come out on top and who can display the most bravado. It’s a reminder of how we evolved to survive and the value of a friendship and brotherhood. World War II movies are one of the last remnants of positive masculinity in it’s purist form.

As a general rule, you should always be careful of who your friends are, but as a Red Pill aware person you need to be doubly careful. The Red Pill presents a lot of cold, hard truths that come as a system shock to the Blue Pill, and as such it is usually received with hostility. What this does also, is it gives some friends the Judas complex, in the sense that in an attempt to “do the right thing” by society’s standards, they take every opportunity possible to bring you back around and back into the fold. It can be frustrating, because you know in their heart of hearts they are well meaning people and they are doing what they think is right, but once you know the truth there is no going back because the world has been exposed to you for what it really is, and there’s no way to un-see it. This certainly makes for some interesting food for thought, but friendship is something essential to the human experience and especially so for men. Fortunately with technology many Red Pill guys can find a virtual community to exchange ideas, experiences, and bridge that bond of friendship and brotherhood across cyberspace.

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