A Bottle of Wine, A Service Elevator & A Hot Tub

Champaign Pour

“Life is either a great adventure or nothing.” – Helen Keller

Based of the title of this post, what do these 3 things have in common? They can all be key elements of an adventure than ends in getting you laid. Allow me to give you a field report of a crazy adventure that happened down in San Diego a few years ago.

The Story

I was in San Diego for a conference, and the company I was with was in talks with another company about doing a joint-partnership. We all met up for a lunch meet and great, so we all could get to know each other’s teams. One of the girls from this other team was a very cute girl named Stacy. She had dirty blonde hair, blue eyes, a great smile and very solid body. She was older than me but had a very bubbly personality. I took mental note of this as we proceeded to have a meeting after the lunch about how our companies would work together.

The following night, there was a party being thrown by one of the major sponsors of the conference at this club and both of our companies where attending this party. Everyone on my team and the other team secured a booth for both teams and then the bottles of wine started flowing. I began talking with the members of the other team and then started talking with Stacy, who turns out is from the mid west and hasn’t been in San Diego before. Somehow the guess my age game came up and she asked me to guess her age. I responded by saying “That’s tough because you look 22 but you carry yourself with a mature presence, so I’m inclined to think you’re older.” She blushed a bit and said “So what age?” “28,” I replied. “I’m 37” she said. I responded with, “I don’t believe you, let me see your ID.” She replied “Seriously?” I then held out my hand and munitioned for an ID. She then got out her driver’s license and handed it to me. I scanned it over for a minute and then I said in a playful tone “I know a fake ID when I see one, you’re not fooling me with this.” She blushed again and took back her licence. “I’m not sure what to tell you,” she said, at which point I asked her strong her dance moves where and a group of us went to the dance floor to dance to the music played by this great cover band.

After some solid dancing we made our way back to the booth. “What’s the game plan after this?” I asked Stacy. She told me her hotel had a rooftop bar that she wanted to check out. Since it was about 1:15 am and the party was winding down, I said “that’s an excellent idea.” I then grabbed the nearly full  bottle of wine off the table, handed her a glass, and took a glass for myself. We then strolled out the back entrance and somehow found a cab on the street, that shuffled us back to her hotel. We got into the hotel and took the elevator to the floor below the rooftop bar. “I forgot we need a certain room key to get up to the roof,” she said. “Let’s explore,” I said as we walked into the hallway.  we walked for a minute or two before we came to a door that had the word “Service” written above it. The door was slightly popped out, but still closed. I pulled out my hotel’s room key card, and then slide it into the part of the door where the bolt mechanism was. After a few seconds, I was able to get the key card in and open the door. “Follow me,” I said, as we walked through to the service hallway and found the service elevator. “Bingo” I said, as we got into the service elevator and then took it up to the rooftop. Once we got out to head to the bar, we saw it was empty as the staff was closing the place down. Turns out it was 2:15  am by the time we up there, so we had missed our window.

“Time for plan B” I said, as we took the main elevator back down to ground floor. We made our way to the hot tub and dipped our legs in as we sipped wine and she proceeded to talk about her background and the places she’s traveled. after about 10 minutes a security guard came and told us the pool area closes at midnight. “Apologies, we just had to dip our toes in for a few minutes, if that’s cool with you sir,” I said to the guard. He gave us a nod and said, “If you happen to be hear on my next round, then I’ll have to boot you out.” “Understood,” I said to him as I gave him a wave.

I the focused my attentions on Stacy. I had made a few attempts to escalate the kino during conversation, however, Stacy was a very avid talker so she focused on keeping the conversation going. After 30 more minutes of conversation, it was nearing 3 am and I reached a point where I was ready for sleep. “This has been a grand adventure” I said, “I’ll walk you back to your room, but it’s late so no bed time story for you.” She laughed as we got up and we went back up to her room which was about 15 floors up. At this point I was looking forward to getting back to my hotel to get some sleep as I had a fun night and did what I could to try to get some action going. I gave her a good by hug, which then led to us making out, and that led to a crazy sex marathon in which we had sex in literally every part of the room, from the bed to the couch to the shower the following morning. She was a bit of a screamer, and hearing her scream my name for about an hour certainly made the long conversation at the hot tub worth it.

As I was leaving her room around 9 am, the couple in the room next door was also leaving at the same time. They both gave a me a funny look, and then the woman said, “Good morning…Alpha.” I smirked back and said “A good morning indeed,” as I gave them a point and head nod and proceeded to take the elevator down the lobby with them.

Takeaways

4. Persistence is key. Just when I thought my night was over, it actually was just starting. It’s always up to you to see how long you’re willing to ride things out, but you might be surprised how they turn very quickly in your favor if you stick with it. Obviously paying careful attention to signs is important. In this case this girl keep talking and conversing, but her body language never closed herself of or implied that she was uninterested. If a girl is giving you clear “no’s” then it’s time ti call it quits. But if you’re getting good signals than it’s worth exploring.

3. Take the lead. We left the one party to go checkout the bar at her hotel. When we couldn’t get to the roof, I found a way into the service entrance. When the bar on the turned out to be closed, I took her to the hot tub. Then from the hot tub I walked her back to her room.

2. Don’t be afraid to break a few rules. Taking the bottle of wine, making our way into the service elevator and staying in the hot tub after closing were all fun things that broke a few rules. Obey the law, but break the rules, as the wine was paid for, the service entrance door was not fully closed, and the guard turned out to be cool with us kicking it at the hot tub after hours. This showed that I’m a man that does what he wants, when he wants, and doesn’t follow the rules everyone else does.

1. Hotel sex in the morning with a superb view of San Diego is awesome. That is all.

Bron

 

First Wheel

3rd Wheel

“Why go out and be a third wheel when you can stay home and be a unicycle?” – Unknown

In this post I wanted to share a field report of a most adventurous night and a few of the takeaways from it. Grab some popcorn and get cozy, this one is a bit of a ride.

I was hanging a hot spot rooftop bar in LA with a good friend of mine. I had chosen the spot because I like it and frequent it a lot, and throw in the fact that a lot of very attractive women frequent this place, it was a good venue to discuss some business before causing trouble.

