The Enemy

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“Know your enemy and know yourself and you can fight a hundred battles without disaster.” – Sun Tzu, The Art of War

For this post I wanted to further delve into a theme that’s been fairly recurring in my recent conversations. I’m not a fan of quoting myself, but for the sake of getting into this topic my hand is forced:

As a man, it’s paramount that you understand that women aren’t the enemy, but their natures will eat you alive and spit you out if you do not understand them.

So with that in mind, here we go.

Women Are Not The Enemy

Many men get caught in the mindset that women are their enemy, for various reasons. Plenty of AFC’s and Blue Pill men become frustrated and bitter over time after many rejections, divorce or general non-success they experience. A lot of men new to the Red Pill or transitioning to it get sucked into the mindset as well, and it’s pretty easy to see why. When the truth is shown and women’s mating and provisioning strategies are exposed, it can come as a cold, hard slap in the face that make man men view women with contempt, suspicion and anger. Extremes are always a red flag, and finding yourself with an extreme view on women should cause you to pause and give yourself some examination.

Now, this is not to say that there are not bad, malicious women out there. There are plenty of damaged or just plain crazy women in this world and yes, they these women are best avoided and are in a sense an enemy to your sanity and future. But to blanket this view to all women is not healthy, it’s narrow minded and it hurts you as it limits your experiences. Women can be amazing, dynamic and incredible experiences and can help give one insight into themselves as well as the world around them. But as mentioned in many places before, women should be a compliment to your life, never the sole focus of it. Learn how to weed the malicious one’s out, attract the complimentary ones and you’ll discover that women can be an incredible icing on the cake that is your life.

The Nature of Women

As others have outlined before, the nature of women is straightforward when you break it down. Women are pragmatic in their approach to love and relationships and as such they care more about the stats a man possesses. Your status, how good looking you are and how you conduct yourself are all huge factors. Women are attracted to man for what he is not who he is. Women don’t really care who Leonardo DiCaprio is, if he’s a nice guy, does he love kittens, or what his favorite pizza toppings are. They are attracted with what he is; a handsome, successful man that is A-List (high status) and famous (has large social proof).

This is not a “right or wrong” rant, it’s a mere statement of facts. So if you’re looking at this and saying “it’s wrong that they don’t value a man for who he is on the inside” then you’re missing the point. This is how the mechanisms for attraction with women work. It is what it is. There’s nothing inherently wrong with this either, because given the history of women they’ve literally had their survival tied to the man they pair with, so if they are going to invest their future with someone, they are going to ensure it’s the best deal they can get. On the flip side, men are hard-wired for visuals. If you see a 400 pound woman you instinctively are not going to look at her folds of fat and think “well she’s loves dogs and reads stories to orphans” and find yourself attracted to her. That’s not how attraction for guys work, hence the huge push these days for the “Big is Beautiful” movement. It’s an attempt by women to dictate to men what we should be attracted to. Well guess what, if you’re upset and ranting about why women should value you based on who you are on the inside, you’re doing the exact same thing but from the other side of the coin. “It’s what on the inside that counts” is the male equivalent of of the “Big is Beautiful” movement. Women can’t dictate to men what attraction for us is, and men can’t dictate to women what attraction for them is either.

Learn how that attraction works and then you can “hack” your own attractiveness so to speak. Is it going to be a magic bullet that has a 100% success rate? No. Nobody is at 100%, not even DiCaprio. But you can greatly improve your success rate, and improvement is always a goal worth striving for. If you want to attract more women, know what they are attracted to. As a hunter, you need to use the proper bait to attract prey. You won’t use carrots to attract a lion, so don’t think that just being a good person on the inside is going to cut it when it comes to attracting women. By all means, continue to be that good person on the inside, but you can add to your stat sheet as well to make you even more attractive. Think outside in vs inside out. If you were a pair of heels your stats like wealth, looks, and swagger are the exterior design of the shoe which draws women in. You being a good person is the bonus of the heels being comfortable and having a nice interior, but it’s not the most critically important factor. If you have no idea what I’m talking about, ask any girl about a pair of heels and why they like and wear them, especially when most of the time they are uncomfortable and painful.

