“Know your enemy and know yourself and you can fight a hundred battles without disaster.” – Sun Tzu, The Art of War
For this post I wanted to further delve into a theme that’s been fairly recurring in my recent conversations. I’m not a fan of quoting myself, but for the sake of getting into this topic my hand is forced:
So with that in mind, here we go.
Women Are Not The Enemy
Many men get caught in the mindset that women are their enemy, for various reasons. Plenty of AFC’s and Blue Pill men become frustrated and bitter over time after many rejections, divorce or general non-success they experience. A lot of men new to the Red Pill or transitioning to it get sucked into the mindset as well, and it’s pretty easy to see why. When the truth is shown and women’s mating and provisioning strategies are exposed, it can come as a cold, hard slap in the face that make man men view women with contempt, suspicion and anger. Extremes are always a red flag, and finding yourself with an extreme view on women should cause you to pause and give yourself some examination.
Now, this is not to say that there are not bad, malicious women out there. There are plenty of damaged or just plain crazy women in this world and yes, they these women are best avoided and are in a sense an enemy to your sanity and future. But to blanket this view to all women is not healthy, it’s narrow minded and it hurts you as it limits your experiences. Women can be amazing, dynamic and incredible experiences and can help give one insight into themselves as well as the world around them. But as mentioned in many places before, women should be a compliment to your life, never the sole focus of it. Learn how to weed the malicious one’s out, attract the complimentary ones and you’ll discover that women can be an incredible icing on the cake that is your life.
The Nature of Women
As others have outlined before, the nature of women is straightforward when you break it down. Women are pragmatic in their approach to love and relationships and as such they care more about the stats a man possesses. Your status, how good looking you are and how you conduct yourself are all huge factors. Women are attracted to man for what he is not who he is. Women don’t really care who Leonardo DiCaprio is, if he’s a nice guy, does he love kittens, or what his favorite pizza toppings are. They are attracted with what he is; a handsome, successful man that is A-List (high status) and famous (has large social proof).
This is not a “right or wrong” rant, it’s a mere statement of facts. So if you’re looking at this and saying “it’s wrong that they don’t value a man for who he is on the inside” then you’re missing the point. This is how the mechanisms for attraction with women work. It is what it is. There’s nothing inherently wrong with this either, because given the history of women they’ve literally had their survival tied to the man they pair with, so if they are going to invest their future with someone, they are going to ensure it’s the best deal they can get. On the flip side, men are hard-wired for visuals. If you see a 400 pound woman you instinctively are not going to look at her folds of fat and think “well she’s loves dogs and reads stories to orphans” and find yourself attracted to her. That’s not how attraction for guys work, hence the huge push these days for the “Big is Beautiful” movement. It’s an attempt by women to dictate to men what we should be attracted to. Well guess what, if you’re upset and ranting about why women should value you based on who you are on the inside, you’re doing the exact same thing but from the other side of the coin. “It’s what on the inside that counts” is the male equivalent of of the “Big is Beautiful” movement. Women can’t dictate to men what attraction for us is, and men can’t dictate to women what attraction for them is either.
Learn how that attraction works and then you can “hack” your own attractiveness so to speak. Is it going to be a magic bullet that has a 100% success rate? No. Nobody is at 100%, not even DiCaprio. But you can greatly improve your success rate, and improvement is always a goal worth striving for. If you want to attract more women, know what they are attracted to. As a hunter, you need to use the proper bait to attract prey. You won’t use carrots to attract a lion, so don’t think that just being a good person on the inside is going to cut it when it comes to attracting women. By all means, continue to be that good person on the inside, but you can add to your stat sheet as well to make you even more attractive. Think outside in vs inside out. If you were a pair of heels your stats like wealth, looks, and swagger are the exterior design of the shoe which draws women in. You being a good person is the bonus of the heels being comfortable and having a nice interior, but it’s not the most critically important factor. If you have no idea what I’m talking about, ask any girl about a pair of heels and why they like and wear them, especially when most of the time they are uncomfortable and painful.
The Real Enemy
Ignorance is the real enemy, and as they say “ignorance of the law is no excuse.” Arm yourself with knowledge, don’t be mad or throw a fit at how things are, see the game and know how to play it. You don’t blame a lion for eating a gazelle or call it evil. It’s a lion being a lion and doing what lions do: Hunt and eat gazelles. The same applies to women and how they approach relationships. They approach it from a pragmatic viewpoint and see things through the lens of what you are, not who you are. Love women, but have open eyes about their nature. If you want more success, develop yourself into a person of higher value, plain and simple. Maximize your potential, grow your status, your value and exercise to develop your body as well. When it all comes down to it, your personal success is tied to your biggest asset and your worst enemy: You.