As we where hanging out talking, I noticed this girl walking a few feet behind us. She was about 5’8″, had a nice athletic figure, had dark blonde hair and certain presence she carried herself with that made her intriguing. As she walked by I saw her glance over quickly and give the signature “up and down” look-over to my friend and I. This alerted my radar that a hot target was is close proximity. She then continued over to her friend very attractive brunette friend that was about 10 feet away from us.

As my friend and I wrapped up official business conversation, I had noticed that the blonde and brunette had managed to be standing within a few feet of us. I then asked my friend about what airline is the best and told him we need to get some outside opinions to weigh in, so I walked over to the blonde and ask “excuse me, we’re crowd sourcing opinions, which airline is the best?” They both responded with “Virgin Airlines” to which I responded “That’s the correct answer!” (because it is) and then I introduced myself and my friend. The blonde girl introduced herself as “Tess” and the brunette introduced herself as “Lily.”

1 minute into our conversation I was picking up some serious vibes from Tess. Suddenly, I had the thought of “I bet i could just make out with this girl right now.” So another two minutes later, I very gently place my hands on her hips, pulled her in close, and then just started kissing her. She was really into it, and then I pulled back to see her giving me one of the most innocently dirty smiles I’ve ever come across. It was that smile where she telepathically was saying “I want you to rail me until I’m a writhing pile of orgasmic sensation” and the thought I was projecting back was “It’s not a matter if, it’s only a matter of when.” Just then Lily got a text from a colleague of theirs, which signaled that they had to leave to meet with the rest of their colleagues. I proceeded to get Tess’ number and then told her “I’ll be seeing you later,” with a smirk and a wink. And indeed, I would see her later in an epic saga that resulted in one of my favorite sexual encounters to date.

But that story is for another post,  so back to the story at hand, my friend and I started to debrief after the girls left. 2 minutes later, this guy and two girls came into the venue. I recognized the guy as a bartender from one of my favorite lounges, and it appeared his was on a date with a girl and tag along friend. They got to the bar an ordered drinks, just as my friend who’s the GM of the present venue gave me and my friend 4 vodka sodas, compliments of the house. I thanked my buddy but now we had 2 extra drinks, so I used that as part of my opening play.  I tapped my bartender friend, let’s call him Chuck, on the shoulder and asked him what was up and how he was doing. We exchanged some quick small talk and he introduced me to his date, Mia, and her friend, Brittney.  Shortly after the drinks for Chuck and Mia where placed on the bar. Before they could react, I already had my card out, on the bar and told the working bartender the drinks ordered by Chuck and Mia where on me. (Side bar- this is Pro Tip; if you ever encounter a bartender you know outside of their work in the field, buy them a drink or two. Trust me, they will remember it fondly the next time you seem them while they are working.) Chuck thanked me, and then I picked up one of the vodka sodas and handed it to Brittney and said “vodka soda on the house from the GM, I have an extra one and you need something to cheers with.” Brittney enthusiastically took the beverage and then all of gave a cheers to the night. I then turned my attention towards Brittney and asked her what she was doing with Chuck and Mia. She looked at me and said, “I’m hanging out playing third wheel with them.” Seizing the moment, I replied in a jovial tone:

“Don’t be the third wheel with them. Come be first wheel with us.”

Her eyes lit up as she enthusiastically said “I’m in!” She came over to join me and my friend as we then proceeded to have a conversation about tech company stocks. During that conversation I kept my flirt game high since I was still feeling in the zone from my encounter 10 minutes earlier. At some point the subject of height came up, and Brittney pointed out how it must be nice to be my height, to be able to see over crowds. I told her the only way to find out was to experience it via piggyback, then took her by the hand to position her to hop on my back. She then hopped on, and I gave her a piggy back ride across the bar and back. I set her down and said “How was that test drive for you?” Brittney laughed and said it was a lot of fun and can see why I chose to be tall. We both then starting bobbing with the music that was playing, and after 30 seconds of light dancing, I felt the energy of the night take over. I then leaned towards Brittany and we started making out. I then took her to sit by the fire pit and proceeded to keep making out with her. We were hanging out there when someone offered us shots, to which I declined but she accepted.

About 5 minutes later, she began to feel a little sick. Having been to college and seen when someone’s had one-too-many plenty of times before, I knew she was done for. I had her put her phone number in my phone while I flagged Chuck over. He and Mia took Brittney to out to an uber so they could get her back to her place. I rejoined my friend and while checking my phone discovered that Brittney had added 8 digits in for her number, so I had no idea which digit was the extra one. My friend and I had a good laugh about that fact and continued to befriend random people until we closed the place down and I made my way home at 2:30 am.

Takeaways

4. In The Zone. Some nights you’re in the zone…you can do no wrong. You’re feeling the energy and channeling it through yourself. When you’re feeling it have fun with it, because the universe is about balance and there will be some nights where you’re so off you couldn’t even buy a phone number if you tried. The more you practice , refine and hone your game, the more times you’re find yourself being able to get into the zone.

3. Trust your gut. When you feel a strong vibe and your gut is telling you that a girl is on that same vibe, seize the moment and make magic happen. I could tell the Tess was interested based on her eye-rape as she did a close walk by. Then when we got to talking, I felt the vibe more intensely, almost like a magnetic force, and so withing 3 minutes of meeting her I was making out with her. The same is true with vibe I got from Brittney, and it worked out really well.

2. Create separation. What helped with both girls was the ability to create a little separation and create a personal bubble that was just the two of us. With Tess it started off physically creating it by placing my hands on her hips. With Brittney, it was when I rescued her from being trapped as a third wheel and told her to come be first wheel with my friend and I. Also, the piggyback ride certainly created a physical bubble. Working on this will help your success rate rocket up as well create stronger connections with women.

1. Your only expectation should be to have fun. If you approach the night with that mindset, then no matter what you’ll have a good time. I can look at what didn’t work that night, like the fact that Tess had to leave early and that Brittney took too many shots and got sick and I didn’t get laid that night. Or I can look at all the positives that made it fun, I had a great business discussion with my friend, I got to make out with Tess within 3 minutes and got her number, I gave Brittney a piggyback ride around the bar before making out with her, I got to make out with different girls in a 20 minute time span, all while befriend some other interesting people and coming away with a great story. If you find a way to have fun, then you’ll have it, and that’s what makes life worth living.