The Real Enemy

Ignorance is the real enemy, and as they say “ignorance of the law is no excuse.” Arm yourself with knowledge, don’t be mad or throw a fit at how things are, see the game and know how to play it. You don’t blame a lion for eating a gazelle or call it evil. It’s a lion being a lion and doing what lions do: Hunt and eat gazelles. The same applies to women and how they approach relationships. They approach it from a pragmatic viewpoint and see things through the lens of what you are, not who you are. Love women, but have open eyes about their nature. If you want more success, develop yourself into a person of higher value, plain and simple. Maximize your potential, grow your status, your value and exercise to develop your body as well. When it all comes down to it, your personal success is tied to your biggest asset and your worst enemy: You.

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Entitiled Victimhood

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“We are only victims if we allow ourselves to be” – McCartney Green

One of the most interesting and recurring things I keep seeing and hearing in our current culture is something that I feel doesn’t get discussed enough directly. Many have talked about it at a higher level and have described the attributes of it, but I feel we need to give this issue a name and full break down of what it is, how it came to be, and what does the future look like with regards to it. The issue I am talking about is what I call “Entitled Victimhood.”

For those versed in the Red Pill, this phrasing will immediately conjure up precisely the issue I want to address and delve into and you no doubt will have a pretty solid understanding of what I am about to launch into. For those of you not so well versed, fear not, I’ll be going a little insightful on my breakdown so take notes and pay attention. This information might help you in a situation that you are presently in or will be in at some point. Sooner or later, you will have to deal with this so it’s best to be prepared.

If you aren’t familiar with the concept of Hypergamy, then do get acquainted over at The Ration Male. Rollo Tomassi excellently and expertly explains the dynamics and functions (in more detail than you may ever need, but it’s brilliant stuff). But I’m going to assume that you have a basic understanding of it as I layout the highlights:

  1. Women are hypergamous; it’s not malicious, it’s just their nature. Don’t get mad, adsorb that knowledge and use it for your own benefit and for theirs as well.
  2. Hypergamy always tests for perfection which means you always have to bring your A game. If you can’t handle that, there’s plenty of room on the sidelines.
  3. Hypergamy doesn’t care about who you are, what your struggle is, or what you’re dealing with. Hypergamy deals very much with the here and now, and what potential upside there may be. Again this is not malicious, if a woman is going to invest her future security and provisioning into something, she’s going to make damn sure she’s making the best choice possible. You should apply a bit of that in your own decision process if you are considering a relationship.

Now, one of the by-products of Hypergamy infiltrating our modern “progressive” culture (western culture) is that there is a very strong fem-centric frame that our culture relates to. All things feminine are good, almost righteous, empowering, and not to be questioned; while on the other side of the coin all things male are to be mocked, shamed, and ripe for feminization. To question or resist this idea is to be “backwards,” “misyginistic,” and “part of the problem.” And this is what leads me to today’s topic. From this fem-centric perspective we’ve done men and women a great disservice: Men are put into a catch 22 scenario where they are supposed to be “real men” yet are socially crucified for acting in a traditionally male way, while women are treated like infallible children that are not held accountable for their choices. And this is where we see the prevalence of a false sense of Entitled Victimhood.

Since all things feminine are to be embraced and not questioned, the flood gates have been opened for women to have “buyer remorse” and be socially compensated for them not taking responsibility for their decisions. The prime examples are divorce and rape allegations, where in one area a woman can regret her decision to make a “lifetime” commitment and can exit the scenario, while the social compensation is a legal system heavily stacked in her favor to claim alimony, child custody, and legal rights to property, assets, ect, whether or not she had any role in acquiring those. One the more extreme end, a guy and girl can both get drunk and have a night drunken sex. The next morning, both of them may regret having done it, but the girl has the social compensation of being able to file a rape allegation against the guy for “taking advantage” of the situation, regardless if she, in that moment, wanted to have sex just as much or more than the guy.