So the next time you find a girl that’s a 3rd wheel, rescue her and upgrade her into a 1st wheel.

Cheers with Beers

5 Sex Tips To Up Your Sex Game

Sex Tips

“Is sex dirty? Only when it’s being done right.” ― Woody Allen

For this post I wanted to share a few tips that can help take your intimacy and sex game to the next level. A large part of sex is mental, and many of these tips are rooted in stimulating the mental game to make your physical game that much more powerful.

Let me get this out of the way and say that I am talking about activities between consenting adults. I know for most of you that have some sense this is apparent, but for those of you that might misinterpret my meaning, I only advocate consensual activities between adults. Now that that’s out of the way, on to the juicy content of this post.

5. The “Tantric Pause.” One idea from the Tantra is the concept of delayed gratification. The reasoning is that by delaying the gratification, the reward will be much more intense and pleasurable once received. Taking this idea, one thing I have found that makes make out sessions and sex much more intense is during heavy kissing or sex, to go in as if I am going to kiss the girl, but then stopping frozen when my nose is just about to touch hers. This creates a break in the action as well as a tease scenario, and by being able to hold still while looking directly in her eyes, it builds excitement, connection and anticipation. The best part is that it usually takes about 5 second before the girl becomes so overwhelmed with excitement and tension that she passionately will grab me and kiss me, allowing us to resume the activities with the passion amplified. She lost control and I didn’t; which not only shows the power of her desire for me; but also keeps the balance of Frame in my favor.

This is also a great display of discipline, as you will be demonstrating that even while having passionate, bed-breaking sex, you are still master of your domain and have absolute self control to be able to pause sex at will, just because you can. It shows you possess dominance, not only over her pleasure but also over your own, and that is a man that truly is Alpha and worth competing for.

4. Getting “lost” in a kiss. This is a passionate tease tactic that is the inverse of the Tantric Pause. This is something I usually do when saying goodbye, and is very useful when the relationship hasn’t been consummated yet. What this involves is during a goodbye make out session, I begin by being firm yet gentle with my kissing. Then, after a few moments, a sudden flash of hot and heavy gets introduced as I firmly squeeze her body into mine while giving her a long, hard, passionate kiss. I then immediately pull back with a smile while looking in her eyes.

What this does is give her a brief flash of raw, unfiltered passion which leaves her wanting to see how she can extract more of it from you. Also, it allows you to create the Frame of “being caught up in the moment” and allows her to get sucked deeper into the moment as well. The key is to be firm but gentle, passionate, but in control. The illusion is that you’ve temporarily lost control, but by pulling back it creates a bit of doubt as you “catch yourself.” This is a great note to end an encounter on and as they say in show business; “always leave them wanting more.”

3. The “out of the blue” ass-smack. This one has been discussed elsewhere plenty of times, but I love employing it so much that I had to share my thoughts. I only use this with women that I have had sex with. Mostly because after sex it feels way more natural, but also I feel that once you’ve had sex, this maneuver is best suited the present dynamic of the relationship. Essentially, this is giving a girl a firm, playful smack right on the ass, usually followed with a smirk and a wink, and can be done after sex or just hanging out, usually around the house.

This action reinforces the playful dynamic of the relationship as well as shows you’re not afraid to display some dominance every now and again. It’s like a subtle reminder of “that ass belongs to you” which is a playful way to play the conqueror. Hence why I only do this after I have had sex with a girl. To me, doing so before hand is not authentic in that the terrain hasn’t been conquered yet.

2. The “Villain’s Choke Hold.” This move is a next-level power move that if done right will show your dominance, raw physical strength and can drive a girl wild with passionate lust for you. The Villain’s Choke Hold is pretty much what it sounds like. While having passionate sex; and not hum drum “love making” because this maneuver will be way out of place; it’s best to do this with girl on top as it makes logistics easier. It can be done from missionary or if you’re fingering her to make her squirt, but for the sake of explaining this I will use the example of the girl being on top, in the cowgirl position. So, while having passionate sex with the girl on top facing me, I will suddenly sit fully up and place my hand around her throat. I will then firmly, but gently (remember, control is everything) squeeze to lightly choke her while I pull her face about an inch from mine and I stare intensely into her eyes, much like many villains do in movies where’ they are choking out some poor soul. After a few seconds I’ll continue to passionately have sex, usually pulling her in for a deep kiss first.

This move is a total show of raw dominance that works on several levels. First, on a primal level, it shows that your physical strength is literally capable of crushing her. She will be able to physically feel your power in way she hasn’t experience it before. That danger factor makes things more exciting and intense, and also shows that you have the physical capability to exert more force and could use this same force to defend her. Secondly, it’s a very overt showing your dominance and is a reminder that you can be an untamed wild man at times. This fierceness works as it shows your are the conqueror, not the conquered. Lastly, most men don’t have the balls to pull a move like this because they “don’t want to be even slightly rough with their delicate flower.” This move show’s you’re a man that takes what he wants, when he wants and is beholden only to his Frame and knows better than to put her on a pedestal and treat her like an equal sexual being.

Usually after doing this move the girl I am having sex with get a lot wetter and even more turned on, and in a few cases this move brought them to the edge of an orgasm and it only took a few strokes after to finish the job.

1. The “Jedi Breath Trick.” I call this one the “Jedi Breathe Trick” because it involves the girl having her eyes closed and having to rely on her sense of touch to feel you, much like a Jedi closing their eyes in order to “feel the force.” In order to do this, I will either use a sleeping eye cover or a tie (anything that can act as a blindfold will do) and cover the girl’s eyes. Then, while she is laying on her back naked, I will bring my face about an inch away from her body, and then I will exhale a hot, deep breath over her body. I usually start around the neck or stomach, and then I move my face all over her body as I exhale. I never do it in her face as that is not sexy, but what I usually do is run my breath over her body, starting around her breasts and then making my way down to her vagina. From there I will get between her legs, and then continue to run my breath between her inner things and vagina, before focusing my breather on her vagina, and eventually finishing with some licking or kissing that leads into eating her out.

What’s great about this technique is that it puts you in a dominate role as you are in full control of what happens next. And since her eyes are closed, she has no idea what you’re going to do next. By using your breath, you can let her “feel you” without physically touching her, as your warmth from your breath makes a soothing sound and the movement of your head moves the warmth to various parts of her body. Her not being able to see increases her anticipation as well as intensifies her sense touch, so she can experience a heighten sense of awareness.

Another great thing about this technique is that is can be combined with other things, such as she can be tied up to the bed as well or you can finger her while you breath over her breasts or do as I do and transition it into oral sex. A word of caution, sometimes a girl will be ticklish or a little overwhelmed by this, so she may squirm and writhe around uncontrollably and unexpectedly. I’d suggest starting around the neck or breasts and making your way south slowly, just to see how her body reacts. But the girls I have been with and myself have had a lot of fun with this, and several of them got so turned on they actually had orgasms when I moved my breath across their bodies down to their vaginas and focused my breath on their vaginas for a minute.

Final Thought

Please remember to excise control and be safe. Sex is a fun and amazing experience, but you can take things to far and you can physically injure yourself or other person. Also remember that sex is about consent, so if you try any of these and the person doesn’t respond positively to them, then you know this particular thing doesn’t do it for them. Keep it consensual and use your judgement. Try one or all of these out and see how they fit into your style and can impact your sex game.

Go out, live life and have fun doing it my friends.

Couple having sex on a bed at home

The Alpha Wingman

This guy

“You can be my wingman anytime” – Ice Man, Top Gun

Sometimes being an Alpha in a situation is not about using your Frame for your own benefit, but sometimes it’s about using it to help others. This post covers just such a situation that happened recently on a night out with a friend.

Field Report

I was hosting a friend of mine from out of town. He’s a young guy, in his mid twenties and is usually more of the quite and shy type at first, but opens up more once he’s comfortable in a situation. I decide to take him out for a Saturday night of fun and we go to this restaurant and lounge that I frequent in a hip and busy part of town. I like the place because it has a great atmosphere and energy, great food, great drinks, and is close to a lot of other places. It’s also frequented by many beautiful and diverse women, which makes it the prime location for a proper night out.

We get to the venue and go inside for a round of drinks. Since I frequent this place, all of the staff knows me, from the General Manager to the bar-backs, so I’m being greeted and am introducing my friend to them. After hanging out for about 30 minutes, I spot a pair of girls sitting at the end of the bar. One is blonde, with a curvy figure, and the other is a redhead with bright blue eyes and a petite figure. Both girls look to be in their mid thirties, but I know my friend has a thing for older women. I point out the redhead, which is the type of girl he usually goes for and said “I think I found someone you should go meet.” My buddy responded by saying “I’m not sure what the move is,” and so at this point I knew that I would need to take command of the situation.

“Follow my lead,” I told him, as I walked over to the girls. As I was making my way over, someone bumped me so my drink spilled a little onto my hand, so when I got up to the girls I asked if they could pass me a napkin since they where sitting next to them.

“That you for that act of bar-decency,” I said. “The bar is a lawless place and most of the time people just act insane.” Both girls laughed and then I quickly introduced myself and my friend to them. “So what brings you guys out tonight?” I inquired. “Well, we’re out to celebrate my cousin’s birthday,” said the blonde as she pointed to the redhead. “Well happiest of birthdays to you!” I said to the redhead as I gave her an enthusiastic high-five. “How did you guys know to come here?” I asked. “Where were at another bar, but there where no guys so we had heard of this place and came here.”

From there I knew we had a golden scenario. A birthday, which is a reason to celebrate. Check. They had come to this venue specially for guys. Double check. All that was left was to take the reins of the situation.

“You ladies came to the right place,” I said. “We are going to ensure that you have a proper birthday celebration.” I raised my glass and all four of us toasted to the birthday girl. We had some small talk, about what we all did and it urns out the blonde works for a Hollywood agency and the redhead is a college professor. As it turns out, they both had recently moved into the this particular area of town and they were looking to explore it more. They liked the current venue because the redhead leaved about a mile away from it. I asked them if they had been to this other lounge that is close by that I frequent, to which they replied they had hear good things but never had been. “Finish up those drinks, we’re moving out!” I said as I finished my beverage and then called for my tab.

The 2 girls, my friend and myself all made our together to the lounge I had mentioned, and I texted the General Manager there who is a buddy of min that I was en route. I got a “Fo sho playa” response back from the GM and told the ladies that they where going to like this spot a lot. This lounge is a bit of hot spot and sure enough, there was a large line out front as we arrived. I lead the group right up to the front and gave the door guy I know a solid handshake and then a hug to the girl that helps run the door as well. We then strolled right past the line and proceeded to the lounge area. As soon as we got in my buddy who is the GM greeted me and said “It’s a packed night but we have a table set aside for you. Enjoy my man.” The Assistant GM then lead us through the sea of people to a table and we got situated with myself next to the blond facing my friend and the redhead on the other side.

“What just happened?” The redhead asked. “We’re celebrating your birthday, so we are going to do it properly,” I told her. We then ordered some drinks and I made the promise that we would find birthday cake for the birthday girl to ensure the night was flawless. Our drinks arrived and my friend worked his game on the redhead as they got a little more cozy and I chatted up the blonde. After about 15 minutes, I then told the blonde that she should checkout the rest of the lounge and I took her on a tour of the space to give my friend and the redhead some 1 on 1 time.

After the tour of the of the lounge, which deliberately took 20 minutes, we rejoined the table. Once it hit 1 am, I told the group “Time for a field trip,” so we paid our tab then I took us all to a convenience store to look for some type of cake to act as a birthday cake. Since no cake could be found, we grabbed a bunch of peanut butter M&M’s, which is the birthday girl’s favorite candy. I also grabbed a bottle of wine and some matches. I paid for all of the item and then as we walked out of the store I turned to the redhead.

“So we’re going back to your place to continue the celebrations since it’s around the corner? My place is about 20 minutes from here.” She paused for a minute and then said “Ok! I wasn’t planning to have folks over, so I will need to tidy up for a quick minute before anyone comes in.” I smiled and said “Whatever the birthday girl desires.” We made our way to her place, which only took 5 minutes, and then both girls went upstairs to her place to tidy it up. My friend then said “Man, thank you for wingmanning, this has been great!” I turned to him and said “Ok this is how it’s going to go down. We’re going to head up there, have some wine and celebrate for about 30 minutes. Then people are going to get tired, at which point I will take the blonde back to her place and you’ll be good to go.” My friend nodded his head excitedly, and after a few more minutes the girls came back down to let us know we could head in.