Now don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that there are not cases where guys are abusive in marriage and the woman wants out, or a guy forces himself upon a girl after having a drink or two. These things do happen and it is unfortunate. I am also not saying that there is a fem-conspiracy that all women are in on. But the current social narrative taught to women is that “men are out to get you, it’s not your fault, you are covered,” almost like a social insurance policy.  I’ve had many conversations with my male friends who constantly tell me about a situation where they thought they had a mutual understanding with a girl, and then the second something did not go the girl’s way, they played the victim card and accused the guy of being malicious, manipulative and completely in the wrong. I’ve seen it quite a few times first hand, and with several of my female friends I’ve had them tell stories, but they will frame it in a way that they are 100% blameless. One example that stands out to me is a girl I dated (and I very loosely use the term “date,” hooked up with is more accurate) tell me about how she was with this ex of hers for a a few years. They broke up, but then they got back together, and she said that the whole time being back together she was depressed and turned to drinking to deal with it. The way she framed the conversation, her ex her source of depression and drove her to drink as an escape. When I pointed out the fact that she consciously chose to get back together with her ex and that no one forced her back into that relationship, she immediately got very defensive and suddenly had a laundry list of personality problems that he had, to which I pointed out that if he really was such a terrible person, why spend years of her life with this guy before the breakup? And again, the conversation never was about her role or responsibility in the scenario, it was always about some problem that stemmed from her ex.

Entitled Victimhood is nothing new…the origins actually date to the civil right era and have manifested in very much the same way with regards to race (oh yeah, I’m not afraid to discuss race). Before you label me a racist I will state for the record that I am black (or african-american, or negro, or whatever you wanna call it), and if you were going to think I was a racist because I was white, I would strongly encourage you to rethink your ideas on that and be truly open-minded, in that the ideas speak for themselves, regardless of the source. Getting back on track, in the minority community, particularly the black community in the USA, Entitled Victimhood has gotten to a point were the stakes are too high to ignore. The idea that “black people can’t be racist but white people totally are” is a social double standard that has no merit. For example, one of the most despised things in the modern era is the concept of “blackface,” and all movies and depictions of it are labeled as racist, vulgar, and backwards. Yet as recently as 2004 we have a movie called “White Chicks” which is the exact same thing, but applied to a different racial group but that’s socially acceptable. “But slavery was a terrible thing, shouldn’t we let minorities vent about the racial tension and horrors they endured?” There’s a time a place, and that ship sailed during the civil rights era. Don’t call Humphrey Bogart a racist for doing a blackface movie and then say the Wayne’s brothers are making “social commentary” when in reality they are doing the exact same thing.

The main reason why Entintiled Victimhood is dangerous with regards to race is the recent rash of “white police officers vs black kids.” If you don’t think that’s an issue, Ferguson nearly burned itself down because of it. Had Michael Brown been White, Asian or Hispanic, would the media have had such a field day? Would there have been such a social uproar? Yes it is an unfortunate situation, but the danger is that it seems people only get into a riot-like, news-worthy frenzy when the the officer involved in a shooting happens to be white and the victim happens to be black. This reinforces the notion of “if you are black the white man is out to get you” narrative that instantly makes any scenario with a bad outcome the result of a grand conspiracy by the enigmatic and all powerful “White man” (or as I picture him, the Architect from the Matrix). What saddens me is that I typed up this draft 2 days before the recent spree of news about anti-police violence (culminating so far in the Dallas police shooting incident).

So where exactly does this leave us? To me, it leaves us in an interesting position as we’re coming to a social and cultural crossroads with things such as the current 2016 Presidential election, Brexit, and ever advancing technology. I think the pendulum is going to do a bit of a back swing because as Hypergamy becomes more open and flaunted, this is forcing the hand of people that are Blue Pill to have a “ah ha!” moment when they realize something is up and what they’ve been raised to believe might be bullshit. For the Red Pill-aware, the pieces can be seen moving into place and maneuvering ahead of them has created a world of opportunity that is literally for the taking. I think it will be interesting to say the least, but overall it will be a good thing. For the unprepared that just want to take the easy road and follow the masses, there will be a lot of shock and pain. For those that see road ahead there will be much to accomplish and conquer. But knowing about how Entitled Victims act and why they do so will help you avoid getting dragged into the weeds and will save you some “this makes no logical sense” frustration from arguments that don’t need to happen to begin with. Or, you could take a lesson from their page book and blame the Architect for your troubles. He did build the Matrix after all.

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(No wonder everything tastes like chicken. Col. Sanders built the Matrix)