We all got up stairs to continue the birthday theme of the evening by finding a few leftover candles and lighting them with the matches I had picked up. We all held glasses of wine and some peanut butter M&M’s while we sang Happy Birthday to the redhead. We then paired off and got settled on the couches and began discussing random topics, from different us cities to movies. Sure enough, after about 1 glass of wine and 30 minutes, the blonde said “I’m starting to get sleepy.” I responded by saying, “Same here, it is pretty late.” I then stood up and said, “We’ll I think I am going to head off,” I then turned to the blonde. “You’re an awesome amount of fun, I’ll give you a lift back to your place so you don’t have to call an Uber.” “Are you sure?” She asked. “Not a big deal,” I replied. “Plus I live in that direction anyway and can hop the freeway back home.” “Ok,” the blonde replied. The redhead then looked at me and asked “What about him?” as she looked at my friend. “No worries,” I said, “I’ll give you to some time. I’ll come back and pick him up after I make sure your friend gets home safely.” Of course, what I was thinking was “I’ll come back and pick him up tomorrow morning,” and I proceeded to say goodbye to the redhead and was quickly followed by the blonde.

The blonde and I then left the redhead and my friend and we proceeded to drive to her place on the other side of town. We got to her street and there was no where to park, so I threw on my hazard lights and prepared to say goodbye to the blonde. The blonde then looked at me and said “I should text my cousin so she knows I got back safe.” Knowing this might cause a potential cock-block, as it might imply that I would be en route back to pick up my friend, responded by leaning in close and then making out with the blonde. After making out  and playing with her large breast for a few minutes, I pulled back and said “Sucks there is no parking.” The blonde gave me a naughty look and said, “You can come inside next time.” Sure enough, a week later I would in every sense of the phrase. But that night, she returned home and I jetted back to my pad to get some much earned sleep. The following day I texted my buddy in the morning and picked him up from the redheads place.

This story is a bit of a longer one, but it is full of some key tips and ideas for you to take away.

Takeaways

6. Having venues locked down is a huge plus. Nothing can kill your momentum faster than dealing with hangups at venues, be it trying to get in or trying to grab drinks and find a place to be comfortable. Having a venue that you have locked down not only makes logistics silky smooth but it also enforces your Frame as a high value individual. Like in this example, having the staff know me at the first venue gave me social proof and boosted my status. Then, moving to the next venue, that status and Frame were further reinforced by bypassing the line and then getting a table instantly in a busy place. This also had the added effect of making the transitional logistics smooth and easy, which makes the impression of status high and well as keeps the momentum building and going, rather than hitting a wall.

 

5. Logistics are half the battle. When I am out and am suggesting other places to checkout, I ensure that they are logistically easy and close to each other. a long travel time can kill your momentum. Doing recon before and during your night is key. Since I frequent the area, I have great knowledge of all venues and their relative proximity to each other. Also, when it came up during the conversation that the redhead lived very close to where we were, that made her place the ideal go-to stop to continue the night once the bars closed.

 

4. Frame is a powerful tool. In this particular night, I used Frame to be the best wingman I could be. From the initial approach to taking the group from one lounge to the other, then to a convenience store and then back to one of the girl’s houses, that was only made possible because I defined and held the Frame. I used the theme statement of “It’s your birthday, we’re going to celebrate it properly” as the base that Frame operated from and it made for an adventure that everyone else was more than happy to be a part of.

3. Don’t ask. Subtly command. Part of Frame and game is learning to subtly give commands and not go about it by asking in a Beta way. What I mean by this is when I said “Finish up those drinks, we’re moving out!” I was giving the command of “finish your drinks, we are going to relocate to another venue,” rather than asking “Hey do you guys want to go see this other place?” By taking command of the situation I was able to hold Frame and steer the direction of the night. Other cases of this from that night were when I said “Time for a field trip,” and then leading the group to a convenience store, and then once we where done at the store saying to the Redhead “So we’re going back to your place to continue the celebrations since it’s around the corner?” I was dictating how the night was going to go, and then last example of that was near the end when we were hanging at the redhead’s place and I stated to the blonde “You’re an awesome amount of fun, I’ll give you a lift back to your place so you don’t have to call an Uber.” I was telling her not to call an Uber, I will be taking her home. Now there is a fine line, you don’t have to be an asshole in a commanding way, and sometimes you’ll get some push back to subtle commands. That’s fine and comes with the territory. NEVER FORCE ANYONE TO DO SOMETHING THEY DON”T WANT TO DO. I know most of you reading this already know that, but for those of you that might miss my meaning, I am not advocating forcing people into situations without their consent. Commands establish reinforce your Frame in an authentic way and is a great way to test how well people fall into it.

2. Know how to follow the lead. Nothing is more frustrating that doing a lot of setup to get the baton to the next runner and then to have them drop it half a second into you trying to pass it on. My friend did an excellent job of following my lead and playing off of me, so the combination was extremely effective. You can be Alpha and have Frame by following the lead of another person’s strong Frame. This can help establish your own Frame with a particular person or group and makes for an effective 1 – 2 punch. If you’re rolling out with a wingman and you guys can’t play off each other or follow each other’s leads as needed, you success rate is going to plummet, so make sure you both can either take the lead or follow the lead.

1. Have fun. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the outcome that we forget to take a step back and just enjoy the ride. One of the best highlights of the night for me was being able to have a fun time while helping a friend run his game on a girl he was attracted to. But all of us had a really fun time as we took the theme of “proper birthday celebrations” and ran with it. From the first venue to the second then the convenience store and then finally at the redhead’s house, the entire night was a fun time we all participated in. If you focus on having fun, then whether your get laid or not at the end of the night you’ll have a great time regardless. And as a bonus, having that attitude usually gets you laid more.

The More You Know

The Lesbian

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“I’m in lesbians with you” – Scott Pilgrim, Scott Pilgrim Vs. The World

When you have many experiences with women, you will get some interesting situations and have some interesting conversations. You’ll also get shit tested in some interesting and unique ways and this story is about one of the most interesting shit tests I have ever received.

I was at an alumni event at my old college when I had met this 23 year old Latina. She’s a very cute, petite girl with a great figure and sexy eyes. I had given her my business card when we met since the setting was more professional at the event. She texted me later that night saying it was great to meet me. A week later I hit her up about hanging out, to which she responded with:

“Wait, are you asking me out? I’m pretty dense about that kinda of stuff”

My response was “I didn’t realize “hangout” was such a loaded term.”

I can already get a sense that this girl might be the the type to shit test a lot, so I decided to play it very casual and ambiguous to see where this would go. After a few other texts, we setup a time to meet up for hang out a few days later. Now since this was a first encounter and based on the texting there seemed like a lot of shit testing was going to be involved, I decided it would be best to meet on the early side, around 7 pm so that way I could go over for a Netflix and chill session after with another girl that I’ve hooked up with before who also lives in the area around 9:30.

I told the Latina to met up at a lounge I like and I get there about 2 minutes before her. We get seated at a table in a good spot in the lounge, which lets us see out onto the street and makes for great people watching. We exchange a little small talk about how her week went and then about 3 minutes into the conversation I get hit with a shit test that’s way out of left field. She perks up, looks me directly in the eyes and says:

“Just so you know, I’m a lesbian.”

Straight out of left field. No warning, just right into it. I knew this was a pivotal shit test moment, where right off the bat I was being thrown towards the fire to see if I would flinch. In my head I laughed a bit because based on all of the back and forth that led to this meeting, I wasn’t buying it at all. I also had not been hit with this exact shit test out of the blue before either, which was partly entertaining and partly exciting as it represented a new challenge. Without skipping a beat I casually replied:

“That’s awesome.”

She looked a bit surprised at my response. I delivered my response while maintaining my relaxed yet commanding posture, and the tone of my voice was casual. Then I followed up with: “I love me some lesbians.”

She paused for a minute, as her hamster tried to process my responses. She then went on a little bit about her family and how she’s never had a boyfriend. The conversation continued with her doing 90% of the talking, and I could tell based on how I handled the shit test, she was now trying to qualify herself to me. We where talking for another 10 or so minutes when she asked me a question:

“What are you doing after this?”

I believe honesty is the best armor you can have, it keeps you free and also can be a great way to show off an IDGAF attitude when used strategically. Since I had been hit with big shit test out of left field, I decided to throw out one of my own, to see how she reacted to it:

“I’m going to see another girl.”

She had this completely shocked look on her face and instantly asked “What do you mean?”

I replied, “It’ll probably be a Netflix and chill situation. We have a thing that when I see her I’m with her, but when I don’t, I’m not.” I could see the hamster going into overdrive in her head as she was contemplating this news I had relayed. I just sat comfortably while holding eye contact and smirking. My posture was saying “This is the deal, are you with it or not?” She then asked me a few questions about my past relationships, to which I replied that I like to keep things very open so I can experience as many people as possible. She continued on about her thoughts on relationships as we finished our drinks.

About 20 minutes later we wrapped up at the lounge and I took for for a stroll around the down town area. Part of the stroll included a stop at an adult shop. While we were in there she asked me if I had a “Christian Grey Room,” to which I replied “Every room I enter is a Christian Grey room.” I could see a little twinkle in her eye as her hamster began spinning on the implications of what I had said.

After the sex shop I took her to the outside patio of a cigar lounge and we sat there for a bit, discussing random things. We began making out for a bit and then I checked the time. It was 9:15 so it was time to go see my Netflix and chill girl. We said our goodbyes and and she said that we should hang again, which I causally agreed would be cool. That was the start of a very fun situation, in which a week later I’d discover she was a squirter in the back of my car, as well as how to utilize Frame to keep things as a casual hook up for the past 7 months now.

Takeaways:

1. Women will shit test you all the time and in ways you’ll never expect. Always be on your top game and always be ready. You never know exactly how these test will come, but they are coming. Usually the more insecure the girl, the more shit tests you will face. Know who you’re dealing with so you have can anticipate what you’ll have to deal with.

2. Hold Frame. I’ve said it many times before, but Frame is absolutely critical. Without it, I would have been crucified by her shit test. But with it, I was able to work the situation to my advantage.

3. Honesty will set you free. Using strategic honesty, you can be free to be yourself while seeing if she’s down to enter your world and come along for the ride, or if she will fight you tooth and nail every step of the way. By flat out telling this Latina that I was seeing another girl after her, I was free to let her know that I have options and if she is on board with entering my world she’s welcome, if not, she can go her own way and I’ll be fine. It also gives me the freedom to see multiple people without having to feel like I’m sneaking around behind everyone’s back because I’m out in the open with what the situation is. Obviously you don’t need to blab the full truth of your family life or other things, but being honest about what you want and who you are at the right times will work in your favor far more than trying to hide it.

4. Use your own shit tests. For guys we typically call this screening, but don’t be afraid to use some shit tests of your own. This does 2 things. 1) It flips the script and makes YOU the prize, not the guy chasing after her affections. 2) This is a way to qualify how well into your Frame she’ll come into and well as give you better insight into who she is as person. Is she a chill, go with the flow type? Or she the type that has a snarky negative comment about everything? Just as girls use shit tests to expose if a guy is Alpha or not, you need to use shit tests to see if any girl you are with is the type of girl you want to be with.

5. Work the hamster. A girl’s imagination is the most powerful thing you can play with and utilize. Work it often and work it well. Let her imagination take her to a conclusion you lead her to. Too many times guys are just matter-o-factly about things which leaves no room for imagination. Do you want to drive a girl wild with passion and desire? Do you want her to get wet at the thought of a spontaneous encounter of intimacy between you two? Then learn how to use innuendo, flirting, and ambiguity to get her imagination working. If you don’t, you’ll find the girls you go out with will be dryer than the Sahara desert during a drought. In this example, I used these things to keep her hamster constantly going so that by the time our 2nd encounter happened, we where going at it in the back of my car in an alleyway close to her house.

If I’ve given you some good takeaways you can use while entertaining you, then my goal is complete. Go out there and conquer the world friends.

Gentleman

You’re Not Spending The Night

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“Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success.” – Napoleon Hill

For this post I wanted to share a quick story from an experience I had and some of the Red Pill takeaways. At the very least, it’s an entertaining tale that resulted in an awkward conversation with my dry cleaners the next day.

I was out in Downtown with a couple of friends for a buddies “going away” hangout session at this cool little bar/store. I put “going away” in quotes because our friend was from the east coast, but was going away for 2 months back home because he was between work contracts here on the west coast. As I get into the place, I notice two girls at the other end of the bar. One is a brunette, about 5’6″ at a glance, and her friend is a solid 6 feet. The brunette was cute, she looked white but with a hint of something mixed in. She had a petite figure and she projected a chill vibe. The blonde was thin and athletic looking. She had a very pretty face and long curly hair and very bright blue eyes. I could pick up on her energy from across the bar and it intrigued me. I thought to myself “there could be some potential here, especially with the tall one.” I do love tall girls, and as a tall guy myself (I’m well over 6 feet) it’s not as common to come across them so I seize the moment when possible.

Me and my friends had been hanging for about 20 minutes, when I decide it’s time see what the deal with these others girls is. I walk over to the both of them and ask them what type of liquor is easiest to get into trouble with. The brunette says beer and the blonde’s eyes light up as she says “Tequila of course.” I give the blonde a high-five and enthusiastically stated “correct answer,” and then proceed to introduce myself. I then introduced the girls to my 3 other guy friends and then proceed to engage both of them in a conversation about different types of alcohol. About 2 minutes in I notice the blonde girl has a few tattoos, one is a feather on her left arm and the other is a Hindi-inspired pattern on her chest. I ask her about the tattoo on her arm and she tells me the story of how she likes that feathers are the tool that makes flight possible and that they have a look that resonates with her. She also tells me that she’s into photography and painting, to which I say that I will have to see some of her work. I ask her what part of town she’s from and it turns out she is roommates with the brunette and lives 1 block away from the bar we’re at.

About 10 minutes later I’ve gotten my group and the two girls to close out their tabs and I tell the blonde that I really need to see her artwork. She agrees that we all can come over for and hang for a bit. As we walk over to her place I take the opportunity to grab her hand. She gives me the “I know what you’re doing look” and proceeded to lead us to her house. My friends and her roommate fall behind, so when we get in front of her door with a few free minutes, I pull her in for a deep, passionate kiss. She then gives me the “the look,” that look that says “I really like you but now I need to justify hooking up with you to myself” so she says to me “You can hang, but you’re not spending the night.” I channel my inner Han solo and with a smirk reply with: “I know.” Suddenly my friends and her roommate get to the front door and we all go up to the girl’s loft.

Inside we all get cozy in the loft, they have a large lounge sofa aka daybed and a few stool chairs in their main room. The girls proceed to get us some wine and my friends keep talking with the brunette and I continue to converse with the tall blonde. At some point she mentions that she’s a yoga teacher and capoeira instructor, and that sometimes she does performances. I forget how, but somehow that led to her getting a small vile of glittery gold body paint and opening it to put a little bit on my wrist. She accidentally spilled a bit on my arm and suit jacket, to which I just chuckled that “My dry cleaners are going to want some serious explaining for this one.”

Over the next 20 minutes my friends take off one by as it’s now 2:15 in the morning. So now it’s just me and the two the girls. The brunette makes her way to her room and says she’s getting ready for bed. Once she’s gone me and the blonde start making out passionately. After a minute, she pulls back to look me in the eyes. She says “I’m serious, you can’t spend the night.” I keep eye contact with her and with a playful smirk I reply “Works for me.” I then lead her over to the daybed and proceed to get intimately familiar with the tattoo in the middle of her chest. It was a fun and passionate time we had, she was enthusiastically energetic and very, very flexible. She was one of the naturally wettest girls I have ever encountered and her vagina tasted exquisite, I am not sure what her diet was, but whatever she did eat, bless her for it, because her flavor was delicious.

Sadly I had to cut the activities short at 2:50am because the garage with my car closed at 3am and I had no idea when it reopened or where they would tow my car. As I was getting dressed and departing, I caught her slipping her business card into my jacket packet so I would have her number, to which I said to her “This needs to happen again. Let me get your number and I’ll call you.” I wound up seeing her a few times after that for some fun and adventurous nights (and yes I did actually call her…strange concept today but it can help you standout) and she still holds my current record for fastest from intro-to-hooking-up at 1 hour.

Takeaways:

1. Approach. If a girl(s) catch your eye, always go up and approach. The approach is a victory in of itself and you never know what might result from it. If you don’t approach, nothing will happen, so be a man of action and make something happen.

2. Logistics. Logistics are your best friend or can be your biggest cock block. Fortune smiled upon me that night as she literally was 1 block away, but then they became my enemy as I had to cut the first night short due to my car potentially being locked in and towed from the garage. Always be mindful of the logistics.

3. The Rule of 2. Girls out in pairs tend to be more open to meeting, flirting and tend to be more DTF. Always look for pairs.

4. Stay Persistent and Hold Frame. We only made it to her house because I suggested we look at her art. She also shit tested me multiple times with the same line of “you’re not spending the night.” But by holding Frame and not getting side tracked by this, I was able to close the deal. And no, I didn’t spend the night either so it all worked out.

Use the takeaways from this story as a reminder for yourself or as a new idea for your own Game arsenal. Go out and live it up.

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Swipe Right: A Red Pill Dating App Review

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“I’ve been on so many blind dates, I should get a free dog.” – Wendy Liebman

Being in the dating industry I get a lot of questions around dating apps. My personal take on dating apps is that they are ok only if used 10% of the time to augment and compliment you Game activities. Dating apps are heavily skewed against men and the whole system is designed to give people who couldn’t “compete” so to speak on the open market place a fighting chance. Now there’s nothing wrong with meeting someone on an app, but if you’re relaying on apps to meet girls vs going out into the real world, you’re going to be in for a rough ride and will stunt you Game development. So I recently downloaded a few and played around on them to better answer the questions I hear surrounding these apps. So with that in mind, here’s a breakdown I have for each app:

Tinder

The app to put dating apps on the map, Tinder is one I’m sure many of you have tried. From a Red Pill perspective this app is conducive to the abundance mentality tenant, which like real life requires you to do a lot of digging (swiping) to find potential prospects. Tinder is certainly an anything goes app, so be ready to deal with anything and everything. The quality is certainly not high, but with enough swiping or carpet bombing (just swiping right on everything and seeing who you match with) you might uncover a gem or two. Be wary of getting that “match validation high” since 80% of swipes you probably won’t match with so it makes each match seem like a bigger deal than it really is.

Bumble

This apps is very hypergamic but also consistently has the highest quality (most attractive options) of all apps. Maybe every girl on Bumble knows how to take better pictures, but in any case this apps does foster abundance mentality. The girls have to send the first message, so with that restriction in mind you know that a girl is at least interested when you do get a message. There is a feature of extending matches which is Blue Pill scarcity dread tactic, so if a match is going to expire let it and move on. Extending the match means you’re already afraid of losing a girl you haven’t even met or talked to you which will put you at a disadvantage. If she matches you and is interested, she will act in her 24 hour window.

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If hypergamy was an app, this would be it. This app uses restrictions and selective matching as a way to get money from people as well as reinforce the scarcity mentality as well as to run a built-in dread game. The noticeably more attractive matches that you can “discover” but have to use beans (the app currency which you can purchase with real money) for, it’s almost like you’re dating the dating app and trying to appease it to give you access to the goods. You can even “skip the line” to put yourself in a potential matches queue faster, which is you paying the app to get yourself qualified by a girl. This is not a position you want to put yourself in psychologically, you’re already setting yourself up to have a Beta mentally. This apps prays on the Blue Pill guys so I’d suggest avoiding it all together.

Hinge

After a few failed versions of the swipe model, Hinge has morphed into a traditional website style dating app, like Match.com or Plenty of Fish (both of which have apps). This apps give you recommendations so it’s another app that gives you less options and choices, thus creating a false sense of scarcity and dread.

Happn

This app takes an interesting twist on the conventional dating app: It focuses on people who’ve been to the same places as you. The issue with this app from a Red Pill perspective is that this app forces you to go through a process to get a girl’s attention by sending charms and then crushes, so it’s psychologically prepping you to go through a qualification process to get the attention of women.

Apps can be useful when going to a new city and looking to meet people and local recommendations. If you’re looking for some more in depth guides on how to get the most mileage out of apps, you can checkout this podcast. But from a Red Pill perspective it’s important to understand how each app will psychologically condition you, so use them with caution. Most of them by design will condition you to be a Beta qualifier for a girl’s affections. As always, the best thing to do is go old school: Talk to girls in real life.

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The Question King: 5 Golden Questions

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“Judge a man by his questions rather than his answers” – Voltaire

So for those of you that don’t know, I actually do some work in the dating industry, and I can tell you dropping some Red Pill tidbits here and there goes a long way. A fun way to give back to the community would be to bring over some tips and experiences I’ve had, and if they can help just 1 of you out there close a deal, it’s all been worth it. One of the biggest consistent issues I’ve seen in the dating world has been guys sweating over what to say to a girl when opening up a new, cold conversation. Below I’ll be sharing with you some questions that I love using when opening and during conversations, because they work so well in both Day and Night Game, and translate well with gaming girls or with making conversation with anyone. Ready to become a master conversation starter? Well here you go:

1. “Tell Me Your Life Story”

This question is a great way to rapidly get people (especially girls) talking about themselves and helps you do some quick scouting on background details, like where they are from what they do, and why they moved to the city they are in, for example. I like to ask this question in a playful sense, by keeping the tone light, and I’ll usually preface it something like “So, mysterious person…” Sometimes people will be like “My whole life story?” and you have room for a playful response, something like “give me the highlights” or “only what you want to share with the class.” You have a lot of room to tease, be playful, or ramp up the energy to get people into the same vibe as you. And if a girl just refuses to play along, you can quickly NEXT them and move on because this question can be a shit test of your own to see if she is willing to play along with you or will fight you.

2. “What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?”

This is another great question and what I love about it is the fact that’s it very deep, insightful and revealing, while being brilliantly simple and subtle. I once asked a girl that was bar tending at this place I like “So what do you want to be when you grow up?” She responded with by telling me how she moved out to a big city to pursue acting because she felt people like herself where under represented in media and wanted to change social attitudes about that.”  So, with this simple question, I uncovered a core motivating driver in her life, what her passion is and experienced a deep moment that connected us while still keeping everything fun and light. You’ll be surprised at the answers people will give you. And the fun part about this question is when you ask girls it gives them a playful sense of bright-eyed optimism and youth.

3. “What Is The Most Romantic Song Of All time?”

This question is a lot of fun to use because it’s a topic with many built in transitional topics, which I’ll get to later. It works extremely well with groups, but this requires you to have some fun energy to really make it work. Whenever someone names a song, I will usually excited reply “That’s a great one!” or “Oh I hadn’t thought of that…great pick!” It works really well with obscure songs. Also, this questions usually gets people talking about themselves and their relationships, with things like “Well when I was traveling in Paris I heard” or “me and my boyfriend listen this song because it’s our song.” So it saves you some effort in qualifying them because they are revealing everything for you. And naturally, you can transition the conversation into personal theme songs to best hook-up songs.

4. “Ladies Can You Help Me Out? / I Need A Girl’s Opinion…”

If you have a question of some sort ready but are unsure how to ask it, use these to preface that question. These work well because it peeks girl’s curiosity as to what you’re going to ask, and it gives them a little bit of an ego boost in the sense that they get to give their official opinion on something. Make sure if you use these your following question is somewhat appropriate Leading off with “I need a girl’s opinion, is jerking it 5 times a week a lot?” is not the way to go so use some common sense. Unless you’re getting a vibe based on the scene that something that out there would work, I’d stick to more fun and playful questions, like “Ladies can you help me out? What city has the best food in world?” These preface questions are golden ways to get attention, so make sure you capitalize on it.

5. “Can I Trust You?”

A large part of Game is creating your own personal bubble with a girl, and this question does just that. The implication with it is that you’re about to share something not-so public with her, which helps draw her into your world, as well as gets her to do a little qualifying of herself to you because of course, she is trustworthy and will prove it to you. This question is gold when trying to isolate a girl from the group or with giving you a reason to move a girl from one place to another, away from prying ears.

So if you can’t think of anything in your conversations or cold approaches, feel free to use and incorporate these questions. They can be used solo, in combination with each other, or in any way you see fit. Get out there and become a conversation guru.

Cheers.

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